My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

Wetin happen?

(1) This is the right time to show her more love.
(2) Hope what you want as submission is not that of a house help.
(3) She may be stressed, emotionally and psychologically drained.
(4) Redpill is not good all the time. If your redpill is toxic, then it is bad, but if your redpill is that of a romantic, mature, available, lively and in charge guy, then it is fine.
(5) Hope you have not been treating her badly, while providing all her needs. Money is not everything!!
(6) Calm her down and thrash things out. Ask her where you failed and why she is acting that way.
(7) Please try not to be selfish. Do nice things that will make her willing to submit, don't force submission.

GO AND GET YOUR MARRIAGE BACK. YOUR MARRIAGE IS THE BEST. MAKE IT WORK!

oz4real83:
Wetin happen?

You no read wetin i write ni,abi you dey wain me ni?

no way I'm getting married,I have little patience for nonsense .

thesilentman:

You no read wetin i write ni,abi you dey mock me?

how I go mock you? What you emphasized so much on was the 300k you paid for the CS and you also used the word "tamed" about your wife, such word is used for wild animals. there is bound to be chaos at home if you do these things , that was why I wanted more details

Ballzproblem2:
no way I'm getting married,I have little patience for nonsense .

I have same mindset like you,but when i look at the innocent cute boy,i get madly confused.I don't want to believe my woman really got me this time around.

oz4real83:
how I go mock you? What you emphasized so much on was the 300k you paid for the CS and you also used the word "tamed" about your wife, such word is used for wild animals. there is bound to be chaos at home if you do these things , that was why I wanted more details

ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

thesilentman:

ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

if you consider the pain she had to go through during labour, you will see that 300k as nothing, she was between the boundary of life and death . Marriage is about sacrifices and ignoring some things. Also, spending money in marriage doesn't bring respect, it only shows you are responsible, but respect must be earned. I don't like bringing other people into my marriage but sometimes it is necessary when it is becoming out of control. Just look for some matured people that she respects that you can talk to.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as i write.My wife has now completely changed for bad,a few days after our second child.An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me.I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!
She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me?The mind boggles.Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away,brainstorming the best option for me.What could be outta place?
I need candid advice,folks.

I want to believe it's a hormonal thing. The fact she had C.S recently, let her get herself together first. She'll still come around. Show her more love now, spoil her. Don't mind any attitude she's giving.

Except you have something else in mind and you're looking for a good excuse to separate.

You sef, try relax well, dey go beer parlor once in a while go chill. You're really trying. It's not easy to be taking care of 3 people in this economy. Na man you be, stand firm no shaking!

cutecommend:
(1) This is the right time to show her more love.
(2) Hope what you want as submission is not that of a house help.
(3) She may be stressed, emotionally and psychologically drained.
(4) Redpill is not good all the time. If your redpill is toxic, then it is bad, but if your redpill is that of a romantic, mature, available, lively and in charge guy, then it is fine.
(5) Hope you have not been treating her badly, while providing all her needs. Money is not everything!!
(6) Calm her down and thrash things out. Ask her where you failed and why she is acting this way.
(7) Please try not to be selfish. Do nice things that will make her willing to submit, don't force submission.

GO AND GET YOUR MARRIAGE BACK. YOUR MARRIAGE IS THE BEST.

I appreciate your advice so much.I'd give it a try before i do what's on my mind.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as i write.My wife has now completely changed for bad,a few days after our second child.An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me.I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!
She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me?The mind boggles.Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away,brainstorming the best option for me.What could be outta place?
I need candid advice,folks.

take it easy.its hormonal change. It happens 2 majority of women after birth. Just be ur self. She will calm down

Negroid001:


I want to believe it's a hormonal thing. The fact she had C.S recently, let her get herself together first. She'll still come around. Show her more love now, spoil her. Don't mind any attitude she's giving.

Except you have something else in mind and you're looking for a good excuse to separate.

You sef, try relax well, dey go beer parlor once in a while go chill. You're really trying. It's not easy to be taking care of 3 people in this economy. Na man you be, stand firm no shaking!

I appreciate this a lot,it makes a lot of sense to me.Thanks!

Creamypie:
take it easy.its hormonal change. It happens 2 some women after birth. Just be ur self. She will calm down

I hope so.It was a rude shock to me.I had been pondering on the loan i took on her behalf and the least i expected was the attitude she's giving me recently.It's just maddening.Thanks for your suggestion.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as i write.My wife has now completely changed for bad,a few days after our second child.An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me.I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!
She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me?The mind boggles.Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away,brainstorming the best option for me.What could be outta place?
I need candid advice,folks.

Calm down bro, she's dealing with post patum stress

nato20ng:



Calm down bro, she's dealing with post patum stress

oh,let me look that up first.

thesilentman:
What could be outta place?
I need candid advice,folks.

Jeeeesus. why the hell are you RAGE TYPING? Damn you must be really angry. 😁
Red piller, This is your real test and you are considering running away (divorce) just because your wife yelped? What would you do when she roars?

That woman just gave birth through CS (every woman's dream... right?) and all the hormonal distortion might be at work but all you see is your ego. Chill my gee, chill. Wetin be 300k? Oya come and carry belle for 9 months and let me cut you up and give you 500k. 😁
That is your wife and this is the time for you to prove your Alpha worthiness by applying patience, plenty love and face your CALL OF DUTY as a man (shun her childishness, na her time).
Apply wisdom.

oz4real83:
if you consider the pain she had to go through during labour, you will see that 300k as nothing, she was between the boundary of life and death . Marriage is about sacrifices and ignoring some things. Also, spending money in marriage doesn't bring respect, it only shows you are responsible, but respect must be earned. I don't like bringing other people into my marriage but sometimes it is necessary when it is becoming out of control. Just look for some matured people that she respects that you can talk to.

