Fountainofyouth:



Cry

u need to look beyond urself and consider the wider picture. U can force sm1 to have ur baby because u want one or want to marry them. There are many things involved.

The best thing for you to do brother is to let this slide and walk away peacefully. You don't have any right to fight legally, the woman can accuse you of raping her daughter in the court of law.
Remember you're still doing boyfriend and girlfriend and from the girl chat she never want the baby too although she might be dancing to her mother tone, in order to avoid problems for yourself just walk away, if truly you love the girl genuinely the justice of God will never leave her @ peace.

jaxxy:


u need to look beyond urself and consider the wider picture. U can force sm1 to have ur baby because u want one or want to marry them. There are many things involved.

I'm sure this comment is for luminouz not me.

maasoap:


I just hope that the abortion goes well and it is not done by quack. Otherwise, the consequences she will face years to come won't have remedy. I know many women like that, abortions of unwanted pregnancies carried out by quack doctors turned their wombs into barren land

The girl just called me. They have been injecting drugs on her but the baby isn't coming out.

She keeps having cramps. She said the doctor told the mother that something isn't opening. I don't know what that is.

But this girl runs a risk of having complicated abortion.

Right now, the baby has been damaged with all the injections, so keeping the baby is no longer an option.

The girl is Rhesus 'D' Negative. I am positive, meaning that our blood don't match. I hope the baby's blood don't mix with hers while they are doing all these. I just pity the girl because the mother will destroy her future for her.

luminouz:


*Sighs*

Some people just don't know when to take an L in peace.

Premarital sex is illegal because abortion is illegal in Nigeria, according to you.... How does that make logical sense biko? Has anyone ever been arrested for premarital sex in this country?

Arguing with you is leeching me of some brain cells. How can someone be so adamantly dûmb? Is your brain made of adamantium or Adamantine?

the guy wasn't talking about Nigerian laws when he brought up her church and if he's not a Christian the girl is a Christian so yes premarital sex is wrong and should not be a reason to force marriage.

If it is Nigeria law then let him go and arrest all the girls doing abortion including the ones raped and abducted or brainwashed abd gotten pregnant.

Do u understand the big picture now?

Brokendad:


If she was my sister and she loves the guy and the guy loves her and he is willing and capable of taking care of mother and child, I will let the marriage hold.

Una go just dey throw this Love word around like you understand what it means

That's how one guy did introduction of one of my relatives very responsible girl and then got her pregnant

But was messing up the young girls Life

But her God saved her
She had miscarriage at 6 months

Later we found out he wanted to tie the girl down with the pregnancy
But God saved her

She saw the guy was not straight forward
Returned home and was heart broken

We consoled her
A year later
A US based pharmacist married same girl
She told the guy everything that happened even the pregnancy

The pharmacist no send
Married her and relocated her to the US


That's how the guy would have messed the responsible girls Life up
If not for the miscarriage that saved her from future pains and regrets

The mother was saving that girl

Fountainofyouth:


I'm sure this comment is for luminouz not me.

u quoted me that was why I replied bt yeah its for him too.

luminouz:


CHILD KILLER!!!😡😡😡😡

Cry babe, cry 🤣

nedekid:
See this man, you want to just go and impregnate someone's daughter out of nowhere, then come here to be disturbing our peace. If the mother looked at you as betta person, wount she have encouraged the daughter to go ahead? You did not even give her or her husband the respect you wish for yourself, as you put their young daughter with an aspired, bright future in the family way, without their consent or blessing. Only for you to be claiming my 4 months pregnancy. Do you know in some places, you can chop bullet for disrespecting a family like that?
Omo, they have removed the belle, carry you belle giving blokos and go find someone else without future to impregnate, as for that family, them no need am.

You keep talking like he forced her to fuq him or wasn't a two way thing. She got pregnant because they were both irresponsible about it. Why do you think she kept it for 4 months if she had reasons to remove it in the first place? Yet you only blamed the dude and even after he wanted to do the right thing, you still blamed him.

Can't you see how illogical you are? If the girl's mom wanted marriage for her daughter, she would meet the dad and they will arrange marriage sharply. Do you know what she was worried about? Her status in church as a MFM member. So she will rather commit murder than go through the uncomfortable period of church ridicule. Do you see how fuqed up religion has made us? She would rather betray God and be seen as mummy GO in MFM and rather go to hell.

