Hello Nairalanders

Please I need your advice on a pressing issue.

I love my girlfriend so much, and to a certain degree, I'm convinced it is reciprocal.

But sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the way she's all over me. There is this three seater sofa in my sitting room that looks older than the other sofas, despite the fact that they were all bought and brought in the same day. This is because I dare not sit elsewhere aside with her on that particular sofa. if I do, I'm calling for a fight. She's always wanting to be in a cuddle with me.

In the bedroom, our bodies must touch. If I stand up to the restroom to ease myself or do the other, if I'm not back within a short period of time, she's either calling out from the room, or coming to the bathroom to check what's up.

She literally follows me everywhere. To buy fuel, cut my hair, get something across the street, pick something from the car, you name it, the list is endless.

This has affected me that, in the rare moments that we are not together, probably when she's visiting her parents. I walk around like a zombie. Sometimes I'll do something as wierd as going to the closet to smell her clothes.

Something happened this morning, that actually called for the creation of this topic.

We were in the bedroom and she was sleeping, so I stood up to ease myself and get something from the fridge. What I wanted to get was stuck, so I left the fridge open to melt down the ice a little. Which I waited, I sat on one of the sofas, and was surfing the web on my phone, just to kill time. Less than 3 minutes later, I heard the bedroom door open, I jumped up and quickly dropped my phone, and started busying myself with trying to get the content from the fridge. She caught me and started laughing.

I was so angry because it's not as if she had caught me cheating or doing something actually wrong. I felt like an !diot for letting it get to the stage where it feels like I'm scared of her. I told her it wasn't funny and when she tried to hold me, I felt irritated and asked her to leave me alone.
She got angry and left me in annoyance.

I want to talk to her later, basically to let her know how i feel and probably find a nice way to tell her to be easy on the 'hovering'. Because it now feels as if I'm being choked or something.

Holuwahphemy:
Hello Nairalanders

Please I need your advice on a pressing issue.

I love my girlfriend so much, and to a certain degree, I'm convinced it is reciprocal.

But sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the way she's all over me. There is this three seater sofa in my sitting room that looks older than the other sofas, despite the fact that they were all bought and brought in the same day. This is because I dare not sit elsewhere aside with her on that particular sofa. if I do, I'm calling for a fight. She's always wanting to be in a cuddle with me.

In the bedroom, our bodies must touch. If I stand up to the restroom to ease myself or do the other, if I'm not back within a short period of time, she's either calling out from the room, or coming to the bathroom to check what's up.

She literally follows me everywhere. To buy fuel, cut my hair, get something across the street, pick something from the car, you name it, the list is endless.

This has affected me that, in the rare moments that we are not together, probably when she's visiting her parents. I walk around like a zombie. Sometimes I'll do something as wierd as going to the closet to smell clothes.

Something happened this morning, that actually called for the creation of this topic.

We were in the bedroom and she was sleeping, so I stood up to ease myself and get something from the fridge. What I wanted to get was stuck, so I left the fridge open to melt down the ice a little. Which I waited, I sat on one of the sofas, and was surfing the web on my phone, just to kill time. Less than 3 minutes later, I heard the bedroom door open, I jumped up and quickly dropped my phone, and started busying myself with trying to get the content from the fridge. She caught me and started laughing.

I was so angry because it's not as if she had caught me cheating or doing something actually wrong. I felt like an !diot for letting it get to the stage where it feels like I'm scared of her. I told her it wasn't funny and when she tried to hold me, I felt irritated and asked her to leave me alone.
She got angry and left me in annoyance.

I want to talk to her later, basically to let her know how i feel and probably find a nice way to tell her to be easy on the 'hovering'. Because it now feels as if I'm being choked or something.

In as much as I understand how chocking it could be when your babe is all over you, I would advise you enjoy the love and attention.
If you have a loyal girlfriend who is always willing to be around you at all times, just accomodate that while it last cos with time it will gradually reduce when you both get busier with life.

dawnomike:
In as much as I understand how chocking it could be when your babe is all over you, I would advise you enjoy the love and attention.
If you have a loyal girlfriend who is always willing to be around you at all times, just accomodate that while it last cos with time it will gradually reduce when you both get busier with life.

Hmmm. Bros na deeper life church you dey go? Because this one wey you talk so deep

Holuwahphemy:



Hmmm. Bros na deeper life church you dey go? Because this one wey you talk so deep

lol... Not at all my brother

There is nothing special at all, it's not ur first courtship and it won't be your last. No go give her belle, that affection go dry like your blood..

