sensaraj:
I can take care of them if you are serious about it (no scam pls)

If you are serious with good intentions, please reply.

DEM DEH LAGOS HERE?
I WILL LOVE TO ADOBT THEM OR ONE OF THEM.
MY EMAIL IS UNAZUBA1@GMAIL.COM
WE CAN START FROM THERE

Loveabove:


If you are sure the person will give them good care, please reply PM. Thanks

Don't mistakenly sell those children into slavery oo.. Human trafficking is very much alive in Nigeria there with thousands of kids being sold without knowledge of their guardians each year.

Loveabove:
I need your say on this please

When you take children to orphanage home to look after them for you, that means you still want those children back

In that case you will be charged for keeping them in their care and there is an agreement you will reach with them on how to be paying for their up keep ever month
Are you ready for such?

You can take the to their father's family and leave them with them to look after, they will be enrolled in to public school in the village and they start another life
So if you will go with this option, where is their dad?

Last but best option
Keep them with you and feed them with anything you can afford even if it means a little portion of food but let it still be three square meal a day
Enrol them into public school and watch them grow under your care
You have to be prepared to do this as this will just give you peace of mind that you can still see them every day and monitor their activities

God will give you the grace to do the right thing

Simple analysis from both of you but the father side of this kids could have solve the issue

Kobojunkiee:
Does knowing OP's age change OP's statement of not being able to fend for self or pay rent anymore?

2. If this father cared for his kids before now, would he not have shown up upon the death of the woman or what are you thinking? Or are you under some impression that their father would not turn them into house helps under his current wife or something?

3. Since when did it become a crime to drop kids off at an orphanage abeg? Isn't it a lot better than abandoning the children on the streets somewhere which is what many in Nigeria typically resort to when they find themselves helpless? Why are you dead set on making it all seem an evil act when it is far better than a lot of what is considered the norm out there in Nigeria to this day?

Loveabove:
Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.

Please advise me on what to do.

Edited: File Photo by nlf.pmod

What if they were your kids, would you send them to the orphanage?

Think about it...

You will never be somebody if you toss them away. You willl never make it again in this life if you toss those kids away. Something tells me they re your kids.. we are not honest human beings in this Nigeria.

Loveabove:
Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.

Please advise me on what to do.

Edited: File Photo by nlf.pmod

Kobojunkiee:
That is actually what sane individuals do when they find themselves in situations such as OPs.

I don’t expect you to understand. Comeback when you have your first child and you’ll be laughing at your comment.

My sister, loveabove, I think you should represent your monicker in every way, God does not give one a responsibility without backing that person up, all you need to do is just think outside the box. If these kids were biologically yours, would you take them to the orphanage because of hardship? The gains of training them like yours far outweighs your present predicament, I would advice you keep them, perhaps, God wants to bless you via this children, he has given you these children as an assignment, a responsibility, you have to become responsible to them and God by training them as yours, it will be irresponsibility taking them to an orphanage. God is your strength my dear.

Please keep those children with you. Think of a way of surviving with them. 8&5 of age before you know it they will become men and look after you.

Life is not easy anywhere. Our good Lord will see you through and for help definitely it will come your way.

sajiwere:
Simple analysis from both of you but the father side of this kids could have solve the issue

You actually think OP has not considered sending the kids to the fathers, or what? Make we dey reason with reality in mind abeg!

KIDfurniture:
You will never be somebody if you toss them away. You willl never make it again in this life if you toss those kids away. Something tells me they re your kids.. we are not honest human beings in this Nigeria.

Stop telling tales abeg! All the people for that same Nigeria wey dey abandon their kids with their baby mama's no dey go on to become somebody later on? Abeg stop telling these fairy tales o'jare!

komzy589:
I don’t expect you to understand. Comeback when you have your first child and you’ll be laughing at your comment.

If you don't have anything sensible to say, just move on! No need to start rambling abeg!

Loveabove:


Please are you a man or a woman?

I am a married man with kids.

Wodu89:



It's not my fault you're from a damaged family without keen understanding of what family life should look like

See who is talking..

Clearly you lack any tangible sense of reasoning.. Of course your background is beyond redemption. I would've blamed your parents but they are also victims of brutality and a damaged hypocritical society...

