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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by advanceDNA: 4:35pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
mariahAngel: Why is that When it's ur gender doing the emotional and verbal abuse...u guys always say same thing..he should keep managing the abusive woman and the frustration/ unhappiness he's getting.... But once the table turn.... U will hear..."run for ur life oooo before he kills u and ur children" 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by dkidd: 4:44pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
nairalanduser23:God!!! and u still dey there? She has already divorced u but she's waiting for u to make the move so she would say u did it. Me I would gladly oblige.. Let her get her peace of mind while u find urs. The ship has sailed sir. Move on for ur health sake. If u fall sick due to health complications from the daily wahala it will be worse for u as she will frustrate what's left of u until ur hurriedly transcended to the great beyond. Don't let her win. Move out now while ur still in good shape. Give her the freedom she so desires 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Damian911: 4:51pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
mariahAngel: ROTFLMAO Sorry but don't know why I find this advice funny especially the second advice of the first paragraph. He should "pray" to change her? Maybe you should review your comment. LMAO 🤣 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by MightySparrow: 4:57pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
SIXTEENTH: Not the solution Sir. I was in the same shoe years back. More than twenty years ago. It has not solved anything. By the nature of my work, O left home 2008 and visiting occasionally. The problem now is. When I retire, is there a home to return? I am racking my brain to see if I can have houses in three locations. My village, which my wife doesn't like seems to be the best option. I would retire there alone. She could be jumping from one child to another. Life after retirement is a dread to me. I will not suggest divorce because of the children, but it is the best option. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Ed12(m): 5:02pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Keep your option open 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Berankis: 5:06pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
It's psychological bro! She is mentally trying to subdue and control you. That's if you allow it, the ball is in your court. If you can live with it, it's fine and if not, reject it! All the time!! |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Fearyourcreator: 5:07pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
hasyak:If na woman talk am .. divorce for sweet for your mouth ... |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Dizzyyish: 5:10pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
nairalanduser23: I'll be honest with you.. There's an incredibly high chance that she's already cheating on you. When a woman cheats, she begins to create this juxtaposition between the man she's cheating with and the man she's cheating on. When she interacts with the cheated man that juxtaposition creates resentment towards him. She wants you to initiate separation/cheating because: 1. She thinks the grass is greener on the other side. 2. To play the victim afterwards. 3. It will justify her own infidelity. Ignore any "manage her women are like that" advice because you're the one losing peace of mind while the woman will even enjoy tearing you down. If no children are involved you can divorce immediately (it won't get better). If you have kids and some cash do paternity tests, then you may prepare for divorce depending on how you value peace of mind. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by SIXTEENTH(m): 5:11pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
MightySparrow: WOW this one choke me |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by OCHKESTINE(m): 5:13pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Women behave better when they have competition. Whenever a woman concludes u will never leave her; they begin to misbehave. If u are not the type to keep a side chick, get a more beautiful female for a platonic relationship. Discuss everything with her, allow your wife catch u make phone calls with her and discuss personal stuff with her. What will happen is that your wife will investigate her and when she's sees she has competition, she will be intimidated and get in your good grace. Buy yourself good gifts and claim the lady bought them for you. Secondly, if u have somewhere to spend weeks alone, do it without telling her. When u return don't apologize nor explain your whereabouts. You have to find a way to break her, that is the only way to earn your respect. You seem like a good person, she has checked u out and see u can never hurt her. In my opinion, a wife has to love more for marriage to work. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by kinguwem: 5:22pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
She may be having mental health challenges. A bipolar disorder is a possibility. She needs to see a counsellor, psychologist or psychiatrist. The situation may progress to psychosis, depression or suicidal tenderness. She needs psychotherapy & mental health support. There's need to look for risk factors: family history, dietary deficiency, precipitating social factors, stress etc. |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by WantsandMore: 5:23pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Banbanna:right, more action less talk especially in his situation where she's likely to escalate at the slightest, there's no one size fits all anyways, you know the idea is not that he's static but dynamic, he improves as she improves her communication skills. It's obvious he keeps wondering why his wife keeps doing what she does over and over, the above phrase is meant to open up the conversation further. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by advanceDNA: 5:23pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
