| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Love800(m): 8:43pm On Jun 07 |
Dont you want your own time alone! Is it everytime someone will be at your face(am refering to your husband now). Humans need lone times to be able to think sometimes. Beremx:
That yeye wife is hiding something from her husband. The husband shouldn't agree to her demands 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by LastProphet: 8:52pm On Jun 07 |
Ask the husband how his ancestors here in Africa lived, dumb race copying white people in everything 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by kenchop: 9:00pm On Jun 07 |
They both are not ready for marriage. The lady demanding a separate room is absolutely not ready for marriage and then also the man that is even listening to her trash and hasn't already called off the marriage is a jew man , and a very unserious man. THE HEAVENS ARE TRYING TO SAVE HIM FROM THAT LADY BUT HE SIMPLY CANT SEE IT, HE'S STILL ARGUING WITH HER. SMH 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by travelzcruix: 9:15pm On Jun 07 |
It's all these things that makes marriage expensive. From, I can't stay in the family mansion to I need my own room,.no sisi, add your own palace and executive Villa. Mtcheew |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by bentenny(m): 9:32pm On Jun 07 |
immortalcrown:
Nonsense! That means she is incompatible with the man.
Just admit that you don't understand the meaning of marriage and the level of commitment that is required in marriage. Anybody, whether male or female, who plans to not share a room with his or her future spouse will not be commited and sincere in the marriage. The inability or the unwillingness to share one room clearly means incompatibility. Quote me anywhere.
All the reasons presented in this article are childish. Only two of those reasons appear a bit reasonable but are not enough for someone not to share one room with his or her spouse. Let me address those two reasons.
1.
Menstrual pain:
When she battles with the menstrual pain in her separate room, is the husband expected to check on her? If yes, why should she have a separate room? Is it not easier for the husband to check on her when they share the same room? Or should he not check on her? If yes, who will be blamed if she becomes unconscious and something goes wrong? If pregnancy disturbs her and she vomits and becomes too weak to feed herself or put her room in order, will the husband be expected to take care of her in the situation? If yes, it is wrong for her to use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room. If unfortunately she becomes bedridden to urinate and defecate in bed, will the husband be expected to take care of her? If yes, why should she use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room?
2.
Giving her siblings and her friends access to her own room:
What will a married woman keep or do in her matrimonial home that her husband is not worthy to know but her siblings and her friends are worthy to know? Answer this very question if you are not supporting infidelity in marriage. Remember that infidelity is not only about sex.
Every other reason presented in the article is very silly. You know that you keep rooms untidy but you are not willing to adjust and learn how to tidy up your room. You now want to use that bad attitude as an excuse to have a separate room. Any adult that identifies his or her weakness and is not willing to work on it is very insincere and manipulative. Quote me anywhere. Gracias...nothing more to add! |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Prettychild(f): 9:47pm On Jun 07 |
loveoris:
Is it such a bad idea though? I mean, to actually want separate bedrooms from your husband? Maybe his room bigger, the Master bedroom to accommodate both parties but another smaller separate room for wifey....just saying.
An intending couple got into a heated argument just a few weeks before their wedding when during a conversation the wife stated that she wanted her own bedroom. The man didn't take it to heart at first assuming she was joking, but soon enough realized the pretty lady wasn't joking at all. She meant every word of it. This ensued in a huge argument that dragged on for days. Members of the family and friends even got involved at some point. I remember my dad calling to ask me how I felt about the whole situation, my answer was pretty much simple- Give the young lady what she wants.
Hear me out!!!
Firstly, the space is not an issue, its not like they need to go buy or rent another house to accommodate this arrangement. They own a house of their own that has enough rooms that nobody uses.
