It's hilarious that after telling us how she is the boss in the relationship, you go further to tell us you are "no Redpiller"

Before nko?

Does it mean there are men on Nairaland who STILL don't know what the Redpill means.

The Redpill is nothing but an ideology that transcends to a mindset that ensures that a man is free from the manipulations of the women in his life. Whether Mother, Sister, Wife or GF.

You are deeply manipulated as you are being disrespected yet talking of possible marriage.

What can define manipulation more than that?

The moment she gets pregnant, you will marry her despite her bad behaviour

But what you don't even know is that the only reason she hasn't gotten pregnant is because she is holding out hope that the Baby Daddy will step up.

Even after you marry her, she will still throw herself at him and will leave you in a heartbeat if he has a change of mind

Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

You will soon learn your lesson the hard way if you refused to learn from others experiences.

You will want to cry but you won't see tears

43Ronin:

Deceived kó received nì . She was enjoying raw sex with the manchi. Nothing wrong in dating a single mom though as long as you not taking care of her child

There's no way you can avoid spending on the children... If you give her any money, she will spend it on her children

She fights me and disrespects me this is the only thing you should be worried about not about the child.

elbulk:
Are you her? People mature at different rates. Also, the focus here isn't on her past but the present, and if he feels she's worth then then by all means let him be wth her. She had a child, she didn't kill anyone.

For telling the guy that she was deceived, she has not matured.

Who’s taking care of the child?

How old is the baby daddy?

What does the baby daddy do for a living?

What tribe is the baby mama from?

Check her family background First!

Let her tell you the reason why she & her baby daddy aren’t together..

Is her mother still in her fathers house?

When you answer these questions, then i’ll Tell you Some things, because i’ve Been there before!!

One thing I can tell you broski
The baby daddy still owns that púûssy

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

If you love her,please follow your heart. Baby mama has never been a drag on any woman until this present generation of Nigerians. I am 52 years old , I know what I am talking about here.
Don’t listen to side talk. Do what makes you happy.

SporaD8:

Baby Mama of a boy! Hmmn?
If the Baby Daddy is still active in her, and the baby boy life, use your Teeth to count your Tongue!

That is what we call open marriage because there is no way in hell the baby daddy won't still be fucking her.

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

I don't know why I can't stop laughing. . I only have one thing to tell you. If the baby father is still alive, he sends money for her upkeep and both of them still meet then you are in for a rough ride.

Unless she worships the ground you walk on and loves you much more than you love her, she won’t be worth it in the long run.
You seem to be infatuated not in love. Once you sleep with her a few times, you will recover from your SIMPING.
Also, don’t forget that you will take full responsibility of her child without having commensurate authority over the child. That is a very precarious situation any man can find himself. 80% of men get frustrated by this, because even if you see the child as yours, the child will likely NEVER accept you fully the way you will want.
Then the baby daddy is a big disruption too. He will keep showing up & coming up in your lives.

This one wan enter game 1:0 down

SIMPS never learn

Enemyofpeace:
How you go love second hand woman wey don born pikin. All your things wey you get for house including your car, clothes and shoes na second hand. Dem take second hand swear for you?

Werey

You don’t know what you are talking about. You are a 52yr old ignoramus. When did men start making life decisions with their heart alone?
In the past where being a baby mama did not cause issues, those men could marry multiple wives without consulting anyone & those baby mama worshipped the man who eventually married them to cover their shame. The baby mamas of old were more feminine, loyal, submissive and respectful. Can you say the same for the women these days? Before you use your grey unwise head to give the poor boy advice that will destroy him!

lesson44:

If you love her,please follow your heart. Baby mama has never been a drag on any woman until this present generation of Nigerians. I am 52 years old , I know what I am talking about here.
Don’t listen to side talk. Do what makes you happy.

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

Let me drop this as it just crossed my thought.

A single mother already knows that her chances of getting married is slim.

Do not underestimate the level at which a desperate woman can go to.

If your mother or sister tells you to steer clear, you shouldn't doubt them.

You can read my other threads before you decide on what to do.
Good luck.

End.