Whether it's 2 weeks belle or 4 months, what's the difference when both parties agree to let their child marry? Is it the weeks or months of pregnancy that made the marriage plausible or what? Can't you see my logic?

Sometimes, I wish I'm not so smart. I wish I were dûmb like everyone else, then, things like these won't bother me. But I just sigh when I see how illogical people can be

Fountainofyouth:




Cry babe, cry 🤣

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Werey.

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.



The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.





I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

Are you this stupid?

Oladeleenoch:
The best thing for you to do brother is to let this slide and walk away peacefully. You don't have any right to fight legally, the woman can accuse you of raping her daughter in the court of law.
Remember you're still doing boyfriend and girlfriend and from the girl chat she never want the baby too although she might be dancing to her mother tone, in order to avoid problems for yourself just walk away, if truly you love the girl genuinely the justice of God will never leave her @ peace.

I have moved on. I will definitely marry someone else and give birth to children legitimately.

That family is not where any sane person would marry. I am more than capable financially to take care of this girl. I have been taking care of her even before she took in.

She's been receiving good medical care all along before the mother decided to call her back. I hope she makes it out of the clinic unscathed.

Besides some mother do family planning for their daughter especially when they got admission into university hope you know what they're trying to avoid. Just move on brother, you only got one life to live

djon78:



Una go just dey throw this Love word around like you understand what it means

That's how one guy did introduction of one of my relatives very responsible girl and then got her pregnant

But was messing up the young girls Life

But her God saved her
She had miscarriage at 6 months

Later we found out he wanted to tie the girl down with the pregnancy
But God saved her

She saw the guy was not straight forward
Returned home and was heart broken

We consoled her
A year later
A US based pharmacist married same girl
She told the guy everything that happened even the pregnancy

The pharmacist no send
Married her and relocated her to the US


That's how the guy would have messed the responsible girls Life up
If not for the miscarriage that saved her from future pains and regrets

The mother was saving that girl

She might not be saving the girl as you think. I am not irresponsible. You nairaland people are just impossible.

Brokendad:


I have moved on. I will definitely marry someone else and give birth to children legitimately.

That family is not where any sane person would marry. I am more than capable financially to take care of this girl. I have been taking care of her even before she took in.

She's been receiving good medical care all along before the mother decided to call her back. I hope she makes it out of the clinic unscathed.

You are a good dude. Ignore the feminazis on this thread. They are too emotional and are all child killers. This thread would have been close to 100 pages if you were the one to take her for abortion. But they even blamed you for wanting to marry the girl. Women never take accountability for anything unless you make them TAKE IT.

Move on from that girl. I wish you luck

jaxxy:


then premarital sex is wrong and illegal no oyinbo need to educate anyone on that.

that's in your imagination.. illegal in which constitution..you go school so?

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

You didn't get married to her properly before impregnating her, you I.pregnated her and brought shame upon their family and you are here claiming right. If it were your own daughter, will you wish such predicament upon her?
Ask yourself this question.

Fountainofyouth:


I'm sure this comment is for luminouz not me.

Please don't quote me, I hate you, child killer!!

luminouz:


You keep talking like he forced her to fuq him or wasn't a two way thing. She got pregnant because they were both irresponsible about it. Why do you think she kept it for 4 months if she had reasons to remove it in the first place? Yet you only blamed the dude and even after he wanted to do the right thing, you still blamed him.

Can't you see how illogical you are? If the girl's mom wanted marriage for her daughter, she would meet the dad and they will arrange marriage sharply. Do you know what she was worried about? Her status in church as a MFM member. So she will rather commit murder than go through the uncomfortable period of church ridicule. Do you see how fuqed up religion has made us? She would rather betray God and be seen as mummy GO in MFM and rather go to hell.

Whether it's 2 weeks belle or 4 months, what's the difference when both parties agree to let their child marry? Is it the weeks or months of pregnancy that made the marriage plausible or what? Can't you see my logic?

Sometimes, I wish I'm not so smart. I wish I were dûmb like everyone else, then, things like these won't bother me. But I just sigh when I see how illogical people can be

Question I have for you, based on that, I will respond.
Do you have a daughter, and how old?

Oladeleenoch:
Besides some mother do family planning for their daughter especially when they got admission into university hope you know what they're trying to avoid. Just move on brother, you only got one life to live

Doing family planning is different from doing abortion. The girl is in a cross road now. The baby has refused to come out, they only keep giving her injections.