Secondly, her reasons are very valid, which probably would be my reasons too. We don't always want to talk, be cuddled or argue, sometimes we just need our space to think clearly and enjoy the solitude. She went ahead to say she doesn't like herself during her menstrual phase so she stays away from everyone, doesn't go to work, she is just indoor writhing in pain and consoling herself. She would like to continue with that without having to bother or lash out at her husband simply because she is in pain. She made him understand that he is only fighting it because he has been conditioned traditionally that they must have the same room. However, if he is been truthful to himself he would realize that alone times can't be bought with money, doesn't mean they don't love each other anymore, it just means there is a need for recharge.
Her other reason was she wouldn't want her siblings or very close friends to ever have a reason to step into their matrimonial bedroom, which is the husband's room.
Her last reason, very valid too, is that she is quite a clumsy person, she looks for one outfit for the day and the whole place is upside down, her husband however is very neat freak and loves everything exactly how they should be. She said she wants to have her freedom and be able to have her things in a separate room, that way her mess is out of his face.
I personally think its a great idea for a woman to have a separate room that is hers, she can decorate it to her taste, have her me times, like her own closet. Even though most of the night I will be in my husband's room cuddled up, cos what is sleep without my man. But I'd love to know the option is there for me when I need to be alone for whatever reason. Moreso, the room is not going to be out of bound to my husband, he can always come in whenever he wants, the bed will be big enough for two, just incase the HS ministers to us right there....lol Orisirisi! She should forget about getting married so that she can have her space, alone time and scatter her room. People just want to be married without adjusting to what marriage is 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by tallfish145(m): 9:58pm On Jun 07 |
Jeon:
I support separate bedrooms .At least one suppose to have a private space and time.
No be everytime I go dy inhale someone's breathe, odour, or fart. what happens to the parlor or visitor's room? |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by highbee02: 10:13pm On Jun 07 |
May be she's an ogbanje who would be hosting her colleagues in the middle of night. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Samtob90(m): 10:24pm On Jun 07 |
loveoris:
Is it such a bad idea though? I mean, to actually want separate bedrooms from your husband? Maybe his room bigger, the Master bedroom to accommodate both parties but another smaller separate room for wifey....just saying.
An intending couple got into a heated argument just a few weeks before their wedding when during a conversation the wife stated that she wanted her own bedroom. The man didn't take it to heart at first assuming she was joking, but soon enough realized the pretty lady wasn't joking at all. She meant every word of it. This ensued in a huge argument that dragged on for days. Members of the family and friends even got involved at some point. I remember my dad calling to ask me how I felt about the whole situation, my answer was pretty much simple- Give the young lady what she wants.
Hear me out!!!
Firstly, the space is not an issue, its not like they need to go buy or rent another house to accommodate this arrangement. They own a house of their own that has enough rooms that nobody uses.
Secondly, her reasons are very valid, which probably would be my reasons too. We don't always want to talk, be cuddled or argue, sometimes we just need our space to think clearly and enjoy the solitude. She went ahead to say she doesn't like herself during her menstrual phase so she stays away from everyone, doesn't go to work, she is just indoor writhing in pain and consoling herself. She would like to continue with that without having to bother or lash out at her husband simply because she is in pain. She made him understand that he is only fighting it because he has been conditioned traditionally that they must have the same room. However, if he is been truthful to himself he would realize that alone times can't be bought with money, doesn't mean they don't love each other anymore, it just means there is a need for recharge.
Her other reason was she wouldn't want her siblings or very close friends to ever have a reason to step into their matrimonial bedroom, which is the husband's room.
Her last reason, very valid too, is that she is quite a clumsy person, she looks for one outfit for the day and the whole place is upside down, her husband however is very neat freak and loves everything exactly how they should be. She said she wants to have her freedom and be able to have her things in a separate room, that way her mess is out of his face.
