djon78:



Una go just dey throw this Love word around like you understand what it means

That's how one guy did introduction of one of my relatives very responsible girl and then got her pregnant

But was messing up the young girls Life

But her God saved her
She had miscarriage at 6 months

Later we found out he wanted to tie the girl down with the pregnancy
But God saved her

She saw the guy was not straight forward
Returned home and was heart broken

We consoled her
A year later
A US based pharmacist married same girl
She told the guy everything that happened even the pregnancy

The pharmacist no send
Married her and relocated her to the US


That's how the guy would have messed the responsible girls Life up
If not for the miscarriage that saved her from future pains and regrets

The mother was saving that girl

The mother could be ruining her while she believes that she's saving her.
And about your responsible relative girl, the guy even did introduction before pregnancy. That's a failed marriage and it has nothing similar to this case at all.
Let me tell you that of my niece. She was impregnated by a man, she was with us until she delivered the baby. We didn't abort it but we didn't let her pack into the man's house. And the girl wasn't even 22 like this one, she was in SS2 (like 17 years old) at the time. In about three years after that, we gave in to their demand to be living together as husband and wife. They're still together today. And that first pregnancy has finished his secondary school education.
In a situation like this, wisdom and patience is needed. The girl is 22, not underage. Why taking a rash decision of destruction? The guy is ready to take full responsibility, so why being negative about the outcome? What is the mother's plan for her daughter after the abortion? I'm sure she has none

HarunaWest:
You didn't get married to her properly before impregnating her, you pregnated her and brought shame upon their family and you are here claiming right. If it were your own daughter, will you wish such predicament upon her?
Ask yourself this question.

Shame? Really? They're committing crime because of "shame"? Hehe! Nothing we no go see for nairaland! Do you know how many weddings were preceeded by pregnancy? Dey dia

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.



The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.





I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

Your bitterness is too obvious. Try to make it a little indistinct so that people will not think you’re clouded with sadness and depression.

nedekid:

Question I have for you, based on that, I will respond.
Do you have a daughter, and how old?

I have a daughter. And if she's over 20 and someone impregnate her, whether he's responsible or not, whether he's ready to take responsibility or not, abortion wouldn't be the first thing on my mind. This issue is not that difficult now.

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

You mentioned her church name.. why don't you mention your own church name, you that impregnate someone daughter.. foolish man.

You're mad I'm. Sorry.. But whose mother would be happy that her child got pregnant out of wedlock? If u love her why didn't you marry her? U got her pregnant cos u want the baby u wanted to marry her which by the way Is a wrong way of marrying someone... Marrying cos of a child might something u will later regret..

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

Legal action kill you there.. what of you that first committed illegal action. idiot that is climbing tree from the top..

[quote author=Brokendad post=127276867]I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action
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And some birds of a feather in this forum supporting him, that is why the society keep damaging everyday.

maasoap:


The mother could be ruining her while she believes that she's saving her.
And about your responsible relative girl, the guy even did introduction before pregnancy. That's a failed marriage and it has nothing similar to this case at all.
Let me tell you that of my niece. She was impregnated by a man, she was with us until she delivered the baby. We didn't abort it but we didn't let her pack into the man's house. And the girl wasn't even 22 like this one, she was in SS2 (like 17 years old) at the time. In about three years after that, we gave in to their demand to be living together as husband and wife. They're still together today. And that first pregnancy has finished his secondary school education.
In a situation like this, wisdom and patience is needed. The girl is 22, not underage. Why taking a rash decision of destruction? The guy is ready to take full responsibility, so why being negative about the outcome? What is the mother's plan for her daughter after the abortion? I'm sure she has none

The school that this girl attends, I foot most of the bills. There's no plan other than for the girl to come back to continue her education and of course, without me in the picture anymore.

Klounge:
You're mad I'm. Sorry.. But whose mother would be happy that her child got pregnant out of wedlock? If u love her why didn't you marry her? U got her pregnant cos u want the baby u wanted to marry her which by the way Is a wrong way of marrying someone... Marrying cos of a child might something u will later regret..

This is not the first case and will not be the last. Some marriages contracted like this still stand.

