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Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by TOPMAN4LIFE: 6:07pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:With all this your talk up and down, what do you think is good for her to do. From your response, l will know the type of person l am exchanging words with. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 6:12pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
TOPMAN4LIFE:Op and her 3 kids are about to become homeless, so unless the man's family is going to f0ck over money to pay the rent, it doesnt behoove OP to go contacting before taking clear and decisive action which is to move her children to her parent's home so they are spared the devastation of watching their belongings being cast out into the streets. Unlike you, I actually look for meaningful resolutions to obvious issues. 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by TOPMAN4LIFE: 6:17pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:But you should have provided your own advice like this as l have done my own and allow OP to decide. You now carry the matter for head as if me and you want collect award on best advice |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 6:19pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
TOPMAN4LIFE:I did. Simply pointing out how unreasonable it is to ask her to call up his family to give a grown-arsed man advise before she moves her children out of "harm's" way. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by austinvizy(m): 6:25pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Really sad, but wisdom is profitable to direct. Leaving the man will not solve the problem. What about the welfare of your kids... The best you can do in this situation is to encourage him with love, let him understand that its really hard on you already, he should try and take up other jobs to support the home at least. Lastly, pray for him, it changes situation too. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by TOPMAN4LIFE: 6:25pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:What if doesn't take your advice, The way your talking as if your advice must be taken, na WA for u o |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 6:26pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
TOPMAN4LIFE:What part of that is my issue? |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 6:29pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
austinvizy:For 3 years, the welfare of the kids have not been tops on the man's mind, according to OP. But you suggest she continue to drag him along for the very welfare of same kids. How so? As expected. You are more interested in passing on another delusion to OP than giving her advice for her current problem. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by yinkeys(m): 6:29pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Was an analogy You hurriedly replied my post without reading the entire thing properly I guess you don’t comprehend context 1 Like |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 6:34pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
yinkeys:Analogy? More like you lifted a statement out of context only to suggest that since evil prevails the statement must not have been true. Terrible logic. " The meek" in the context of the Gospel from which you lifted the statement from refers rather to those who would trust and obey the teachings and commandments of God, God's Law aka Jesus Christ, in the Kingdom of God. That statement has nothing to do with the Op or this here. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by REALretep(m): 6:38pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Glad to hear that we both at least seem to agree that marriage is a good thing based on your bolded statement above. I still maintain that you clearly misunderstood the Bible verses you quoted earlier or you mischievously quoted them knowing fully well your interpretations were completely out of context. There may be lies told by folks who believe in God...I agree with you on that. And there may also be many failed marriages involving folks who believe in God. That is also very correct. But also there are many truths told by folks who believe in God and there are also many successful and fruitful marriages involving folks who believe in God. There are also atheists who may have successful and fruitful marriages and also atheists whose marriages have failed. It therefore depends on where you focus your mind on... whether the cup is half-filled or half-empty. And lastly, your comment on "logic working in tandem with the real world" is inherently faulty as humans naturally don't use logic all the time because of our capacity for emotions/feelings and spiritual inclinations. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by juman(m): 6:49pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Many men are lazy. Yes. Why should a man that called himself husband and father wake up and do nothing? That man is very useless idioti. He has to work hard to pay bills. He should know he must provide for himself and the young children. Lazy men should know: You cant stay idle waiting for mana to fall from heaven. You should not stay doing nothing expecting your wife to bring food, even if she get it from her man friend. Oh, that kind of man is really useless. 1 Like |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 6:50pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
REALretep post=126403207■ [size=8pt:Stop lying thinking you are fooling when all you are doing is revealing your own ignorance. 2. The successes they claim are no different from many of those you pretend came to you lot by way of God, all lies. 3. Humans are born into a world of laws. That some humans adopt delusions in place of the logical laws before them does not change the fact of things in any way. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by juman(m): 6:54pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
OP should move back to her parents house when the house rent expire. The man has to look for job and be able to pay bills before she move back to live with him. Many husbands are lazy ash husband. Their children are called children of living dead man. Their father is living but useless man. 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by juman(m): 7:00pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
This topic is emotional. I have seen numerous unserious husbands. Its common thing. That why they say father is father of all, but mother is the mother of her children. Many on this forum were trained by their mothers. Oh man: Man MUST work. Go and get money to pay your bills. Many of her friends she sees on social media and physically maybe patching things up. Anytime I discuss with anybody, I expect the person to add at least some little lies. 1 Like |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by rezky(m): 7:20pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
