2braithe:


As if we don't have toddlers or have people that have toddlers smh.

Try living in Lagos Island and making an average of 1.5 million naira monthly yet spend less than 18% on yourself.

Ask people working in big 3 consulting firms or big 4 accounting firms if they have time time for themselves and on weekends.

bonechamberlain:


Reason why men value respect so much, and why men should not tolerate any arrogant, self-centred lady.

Some ladies suffer from princess complex, they want to be worshipped. What most ladies don't know is that with humility and respect any responsible man (not Marlians) would do everything to worship and adore her most times unconsciously.

bonechamberlain:


Reason why men value respect so much, and why men should not tolerate any arrogant, self-centred lady.

Some ladies suffer from princess complex, they want to be worshipped. What most ladies don't know is that with humility and respect any responsible man (not Marlians) would do everything to worship and adore her most times unconsciously.

coronavirus19:
Unconsciously Subconsciously*

officialwdhtv:
Marriage benefits women more than men — Lady says

Take a listen!!!

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWmAcPGcyBY

Paramount01:



How, show me where u see ham

43Ronin:

U are on the verge of divorce and you are rushing to another marriage. Marriage nanyour life goal?

Zooposki:


Keep screaming.

There’s a 4B movement going on in South Korea, Japan and most Asian countries due to all this male chauvinism. Their birth rate is so down, they are inviting foreigners into their country but I don’t think it will work. American women are adopting it as we speak right now. It will soon get to Africa.

On the other hand I wonder what the Asian women will do if they jam African men who are even more misogynistic than their Asian counterparts. Lol

Zooposki:


Nobody dey beg una for marriage na. The man controls marriage, yet na una dey rush/fight to marry multiple women. Abeg carry your hypocrisy dey go, biko. You can as well remain a bachelor so as not carry that woman/family burden.

Zooposki:


Keep screaming.

There’s a 4B movement going on in South Korea, Japan and most Asian countries due to all this male chauvinism. Their birth rate is so down, they are inviting foreigners into their country but I don’t think it will work. American women are adopting it as we speak right now. It will soon get to Africa.

On the other hand I wonder what the Asian women will do if they jam African men who are even more misogynistic than their Asian counterparts. Lol

Gerrard59:

In conclusion, the only benefit men derive from marriage is having children within a two-parent household, as wedlock does more harm to both genders and the greater society. Also, having children from different women whom you as the man are not married to is absolutely nonsensical and financially draining. No one should mention sex, as many married men don't even get sex from their wives, and when they do, it is timetable-based. Who makes this timetable? The woman. The reason married men patronise sex workers more than even single men, and I am willing to bet that sexually active married men get less sex while being married than single men who are equally sexually active.

So, where is the benefit?

Mayflowa:


Next marriage in another life or this life? That means you must be gaining from marriage

anungangampu:
I have come to understand that, there is no solution that can work 100% when it comes to how man should be treated and how a woman should be treated.
I always assume we all have something strong controlling us that hardly share same attributes. A man has a strong demi-influence over him which command respect whether he wants it or not.
A woman has her own which command love, care, empathy, beauty and comparison, no matter how poor or rich she is.

But just like everything God made in excess in our body such as the desire to eat, continue hair growth and continue urge to do things we are familiar with; I think same lies with this influence that comes from our subconscious; we have to tamper it and control it excess in order to live and survive with one another.

But as it stand it seems everyone is promoting their excess and why it all looks exploitive going into relationships nowaday.

I think and ideal relationships entails a man cutting down his ego or allowing so matters be from deep understanding, which also means a woman need to understand such a man and not see him as weak and something to treat faintly..

Then at the other side, A woman should know what is good for her and stop taking her list of demands from other girls and other women and stay true with what is affordable for her to look decent to her husband.

This stuff are not easy. One must go through a stage of defining one needs and wants very far from what the world want.
But the question is, how many people is ready to damn the world and live according to their divine needs ?


I still argue getting an older girl or older man is better as both has come to a point where they have defined their needs, but the problem is that most are just waiting till marriage before they roll out their demand.

bukatyne:


@Bold:

So it is 'catch 22' suitation?

oliverwrites:
Unpaid labour? Westernisation is affecting Nigeria women. Does he pay rent? School fees? Feeding you, the kids and himself? Isn't that enough payment?

Plus when the children grow who between you and him is going to benefit from them more?

If you are referring to irresponsible idiotas I agree but for those of us who are trying as much as possible to be responsible, marriage is against us but for our women.

I personally spell this out to my wife whenever that we have equal right nonsense comes up. Some of us know marriage is against us, but we also do know that it is a mandate from GOD and not doing it is not an option.

I will take care of my wife and kids till I die, how they behave is none of my business. My mandate is my mandate. Can be tough and painful especially when women are being women, but it is what it is.

PHIPEX:
Sadly true, the part of taking care of the girl's family seems to be the worst of it.

Simply by marrying, a man takea care of his own nuclear family, extended family and now the wife's family. If he fails in any of these he's still seen as a failure.

Kelechi009:


I was waiting for a good response for this, so I scrolled through all the pages but none from @zooposki

I recently engaged in an argument with a woman who vehemently opposed my viewpoint. Following the disagreement, she harbored resentment towards me because I presented clear and compelling reasons to support my stance.

Before marriage

- Man pays bride price
- Man pays for the wedding (Traditional & Church)

After marriage:

- Man pays rent?
- Man pays School fees?
- Man pays for Feeding you, the kids and himself?
- Man still buys her luxuries for her on her Birthday, Valentines day, Mother's Day, Christmas Day & other occasions across the year.
- Man buys her a car

All of this is done is Nigerian families (home & abroad), then @zooposki calls it unpaid labour.

So I asked further:

Would you consider switching roles, taking on the responsibility of paying all the bills while your husband relaxes and offers occasional support? Typically, the response to this proposition is negative.

In conclusion:

Women often become displeased upon realizing that their husbands are cognizant of this reality. Some may even develop animosity towards their spouses, akin to what @zooposki expressed, or you may begin to encounter microaggressions within the household. I sincerely hope this isn't your situation, Mr. @oliverwrites.