I told her from the beginning the risk of doing abortion. People should understand that everyone does not have the same luck. Some people can do abortion multiple times and still conceive anytime any day. Some will try it once and it will damage their wombs.

Some lose their life committing abortion. It is a very big risk I wasn't ready to take. But since the mother is confident enough to do it, let them live with the consequences

HarunaWest:
You didn't get married to her properly before impregnating her, you I.pregnated her and brought shame upon their family and you are here claiming right. If it were your own daughter, will you wish such predicament upon her?
Ask yourself this question.

This is not new. You guys should stop sound politically correct.

The shame of being barren for years is worst than the shame of getting pregnant before marriage.

Brokendad:


She might not be saving the girl as you think. I am not irresponsible. You nairaland people are just impossible.

You are not irresponsible and you went and impregnated a 22 years old woman without doing the needful for four months?


I know young girls that have been thrown into pain and grief this way

If you were responsible you would have done the needful before impregnating that girl
Paid her bride price

Not just going to impregnate a young woman

xavuv:
My guy move on. Most mothers wont do abortion for their daughter. That's a potentially bad mother inlaw. Even if u get to marry her daughter then you wont enjoy the marriage. Thank your God.

I agreed with you..most mothers won't do that especially when the man in charge is willing to take responsibilities.... Although it's good to walk down the aisle before getting pregnant but everyone can run the same race.. To each according to her race .

The marriage might be heaven on earth if the guy truly loves her.. What of if the guy didn't take responsibility.l fear the mother of the lady, she would have looked for a way to make the marriage run smoothly instead of terminating the pregnancy.

jaxxy:


the guy wasn't talking about Nigerian laws when he brought up her church and if he's not a Christian the girl is a Christian so yes premarital sex is wrong and should not be a reason to force marriage.

If it is Nigeria law then let him go and arrest all the girls doing abortion including the ones raped and abducted or brainwashed abd gotten pregnant.

Do u understand the big picture now?

You are still dûmb!!!

How can he arrest all the abortionists in Nigeria biko? How does that relate to his own case? Abortion is illegal and the mum and daughter would get convicted.

Now on the Christian issue, so premarital sex is wrong according to the Bible so murder is the best solution? Can you see how illogical you are? So God will be happy that they committed murder AFTER PREMARITAL SEX? Premarital sex has happened and it's wrong, but then you go ahead to kill the baby. How does that make it excusable?

I keep schooling you but for some reason, your brain is not picking it up. Give up dude

nedekid:

Question I have for you, based on that, I will respond.
Do you have a daughter, and how old?

Nedekid, don't go philosophical on me dude or dudess or whatever.

Answer my question.

You will prefer to commit murder and I understand that you are a murderer. It's ok. We are all not like you. I have noted your moniker and would keep track of you henceforth, child killer

Legal action ke? You must be the f00lest of the century. You impregnated someone's daughter, yet you have the audacity to complain of the mother's action. If I were the mother, I will locate and deal with you after the abortion. B@startd!

Just move on...Even if the relationship stands, u will never be happy with her family...now or later..Just move on and save the strength.

luminouz:


Please don't quote me, I hate you, child killer!!

Lmao 🤣 🤣 🤣

You got no right to take any action.
You have been having sex with another woman's daughter all these years all in the name of dating.
Why haven't you married her all this while? You have to test run her first before doing the right thing.
The two of you are petty fornicators.
Next time, do the right thing.

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

luminouz:


Nedekid, don't go philosophical on me dude or dudess or whatever.

Answer my question.

You will prefer to commit murder and I understand that you are a murderer. It's ok. We are all not like you. I have noted your moniker and would keep track of you henceforth, child killer

Simple question and you are getting emotional. Do you have a daughter and how old? What is hard in that to answer?

securitywatch50:
Personal I don't support what your mother-in-law did, but you cursed it.

Why will you impregnate a girl you have not paid her dowry not to talk of marriage and you happy talking trash online.
If she is your sister you will clap for her.

it is Bride price...

Brokendad:


I have moved on. I will definitely marry someone else and give birth to children legitimately.

That family is not where any sane person would marry. I am more than capable financially to take care of this girl. I have been taking care of her even before she took in.

She's been receiving good medical care all along before the mother decided to call her back. I hope she makes it out of the clinic unscathed.

Hmmm, time heals all wounds. You will be fine.