I personally think its a great idea for a woman to have a separate room that is hers, she can decorate it to her taste, have her me times, like her own closet. Even though most of the night I will be in my husband's room cuddled up, cos what is sleep without my man. But I'd love to know the option is there for me when I need to be alone for whatever reason. Moreso, the room is not going to be out of bound to my husband, he can always come in whenever he wants, the bed will be big enough for two, just incase the HS ministers to us right there....lol It isn't the best but can easily creates rooms for gap. If my wife insists, I will let her be but whatever goes on in the room shouldn't be her concern |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Tommydare(m): 10:37pm On Jun 07 |
Someone is ready to go back to her father's house. She's not ready. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Sapasenator: 10:44pm On Jun 07 |
I will even give her two rooms alone. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by JoshuaSG: 10:54pm On Jun 07 |
But the wife-to-be could be more traditional than the groom. If she is indeed against the man's demand for tradition. She should demonstrate her counterculture move by resisting her family's demand for dowry and marriage list from her lover because those things are also part of culture. not We4all:
The man is obviously a traditional man and wired in a certain way. If he doesn't like the idea, he should take a bow. It's not by force. But |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Maysdevices(f): 11:00pm On Jun 07 |
DOUBLEWAHALA:
Separate bedrooms are for men that hates irritating things from women
Women are disgusting in the same bedroom Try kissing a man tomorrow, you sound like a repressed homosexual Free yourself |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Maysdevices(f): 11:06pm On Jun 07 |
LastProphet:
Ask the husband how his ancestors here in Africa lived, dumb race copying white people in everything Why do African men like to suffer? 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Blessedarethepe(m): 11:49pm On Jun 07 |
LilMissFavvy:
I didn't know issue of room can be a problem to a man. Most men who build houses usually include a room for their wife. Some who can afford renting enough space give madam a room, but here is a man, whining over nothing. Way back, my mum had her room, so the so called tradition that couples must share a room is not true. Lack of money is what make couples squeeze themselves into one room.
Majority of well to do modern women have huge baggages of clothes, shoes, make-up tables etc, so what size of room would be enough to contain a rich woman's properties?.
After marriage she can always go stay in another room to have her quiet time, or would he not allow it? Looks like the man is a narcissist.
It's not lack of money as you have stated. Marriage is a companionship. And for the relationship to be more intimate, there is serious need for the couples to stay together in a room, see their unclothedness together, hug as many times as possible, kiss as many times as possible, touch the each other without permission, feel each other sexually. All these work together to cement the relationship between the couples. So the idea of staying separately is not what you stated up there. It's far from it. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Sapasenator: 12:50am On Jun 08 |
Prettychild:
Orisirisi! She should forget about getting married so that she can have her space, alone time and scatter her room. People just want to be married without adjusting to what marriage is What's wrong with her wanting a separate room? 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by fitinwell: 12:54am On Jun 08 |
immortalcrown:
Nonsense! That means she is incompatible with the man.
Just admit that you don't understand the meaning of marriage and the level of commitment that is required in marriage. Anybody, whether male or female, who plans to not share a room with his or her future spouse will not be commited and sincere in the marriage. The inability or the unwillingness to share one room clearly means incompatibility. Quote me anywhere.
All the reasons presented in this article are childish. Only two of those reasons appear a bit reasonable but are not enough for someone not to share one room with his or her spouse. Let me address those two reasons.
1.
Menstrual pain:
When she battles with the menstrual pain in her separate room, is the husband expected to check on her? If yes, why should she have a separate room? Is it not easier for the husband to check on her when they share the same room? Or should he not check on her? If yes, who will be blamed if she becomes unconscious and something goes wrong? If pregnancy disturbs her and she vomits and becomes too weak to feed herself or put her room in order, will the husband be expected to take care of her in the situation? If yes, it is wrong for her to use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room. If unfortunately she becomes bedridden to urinate and defecate in bed, will the husband be expected to take care of her? If yes, why should she use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room?
2.
Giving her siblings and her friends access to her own room:
What will a married woman keep or do in her matrimonial home that her husband is not worthy to know but her siblings and her friends are worthy to know? Answer this very question if you are not supporting infidelity in marriage. Remember that infidelity is not only about sex.