What a wasted generation, slowpoke.

Chi133:


Ask yourself if it were to be your own children will you take them there?

What's the essence of this stupid question that you asked now without offering a solution . The father of the first child is unknown while the father of the second is a deadbeat and serial impregnator , the OP herself doesn't have a job, her house rent is about to expire and she doesn't have a means to survive talkless of taking care of these children.

Now that you have asked a stupid, now suggest a solution.

lomprico:


Probably prostitution and she might be in it too, since she said the boys are affecting the thing she is doing now. I might be wrong though but.....

Everything shouldn't be a joke or just for likes na. Is this how many of you are really like in real life ?

WillEndInPraise:

What really is wrong with you? Please tell me! Are you blind to read in between the lines? He or she is struggling to survive and you want him or she to keep.those kids simply to have them keep their happiness of staying with a family? What's wrong with you really? The little he/she is managing to hold body, it's now becoming micro. If any of your religion father tell you lies that those of kids creator will provide for him/her, Na lies! The situation in the country now called for one ri make use of his/her senses. If you're my friend and you're coming to pass a week with me, you must come with some money else I will tell you I'm not around. A long Visitation without a Kobo is ONLY ALLOWED by my mom and my wife's mom. Anybody else must stay maximum of three days or longer if he comes with some money, else, you're not welcome. Feeding costlier than any other things nowadays.

My advice to the OP is to go ahead and keep those kids in the orphanage home and check on them often times.

Bro I'm just tired of Nigerians generally. Everyday I get to understand how this country is the way it is and why we keep electing bad leaders. Most people can't just think.
The lady is barely surviving and these people either keep guilt tripping her or asking silly questions. And it's usually those who have no solution to offer that do this .

Nasri100:


You people just talk outta your a s s e s. OP is about to be homeless. Why do you people act retarded?

Do you want the kids to be sleeping in different places with her?

Isn't it better they stay there pending when she can gather up her funds?

As for you OP, sorry for your troubles. The orphanage home is your best bet right now till you can raise your funds.

You are even a good sibling for attempting to take care of them. In this world people don't care. I have seen enough stories.

Facts remain they aren't even your biological children and i swear if they become somebody tomorrow don't be surprised that deadbeat dad will pop up out of nowhere and they could reconcile tomorrow and forget about you. Thats life.

So do anything for those kids out of love for your sister, Expecting nothing from them in the future.

I HAVE WARNED YOU OOOO

God bless you for this. The more you spend time on this forum, the more you see that many on this forum are retarded.

Nasri100:


Frustration? I can bet you are part of the gang that were celebrating eating turkey and chicken as enjoyment in that una hell hole called Nigeria. You dey Nigeria dey talk frustration

I dont blame you people. You guys dont pay child support so how can you understand how demanding it is to raise kids.

I mean properly raise children not those "suffer and struggle" upbringing you people seem to worship AND like in Nigeria.

I swear its very easy to govern Nigerians

Bro If you read my other comments you'll see that I said something similar. Too many non thinking individuals in this country, the fool suggesting that the OP gets a job sleeps on the Npower thread .

Kobojunkie:
If you don't have anything sensible to say, just move on! No need to start rambling abeg!

Haba🤨! Learn to speak responsibly. You don’t even know who you’re talking with.
If I was standing in front of you, can you speak like this to me?😊
I was only implying that you obviously don’t have a child. The only way you will understand is when you do.

komzy589:
Haba🤨! Learn to speak responsibly. You don’t even know who you’re talking with.
If I was standing in front of you, can you speak like this to me?😊 I was only implying that you obviously don’t have a child. The only way you will understand is when you do.

I don't give a flying 4ork about your private ego issues. Stop rambling! and focus on the topic!

There are millions of abandoned children on the streets of Nigeria each day, the majority abandoned by those who had them, left to fend for themselves. OP, is not a mother to any of the kids yet she at least has the heart to try to find them a place to stay while she is out on the street herself trying to make ends meet.

GboyegaD:
You can take them to the orphanage and try to support the orphanage as much as you can. Let the management know you would appreciate they don't give them up for adoption as you are coming back to pick them once you are in a good place.

