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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Demurray: 4:52pm On Aug 18, 2023
This make me remember a sister who is in her early thirty, when she graduate at 25, got job not long after NYSC.
Whenever she was approached by guys, she considered them lower than her. She rejected advances from a guy who she claimed her salary is more than his.
To cut a long story short, the same guy married her after eight years of searching for her type of man to no avail. The man is doing great in business now, making money more than she can imagine.


Moral Lesson: No man is lower than a woman. Man will always be the head .

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Aug 18, 2023
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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by blessingnenye(f): 4:56pm On Aug 18, 2023
[quote author=blessingnenye post=125136816]A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Bluearrow: 4:57pm On Aug 18, 2023
Angelfrost:


Actually, it's never justifiable in any case...

Whenever a man marries late (or early), it's his choice and preference, but for a woman, it has to be down to her poor character (mostly arrogance). Such thinking is beyond archaic and obtuse.

Whether for biological (mostly child-bearing) or otherwise, no one (man or woman) should be age-shamed or blackmailed into matrimony.

Marriage is too serious and complicated a matter for anyone to jump into out of peer or societal pressure.
The bold is true & got nothing to do with archaic reasoning. Before my closest friend got married to his wife, she displayed this shakara attitude, that her mother had to seriously talk to her, because my friend had to postpone the introduction, but today, she keeps posting my friend all over social media & we do laugh about it how they almost missed each other years ago because of her shakara.

Truth is, 90% of women are single above 30 yrs because of their bad attitude & shakara(over selectiveness), there are few exceptions though for those having spiritual & health issues, but majority is due to bad attitude & shakara. But 90% of men already single above 30 is due to finance! This is the truth, except u choose to deceive yourself.

The issue of wrong decision made by young ladies will always come up, because at their prime, their beauty tends to intoxicate them. A popular portharcourt pastor David made a detailed teaching on this. Trying to rule out a woman's attitude for being single above 30 is delusional.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Richy081: 5:01pm On Aug 18, 2023
All de single ladies gather let's end de depression for u people...I know how it feels.. so I volunteer to have a mass marraige with all of u...buh all of u will take responsibility of me

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Goodman2023: 5:03pm On Aug 18, 2023
YoshihideSuga:


In that case, you as the man should use condom if you don't plan on getting married. Why are you not advising the men to use condom?

At that age, the level of desperation is not the same...but Sharp guys like emaka must use condom...I trust am
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Legendguy(m): 5:03pm On Aug 18, 2023
Osariemen12:
A lady @30 and not married? You're a failure; a failure you're; and a failure you'll remain.

You're neither beautiful nor have good manners. Your family probably has a history of mentally unstable people. Kiss the truth.

If you like commit suicide after reading my comment. It will only get this beautiful world rid of one social failure.


Failures everywhere.

Osas, why this hurtful words?
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by crossbreedwears(m): 5:14pm On Aug 18, 2023
You're wrong. Most of my friends wife got married before 29 and all of them are graduates. In fact, they are still struggling with finances
EconomistXplain:


all graduate ladies marry above 30

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Tayorshd87(m): 5:23pm On Aug 18, 2023
harryboyng:
Seriously…over 30 and still single and having no kid..that worries more..e good to hustle everyday and still have someone to call family. Having everything and no one to call family at over 30 is worrisome

U no lie bro
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by AmancalledGod: 5:27pm On Aug 18, 2023
IconicR:
My son it's a long story but I'm good.
Alright God will see you through
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Johel(m): 5:27pm On Aug 18, 2023
blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.



I prefer them above 30 tbh.
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by LARRYOBRAIN(m): 5:39pm On Aug 18, 2023
There is still hope, some still married at 30's even to 60's.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by EconomistXplain: 5:44pm On Aug 18, 2023
crossbreedwears:
You're wrong. Most of my friends wife got married before 29 and all of them are graduates. In fact, they are still struggling with finances


u dont get it...i meant working with certificate graduat ladies..not just graduated...but must be working with the certificate
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Luu40: 5:47pm On Aug 18, 2023
YoshihideSuga:


I see you're a Northern Christian. Well, the concept of how you guys see marriage is very different from how Christians in the south see it.

I'm genuinely curious though, what is it like marrying a Christian from Northern Nigeria (Adamawa, Gombe, Plateau, Kaduna etc) as a Yoruba or Igbo man?
I'm a Muslim from the north.
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by MadamExcellency: 5:47pm On Aug 18, 2023
joepepsy:
Because una no get importante thing una dey use una Life do for tha Africa,you guys don't have meaningful goals and aspirations.