Every other reason presented in the article is very silly. You know that you keep rooms untidy but you are not willing to adjust and learn how to tidy up your room. You now want to use that bad attitude as an excuse to have a separate room. Any adult that identifies his or her weakness and is not willing to work on it is very insincere and manipulative. Quote me anywhere. No be curse oo ... That marriage cannot last pass 4yrs .. with this arrangement. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Anabosee(m): 6:18am On Jun 08 |
The girl no love d man, if a woman loves you she nor go give you breathing space, she will always want to be around you, this thought of separate room will not enter her head.
The man should just quit the relationship. 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by omoredia: 6:45am On Jun 08 |
TOPMAN4LIFE:
For you to mention pastor Adeboye, you don't have elderds in your family Point of correction. I don't have useless elders in my family. Even fool and crooks grow old |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Faposky95: 7:37am On Jun 08 |
We4all:
I don't have to be in order to think smart. All soldiers know bullets.... You're not a real one if you're not in the theatre of war...... You can only speak correlatively on marriage if you are currently active or inactive in one. That's why experience is still the best teacher |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:39am On Jun 08 |
MemoriesAndMe:
Nothing wrong with the demand at all. Ladies typically always have more clothes than men. Why should I share my wardrope of less than 20 shirts and 10 trousers with a woman that has probably 1000 clothes? It's best to just give her a room and her space.
I've been telling wifey to get another room in the house for herself for over a year now, but she refused. Why do I have to fight through 1000 of her clothes to find one of mine to wear? Lol Demarcating yours hasn't worked out? Sorry. 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by 2dominate: 8:02am On Jun 08 |
The only reason I'm allowing that is if I'm having multiple wives. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by anochilar(m): 9:24am On Jun 08 |
It's ok for couples to have their separate rooms, it reduces quarrels.
Though it doesn't remove it. 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by essienisrael5(m): 11:27am On Jun 08 |
I quite agree with her my brother. Unless you will want to be around with ur woman immortalcrown:
Nonsense! That means she is incompatible with the man.
Just admit that you don't understand the meaning of marriage and the level of commitment that is required in marriage. Anybody, whether male or female, who plans to not share a room with his or her future spouse will not be commited and sincere in the marriage. The inability or the unwillingness to share one room clearly means incompatibility. Quote me anywhere.
All the reasons presented in this article are childish. Only two of those reasons appear a bit reasonable but are not enough for someone not to share one room with his or her spouse. Let me address those two reasons.
1.
Menstrual pain:
When she battles with the menstrual pain in her separate room, is the husband expected to check on her? If yes, why should she have a separate room? Is it not easier for the husband to check on her when they share the same room? Or should he not check on her? If yes, who will be blamed if she becomes unconscious and something goes wrong? If pregnancy disturbs her and she vomits and becomes too weak to feed herself or put her room in order, will the husband be expected to take care of her in the situation? If yes, it is wrong for her to use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room. If unfortunately she becomes bedridden to urinate and defecate in bed, will the husband be expected to take care of her? If yes, why should she use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room?
2.
Giving her siblings and her friends access to her own room:
What will a married woman keep or do in her matrimonial home that her husband is not worthy to know but her siblings and her friends are worthy to know? Answer this very question if you are not supporting infidelity in marriage. Remember that infidelity is not only about sex.
Every other reason presented in the article is very silly. You know that you keep rooms untidy but you are not willing to adjust and learn how to tidy up your room. You now want to use that bad attitude as an excuse to have a separate room. Any adult that identifies his or her weakness and is not willing to work on it is very insincere and manipulative. Quote me anywhere. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by godofuck231: 11:37am On Jun 08 |
Sapasenator:
Be very careful the kind of pictures you post here, You are distracting brothers like us, Just look at the middle for chrissake ? tell her to get behind you ,just like the devil , them you will see from the back , oh lawd |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by NaBanga: 11:53am On Jun 08 |
Honestly sleeping in the same bedroom is for the poor. Most well to do married couples (all over the world) have separate bedrooms. 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Exceed15: 12:41pm On Jun 08 |
Must she get married. She should remain single the rest of her life while she enjoys her space. That girl will make marriage hell for the man. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by greenalwaz: 3:28pm On Jun 08 |
immortalcrown:
Nonsense! That means she is incompatible with the man.
