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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Fredfr33zy(m): 12:48pm On Dec 27, 2023
tiswell:
Just know that the coper she fvcked during nysc will always have access to her kpekus even after marriage, whenever their parts cross.


Okafor's law nor be ya mate.


Just abort the mission of marriage with her asap.

And the new one he finally meets what makes you think she does not have one corp member, one Peter and one Fred in the time past. They play grin
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by BloomingDale(f): 12:48pm On Dec 27, 2023
jamesversion:


The Indian woman who pays her husbands groom price has earned the right to cheat in her marriage. If I pay your bride price, expunge any such idea from your mind and head. Because if you do, they way I will embarrass you out of my house, you are certain not to get married to any man again. I will even say you learnt it from your mother.

How much is the bride price compared to how much she and her parents have spent? Always looking for any silly excuse to cheat.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by BadMaster: 12:49pm On Dec 27, 2023
Enough of these foolish threads.

2023 is the last year I will advise men on this thing called marriage. If you like, go ahead and marry that girl. That girl will continue to fvck other guys even after marriage.

Foolish men keep getting married to hoes, while sharp men keep fvcking them.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by AishaDant(f): 12:49pm On Dec 27, 2023
Carcholce:
In 2024, one thing I really want to do is to be able to completely avoid threads that has to do with man and woman relationship. I don tire to read these things. Reading posts as these is not helpful to the mind, and if you are not strong minded, it plants hates towards the opposite gender.

OP, sorry for not contributing to help your situation. Happy new year in advance. Extend my greetings to your fiancée!


Why did you even bother commenting at all?

Attention seeking CLOWN!
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by DestinyNigga: 12:49pm On Dec 27, 2023
Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.

Is because we men can knack a girl we no like or attracted to. Yersterday I knack one girl I know in a normal day I can't even talk to her. As konji hold me, I wear condom knack am without mercy. Can such happen to ur gender? Can they knack a guy they are not sexually attract to? Ladies are emotional being unlike us. So if a lady cheat in a relationship, just forget am. She go dey cheat dey go. So ghe best thing is to leave.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Godoverevery: 12:49pm On Dec 27, 2023
UnfairLife7:
FYI, i am not a woman so don't think every average Nigerian man reason or has same mentality as yours. I am not in India so i wouldn't say if the wife cheat or not on the basis of bride price.

Reason why Africa will forever be underdeveloped and remain a 3rd world nation. Same you will change your wack mentality the moment you cross murtala international airport. why don't you take that same mentality with you like MTN, everywhere you go?

Even Bible frown against fornication and adultery for both gender, but an average man from a 3rd world nation said otherwise and you keep wondering why they remain backward, underdeveloped and blessed with useless leaders

Are you sure Bible really frown against men fornicating and adultery??

There are many examples to site bro.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by jaxxy(m): 12:50pm On Dec 27, 2023
letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

I only appreciate the fact she told u the truth or atleast half truth rather than pretend or lie.

However it depends on if u were actually dating b4 she left for her NYSC or u were just talking and showing interests in each other but nothing defined yet.

2ndly is the issue of how she views casual relationships and flings. This can be a huge red flag if care isn't taken and it can be a one off thing or maybe bt unlikely a good reason for such fling.

I ask this because is she saying I future anytime u don't communicate she will look for a fling to have or is she that loose? because this was a guy she barely knew in camp not someone she's dating.

3, How she handles communication. Communication in a relationship is a 2 way thing. if one person doesn't communicate the other can equally reach out to know why rather than assume wrongly.

For instance in ur case u were have certain challenges and if she was indeed serious about u or the relationship or friendship she would have atleast reached out to u rather than go have a fling with a guy she just met.


My verdict is to suspended not call off the marriage arrangements and study her person more. Throw a few integrity tests her way if u are big on a partner with integrity or morals but having it in mind nobody is 100%

indact also I need u to let her know u are not happy she had casual sex with a guy she just met in camp. it is loose behavior and almost disgusting.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by AishaDant(f): 12:50pm On Dec 27, 2023
UnfairLife7:
if you're completely faithful with her throughout the period of dating and courtship then you can let go if you wish. However, if you've ever cheated in one way or the other without her notice then you have to overlook and go ahead with the marital plan

Op, this is the best advice for you.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Hussein035: 12:50pm On Dec 27, 2023
letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

If you can come here to complain that's how you will keep remembering her mess till death.