As a single man, a baby mama should never be your 5th choice.
End.

Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last

Oga,

Your story is full of contradiction, you're asking us or yourself, why you're still with her? Then you say you're with her because you have access to free pvssy and only God know if you're going to marry, stop deceiving yourself.

The decision to marry is yours and hers and not God, you're fornicating and asking God for direction, you remain with a woman who respects her baby daddy and disrespects you while you're not married and you can't see the handwriting on the wall. You see that kitten that you call free, you will pay for it, I can guarantee you that she is ahead of you in this game except if she doesn't want to lock you down or you may already be locked down without knowing.

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

That same fear, may be the reason you may not enjoy the relationship in future

I think you need time to get convinced that you can stand the fear

So enjoy your relationship and give yourself more time in the relationship to overcome the fear

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Being a baby mama doesn't mean she is bad. It depends on the circumstances behind it

We've all made mistakes, we've all fallen in love and gotten deceived and abandoned.

I can marry a baby mama, it doesn't change a thing. Most importantly Is if she ticks the cards for me and gives me peace of mind.

A known virus will do it's work! Becareful what you wish for

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

you will regret it. That is a sure banker. You can NEVER escape regreting it if you continue this relationship

techub:


Let me help you clone her WhatsApp messages to your phone first.. that way you can know where you stand

Pls can u help me do this .

If you love someone, you should love everything she represents or anything that concerns her. If you are finding it hard to love her child the same way you the mother, then you are lost in lust not love. Thank you

lesson44:

If you love her,please follow your heart. Baby mama has never been a drag on any woman until this present generation of Nigerians. I am 52 years old , I know what I am talking about here.
Don’t listen to side talk. Do what makes you happy.

you are 52 and yet not wise. You think this is the1980s? You think women respect men like they did 30 years ago? Mr man no single mother is good for even short term relationship talkless of long term. You want to put the guy in trouble

Tzar:
You don’t know what you are talking about. You are a 52yr old ignoramus. When did men start making life decisions with their heart alone?
In the past where being a baby mama did not cause issues, those men could marry multiple wives without consulting anyone & those baby mama worshipped the man who eventually married them to cover their shame. The baby mamas of old were more feminine, loyal, submissive and respectful. Can you say the same for the women these days? Before you use your grey unwise head to give the poor boy advice that will destroy him!

well spoken. Imagine a man thinking with his heart. 😆 lol

Don't make that mistake of marrying a baby mama since there's something between them they will Still be connected.

Secondly nobody deceived her oooh you dey believe wetin woman tell you so to fear woman never reach your side ABI

Have it in mind that she's owned by you and her baby daddy.

As young guy like you don't make sure mistake

adexmuhyi:
be ready to be a father figure to the kid, study her character to know shes not the issue in her previous relationship. i married a baby mama of two and it worked, very submissive and mature

remember to update us when yawa gas

stanval02:
If you love someone, you should love everything she represents or anything that concerns her. If you are finding it hard to love her child the same way you the mother, then you are lost in lust not love. Thank you

lies lies love has lost it's value

This is not a matter of love. That Baby might still love the Baby daddy more than him sef

HardMirror:
you will regret it. That is a sure banker. You can NEVER escape regreting it if you continue this relationship

thank you for telling him the truth

mctech:
Being a baby mama is not a big deal. I know pastors that married baby mamas. One of the ladies was even bringing the boy to church yet the man still married her despite everyone knowing she is after 1.

Would you rather prefer a lady ( the overwhelming majority of them) that has aborted some few times yet maintains an innocent face and lifts up 'holy' hands in church.

How is her personality and the family she came from?

that child is the problem. If you love complicated relationships, go ahead and marry a single mother. It is always best to start your own family. It is better to adopt a kid than have a single mother wife. It always gets complicated than it should.

LaSenior:
lies lies love has lost it's value

This is not a matter of love. That Baby might still love the Baby daddy more than him sef

people love complications. His heart will be so broken after wasting many years. He can never replace the real dad. Except the man is dead sha then it is a little bit better. Nothing beats starting a fresh family with no complicated history