Just admit that you don't understand the meaning of marriage and the level of commitment that is required in marriage. Anybody, whether male or female, who plans to not share a room with his or her future spouse will not be commited and sincere in the marriage. The inability or the unwillingness to share one room clearly means incompatibility. Quote me anywhere.
All the reasons presented in this article are childish. Only two of those reasons appear a bit reasonable but are not enough for someone not to share one room with his or her spouse. Let me address those two reasons.
1.
Menstrual pain:
When she battles with the menstrual pain in her separate room, is the husband expected to check on her? If yes, why should she have a separate room? Is it not easier for the husband to check on her when they share the same room? Or should he not check on her? If yes, who will be blamed if she becomes unconscious and something goes wrong? If pregnancy disturbs her and she vomits and becomes too weak to feed herself or put her room in order, will the husband be expected to take care of her in the situation? If yes, it is wrong for her to use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room. If unfortunately she becomes bedridden to urinate and defecate in bed, will the husband be expected to take care of her? If yes, why should she use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room?
2.
Giving her siblings and her friends access to her own room:
What will a married woman keep or do in her matrimonial home that her husband is not worthy to know but her siblings and her friends are worthy to know? Answer this very question if you are not supporting infidelity in marriage. Remember that infidelity is not only about sex.
Every other reason presented in the article is very silly. You know that you keep rooms untidy but you are not willing to adjust and learn how to tidy up your room. You now want to use that bad attitude as an excuse to have a separate room. Any adult that identifies his or her weakness and is not willing to work on it is very insincere and manipulative. Quote me anywhere.
One funny thing here is that you want a separate room but will not want a co-wife.😀 It is in a polygamous marriage that each wife lives in a separate room and gets visited by the husband when it is her turn to satisfy him. You don't want polygamy but you want a polygamous monogamy. Inconsistent humans. |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by MemoriesAndMe: 6:38pm On Jun 08 |
PrimadonnaO:
Lol
Demarcating yours hasn't worked out?
Sorry. I tried demarcating, but she keeps moving her clothes before and after mine in the closet. I struggle to find my clothes in the closet cos hers are too much. I took my clothes to another closet in another room, then she started bringing her clothes there too, mixed with mine. The best bet is just for her to have her own room and leave mine for me... |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by Mariangeles(f): 6:49pm On Jun 08 |
MemoriesAndMe:
I tried demarcating, but she keeps moving her clothes before and after mind in the closet. The best bet is just for her to have her own room and leave mine for me... You're her husband, so it's🤞🏼 forever for the both of you. The earlier you get used to her (and her ways), the better. Inukwa separate bedrooms! 1 Like |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by TOPMAN4LIFE: 10:03pm On Jun 08 |
omoredia:
Point of correction. I don't have useless elders in my family. Even fool and crooks grow old What has elders in your family achieved compared to what pastor adeboye has achieved. Mention the name of your father if he knows beyond your village I know you are from tribe that insult your father and elders. The insults you throw at pastor adeboye who is Old enough to be your grandparents will come for you at your old age. Younger children will also mock you and insult you at your old age You are sowing insults elders today, you reap it in multiple folds later in your future |
| Re: Wife Insists On Having Separate Bedrooms After Wedding by PrimadonnaO(f): 12:37am On Jun 09 |
MemoriesAndMe:
I tried demarcating, but she keeps moving her clothes before and after mine in the closet. I struggle to find my clothes in the closet cos hers are too much. I took my clothes to another closet in another room, then she started bringing her clothes there too, mixed with mine.
The best bet is just for her to have her own room and leave mine for me... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 |
