Oruebube2024:
Good day nlanders,I will make this short as possible.

I arrived France early this year(January) for my postgraduate studies

Just after some months,I met an eu guy. It was love at first sight. He is good looking,well to do,takes care of me ,and infact I am begining to feel that the talk of western men not spending on women is a myth.

He proposed august and I was excited but worried about how fast things moved. I am yet to get used to this new environment .

I informed my parents but they are not as excited I am reasons being that they wanted me to settle with a Nigerian with papers. They have been citing how westerners don't value marriage,easily divorce etc but I am cool with him.

He plans to adopt my daughter and I bring her over,but my parents insist on my daughter growing in Nigeria till she is 18 so that she doesn't get polluted with LGBTQ,atheism and other strange influences .

I am really confused about everything and have been praying for God guidance.

What if the Nigerian men in diaspora are not forthcoming?but they don't see it this way.

I will be waiting in the comment section.

Oruebube2024:
Good day nlanders,I will make this short as possible.

I arrived France early this year(January) for my postgraduate studies

Just after some months,I met an eu guy. It was love at first sight. He is good looking,well to do,takes care of me ,and infact I am begining to feel that the talk of western men not spending on women is a myth.

He proposed august and I was excited but worried about how fast things moved. I am yet to get used to this new environment .

I informed my parents but they are not as excited I am reasons being that they wanted me to settle with a Nigerian with papers. They have been citing how westerners don't value marriage,easily divorce etc but I am cool with him.

He plans to adopt my daughter and I bring her over,but my parents insist on my daughter growing in Nigeria till she is 18 so that she doesn't get polluted with LGBTQ,atheism and other strange influences .

I am really confused about everything and have been praying for God guidance.

What if the Nigerian men in diaspora are not forthcoming?but they don't see it this way.

I will be waiting in the comment section.

Foodqueen:
Na wa for your parents.

No be a Nigerian man make you a single mom.

Hathor5:
Do you trust the guy you have met? Are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Do you trust he will be good to your daughter? Has he got kids of his own? Where do they live? Can you accept them as your own? How do you think life will be when you have kids with him? Will he treat your daughter like his own?

Family dynamics can be complicated especially if there are already kids from previous relationships. I would recommend you to read about the experiences of others and then truthfully answer yourself if you are up to the challenge of a blended family.

Forget about the kids get polluted in the West nonsense. There are many very well brought up kids here. The answers to the questions above should determine your next steps.

Since you are very insecure about what to do next, take your time and don`t rush it.

Oruebube2024:


1. He is good looking,
well to do,
2. takes care of me ,and infact I am begining to feel that the talk of western men not spending on women is a myth.
3. He proposed august and I was excited but worried about how fast things moved. I am yet to get used to this new environment .
4. He plans to adopt my daughter and I bring her over.

Foodqueen:
Na wa for your parents.

No be a Nigerian man make you a single mom.

Oruebube2024:
■ Good day nlanders,I will make this short as possible. I arrived France early this year(January) for my postgraduate studies Just after some months,I met an eu guy. It was love at first sight. He is good looking,well to do,takes care of me ,and infact I am begining to feel that the talk of western men not spending on women is a myth. He proposed august and I was excited but worried about how fast things moved. I am yet to get used to this new environment .
I informed my parents but they are not as excited I am reasons being that they wanted me to settle with a Nigerian with papers. They have been citing how westerners don't value marriage,easily divorce etc but I am cool with him. He plans to adopt my daughter and I bring her over,but my parents insist on my daughter growing in Nigeria till she is 18 so that she doesn't get polluted with LGBTQ,atheism and other strange influences .
■ I am really confused about everything and have been praying for God guidance. What if the Nigerian men in diaspora are not forthcoming?but they don't see it this way. I will be waiting in the comment section.

Foodqueen:
Na wa for your parents. No be a Nigerian man make you a single mom.

Oruebube2024:
■ Their problem is the ease of divorce and lack of values . We did a video call and my man said "Hi" to my parents . And they were offended . You know over here,they don't carry respect like that on their head and they are blunt. I am a Yoruba woman,and my tribe dey carry respect for their head

Kobojunkiee:
Your parents are happier with the one who left you a single mom because he knows how to dobale on video calls? This is 2023, make you use your head o'jare!

LilMissFavvy:
What is the guarantee that marrying a Nigerian man would be better? Have you not seen many Niger!ans with failed marr!ages?

The man dated you for over 6months before proposing, which is perfectly fine. Or you would have preferred a man who will waste years with you without moving forward?

Take a look at the things you mentioned about this man, what else are you looking for? A good bird in hand is better than having hopes of catching a better bird in future.

Take time and make findings on how adoption works in that country, so that you know if you should accept the offer or not. It is not compulsory that he adopts your child after marrying you.

Oruebube2024:
thanks for your concern. My ex didn't leave me ,we were engaged and things occured causing me to leave him (cheating on his side) Also,my parents were not happy with my ex

Kobojunkiee:
He did leave you the moment he started cheating on you, or as the arrangement between you two that you were supposed to stay with him while he was cheating on you or something.

Oruebube2024:
■ My point is that my parents didn't support /approve of him as opposed to your claim of them approving of him. They advised me to leave him. Others will force their daughters to go ahead with the marriage since they are already pregnant. I give them a plus on that. It is concerning this second man fiance of mine that I am faulting their judgement. Thank you my sister for your advice,I really do appreciate it

BlackAdam65:
you are nothing but an infidel if you marry that cracka

Oruebube2024:
infidel? How?why?

Do Nigeria men marry single mothers? Now I have seen someone serious why lose out on it?to return back to Nigeria and search for a spouse that will most likely tell me not to bring my daughter to our marital home

Olorun Maje! I jump and pass

BlackAdam65:
their are millions of men in the continent that would love to marry you I don't see a reason why you should belittle yourself by marrying an inferior being infant there is no difference between marrying a whiteman and marrying a dog they are both considered beastality

Kobojunkie:
Why are you trying really hard to shove your own inferiority complex at her for Pete's sake? She don explain say Nigerian men already tag her as inferior due to her being a single mother. So why not let her be?