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I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Loveabove(f): 8:47pm On Aug 22, 2023
Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.

Please advise me on what to do.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Loveabove(f): 8:49pm On Aug 22, 2023
I need your say on this please

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Ahmed0336(m): 8:49pm On Aug 22, 2023
What of their father?

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Visocrate(m): 8:52pm On Aug 22, 2023
Life , some don’t have, some have. But exercise little patience and still make consultations, but if I were you better to learn the hardships and live with it than take them that side pls don’t think of taking them there, it’s traumatizing and the psychological effects may not be ridden off like that think of what to do. If they were your own , you will not think of that I am not saying you haven’t tried o but pls don’t think of it even if it one meal a day with you it’s better for them since they will take it with happiness than taking them to a place where even if they eat round the clock they may not be happy, note I am not saying children in the orphanage are not happy o but sister e get why I am taking my time to send this message to you. God bless you all and provide for us all Amen.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by illicit(m): 8:53pm On Aug 22, 2023
Best thing to do before they become miscreants and menace to the society while looking for a way to feed

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Wodu89: 8:59pm On Aug 22, 2023
Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature.

Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not loosing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality you have failed Heaven

If places were switched or if they are your kids would you do the same thing.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by fyzaila: 9:08pm On Aug 22, 2023
Where is their father Or his relatives Did they abandon them?

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by carl90(m): 9:09pm On Aug 22, 2023
Ahmed0336:
What of their father?

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Mindlog: 9:13pm On Aug 22, 2023
Loveabove:


My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

You have to explain the circumstance of their birth.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by carl90(m): 9:16pm On Aug 22, 2023
The pertinent question to ask is where is the father or the relatives of the father and the mother( excluding the OP that obviously have mentioned that she does not have the capability to take care of the kids )
Wodu89:
Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature.

Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not loosing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality you have failed Heaven

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by dawnomike(m): 9:18pm On Aug 22, 2023
Loveabove:
Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing.

Please advise me on what to do.
Give us d full gist about their dad/ his relatives... We should be able to help from there

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Nobody: 9:25pm On Aug 22, 2023
Wahala tie wrapper

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Caaz: 9:32pm On Aug 22, 2023
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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Kobojunkiee: 9:44pm On Aug 22, 2023
Loveabove:
■ Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point. My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month. Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me. God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.
House rent has expired and problems everywhere. Since nowhere else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me. Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge. Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing. Please advise me on what to do.
Please endeavor to learn from your sister's mistake. Children are a burden that no one should think to have or take on lightly. Sadly, taking the kids to an orphanage may just be the best you can do for them at this point since as you said you have nowhere else to take them. undecided

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Kobojunkiee: 9:45pm On Aug 22, 2023
Wodu89:
■ Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature?
Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not losing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality, you have failed Heaven
Wait a second...OP is about to be homeless. Do you want OP to go homeless with the kids or what? undecided

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Nobody: 10:01pm On Aug 22, 2023
Send them there but don't forget them

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by GboyegaD(m): 10:15pm On Aug 22, 2023
You can take them to the orphanage and try to support the orphanage as much as you can. Let the management know you would appreciate they don't give them up for adoption as you are coming back to pick them once you are in a good place.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by ahnie: 10:20pm On Aug 22, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
Wait a second...OP is about to be homeless. Do you want OP to go homeless with the kids or what? undecided
I love you babe , always remember that.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Loveabove(f): 11:16pm On Aug 22, 2023
Wodu89:
Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature.

Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not loosing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality you have failed Heaven

From which point did you understand this post sir?

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by online4business: 2:12am On Aug 23, 2023
GboyegaD:
You can take them to the orphanage and try to support the orphanage as much as you can. Let the management know you would appreciate they don't give them up for adoption as you are coming back to pick them once you are in a good place.
Sadly beggers can be choosers (they will do what's in the best interest for the kids not what you want)

Op should take the kids to the mans people.

You people insist on holding onto kids that you cannot take care of.

The man has family and probably is still alive but ego and maybe what my sister told me.

Carry pikin go give the man relatives asap

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by adelafe2019: 3:15am On Aug 23, 2023
O.P. is not truthful yet he is asking for our honest advice.O.p. did not disclose her age and occupation which would have helped us in giving advice.

People asked about the children's father(s) but she keep mute and still expects readers to give advice.
It seems the children had no fathers due to promiscuity of her sister and that is why o.p. wrote that she did not want to explain how they were born.