Holuwahphemy:
Hello Nairalanders

Please I need your advice on a pressing issue.

The best way to advise someone without probable provocation is to first point out the positive side extensively, then add 'but' then point out the negative side a little.

Example;

Babe, I really acknowledge the fact that you love me so much. It's glaring you do. The way you are all over me is just an iota of the wholesomeness of your love for me. I'll really miss you if you are not here with me. But, truth is you make me a bit uncomfortable with this attitude.

MEN...what do we really want?
Cuz we complain visually about everything.

If she is not reciprocating the love now you will complain that she is not giving you attention and all that.


It's just her type of person...she love you and she's very comfortable been around you but to you she's suffocating you.

If you marry her now before a month you will be acting like a stranger to her and be making her feel lonely and all alone.

If you're not ok with her been at your house 24 7 then tell her to be coming only on weekends.

But please don't marry her...if you can feel this way towards her when you guys are just dating then imagine when you marry her...that means you will say she is strangulating you

It's just her nature..there are people like that....if you don't like her closeness to you cuz you feel it's suffocating you then free her and don't waste her time biko.

Enjoy this intense devotion and affection while it lasts. It's cute and admirable and tragic all together.

I'd also advise cultivating friendships on the side; one or two other guys with whom you grab beers and steak, say once a month.

Just so you know, when this relationship ends you're gonna need 3 years of therapy. When this emotional dependency ends, you're gonna be so broken, so effing broken, it'd be a miracle if you made it through. But your (ex)girlfriend will recover alot faster than you do. Why? You're the one who was "changed".

Lol how will disadvantage yourself that much gettin addicted to fellow human bro, u seem not to like ur mental health incase of any wahala, guy siddon her yarn am whatsup so u both can be comfortable bcus if na her she fit no give a damn bout ur feelings, if u inconvinence her, lastly u seem like a bigboy trust me rich dudes never actually know who get their backs bro, na when sea rough people go show wetting u mean to them, guy no expect much and no live for prison for anybody.

MatrixReloaded:
There is nothing special at all, it's not ur first courtship and it won't be your last. No go give her belle, that affection go dry like your blood..

Bros... I want to marry this one oh. Apart from the 'hovering', she's actually a very sweet soul

Dexy4yah:
MEN...what do we really want?
Cuz we complain visually about everything.

If she is not reciprocating the love now you will complain that she is not giving you attention and all that.


It's just her type of person...she love you and she's very comfortable been around you but to you she's suffocating you.

If you marry her now before a month you will be acting like a stranger to her and be making her feel lonely and all alone.

If you're not ok with her been at your house 24 7 then tell her to be coming only on weekends.

But please don't marry her...if you can feel this way towards her when you guys are just dating then imagine when you marry her...that means you will say she is strangulating you

It's just her nature..there are people like that....if you don't like her closeness to you cuz you feel it's suffocating you then free her and don't waste her time biko.

I really do love her, and hope to marry her soon. I'm always down for the attention we give each other. Whenever she's not around, I miss her like m@d. I just need her to understand that sometimes, one just wants to be left alone and it's fine, if one feels that way.

AllKnowing:
Enjoy this intense devotion and affection while it lasts. It's cute and admirable and tragic all together.

I'd also advise cultivating friendships on the side; one or two other guys with whom you grab beers and steak, say once a month.

Just so you know, when this relationship ends you're gonna need 3 years of therapy. When this emotional dependency ends, you're gonna be so broken, so effing broken, it'd be a miracle if you make it through. But your (ex)girlfriend will recover alot faster than you do. Why? You're the one who was "changed".

End ke? No please I don't want it to end oh. We fight a lot, but we don't always make it past 48hrs before we reconcile. I don't think I'll ever be able to be in sync with another girl like this.

Holuwahphemy:


Bros... I want to marry this one oh. Apart from the 'hovering', she's actually a very sweet soul

Why u come dey lament like the book of lamentation?
I no see reason why u go dey complain now wey ma still friendship una dey, cos once u engage her ma dat tym u fit dey yarn apata. For now dey enjoy your fornication

Clingy Girlfriend.

Had one that year.

Would Chimgum person all day and force you to watch Jenifa Diaries on her phone.

OP, maybe you need to spark up a Quarell with her, then beat her Well well and Dent her Face
like that Lady on nairaland yesterday.

