olril17:

You’re very stvpid. So it’s the fault of father that the uncle was no where to be found and the estate should have been left rotten?
And who told you if they take the case to court the court will strike their case out?
See mumu Dey talk of empathy but you saw where the guy said his father has spent money to renovate some part of the estate including building again from scratch.
So where is your empathy for the man too for the money he has spent so you mean he should just agree and leave the estate like that without considering the financial implications to him?
If you say the father and uncle should find ways to settle amicably that might have make sense but then kobo sense no Dey your empty head

I really pity you little child. Common English you cannot understand. Respect kuma, you no get. Only insult full your mouth. Oya, go and collect the inheritance of a first son and give OP na.

Maybe you're holding on to a first son's inheritance in your own family and you're seeking validation. Sorry, nothing for you. Allow the elders in your family decide who takes what. Don't go and fight to the last drop of your whatever oh.

I don't usually answer ill-mannered children like you but I'm in a good mood today. Run along now and go play in the sand my dear.

BigMamaNaija:


I really pity you little child. Common English you cannot understand. Respect kuma, you no get. Only insult full your mouth. Oya, go and collect the inheritance of a first son and give OP na.

Maybe you're holding on to a first son's inheritance in your own family and you're seeking validation. Sorry, nothing for you. Allow the elders in your family decide who takes what. Don't go and fight to the last drop of your whatever oh.

I don't usually answer ill-mannered children like you but I'm in a good mood today. Run along now and go play in the sand my dear.

Madness dey chop you.

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Honestly, your father has no right to deny your uncle who is his elder access and right to their father's property. FULLSTOP.

If you are from the East, the first son owns the residential property of the dad by right. The other properties are then shared amongst the kids. Even if that your uncle die, that property goes to his son and never to your dad.

There is a proverb in igbo that is loosely translated to mean 'you do not plant flowers in a house that is not yours'. The uncle do not owe your dad for the renovations on the properties that would eventually be shared and allocated to him. He can choose to be good and reimburse your dad though.

I am also sure that your dad might have been collecting rent from these properties and eating it alone. Has he ever even made an attempt to put some money away knowing that someone else is a joint beneficiary to those properties?

Your uncle can in thesame vein he is claiming for the renovation costs also asked for an account for the rents collected on the properties. Life should be much more easier than this.

Your family should be happy that your long lost uncle is returned and not this fight you are doing. It is never worth it to drag landed property with family members. It is too short sighted.

Let them share the properties amongst them and every man can face his lane. Good thing you said your dad has his own properties. No need for any party to get greedy.

olril17:

Baba ee oloriburuku loon bawii.
I’ve already replied you in another post so go digest.
Fuul

Oni se orire laiye.

Baba ati iya re a fi oju sukun re ni.

Wo, oni je eyan laye


Iwo omo adanu yi

Bros, you guys should tread with caution with that guy, he just came back from SA and could be deadly.

That kind of person can be evil. What about his family, I mean wife and children ?

Levels1:




Oni se orire laiye.

Baba ati iya re a fi oju sukun re ni.

Wo, oni je eyan laye


Iwo omo adanu yi

Go and sleep 😴
Maybe when you wake up your body go calm down🤣

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Whatever the case. He is still entitled to the land.

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

No let your Dad fight anything with his last strength. Law is law. A compromise can be reached, still, he has the right to most of those things.
Abi is it your Dad that did juju to him so he won’t come back all this time?

Peter532:

My father has properties of his own. thank you.

Your father supposed to know he has an elder. Was he thinking his brother won't returned? Even if his brother died, his brother's children needs to know about the property. Your granddad gave birth to both of them. This is not even what your father should contest in the first place.

thinkmoney:

No let your Dad fight anything with his last strength. Law is law. A compromise can be reached, still, he has the right to most of those things.
Abi is it your Dad that did juju to him so he won’t come back all this time?

