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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Error401: 2:11pm On Sep 12, 2023

I wonder o

garriAndsugar:
From Lagos you intend to visit once weekly?
Is Enugu now in Ogun state abi you go dey disappear for fast movement

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Rubyjade: 2:12pm On Sep 12, 2023

IconicR:
He didn't even mention missing his wife because he already has a Lagos girlfriend waiting for him

It's all about his kids because someone is already on ground in Lagos to do wifely duties
Hian

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Jeezuzpick(m): 2:14pm On Sep 12, 2023

charles009:

Folks, in a few days I will be leaving for Lagos . I currently live in Enugu, amazing city. I can move my family, but Wify advised the kids stay back in Enugu for at least another year to enable me settle. For the first time since I got married 7 years ago, I will be leaving my relatively young family behind. I love my children to bits and immensely enjoy every second I share with them. Our bond is so strong. The feeling of staying a day without my babies is completely indescribable. Although I intend to visit Enugu at least once weekly.

Guys please encourage me.

New phase of manhood initiating.

You will now know how much you can really sacrifice for your family.

I'm speaking from a lot of experience: Bro, e no easy!

But then.......

No one said it's easy being a man.

All I will advise is, build good rapport with your coworkers and boss, be ready to cover for others so they can cover for you when you go home to see your lovelies.

Plan to go either fortnightly or once every 3 weeks.....make it regular (equally spaced) so your workplace gets used to it.

When you have the chance to move your family, then do so, but this should depend on how frequent transfers can happen.

It's not too good to shift young kids about frequently.

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by phenylalanine(m): 2:15pm On Sep 12, 2023

charles009:

Folks, in a few days I will be leaving for Lagos . I currently live in Enugu, amazing city. I can move my family, but Wify advised the kids stay back in Enugu for at least another year to enable me settle. For the first time since I got married 7 years ago, I will be leaving my relatively young family behind. I love my children to bits and immensely enjoy every second I share with them. Our bond is so strong. The feeling of staying a day without my babies is completely indescribable. Although I intend to visit Enugu at least once weekly.

Guys please encourage me.

Pls make effort to settle quick so your family can join you in Lagos, it is easier to say you will visit once but once duty calls you might not even visit for months, your wife is comfortable with it for now but soon she will not and it might rub up on your great and wonderful family. All the best bro

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by MySolace: 2:17pm On Sep 12, 2023

TimT:

Honestly.... Both of them just occupy the front page... I just open the thread only to see argument...
Especially that AdvanceDna....
At least IconicR first post was referring to the topic, but the AdvanceDna just follow her for back...na wa o... So much for front page...

Dey followed each other.

But if I may ask, between d two, who do u think was more reasonable? cool

Be rational plz...

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Angrygoat: 2:17pm On Sep 12, 2023

Your wife...wud soon get fuckd

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by MySolace: 2:18pm On Sep 12, 2023

gassbee:
leave am, make him start work first, e go get d message, enugu weekly na beans?

Transport alone go gulp d so-called salary

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Agromuda(m): 2:19pm On Sep 12, 2023

Don't start what you can't continue with the promise of once in a week visit to ENUGU. It's not feasible on the long run. You may start having issues with your lovely wife when you can no longer come once in a week. Also, the risk involved and the cost are not worth it. Once is a month with steady communication. Good luck!!!

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by olamilarks(m): 2:20pm On Sep 12, 2023

OP is either worried his wife can't manage the home while he's away or worried they'll fok his wife! OP put your mind at rest, your wife is loyal but are you? Charles009

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by TimT: 2:21pm On Sep 12, 2023

MySolace:

Dey followed each other.

But if I may ask, between d two, who do u think was more reasonable?

Be rational plz...

None... But IconicR was actually self-biased because she felt the man didn't "List" his love for the whole family, only the kids, hence her accusations...
So if the man had responded Nd said something about the wife, all would have been well...
But u see dat other one, just carry the matter for head grin

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by advanceDNA: 2:24pm On Sep 12, 2023

Angrygoat:
Your wife...wud soon get fuckd

U are wicked

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Ayoade19(m): 2:25pm On Sep 12, 2023

IconicR:
He didn't even mention missing his wife because he already has a Lagos girlfriend waiting for him

It's all about his kids because someone is already on ground in Lagos to do wifely duties
Hian

Please have brain for once.

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Omoapena(m): 2:32pm On Sep 12, 2023

garriAndsugar:
From Lagos you intend to visit once weekly?
Is Enugu now in Ogun state abi you go dey disappear for fast movement

That part sef off me o cheesy

By the time he enters Lagos, to even visit them in 2 months will be impossible…

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Qatar2022: 2:38pm On Sep 12, 2023

michlins:
Move with your family and let all of you adjust at the same time. This transfer may cause a lingering issue in the family

This is a very bad advice

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Cutehector(m): 2:38pm On Sep 12, 2023

I hope the job in lagos is paying you well, if not pls stay back in that enugu

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Qatar2022: 2:39pm On Sep 12, 2023

advanceDNA:

Enugu to Lagos......Lagos to enugu....?? In one week??

Don't get me wrong, it possible...but it will be exhausting..........
It's not even safe jumping around the road in the current Nigeria.......

A little time apart is not so bad...will make u cherish every moment when u see...

Even once a month is not possible, don't mind him

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Qatar2022: 2:41pm On Sep 12, 2023

Memberclub:
Move your family together

Bad advice, if you don't have any thing to say just shut up, if things don't work as planned in Lagos what will he do ? Bundle them back to Enugu again ani?