SIXTEENTH: Evade her threat...?? I don't get .....why will a man have to result to running from the home he's paying for to go and pay for another just because u want him to stay married to a troublesome woman that needs him to her bills...... I don't get at all Why can't the troublesome party leave ?? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Pacyrus(m): 5:25pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Bankowner:Let me see if I can apply this. |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Joshmuch: 5:32pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
emmanuelbrown26:You didn't advise him but insulted him 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Joshmuch: 5:34pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
FireUpNow:divorce should be the last option and the last life line because if he uses it all the time, it loses power, and if he doesn't carry out his threat, his case is lost forever |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by aimalohi: 5:35pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Take ur marriage to a marriage Councillor, some of d advice u will get here won't be good. There is a communication gap She does not accord u respect Your wife seems not to see u as the head of d home Probably ur approach is always bad Or she is d one bringing more money than you Or she is always tense no Helper or someone to assist her with house work |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Konjiboi: 5:35pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
She's a narcissist. Read up narcissistic personality disorder online to learn more and know what to do. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by capnies: 5:36pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
I DON'T KNOW HOW LONG YOU'VE BEEN MARRIED AND THE EFFORTS YOU'VE PUT IN TO SOLVE THIS. I KNOW IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE FOR US TO PICTURE WHAT TRANSPIRES BUT I CAN TELL YOU TO REDUCE JOKES AND SAY ONLY IMPORTANT THINGS. ALSO APPLY MY THEORY "LISTEN BUT DON'T HEAR" YES YOU CAN LISTEN WITHOUT HEARING WHAT SHE'S SAYING SIMPLY BY SWITCHING YOUR ATTENTION TO OTHER THINGS ,OR BEING IN ANOTHER PLACE, WHILE STILL BEING THERE, LIKE GOING DOWN MEMORY LANE, BEING LOST IN THOUGHTS WHILE STILL THERE, LIKE BEING OBLIVION OF THE ENVIRONMENT, THIS YOU CAN ACHIEVE THROUGH PRACTICE |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Faposky95: 5:50pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Bankowner: ...after your notions are tried.... don't you return to being human and iron our real.life issues.....? Though time will tell.... it's heart wrenching to have such knowledge under your nose. Time apart is the best solution....but how...?! |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Faposky95: 5:53pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
OCHKESTINE: My man 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by SonofGod231: 5:57pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Na see finish dey cause this kind thing. She may not hesitate to leave you once the chips are down. How do you guys even copulate and make love. |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Nlkay(m): 6:00pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
I agree with this school of thought Adexvivacity: 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by zedegit: 6:01pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
ahnie: Are you equally a drama queen? |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by mukthar2000(m): 6:01pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
OP DNA test is the best options first on ur kids b4 any further advice. |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by zedegit: 6:03pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
ahnie: Lol Op anytime she starts acting; look her in her eyes. Hold her and kiss her. Na magic. I learnt that from a mad man though. |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Sleekfingers: 6:04pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Start avoiding her like plague. 1. In the morning, greet her, go to work. 2. After work, hang around at a bar, eat out and enter the house, shower and go to bed. 3. Weekends, if you have kids, play with them, afterwards go out and come back at night. Make sure you have eaten outside. 4. Don't eat her food. But don't stop giving her money and paying the bills 5. Don't attempt to have any intimacy with her. Try and be sleeping in the sitting room. 6. No matter what she says, don't answer, this is kinda hard though. Nobody go tell her. Before she go ask you, say wetin she do, or tell your family or her family about what's going on. Anytime, my wife start her madness, I just ignore her. |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by zedegit: 6:07pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
OCHKESTINE: Seriously what if she takes it serious and starts her own with her bestie? |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by kelmicheal: 6:25pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
She simply doesn't love you just pretending. She may think she has succeeded in finding her way into your house all those red flag she hide for you before you married her are coming out in full force 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Itiskdg121(m): 6:29pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
Thank you for this advise. You are right. Same happened to someone I know, very close friend. His wife will even make calls to her male friend in the presence of her husband We gave him same advise to get a female friend. Women hate competition bro. The female friend he got was his colleague who moved to Canada few years back. The wife just changed "miraculously", but the painful part of the story now is the husband moved to Canada on the other lady's request. Although he told us he has no relationship with her, but who knows. @op, peace of mind should be your number 1 goal and you must prioritise it. Live before you die OCHKESTINE: 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by ACE1010: 6:32pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
I once dated and almost married this type of woman. I had to run for my dear life. We had a heart to heart but it became worst. This kind of partner can frustrate one to an untimely grave. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by NorthernersSuck: 6:42pm On Nov 07, 2023 |
nairalanduser23: Go and do DNA test for your kids ooo that's if you have any. That type of woman wey dey respect others outside and insult her husband is a no no to me ooo |
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