Why is his father even angry? Is he the only child? So if the brother didn't come, he is planning to take over everything?

olril17:

You mean the father should have looked the other way and left the property to rot while waiting for a brother they don’t know is coming back or not or was it the father’s fault the man went AWOL?
A lot of you on nairaland have no sense. Just yapping rubbish up and down.

Grow up boy. They have been living in the said house all the while rent free or probably rented it out! Either way, they must have gotten value for whatever they spent on renovating the house. Besides, their efforts are simply honorarium to their parents. Or, are you saying capable children should only support their parents in exchange for property

Better take your eyes off any first son's right in your family. And... go get some home training on public communication.

olril17:

So it’s the fault of the father that the useless good for nothing uncle was away for that long?
So the father should just left the property to rot and decayed because they are in endless wait for someone they haven’t seen in 37 years?
The father obviously has spent money to renovate part of the estate according to the guy some were even from the scratch.
Then a man they haven’t seen in 37 years suddenly showed up to fight for same properties.
Of course the father should be feel wronged and cheated it’s basically human nature and you yourself will feel the same so it’s not a case where such properties can be easily handed over,it’s not the fault of the guys father the brother stayed away for that long.
But what is reasonable when temper eventually calm is to however ensure the useless uncle was given what is entitled to him,his fair share of the property but cognizance of what has been spent to renovate the estate must also be given so nobody will be the so much on the loosing side even if that’s not really possible.
You calling another person’s dad thief shows how useless and brainless you are. You’re just as useless as the foolish uncle shamefully dragging property after 37 years of failure of which was not body’s fault but his own.

You don't have sense. Even if he's not around for 100 yesrs foesdoe take away what rightfully belong to both of them to be his, just because hesh out of country forever.

What happens to look away or better call the elders of the fsfami to share it in absentia for the both parties.

But he felt he's never going to return hence trying to con it to his and wull affte to his children.


Wickedness everywhere.


But on a lighter note, God will punish you

olril17:

Go and sleep 😴
Maybe when you wake up your body go calm down🤣

Oni ku re

Klass99:


If I were your father I will simply undo every renovation work done on properties he is laying claim to and let him have them, after I have returned said properties to their former state and status. I hate nonsense and stupidity sha.

Hmmm, but would you not be putting yourself in the bad books of the law by doing such?

If you build a house on another man's land, by virtue of the law, the house becomes the other man's property I believe. And if you demolish that house, you would be liable to prison sentence for damages to someone else's property.

OP's father by law would have to forfiet the house to the man along with the land except the family can reach some sort of resolution or except the man himself consents to remove the structure from his land.

Hmmm, Klass captain,

Abeg try dey take am easy with your conclusions and decision making o. Don't always make hasty conclusions on critical issues out of anger but rather, seek advice, think deeply and pray over it.

Cheers.

It is very clear that your father and family are not even happy that he is back. By your little display you would have written him off dead. Thin line between love and greed

Read below

The person who wrote this post is either one of these Lagos and Ibadan born and bred Igbo boys who don't know and have regards for customs and traditions.
Oboy, your uncle is the rightful head of that family as far as he's the first son and his parents are late. It doesn't matter whether he looked after them or not, maybe as a result of his financial conditions, he remains the head and should decide what happens in the family in respect to his late parents properties. Tell your father to calm down and allow his elder brother to show him where to build his own house and any other thing.

AutoChick4U:
Your father shouldn't have touch the properties meant for him and it's not like he's dead. Your dad is at fault for being covetous pls

Thank you!

olril17:

Exactly he should be entitled to his fair share of the property. This case can be settled amicably among all parties.

His younger brother probably took over the said properties on the assumption that the man was long dead in South Africa since he had been incommunicado for 37 years

Tell your father to thread carefully, you said it yourself that he came back with nothing so he could hypnotizing your father to his early grave.

Let the elders come together to share the properties but if they fail to do so, your dad should let go.

Klass99:


A very useless first son who provided no value whatsoever. Why should such a person inherit or lay claim to any properties, solely on the basis of being a first son?

We have some very messed up traditions that cause more harm than good, which need to be thrown away. Is it not men who created these traditions? Can the same men not undo them, if they really wish to?