Let her go but she is a good Lady to even tell you those things. Here in my office you will see ladies bing lashed by bosses they will still be telling you that they can never even accept a date from any boss because they are not their taste whereas we know the storyline
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by BloomingDale(f): 12:50pm On Dec 27, 2023
BrighterSyde:


Can you fuvk around the way a man can without having feelings for the men? If no then stop deceiving yourself that you can see sex the way men see it too.

I’m just happy the men you are supporting are cheating with your wives.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Mosba: 12:51pm On Dec 27, 2023
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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by bigcasava1(m): 12:51pm On Dec 27, 2023
letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.
guy if she jam the guy another the knacking will kick off again, if you self na play guy you can marry her. The fact remains that nysc camp is the last opportunity the girls have to knack anyhow.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by BloomingDale(f): 12:52pm On Dec 27, 2023
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by APOPTOSIS: 12:52pm On Dec 27, 2023
Burgermotors:
Op the question is can you live with the truth or you want to be like the zoo (Nigeria) that arrested nnamdi kalu for saying this truth

But that girl is funny oo just three weeks nysc camp she can not wait
Op make sure you call her everytime so that she will not cheat again,
3 weeks is now too much for most of them as they now breath and exchange gases with their parted thighs

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by ottersberger(m): 12:52pm On Dec 27, 2023
Stevenbright:


She did something wrong and she is trying to put the blame on you. Why didn't she called you to hear from you instead of making assumptions. Like she said, she has moved on and it is left for you to do the best thing for yourself too.

I can assure you that what she did over there is far worse than what she spilled. So, get ready for more wrongs and the blames put on you as the relationship continues.

Here's your best answer, op, but it is your choice to make.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Nobody: 12:52pm On Dec 27, 2023
Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.


modified:The nonsense justification
sister go read bible nor day talk trash, even bible forbid women from having more than one partner. Na women like u go day husband house day fvck outside rubbish.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Jega18: 12:53pm On Dec 27, 2023
Guy, if nah me, I go move on with my life.... The painful part of it is, how can a lady enter camp, within two weeks in the camp, u don Bleep already... Haba nah.... I will consider if they hv met long time.... Just within two weeks abi three weeks in the camp..... Guy just move on, no marry her

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by VULCAN(m): 12:55pm On Dec 27, 2023
You wouldn't know how hilarious your post is.

Such dry humour.

I was struggling to hold back my laughter.

Carcholce:
In 2024, one thing I really want to do is to be able to completely avoid threads that has to do with man and woman relationship. I don tire to read these things. Reading posts as these is not helpful to the mind, and if you are not strong minded, it plants hates towards the opposite gender.

OP, sorry for not contributing to help your situation. Happy new year in advance. Extend my greetings to your fiancée!
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Fredfr33zy(m): 12:55pm On Dec 27, 2023
Watinhapen:
Most ladies have sexual relationships during NYSC. It takes a very disciplined lady to complete her NYSC without having sex. If you think she’s sincerely sorry and won’t do it again you can forgive her but if you are the type that can’t forgive a girl who has cheated on you, I will advice you to leave her and move on.

Personally I don’t forgive cheating. That’s me.

Even during the first 21 days in orientation camp they are already cheating on their boyfriend under the guise that "body non be firewood" is the same girl you will be with for 3+ months and she says no to sex. And they make it look like we are desperate for sex.

The reason a girl tells me no sex, I walk away because it is obvious she doesn't see me attractive enough
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by APOPTOSIS: 12:56pm On Dec 27, 2023
letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.
The only reason you should continue with that Girl is if she is United States bound and such should be on permanent basis. Anything short of that should be treated as null and void. Something greenery has to be added to the table she shook not your fault.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by BouquiLake: 12:56pm On Dec 27, 2023
Have you answered the same question to yourself? While she was away, did you ever think of having sec with another lady?