OP I think you should take this advise

Kobojunkiee:
I don't give a flying 4ork about your private ego issues. Stop rambling! and focus on the topic!

There are millions of abandoned children on the streets of Nigeria each day, the majority abandoned by those who had them, left to fend for themselves. OP, is not a mother to any of the kids yet she at least has the heart to try to find them a place to stay while she is out on the street herself trying to make ends meet.

You’re making my point for me.
When it comes to her children, perseverance happens naturally for a mother. OP is not a mother, hence her actions.
Ps: You giving a flying f*** or not!
What is that? Are you trying to be courageous!😁
There’s no need to show fortitude when I’m just having a faceless conversation with you.

komzy589:
■ You’re making my point for me. When it comes to her children, perseverance happens naturally for a mother. OP is not a mother, hence her actions. Ps: You giving a flying Bleep or not!
What is that? Are you trying to be courageous!😁
There’s no need to show fortitude when I’m just having a faceless conversation with you.

I told you already to stop spewing bullsheet!

Thank you all. I have gotten information and connection concerning the matter.

Loveabove:
Thank you all. I have gotten information and connection concerning the matter.

I hope you take good care of those and you make sure no harm come to them even as you work towards figuring out your next steps.

]Does knowing OP's age change OP's statement of not being able to fend for self or pay rent anymore?

2. If this father cared for his kids before now, would he not have shown up upon the death of the woman or what are you thinking? Or are you under some impression that their father would not turn them into house helps under his current wife or something?

3. Since when did it become a crime to drop kids off at an orphanage abeg? Isn't it a lot better than abandoning the children on the streets somewhere which is what many in Nigeria typically resort to when they find themselves helpless? Why are you dead set on making it all seem an evil act when it is far better than a lot of what is considered the norm out there in Nigeria to this day? [/quote]

]Does knowing OP's age change OP's statement of not being able to fend for self or pay rent anymore?

2. If this father cared for his kids before now, would he not have shown up upon the death of the woman or what are you thinking? Or are you under some impression that their father would not turn them into house helps under his current wife or something?

3. Since when did it become a crime to drop kids off at an orphanage abeg? Isn't it a lot better than abandoning the children on the streets somewhere which is what many in Nigeria typically resort to when they find themselves helpless? Why are you dead set on making it all seem an evil act when it is far better than a lot of what is considered the norm out there in Nigeria to this day?

Yes. O .P. 's age is relevant: lf she is an adult of about 30 years of age, l would ask her why she did not advise her sister not to give birth to the second child (5 years old) when the husband never took care of her and the first born (8 years old).

O..P. did not want to talk about the men or man (and his family) that fathered the children
Her sister seemed to be wayward as she did not marry legally and so no husband's family to claim the children..
O.P. shouldn't have hidden certain facts from us to enable us advise her appropriately.

adelafe2019:
■ O..P. did not want to talk about the men or man (and his family) that fathered the children
Her sister seemed to be wayward as she did not marry legally and so no husband's family to claim the children..
■ O.P. shouldn't have hidden certain facts from us to enable us advise her appropriately.

1. So what if you think that way of the dead sister? OP has no business at this point with that at this time. As the concern is getting those children a safe place to stay while OP sought her accommodation issues out.

2. OP didn't hide the information since it is available on page 2.

Kobojunkie:
1. So what if you think that way of the dead sister? OP has no business at this point with that at this time. As the concern is getting those children a safe place to stay while OP sought her accommodation issues out.

2. OP didn't hide the information since it is available on page 2.

Rest na. What's with this psychological sickness. Only you last page of every thread. Does your over-obsessiveness with having the last word not beckon on you that you need mental rest


Let the forum breathe abeg.

Wodu89:
■ Rest na. What's with this psychological sickness. Only you last page of every thread. Does your over-obsessiveness with having the last word not beckon on you that you need mental rest Let the forum breathe abeg.

Again....1. So what if you think that way of the dead sister? OP has no business at this point with that at this time. As the concern is getting those children a safe place to stay while OP sought her accommodation issues out.

2. OP didn't hide the information since it is available on page 2.