Unlike you I mean every offence when I say (not to you specifically) that the useless first son should have stayed gone and never returned or reappeared to claim property.

What is wrong with some children sef? Are your hands broken or is your brain malfunctioning to a point where you cannot build or acquire properties of your own, without looking to grab what your parents had?

Well, the grandparents had the option to write their will if they didn't want tradition to prevail. But they didn't.

The first son may have suffered a lot of setback in SA but could not come back then. Hoping to make it one day. Like many in Lagos for years but still squatting or details.

fx45:
His younger brother probably took over the said properties on the assumption that the man was long dead in South Africa since he had been incommunicado for 37 years

Exactly. I will not blame the younger brother cos I consider what he felt normal. But when tempers calm it can be settled peacefully and amicably.

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Keep off this war and advice your father to let go or else the elder will mess your family up and stay afar to laugh at your family.
He is still the first son your father should respect that.

Levels1:




Oni ku re

Tell me wetin dey vex you on top wetin wen no concern you 🤣
Omo take am easy oo🤣🤣
Take a pill and sleep you go calm down when you wake up😂

olril17:

You mean the father should have looked the other way and left the property to rot while waiting for a brother they don’t know is coming back or not or was it the father’s fault the man went AWOL?
A lot of you on nairaland have no sense. Just yapping rubbish up and down.

You’re a fool, was the property left alone or he’s an occupant, if he was to be staying in a rented apartment, won’t he be paying money or if he rented the same property out, won’t he be collecting money so money spent on the property is as a result of the property being useful to him or he making money from it so he has to maintain it so far he’s benefiting from it….


You’re so dumb man

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

what is wrong with that? Na your papa senf am abroad?

Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

You and your dad are such a beautiful wicked soul, give what belong to that young man to him, with or without a will , he needs to have a share of his parents properties.

Your dad make a big mistakes with reasons.

A. When their father is alive ,your dad should ask their father his own share of inheritance Incase his elder brother returned

B. Your dad should know that he is not the first son and he should work on his own property not family property

C. Finally, your dad want to take it all maybe wishes his elder brother may never returned back again.

Tell your father to stop deceiving you his children because he knows Igbo tradition and norms.

Immediately, I grown up as a man the first thing I ask my elder brother the first son in a quit environment in a delightful manner.

I said to him senior I want a share of my own land now our dad is late, so I can start planning to have my own house because you the first son I can't live with you here forever and my unborn children too.

He wake up and go straight to his room without a word to me. The next day early in the morning he wake me up took me to the remaining land and told me here is your own passion kindly develop it but don't sell it

Any day you sell it I will send your packing from our general house then he leave me and work away from me.

BigMamaNaija:


Grow up boy. They have been living in the said house all the while rent free or probably rented it out! Either way, they must have gotten value for whatever they spent on renovating the house. Besides, their efforts are simply honorarium to their parents. Or, are you saying capable children should only support their parents in exchange for property

Better take your eyes off any first son's right in your family. And... go get some home training on public communication.

You should have read where the guy said his father has his own property. They don’t live in the house.

Bro, that man is the first son and elder brother to your father , if that man was dead in South Africa won’t your dad and your siblings contribute money to bury him ? He is entitled to everything his parents owned , what should be done is to remove the money for the burial of your grandfather and grandmother then share every other thing . And he has upper hand in the share and properties , that’s his right , as he decided to live in South Africa without nothing is not a reason to take away his rights.

estherozioma:
It is very clear that your father and family are not even happy that he is back. By your little display you would have written him off dead. Thin line between love and greed

Gbam


OP dad is sad coz he’s elder brother is back when he’s supposed to be happy for his return…



Believe me, they wished that elder brother was dead without caring for his welfare, did they even try to find out what has happened to him all the years he was incommunicado….


They just assumed he’s dead and they took over the property, if OP dad was a nice man, he’s supposed to be leaving something behind for his elder brother from whatever he’s getting from the property but since he didn’t pray for his return, he took everything for himself….