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

You didn't have legal sex
You didn't marry her daughter legally

Now, you want to take legal action....dey play

You will end up reporting yourself and get jailed for putting her daughter in a family way without the parent's consent

akube34:
ok I get what you mean na. So if it is in a country like Canada where abortion is legal, it is ok to do it Abi?

It's still not ok. Unless her life is actively threatened by the foetus (ectopic pregnancy etc).

And Nigeria is not Canada. So focus on this case bro

femi4:
You didn't have legal sex
You didn't marry her daughter legally

Now, you want to take legal action....dey play

You will end up reporting yourself and get jailed for putting her daughter in a family way without the parent's consent

So they will jail him for fucking and impregnating an ADULT woman via consensual sex? Are you insane?

Why are people on this site this dûmb?

jaxxy:


it is against Christian belief so its wrong since she's a Christian. so go and look for a non Christian to practice premarital sex with ok.

Also if bandits rape sm1 tell me they won't do abortion if she's 2months pregnant after she's released.

Lastly there are many countries where abortion is legal.

After flogging you yesterday, you still continued this nonsense today.

Nawa for you. You no dey learn

luminouz:

After flogging you yesterday, you still continued this nonsense today.

Nawa for you. You no dey learn

u can see u don't have sense. U keep misfiring and hyping ur empty self. Its hilarious. what a pity

jaxxy:


u can see u don't have sense. U keep misfiring and hyping ur empty self. Its hilarious. what a pity

I'm still ready to flog you today, mumu.

You lack logical skills. Every point you raised I countered and after shifting posts, I still got you dead to rights.

Just keep quiet.

luminouz:

I'm still ready to flog you today, mumu.

You lack logical skills. Every point you raised I countered and after shifting posts, I still got you dead to rights.

Just keep quiet.

u will flog urself again today don't worry. yesterday's cane wasn't enough for u to learn. u still need more cane omode yi.

No logical reasoning.

No mother inlaw abouts a mans child , stop entrapment of young women with pregnancy, go and pay her dowry , sleek fvckboy

jaxxy:


u will flog urself again today don't worry. yesterday's cane wasn't enough for u to learn. u still need more cane omode yi.

No logical reasoning.

Kikikiki....

Your reasoning sucks.

Jaxxy: It's illegal in Christianity to have premarital sex.
Me: So, abortion is the next best thing to do as a Christian?
Jaxxy: Yes, it is. Besides abortion is legal in many countries and if you don't like abortion, go and arrest all the olodho abortionists in Nigeria.
Me: WTF!!!
Jaxxy: Yes, you are not thinking straight, I am very right
Me: *shaking my head* jaxxy is such a dûmb ass nigga.

luminouz:


Kikikiki....

Your reasoning sucks.

Jaxxy: It's illegal in Christianity to have premarital sex.
Me: So, abortion is the next best thing to do as a Christian?
Jaxxy: Yes, it is. Besides abortion is legal in many countries and if you don't like abortion, go and arrest all the olodho abortionists in Nigeria.
Me: WTF!!!
Jaxxy: Yes, you are not thinking straight, I am very right
Me: *shaking my head* jaxxy is such a dûmb ass nigga.

if u read my 1st post well I said both are wrong. u were the one saying one is better than the other.

And I tried to correct u on that and u and one other African religion man kept trying to justify the irresponsible act.

That is the actual logic u could not comprehend.

jaxxy:


if u read my 1st post well I said both are wrong. u were the one saying one is better than the other.

And I tried to correct u on that and u and one other African religion man kept trying to justify the irresponsible act.

That is the actual logic u could not comprehend.

Your first post is shiit!!! You said abortion is the same as premarital sex. I said nope.

In this country, premarital sex won't get you jailed but abortion will. Then you went off on raping, abduction, and a lot of BS. Anytime I counter you, you shift goal post and I wonder, is this dude not getting this shiiiit!!! It's so basically simple

maasoap:

Shame? Really? They're committing crime because of "shame"? Hehe! Nothing we no go see for nairaland! Do you know how many weddings were preceeded by pregnancy? Dey dia

Probably in your culture or religion, its obtainable there. But mine it's not. So it's not normal out here.

luminouz:


Your first post is shiit!!! You said abortion is the same as premarital sex. I said nope.

