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My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 4:48pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child. An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely! She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now. I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place? I need candid advice,folks. 80 Likes 8 Shares
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Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by oz4real83(m): 4:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Wetin happen? 58 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by cutecommend: 4:52pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
(1) This is the right time to show her more love. (2) Hope what you want as submission is not that of a house help. (3) She may be stressed, emotionally and psychologically drained. (4) Redpill is not good all the time. If your redpill is toxic, then it is bad, but if your redpill is that of a romantic, mature, available, lively and in charge guy, then it is fine. (5) Hope you have not been treating her badly, while providing all her needs. Money is not everything!! (6) Calm her down and thrash things out. Ask her where you failed and why she is acting that way. (7) Please try not to be selfish. Do nice things that will make her willing to submit, don't force submission. GO AND GET YOUR MARRIAGE BACK. YOUR MARRIAGE IS THE BEST. MAKE IT WORK! 531 Likes 43 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 4:52pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
oz4real83:You no read wetin i write ni,abi you dey wain me ni? 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Ballzproblem2: 4:52pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
no way I'm getting married,I have little patience for nonsense . 55 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by oz4real83(m): 4:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:how I go mock you? What you emphasized so much on was the 300k you paid for the CS and you also used the word "tamed" about your wife, such word is used for wild animals ![]() ![]() ![]() 457 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 4:56pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Ballzproblem2:I have same mindset like you,but when i look at the innocent cute boy,i get madly confused.I don't want to believe my woman really got me this time around. 15 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 5:02pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
oz4real83:ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me. 12 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by oz4real83(m): 5:06pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:if you consider the pain she had to go through during labour, you will see that 300k as nothing, she was between the boundary of life and death ![]() 303 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Negroid001(m): 5:08pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: I want to believe it's a hormonal thing. The fact she had C.S recently, let her get herself together first. She'll still come around. Show her more love now, spoil her. Don't mind any attitude she's giving. Except you have something else in mind and you're looking for a good excuse to separate. You sef, try relax well, dey go beer parlor once in a while go chill. You're really trying. It's not easy to be taking care of 3 people in this economy. Na man you be, stand firm no shaking! 184 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 5:09pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
cutecommend:I appreciate your advice so much.I'd give it a try before i do what's on my mind. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Creamypie(m): 5:11pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:take it easy.its hormonal change. It happens 2 majority of women after birth. Just be ur self. She will calm down 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 5:12pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Negroid001:I appreciate this a lot,it makes a lot of sense to me.Thanks! 36 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 5:17pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Creamypie:I hope so.It was a rude shock to me.I had been pondering on the loan i took on her behalf and the least i expected was the attitude she's giving me recently.It's just maddening.Thanks for your suggestion. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by nato20ng(m): 5:26pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Calm down bro, she's dealing with post patum stress 46 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 5:28pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
nato20ng:oh,let me look that up first. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by AllBlack: 5:32pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Jeeeesus. why the hell are you RAGE TYPING? Damn you must be really angry. đ Red piller, This is your real test and you are considering running away (divorce) just because your wife yelped? What would you do when she roars? That woman just gave birth through CS (every woman's dream... right?) and all the hormonal distortion might be at work but all you see is your ego. Chill my gee, chill. Wetin be 300k? Oya come and carry belle for 9 months and let me cut you up and give you 500k. đ That is your wife and this is the time for you to prove your Alpha worthiness by applying patience, plenty love and face your CALL OF DUTY as a man (shun her childishness, na her time). Apply wisdom. 137 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by elipheleh(m): 5:33pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
oz4real83: So a responsible man does not have the rights to be respected by his own household? So being responsible does not worth anything in your house? So a man should invite others to beg before his own wife will act in line and respect him? So a woman giving birth gives her license to start disrespecting her husband? Hasn't many women on earth given birth and still sensible? You see how stupid and daft you sound? 34 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by harizonal123(m): 5:45pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:It is the stress she passed through while giving birth that is causing it. It will phase out with time but you just have to remain caring, loving and also avoid exchanging words with her. Atimes it will look as if they are remote controlling her some where cos she will always use the slightest excuse to quarrel with you. My tactics was spending more time outside forming busy after I have helped her with all the necessary house shores. Women are all the same in different ways. Just show her more love cos this stage would phase out soon. 17 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 5:47pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
[quote author=AllBlack post=125600033] Jeeeesus. why the hell are you RAGE TYPING? No space in your words. Damn you must be really angry. |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Bennysam: 5:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
cutecommend:Are you married? Some women don't need all those this you wrote, they need strong hand 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Nobody: 5:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
And some people got mad when I wrote i can't marry a Nigerian man? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Patiently waiting for the "get a second wife" crew ![]() ![]() 41 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by harizonal123(m): 5:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
BlissGod:People react to stress in different ways. He didn't really mean that. Child birth is not always easy for struggling men. Frustrating dey always join 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by ItisWell22(f): 5:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Hormones! Birth stress and trauma!! Especially if it wasnât a planned CS, she must have seen âshegeâ before been taken to the theatre. She will come around, soon. But like someone asked up there, hope you both had no issues before the delivery; as some women take advantage of post partum period to throw tantrums? đ€§ On the other hand, thought I read a comment where you âhave full controlâ. đ„± 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by oz4real83(m): 5:59pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
elipheleh:you are the one that is being st.upid, you think because a man spent money in his own home and family, then he must be respected only because of that? How about when the woman spends on the family, should the man then be kneeling to greet the wife as a sign of respect and appreciation? You are daft. 62 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by LIVINGICONREBOR: 6:07pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Easy man. You suppose dey in charge of your emotions. Our redpill no talk say make u dey angry go take irrational decisions. Since she was the submissive type before, there must be something triggering this behaviour. Try to find out the cause of this. It could even be post partum depression(talking from my experience). You never can tell. Be patient 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Offpointng: 6:12pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
BlissGod: Take it cool on venting your frustrations on the young man. truly speaking he isn't behind ur current woes so you either advice him and if you seem annoyed, ignore and exit the thread. Giving birth in marriage isn't a sacrifice, it's a commitment, an obligation and something necessary that should be done, just like calling a man's hustle to put food at his family's table "A Sacrifice" (sounds dumb doesn't it?) and if she says she won't give birth, no one will advice her to have kids when slurs and gossips of her being barren hit her Also, Tame isn't a wrong word to use, it simply means, subjecting one into obedience and a state of being unharmful. you lot should try improve your English receptivity atleast. 41 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by RomanGreen: 6:17pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Ballzproblem2: đđ e don reach like this. Honestly marriage requires patience, the nonsense we tolerate in relationships will only get amplified when one gets married. These women be looking lovely and sweet until you date or marry them then you begin to ask if they have an agreement with the devil to deal with you. Marriage isn't for the faint hearted. As for the OP, be patient with your wife if she wasn't this way before childbirth, it could be postpartum that is disturbing her. You really need to more caring and understanding at this point. Shalom 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Offpointng: 6:17pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
elipheleh: I was bout asking same. You took the questions off my mind 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Nobody: 6:24pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
It could be postpartum depression. I've also heard some cases of women getting mentally ill after child birth. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
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