So a responsible man does not have the rights to be respected by his own household?

So being responsible does not worth anything in your house?

So a man should invite others to beg before his own wife will act in line and respect him?

So a woman giving birth gives her license to start disrespecting her husband? Hasn't many women on earth given birth and still sensible?

You see how stupid and daft you sound?

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as i write.My wife has now completely changed for bad,a few days after our second child.An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me.I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!
She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me?The mind boggles.Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away,brainstorming the best option for me.What could be outta place?
I need candid advice,folks.

It is the stress she passed through while giving birth that is causing it. It will phase out with time but you just have to remain caring, loving and also avoid exchanging words with her. Atimes it will look as if they are remote controlling her some where cos she will always use the slightest excuse to quarrel with you. My tactics was spending more time outside forming busy after I have helped her with all the necessary house shores. Women are all the same in different ways. Just show her more love cos this stage would phase out soon.

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Jeeeesus. why the hell are you RAGE TYPING? No space in your words. Damn you must be really angry.

cutecommend:
(1) This is the right time to show her more love.
(2) Hope what you want as submission is not that of a house help.
(3) She may be stressed, emotionally and psychologically drained.
(4) Redpill is not good all the time. If your redpill is toxic, then it is bad, but if your redpill is that of a romantic, mature, available, lively and in charge guy, then it is fine.
(5) Hope you have not been treating her badly, while providing all her needs. Money is not everything!!
(6) Calm her down and thrash things out. Ask her where you failed and why she is acting that way.
(7) Please try not to be selfish. Do nice things that will make her willing to submit, don't force submission.

GO AND GET YOUR MARRIAGE BACK. YOUR MARRIAGE IS THE BEST. MAKE IT WORK!

Are you married? Some women don't need all those this you wrote, they need strong hand

BlissGod:


You’re just a stupid man, I don’t know you but you Sound like one cocky piece of crap. Your stupid ego will soon scatter your marriage, just 300k that you’re here looking for gratitude a woman that could have lost her life in childbirth or worse.

A woman who has sacrificed her body to give you two kids. You are the problem of your marriage. Imagine using the word taming your wife as if she’s a dog you dey tame. Your wife might be going thru post depression of childbirth. Instead of sorting things out you’re here typing rubbish to talk nonsense about her. So let’s hate her now.

People react to stress in different ways. He didn't really mean that. Child birth is not always easy for struggling men. Frustrating dey always join

Hormones!

Birth stress and trauma!!

Especially if it wasn’t a planned CS, she must have seen “shege” before been taken to the theatre.

She will come around, soon.

But like someone asked up there, hope you both had no issues before the delivery; as some women take advantage of post partum period to throw tantrums? 🤧

On the other hand, thought I read a comment where you “have full control”. 🥱

elipheleh:


So a responsible man does not have the rights to be respected by his own household?

So being responsible does not worth anything in your house?

So a man should invite others to beg before his own wife will act in line and respect him?

So a woman giving birth gives her license to start disrespecting her husband? Hasn't many women on earth given birth and still sensible?

You see how stupid and daft you sound?

you are the one that is being st.upid, you think because a man spent money in his own home and family, then he must be respected only because of that? How about when the woman spends on the family, should the man then be kneeling to greet the wife as a sign of respect and appreciation? You are daft.

Easy man. You suppose dey in charge of your emotions. Our redpill no talk say make u dey angry go take irrational decisions. Since she was the submissive type before, there must be something triggering this behaviour. Try to find out the cause of this. It could even be post partum depression(talking from my experience). You never can tell. Be patient

BlissGod:


You’re just a stupid man, I don’t know you but you Sound like one cocky piece of crap. Your stupid ego will soon scatter your marriage, just 300k that you’re here looking for gratitude a woman that could have lost her life in childbirth or worse.

A woman who has sacrificed her body to give you two kids. You are the problem of your marriage. Imagine using the word taming your wife as if she’s a dog you dey tame. Your wife might be going thru post depression of childbirth. Instead of sorting things out you’re here typing rubbish to talk nonsense about her. So let’s hate her now.

Take it cool on venting your frustrations on the young man. truly speaking he isn't behind ur current woes so you either advice him and if you seem annoyed, ignore and exit the thread.

Giving birth in marriage isn't a sacrifice, it's a commitment, an obligation and something necessary that should be done, just like calling a man's hustle to put food at his family's table "A Sacrifice" (sounds dumb doesn't it?) and if she says she won't give birth, no one will advice her to have kids when slurs and gossips of her being barren hit her

Also, Tame isn't a wrong word to use, it simply means, subjecting one into obedience and a state of being unharmful. you lot should try improve your English receptivity atleast.

Ballzproblem2:
no way I'm getting married,I have little atience for nonsense .

😂😂 e don reach like this. Honestly marriage requires patience, the nonsense we tolerate in relationships will only get amplified when one gets married. These women be looking lovely and sweet until you date or marry them then you begin to ask if they have an agreement with the devil to deal with you. Marriage isn't for the faint hearted.

As for the OP, be patient with your wife if she wasn't this way before childbirth, it could be postpartum that is disturbing her. You really need to more caring and understanding at this point. Shalom

elipheleh:


So a responsible man does not have the rights to be respected by his own household?

So being responsible does not worth anything in your house?

So a man should invite others to beg before his own wife will act in line and respect him?

So a woman giving birth gives her license to start disrespecting her husband? Hasn't many women on earth given birth and still sensible?

You see how stupid and daft you sound?

I was bout asking same. You took the questions off my mind

It could be postpartum depression.

I've also heard some cases of women getting mentally ill after child birth.