In this country, premarital sex won't get you jailed but abortion will. Then you went off on raping, abduction, and a lot of BS. Anytime I counter you, you shift goal post and I wonder, is this dude not getting this shiiiit!!! It's so basically simple

we are talking about a subject in Nigeria but not only limited to Nigeria.

it's like talking about a subject in the north but not only limited to the north abd using how the north handles it to justify it and imposed it on the south abd everywhere else.

it doesn't make sense bruh that's why I tried to open ur narrow mind but u no gree hear word.

maasoap:

I have a daughter. And if she's over 20 and someone impregnate her, whether he's responsible or not, whether he's ready to take responsibility or not, abortion wouldn't be the first thing on my mind. This issue is not that difficult now.

Ok. Great

Seriously you shouldn't judge people this way . This was how my story looks like, we waited for seven good months before letting family members know of the pregnancy because it was already looking like a curse as the first and second daughter of their family had already had abortions earlier conducted by their mother while my babe was the third. Guess what despite seven months pregnancy, their mum still attempted it but I threatened her and today we are 16 years married together and still waxing stronger . If the abortion was done then , do you think I would still be with my wife now ? Am grateful I made the right decision

immortalcrown:
My pain is the murder of the innocent baby.

As for you, your girlfriend and her mother, you people are morally bankrupt. Talking to you is like flogging a dead horse because you won't take any preaching of mortality. You will only change when you personally decides to do so.

Only silly people get married because of pregnancy. You never wanted to marry her. The pregnancy is what put marriage in your mind. This means you will easily divorce because of any little issue. You indulge in premarital sex to an extent of impregnating a girl. You even waited for the pregnancy to be 4 months old before you made a move for marriage.

luminouz:


So they will jail him for fucking and impregnating an ADULT woman via consensual sex? Are you insane?

Why are people on this site this dûmb?

When you sleep in cell for a day, you will explain to them why lack of self control has earn you a credit

sexyyoyo:
Seriously you shouldn't judge people this way . This was how my story looks like, we waited for seven good months before letting family members know of the pregnancy because it was already looking like a curse as the first and second daughter of their family had already had abortions earlier conducted by their mother while my babe was the third. Guess what despite seven months pregnancy, their mum still attempted it but I threatened her and today we are 16 years married together and still waxing stronger . If the abortion was done then , do you think I would still be with my wife now ? Am grateful I made the right decision

Which part of my comment warrants this your question to me?

Wotoporiously speaking

Bro, I hope you have receipts of every conversation you had with the girl and her mum incase tomorrow something happens so they don't end up spinning it on you...

If that girl dies due to the decision her mum is taking , all this nairaland wise ones go run leave you o.

femi4:
When you sleep in cell for a day, you will explain to them why lack of self control has earn you a credit

Femi, shut ya piehole

Brokendad:


He who calls his brother "A FOOL" shall be liable to HELLFIRE

You MUST BE BORN AGAIN.
I only asked people to stop fornicating.
Please, point to where I called anyone A FOOL.
You need Jesus Christ to save your sinful soul.

jaxxy:


we are talking about a subject in Nigeria but not only limited to Nigeria.

it's like talking about a subject in the north but not only limited to the north abd using how the north handles it to justify it and imposed it on the south abd everywhere else.

it doesn't make sense bruh that's why I tried to open ur narrow mind but u no gree hear word.

Alaye, go and sleep. I'm a Nigerian and talking about a Nigerian issue. Should I keep quoting Canadian laws in a Nigerian court of law or will Hisbah Court in Zamfara give a hoot about US law on abortion? You see, laws are country and sector-specific.

You tried using Christianity and still failed. Any true Christian will never opt for abortion unless it threatens the girl's life. Defending life is the most sacred of all Christian tenets. But you went ahead to claim since premarital sex is wrong, then abortion ain't so bad either. In an inane attempt to justify the story, you keep muddling up morals with secular laws and made your arguments pretty illogical. That woman, a whole MFM woman knew better than to actively advocate for abortion when the daughter wasn't even raped or abducted. She, a Christian, willingly chose what her church people will say over God's laws and killed an unborn child. Yet, she, like you, will go to church today and yell about God's faithfulness and look pristine but with evil in your hearts.

You see why I look at your arguments and shake my head? You are a hypocrite. Now buzz off, mudafucker!!!🤣

luminouz:

Femi, shut ya piehole

cry me a river