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by stormborn28(m): 2:42pm On Sep 12, 2023

garriAndsugar:
From Lagos you intend to visit once weekly?
Is Enugu now in Ogun state abi you go dey disappear for fast movement

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Tzar(m): 2:43pm On Sep 12, 2023

A year is too long to be separated from your family o!
I have seen families torn apart from this kind of separation. The temptation for adultery becomes more pronounced and the risk of traveling in Nigeria so often is very huge these days. I think 3months max is enough for her to join you with the kids.
Unless she has a job that contributes heavily to the family upkeep in Enugu, why is she so reluctant to move with you?! Hopefully, she doesn’t have a boyfriend that is making it difficult to move with you asap.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by MySolace: 2:43pm On Sep 12, 2023

TimT:

None... But IconicR was actually self-biased because she felt the man didn't "List" his love for the whole family, only the kids, hence her accusations...
So if the man had responded Nd said something about the wife, all would have been well...
But u see dat other one, just carry the matter for head

Wait, u actually concur with her dat d man didn't mention his wife? Dats not true.

The man said my relatively young family...(d wife and kid inclusive). D family is still young, barely 7years marriage.

So, I think d gal(abi lady, abi woman, abi na grandma sef grin

...na joke o...) accused him wrongly, and of not mentioning d wife.

...she honestly went off d line, making d AdvancedDNA guy to attack her straightaway.

Misconception is all I've seen.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by kiddkash(m): 2:46pm On Sep 12, 2023

IconicR:
He didn't even mention missing his wife because he already has a Lagos girlfriend waiting for him

It's all about his kids because someone is already on ground in Lagos to do wifely duties
Hian

Maybe he is not a fast typist. Hence omitting the word. Don't be too quick to judge

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Tenny05(m): 2:49pm On Sep 12, 2023

Dear all,

Please can I gey any lawyer here that can do a probono case for me? Kindly indicate interest here 🙏

charles009:

Folks, in a few days I will be leaving for Lagos . I currently live in Enugu, amazing city. I can move my family, but Wify advised the kids stay back in Enugu for at least another year to enable me settle. For the first time since I got married 7 years ago, I will be leaving my relatively young family behind. I love my children to bits and immensely enjoy every second I share with them. Our bond is so strong. The feeling of staying a day without my babies is completely indescribable. Although I intend to visit Enugu at least once weekly.

Guys please encourage me.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by TimT: 2:56pm On Sep 12, 2023

MySolace:

Wait, u actually concur with her dat d man didn't mention his wife? Dats not true.

The man said my relatively young family...(d wife and kid inclusive). D family is still young, barely 7years marriage.

So, I think d gal(abi lady, abi woman, abi na grandma sef ...na joke o...) accused him wrongly, and of not mentioning d wife.

...she honestly went off d line, making d AdvancedDNA guy to attack her straightaway.

Misconception is all I've seen.

When u love someone unconditionally, you won't generalize their name. Infact, their name will always be on the tip of your tongue..
What stops the man from saying "My wife and my kids"?
Besides his wife came first before the kids abi love of the wife don tire the man?
That's not misconception.

Make we rest abeg ....
We don too carry person matter for head
🤣🤣

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Menclothing: 2:59pm On Sep 12, 2023

This is funny

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Berankis: 3:01pm On Sep 12, 2023

charles009:

Folks, in a few days I will be leaving for Lagos . I currently live in Enugu, amazing city. I can move my family, but Wify advised the kids stay back in Enugu for at least another year to enable me settle. For the first time since I got married 7 years ago, I will be leaving my relatively young family behind. I love my children to bits and immensely enjoy every second I share with them. Our bond is so strong. The feeling of staying a day without my babies is completely indescribable. Although I intend to visit Enugu at least once weekly.

Guys please encourage me.

Oga move them to save your self all the stress. Move them to preserve your life too. Dont be travelling up and down.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Dprinceoj1: 3:11pm On Sep 12, 2023

Better

follow your wife advise .because traveling from lagos to Enugu weekly is a suicide mission.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Dprinceoj1: 3:13pm On Sep 12, 2023

Better to follow your wife advise .because traveling from lagos to Enugu weekly is a suicide mission.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by Levels1(m): 3:13pm On Sep 12, 2023

Something is really not clear to me.

Why is almost everyone from the East rushing to Lagos State.

Just an harmless question as is getting too frequent

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by dododawa1: 3:23pm On Sep 12, 2023

FREEDOM for both
PARTY

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by MySolace: 3:28pm On Sep 12, 2023

TimT:

When u love someone unconditionally, you won't generalize their name. Infact, their name will always be on the tip of your tongue..
What stops the man from saying "My wife and my kids"?
Besides his wife came first before the kids abi love of the wife don tire the man?
That's not misconception.

Make we rest abeg ....
We don too carry person matter for head
🤣🤣

D man loves his family unconditionally, don't come and start dividing it for him. Young family means young marriage. D wife is even d epicenter.

Like u said, make we rest, no b our personal matter grin

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Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by jpdoncumagain: 3:31pm On Sep 12, 2023

How do u intend to visit once a week?.. baba be calming down oh.

Re: Guys, I Am Worried. Leaving Family Behind-transferred To Lagos by callmevirus(m): 3:36pm On Sep 12, 2023

[quote author=IconicR post=125739089]He didn't even mention missing his wife because he already has a Lagos girlfriend waiting for him

It's all about his kids because someone is already on ground in Lagos to do wifely duties
Hian [/quote

Get a job. Nl won't help you

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