If your answer is yes to anyone of the questions, then i believe you know what to do.

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by ugotaya: 12:57pm On Dec 27, 2023
letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

I wish the so call girl will read this my comment. Please sister this my doesn't love you at all. He's busy looking for an excuse to break up before marriage and looking for Niaralander to give him a astrong point to do so. Well brother, its never too late just call her and tell her that you aint ready now simple and dont guilt trip her into break up. The uinverse will make up for her and you too.

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Sagacity3711(m): 12:58pm On Dec 27, 2023
That is you cup of Tea. If you like marry her, if you no like am...
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Konjiboii: 12:59pm On Dec 27, 2023
A broke ass village girl , crippled, and uneducated have a chance to fvck Ned Nwoke , as long as women get toto there's an available dick somewhere , for men you gast get money or game.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Nobody: 1:00pm On Dec 27, 2023
dawnomike:
It is your life choice to make. No one should make it for you!!!

Good that she was honest in telling you the truth. That is a plus for me.

The next question is this; can you live with the truth?

I hope you'll not marry her now, then you travelled and you call her phone when she is busy or not with her phone. I hope your brain won't start to think of funny funny things that may not be true (e g is she with another man?)

Or she will be just mutual friend with a male colleague and you're thinking; hope they are not having sex.....


The question here is, can you trust her on your part!!!?
I swr with ur comment,e show say u dor see tins inside relationship. Infact u sharp.
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Jeezuzpick(m): 1:01pm On Dec 27, 2023
letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

You're still asking?

Toh.....what shall use to answer this one now, that will not resemble insult, nítorí Ọlọ́run?
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by tollyboy5(m): 1:02pm On Dec 27, 2023
Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.


modified:The nonsense justification coming from the weak gender that can't takes what they gave out
You just came to spoil show for the lady he's referring to. Left for me i would advice he continue his plan with the lady but delay the wedding a bit to know what kind of person she really is.

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by rapheal5(m): 1:02pm On Dec 27, 2023
Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.


modified:The nonsense justification coming from the weak gender that can't takes what they gave out
The reason is men can sexxx any lady and still love their woman, because they are are not emotionally attached to them. Women can't because of the emotion tied to sex, but the moment you don't feel emotionally attach to ur sexual partner like men, you have become sarewa, sooner or later you would be at road as sex worker...I mean oloshos.... grin
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by VULCAN(m): 1:03pm On Dec 27, 2023
You are wasting your time.

Go over the previous posts of the person you are talking to.

You will realise she has serious trauma issues.

She has lost psychological equilibrium long ago

SmartyPants:


Do you have some information to show that this particular guy was also unfaithful? If not, what is the point of your rant??

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by SayNo2SmallPrik: 1:06pm On Dec 27, 2023
You no even happy say she tell you. Once debe, always debe… the NYSC boyfriend go still run am again If ddy jam. Don’t play….. person like her no fit hold body for 2wks sef

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Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by tollyboy5(m): 1:07pm On Dec 27, 2023
BloomingDale:


Anybody wey wan fvck, make e go fvck. Fvck your own, I fvck my own. God no go vex.
Please call me whenever your BF is unavailable kiss .
You're blessed
Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Silentgroper(m): 1:07pm On Dec 27, 2023
Carcholce:
In 2024, one thing I really want to do is to be able to completely avoid threads that has to do with man and woman relationship. I don tire to read these things. Reading posts as these is not helpful to the mind, and if you are not strong minded, it plants hates towards the opposite gender.

OP, sorry for not contributing to help your situation. Happy new year in advance. Extend my greetings to your fiancée!
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You didn't call her ... That's the lamest excuse I've ever heard . Couldn't she have called you instead if not for anything but just to inquire if you still feel the same abt her before doing whatever it's she did..



Op, if you go on with the relationship and get married, how are you sure the whole sensual fracas she had then would still not occur....

This time it could be with your gateman...

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