Then you will have peace of mind.

I know we say Nigerian girls are not worth the stress because they go still do rubbish, you see this your girl, she has given you her all, she loves you too much and its becoming obsession, just sit her down while cuddling her and try to make her understand why she should reduce the way she always follow you around, reason that it makes you miss her too much when she's not around and it makes you not able to do certain things without her, she go dey smile like mumu, just whine her laidat she go reduce am without getting offended 😂

Zubeezanga:
Lol how will disadvantage yourself that much gettin addicted to fellow human bro, u seem not to like ur mental health incase of any wahala, guy siddon her yarn am whatsup so u both can be comfortable bcus if na her she fit no give a damn bout ur feelings, if u inconvinence her, lastly u seem like a bigboy trust me rich dudes never actually know who get their backs bro, na when sea rough people go show wetting u mean to them, guy no expect much and no live for prison for anybody.

Bros, be like love insect never bite you before. In my past relationships, i used to have control over my emotions. I used to decide the tempo and the direction the relationship is headed. I never let myself all in like this. But there's something different about this one. She's just so special. We are on the same page, but you know, a man needs alone time every now and then, and I don't get that enough. Na why I create the topic.

When you tell people like that you need space they will give you a yard because to them you don't love them. Be careful.

Like someone said up there, enjoy it while it last. Life will definitely distract her someday.

MatrixReloaded:

Why u come dey lament like the book of lamentation?
I no see reason why u go dey complain now wey ma still friendship una dey, cos once u engage her ma dat tym u fit dey yarn apata. For now dey enjoy your fornication

Lol. Jerimiah wey write the original book sef go dey fear my own abi?

I don hear you sha.

Vinnie2000:

Clingy Girlfriend.

Had one that year.

Would Chimgum person all day and force you to watch Jenifa Diaries on her phone.

OP, maybe you need to spark up a Quarell with her, then beat her Well well and Dent her Face
like that Lady on nairaland yesterday.

Then you will have peace of mind.

Chisos! Dent ke?
We fight a lot, but God forbid that I touch my woman.

You are talking about Jenifa diaries. Mine made me watch zee world

Nicklaus619:
I know we say Nigerian girls are not worth the stress because they go still do rubbish, you see this your girl, she has given you her all, she loves you too much and its becoming obsession, just sit her down while cuddling her and try to make her understand why she should reduce the way she always follow you around, reason that it makes you miss her too much when she's not around and it makes you not able to do certain things without her, she go dey smile like mumu, just whine her laidat she go reduce am without getting offended 😂

I love this. Thanks

Proserpina:
When you tell people like that you need space they will give you a yard because to them you don't love them. Be careful.

Like someone said up there, enjoy it while it last. Life will definitely distract her someday.

Noted

May your love last forever!!!

true

dawnomike:
In as much as I understand how chocking it could be when your babe is all over you, I would advise you enjoy the love and attention.
If you have a loyal girlfriend who is always willing to be around you at all times, just accomodate that while it last cos with time it will gradually reduce when you both get busier with life.

Holuwahphemy:



I really do love her, and hope to marry her soon. I'm always down for the attention we give each other. Whenever she's not around, I miss her like m@d. I just need her to understand that sometimes, one just wants to be left alone and it's fine, if one feels that way.

try to tell her about it in a way she will understand you and not feel like you are trying to avoid her.
Is well.

Holuwahphemy:
Hello Nairalanders

Please I need your advice on a pressing issue.

I love my girlfriend so much, and to a certain degree, I'm convinced it is reciprocal.

But sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the way she's all over me. There is this three seater sofa in my sitting room that looks older than the other sofas, despite the fact that they were all bought and brought in the same day. This is because I dare not sit elsewhere aside with her on that particular sofa. if I do, I'm calling for a fight. She's always wanting to be in a cuddle with me.

In the bedroom, our bodies must touch. If I stand up to the restroom to ease myself or do the other, if I'm not back within a short period of time, she's either calling out from the room, or coming to the bathroom to check what's up.

She literally follows me everywhere. To buy fuel, cut my hair, get something across the street, pick something from the car, you name it, the list is endless.

This has affected me that, in the rare moments that we are not together, probably when she's visiting her parents. I walk around like a zombie. Sometimes I'll do something as wierd as going to the closet to smell her clothes.

Something happened this morning, that actually called for the creation of this topic.