socialmediaman: That question should be directed to the lazy man who call himself a husband., if the woman leave the children with the man and go away., "will that man be able to take responsibility of the childcare?* The woman is better off by far., she works, make money for herself and take responsibility of the home since the husband lose his job...so she can do better than a man who is waiting on one multinational job that is yet to come. He should be responsible and considerate enough to get something doing, make little money and support the woman till he get the multinational job he so desire. The woman is not asking for too much here...you too reason am now 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Brokeness(m): 7:30pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kemadealadire: Change your thinking |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by EWIN(m): 7:44pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
He is rich,,good and he doesn't drink,,,u entered his life,,,he became poor,,, started drinking and gambling,,,,,if He is my brother I will jail you..you have finished this man life.... |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:45pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
luminouz: Kunle, so at your old age you still don't have sense? Quite unfortunate. 4 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Virusvetty: 8:03pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:God will help you |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by sonofthunder: 8:17pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
yeldey: Lol Part of the reason I responded the way I did. The story sounded a little cooked up. I didn't even check the profile self. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by sonofthunder: 8:19pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Wujio: You are clearly short sighted hence you cannot see what I'm driving at. Besides if she's honest to respond, I will give her the best advice and support I can offer but till then....... |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by sonofthunder: 8:22pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
BRATISLAVA: Mr./Miss/Mrs. I too know, go and read the op well before quoting me. The op is self righteous, story sounds cooked up. Sometimes you make sure something is genuine before responding to issues people bring up. So many people are clout chasers. Someone just check the profile self and said op is a man and the best you can do is throw jabs at me Her virginity is an issue because she seem not to know why she chose to preserve it. She thinks it's better she lived as a hoe in here younger years rather than being chaste. You also think about that. The man was working and providing/supporting until he lost the job.... Read her statement, she looked down on the man's earnings maybe even mocked him self but will never tell you that...... She said her man swore to never work for private company again...... You think say na small frustration be that? |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by adanny01(m): 8:27pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Kobojunkie!!! The moniker says all. I hope your mother is safe, pls spare her. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by sonofthunder: 8:29pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
nedekid: Going by the book, she needs to be ready to work it out with her husband...... The proper way has never been easy oh...... The highway to "hell" is wide and smooth. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Wujio: 8:37pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
sonofthunder: Treat the hypocrisy in you before you give people advice. You need it more |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by phemmyfour: 8:39pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz:Marrying as a virgin isn't a yardstick for a successful marriage. Virginity is a bragging right before marriage not in marriage. In marriage, you need sexual, emotional and financial stability. Your marriage is suffering from financial stability Your man's frustration had a lot to do with losing his first job. Unfortunately, hes on the path of destruction by embracing betting. He has lost the WILL to continue fighting. If he doesn't quit, it ll be a big obstacle in your marriage. Seek help from friends and family, that's the way out. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kobojunkie: 8:43pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
Virusvetty:God helps me but God is not the author of the lies you told. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by nedekid: 8:45pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
sonofthunder:Abi.. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by BRATISLAVA: 8:47pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
sonofthunder: Vaginometer. Once a woman is facing challenges in her marriage, it must mean she wants a license to cheat. Her husband isn't frustrated. He's evil. And later men will say that once a woman starts footing bills she begins to announce it. When they got married where in the Nigerian marriage rules is she supposed to foot everything? For a man to be comfortable being an infidel and watching his family sink, he is unbelievably evil. What stops him from working like his wife does? Gambling with what money? That's a frustrated man? She mentioned her virginity because it has to do with her beliefs and her experiences. She chose to be a virgin believing in love, thinking it would mean she would have a good marriage and successful life. That's why she's mentioning it and how her promiscuous friends seem to have it better. So clearly she knows why she decided to be one. Yet you traced her mentioning it because she wants to cheat and that is repulsive. Vaginometer. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by 99thEnemy(m): 8:49pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
sonofthunder:Local Man is also confused. 🤔 |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by BRATISLAVA: 8:53pm On Oct 14, 2023 |
juman: Honestly, the sort of lazy men we read about on the forum is a disgrace to those who keep posting and asking what women bring to the table in marriages. How can a man gamble and play games while he has children that need a meal and home? Oh well, he has a productive hard working wife. Everything is sorted. He's the head of the home, the king, the prize, heaven and earth in flesh. |
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