O.p. has made up her mind to drop them at an orphanage and only want your endorsement in order to justify her consent and for future reference.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Kobojunkiee: 4:10am On Aug 23, 2023
adelafe2019:
■ O.P. is not truthful yet he is asking for our honest advice.O.p. did not disclose her age and occupation which would have helped us in giving advice.
■ People asked about the children's father(s) but she keep mute and still expects readers to give advice.
It seems the children had no fathers due to promiscuity of her sister and that is why o.p. wrote that she did not want to explain how they were born.
■ O.p. has made up her mind to drop them at an orphanage and only want your endorsement in order to justify her consent and for future reference.
Does knowing OP's age change OP's statement of not being able to fend for self or pay rent anymore? undecided

2. If this father cared for his kids before now, would he not have shown up upon the death of the woman or what are you thinking? Or are you under some impression that their father would not turn them into house helps under his current wife or something? undecided

3. Since when did it become a crime to drop kids off at an orphanage abeg? Isn't it a lot better than abandoning the children on the streets somewhere which is what many in Nigeria typically resort to when they find themselves helpless? Why are you dead set on making it all seem an evil act when it is far better than a lot of what is considered the norm out there in Nigeria to this day? undecided

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Foodqueen(f): 4:25am On Aug 23, 2023
Best decision.

GboyegaD, have said it the exact way it should be.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Uyi168: 6:50am On Aug 23, 2023
Wodu89:
Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature.

Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not loosing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality you have failed Heaven
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you just go about running your mouth anyhow..

if, for now, she has no means of catering for them, then her option is reasonable.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Karleb(m): 7:02am On Aug 23, 2023
This is the right thing to do.

Don't let anyone blackmail you emotionally.

You are not their parents and you are not capable. Take them to the orphanage but make sure you visit them on a regular and go with something, however small it might be.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Karleb(m): 7:04am On Aug 23, 2023
Wodu89:
Your head and motive is not right. You're thinking if the costs of the parenting. What about the returns when they mature.

Your love and loyalty is ingenuine. The kids are not your sister's kids but yours. You're not doing right honestly. You're thinking about what it would cost you not the blessings it can come along with or that they have no one, you're only thinking of not loosing pennies. May God forgive you. By your mentality you have failed Heaven

You will just be running your mouth like tap.

Shebi he was the one impregnating his sister? undecided

Rubbish!

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Karleb(m): 7:05am On Aug 23, 2023
Visocrate:
Life , some don’t have, some have. But exercise little patience and still make consultations, but if I were you better to learn the hardships and live with it than take them that side pls don’t think of taking them there, it’s traumatizing and the psychological effects may not be ridden off like that think of what to do. If they were your own , you will not think of that I am not saying you haven’t tried o but pls don’t think of it even if it one meal a day with you it’s better for them since they will take it with happiness than taking them to a place where even they eat round the clock they may not be happy, note I am not saying children in the orphanage are not happy o but sister e get why I am taking my time to send this message to you. God bless you all and provide for us all Amen.

Shey you go dey support OP with something for the kids on a monthly? undecided

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Cuttycool(f): 7:06am On Aug 23, 2023
Since you do not have any other choice, then take them to the orphanage

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Mindlog: 7:10am On Aug 23, 2023
online4business:

Sadly beggers can be choosers (they will do what's in the best interest for the kids not what you want)

Op should take the kids to the mans people.

You people insist on holding onto kids that you cannot take care of.

The man has family and probably is still alive but ego and maybe what my sister told me.

Carry pikin go give the man relatives asap





Maybe the man who knows he has a child somewhere lives in Jupiter and is not aware the mother of his child(ren) is now deceased.

Those children are better off in a well managed orphanage while OP regularly visits them with stuffs and spend time with them.

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by Ceasarceasar: 7:23am On Aug 23, 2023
Where is their father?

Am sure that children are yours not for any of Ur sisters..

You women lie alot..

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by finallybusy: 7:44am On Aug 23, 2023
What then is the problem?

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Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by finallybusy: 7:46am On Aug 23, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
Does knowing OP's age change OP's statement of not being able to fend for self or pay rent anymore? undecided

2. If this father cared for his kids before now, would he not have shown up upon the death of the woman or what are you thinking? Or are you under some impression that their father would not turn them into house helps under his current wife or something? undecided

3. Since when did it become a crime to drop kids off at an orphanage abeg? Isn't it a lot better than abandoning the children on the streets somewhere which is what many in Nigeria typically resort to when they find themselves helpless? Why are you dead set on making it all seem an evil act when it is far better than a lot of what is considered the norm out there in Nigeria to this day? undecided
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