We were in the bedroom and she was sleeping, so I stood up to ease myself and get something from the fridge. What I wanted to get was stuck, so I left the fridge open to melt down the ice a little. Which I waited, I sat on one of the sofas, and was surfing the web on my phone, just to kill time. Less than 3 minutes later, I heard the bedroom door open, I jumped up and quickly dropped my phone, and started busying myself with trying to get the content from the fridge. She caught me and started laughing.

I was so angry because it's not as if she had caught me cheating or doing something actually wrong. I felt like an !diot for letting it get to the stage where it feels like I'm scared of her. I told her it wasn't funny and when she tried to hold me, I felt irritated and asked her to leave me alone.
She got angry and left me in annoyance.

I want to talk to her later, basically to let her know how i feel and probably find a nice way to tell her to be easy on the 'hovering'. Because it now feels as if I'm being choked or something.

You never choke oo, when you finally get to that level, nobody would tell before you voice out ok.

MEANWHILE,THIS TYPE OF LOVE, PLS HAVE IT AT BACK OF UR MIND THAT, WHEN IT EVENTUALLY FADE, YOU PEOPLE WOULD BE LIKE WORST ENEMY.

Experiences show, this type of Romeo & Juliet, dnt used to pass, the test of time.

Unhealthy relationship hahah
She’s only pretending, at some point you’ll be amazed at what you see, she’ll leave you and get along with her new catch like she have never met you before

You’ll be depressed at their level of pretentious nature

Holuwahphemy:



I love this. Thanks

I am talking from experience bro, it worked for me like magic

Lol... Money dey ur hand na why she dey clinch you every seconds. Try acting dead broke for a month or even less and see the way she will be giving you a thousand metres distance anywhere una dey

May your love last forever!!!

Holuwahphemy:
Hello Nairalanders

Please I need your advice on a pressing issue.

I love my girlfriend so much, and to a certain degree, I'm convinced it is reciprocal.

But sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the way she's all over me. There is this three seater sofa in my sitting room that looks older than the other sofas, despite the fact that they were all bought and brought in the same day. This is because I dare not sit elsewhere aside with her on that particular sofa. if I do, I'm calling for a fight. She's always wanting to be in a cuddle with me.

In the bedroom, our bodies must touch. If I stand up to the restroom to ease myself or do the other, if I'm not back within a short period of time, she's either calling out from the room, or coming to the bathroom to check what's up.

She literally follows me everywhere. To buy fuel, cut my hair, get something across the street, pick something from the car, you name it, the list is endless.

This has affected me that, in the rare moments that we are not together, probably when she's visiting her parents. I walk around like a zombie. Sometimes I'll do something as wierd as going to the closet to smell her clothes.

Something happened this morning, that actually called for the creation of this topic.

We were in the bedroom and she was sleeping, so I stood up to ease myself and get something from the fridge. What I wanted to get was stuck, so I left the fridge open to melt down the ice a little. Which I waited, I sat on one of the sofas, and was surfing the web on my phone, just to kill time. Less than 3 minutes later, I heard the bedroom door open, I jumped up and quickly dropped my phone, and started busying myself with trying to get the content from the fridge. She caught me and started laughing.

I was so angry because it's not as if she had caught me cheating or doing something actually wrong. I felt like an !diot for letting it get to the stage where it feels like I'm scared of her. I told her it wasn't funny and when she tried to hold me, I felt irritated and asked her to leave me alone.
She got angry and left me in annoyance.

I want to talk to her later, basically to let her know how i feel and probably find a nice way to tell her to be easy on the 'hovering'. Because it now feels as if I'm being choked or something.

Bro, if this is true, pls enjoy it while it lasts. She loves you. Your presence counts alot in her life. Like me for example, I've been married for the past 8 years, my wife never cuddle me for a day after our marriage. She has changed. So, enjoy it while it last bro

I once had a girlfriend exactly like the one you described...

I broke up with her because I couldn't stomach all that attention. And besides I am the type that like my private space. And mostly like to do things on my own. So It felt really choking.

She loved kids too... With even more vigour and I knew within me the attention would shift from me once she started having hers.

But I wasn't just ready for that kind of attention. Such love can become toxic in my opinion.

Talk to her about it...maybe it will help. In my case it didn't!

You have to be happy bro that your girl is extremely attracted to you. I had a girl like that recently I got tired and became very abusive to her. As I am talking to u now my love life is a living hell because she totally changed in to a monster givinge so much trouble