Here in Africa, we laugh and are happier than those in the West, there is nothing pass families.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by EconomistXplain: 5:50pm On Aug 18, 2023
if u as a lady begin child birth conception at exactly 30years, if u do 2yrs spacing and didnt giv birth to twins...trust me u will b safe to stop ur number of kids at 3....

if u go to the 4th at 38. the child "may" have an abonormality in some form of the order, or you might lose ur life, or the childs life or both of u or u wil survive it..but barely survive it....

this i hv seen in practical in more than 400 women polled by me nd my team in this same naija..not abroad oo...

it was my masters final year project..we actually did a questionnaire survey for real...

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by stevups(m): 5:51pm On Aug 18, 2023
Please smart up, go and get married!
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by EconomistXplain: 5:54pm On Aug 18, 2023
zed7:
Do women still marry under 30? I haven't seen any in a long while. Seems the average age of marriage for a woman is now 30 to 35 and men is between 35 to 40.

The modern woman doesn't marry as early anymore, most women want to graduate and settle in their career before getting married. This has also caused an increase in the birth of special needs children. All my opinion and observations.

u are so so spot on....i did a masters research on this same topic just this year..nd we polled over 400 women...it turns out exactly what u said....most last children born when moms are anover 37 are child with special needs

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by crossbreedwears(m): 6:04pm On Aug 18, 2023
Yes na. They are all working bro.
EconomistXplain:



u dont get it...i meant working with certificate graduat ladies..not just graduated...but must be working with the certificate
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by EconomistXplain: 6:15pm On Aug 18, 2023
crossbreedwears:
Yes na. They are all working bro.

working as a graduate is different from working after graduation...

a graduate doing big fashion designer or repairs fone is working is working after graduation, but one who works as a doctor, works at glo or is an accountant in a bank works with the certificate...in case u dont understand me
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Jman06(m): 6:17pm On Aug 18, 2023
Demurray:
This make me remember a sister who is in her early thirty, when she graduate at 25, got job not long after NYSC.
Whenever she was approached by guys, she considered them lower than her. She rejected advances from a guy who she claimed her salary is more than his.
To cut a long story short, the same guy married her after eight years of searching for her type of man to no avail. The man is doing great in business now, making money more than she can imagine.


Moral Lesson: No man is lower than a woman. Man will always be the head .
That guy must be the greatest of all SIMPs for marrying the same lady that rejected him for not earning enough. He's stup1d because if for any reason he stops making money as he currently does, that woman will definitely dump his assz.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Osariemen12: 6:18pm On Aug 18, 2023
Legendguy:


Osas, why this hurtful words?


Some of the feminists are extreme are violent.
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Samakus(m): 6:30pm On Aug 18, 2023
Men will always go for younger women. It's natural

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by zed7: 6:32pm On Aug 18, 2023

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by zed7: 6:33pm On Aug 18, 2023
Levels1:


Pls how does it cause giving birth to special children? Thanks

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/autism-maternal-age/

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by PortHarcourtcit(m): 6:39pm On Aug 18, 2023
blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

30? Oh my gosh that's ENP you know... grin grin grin

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Fortune118005(m): 6:42pm On Aug 18, 2023
Bluearrow:

Bitter truth @bold
A lot of ladies always think there is this perfect man waiting for them, not knowing they just rejected their husband. Mothers seriously need to guide their daughters btw ages 22 to 28 yrs. That is the age range most females miss their husband & once they miss it, it is very hard to find a replacement, 35 yrs will hit them within the blink of an eye.
You are right
Any lady that waits for the perfect man is just wasting her time.

There is no perfect person anywhere. What you need to look for is the RIGHT MAN or WOMAN for you. Even if the person is not perfect, marry the person if the person is the right person for you. Ignoring the right and waiting for the perfect is a perfect waste of time. Ladies need to learn from this.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Fortune118005(m): 6:45pm On Aug 18, 2023
frankson1:



I'm 72, and single not pressured.
grin you mean 27?
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by isabi2lof: 6:50pm On Aug 18, 2023
Marriage is good with the right partner, to see person with correct head , marriage no dey stop belle to enter , if na because of pikin undecided

Pressure don make person go marry who no get work , na me dem wan use call keel with , I never chop , I need money..

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by prepresh(f): 6:56pm On Aug 18, 2023
In as much as I want to get married, I can't do that under pressure by anyone or the society. I'm above 30

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Obainoman6: 7:00pm On Aug 18, 2023
prepresh:
In as much as I want to get married, I can't do that under pressure by anyone or the society. I'm above 30


hello
Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Levels1(m): 7:01pm On Aug 18, 2023

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