I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

TheTravelingOne:
I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

If this story is true, what's stopping her from going back to the US?
Or is she willing to give the guy's older brother papers to go live in the US as well?

The story is 100% true. It’s me I wrote about, my life. I gave up my nice comfortable life to come to Lagos for this man. My nice apartment, my BMW, 90% of my belongings down to 3 suitcases I came here with. I have nothing to go back too, nothing. My family can’t take me, I am not their responsibility nor do I want to be a burden to them. They told me not to come here and I thought I would prove them wrong.
I never in a million years expected a man to tell me he loves me one day, then leave Nigeria never to return the next day.
What kind of human being can do this kind of shxt?

Bankowner:

If this story is true, what's stopping her from going back to the US?
Or is she willing to give the guy's older brother papers to go live in the US as well?

welcome to nigeria


you've been scammed for marriage.

Story story.

If you're his lawfully wedded wife. Please move in with his family. They are now your family too and will be your support system. Ignore him. He is still naive. Just maintain contact with him and have patience. He'll definitely come to his senses one day.

TheTravelingOne:
The story is 100% true. It’s me I wrote about, my life. I gave up my nice comfortable life to come to Lagos for this man. My nice apartment, my BMW, 90% of my belongings down to 3 suitcases I came here with. I have nothing to go back too, nothing. My family can’t take me, I am not their responsibility nor do I want to be a burden to them. They told me not to come here and I thought I would prove them wrong.
I never in a million years expected a man to tell me he loves me one day, then leave Nigeria never to return the next day.
What kind of human being can do this kind of shxt?

I cannot but wish you well. I hope you find that you want that will give you comfort.

TheTravelingOne:
I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

Only God know what a lot of good ladies are going through in the hands of heartless men, but a lot of men everywhere are shouting, women are bad, they are evil.

I have a close Nigga that dated a very decent and hardworking sweet soul, both of them I know since day 1. What this guy did to this sweet girl ehn, it will take only the grace of God to soften her heart towards men.

The country is just filled with irresponsible men and when the ladies bounce back stronger, they see the monsters they made and start complaining.
MAY GOD BE WITH U, GIVE U THE HEALING U REQUIRE and know that, this mess is a way of getting u to your real path in life, GOD'S PLAN IS D BEST.

Fireoflife:
If you're his lawfully wedded wife. Please move in with his family. They are now your family too and will be your support system. Ignore him. He is still naive. Just maintain contact with him and have patience. He'll definitely come to his senses one day.

NEVER!. greater problems abound in that route.
The only option now is, to keep moving.
The ways of God is always the best, She is still breathing, all hope is intact.

Thank you. I appreciate your kindness.

MSN1:

Only God know what a lot of good ladies are going through in the hands of heartless men, but a lot of men everywhere are shouting, women are bad, they are evil.

I have a close Nigga that dated a very decent and hardworking sweet soul, both of them I know since day 1. What this guy did to this sweet girl ehn, it will take only the grace of God to soften her heart towards men.

The country is just filled with irresponsible men and when the ladies bounce back stronger, they see the monsters they made and start complaining.
MAY GOD BE WITH U, GIVE U HE HEALING U REQUIRE and know that, this mess is a way of getting u to your real path in life, GOD'S PLAN IS D BEST.

We are not married. He went to South Africa for 3 weeks to get his visa settled, said he’s be back and we will get married, then both relocate to SA together THEN apply for his US visa. Now he’s been gone 3 months next week and I was told last night that he’s not coming back and to marry his brother if I want to marry someone
Mind you, we were fine, making plans and on good terms with each other & our plans until I stumbled on a girl he befriended there about 2-3 weeks ago. Since then, I guess he’s decided he’s not coming back for me. I have no idea what changed him from I love you to, im not coming back and telling me to marry his brother.
He is a music “artist” by the way. He uses his music that he makes zero money from to get females.
I’m so done. I’m very very close to getting him deported from SA.

Fireoflife:
If you're his lawfully wedded wife. Please move in with his family. They are now your family too and will be your support system. Ignore him. He is still naive. Just maintain contact with him and have patience. He'll definitely come to his senses one day.

I am with his family. I traveled to Ibadan to be with them for support. And they are caring for me, my health hasn’t been the best with all this stress.
& you’re right. He is naive. I’m not perfect but he has a good, loyal, employed and committed woman in front of him and he tosses me for 20 years old girls that worship him cause he’s “an artist”.
Still I’m sad, depressed and I feel thrown away like a piece of trash.

Fireoflife:
If you're his lawfully wedded wife. Please move in with his family. They are now your family too and will be your support system. Ignore him. He is still naive. Just maintain contact with him and have patience. He'll definitely come to his senses one day.

MSN1:

Only God know what a lot of good ladies are going through in the hands of heartless men, but a lot of men everywhere are shouting, women are bad, they are evil.

I have a close Nigga that dated a very decent and hardworking sweet soul, both of them I know since day 1. What this guy did to this sweet girl ehn, it will take only the grace of God to soften her heart towards men.

The country is just filled with irresponsible men and when the ladies bounce back stronger, they see the monsters they made and start complaining.
MAY GOD BE WITH U, GIVE U HE HEALING U REQUIRE and know that, this mess is a way of getting u to your real path in life, GOD'S PLAN IS D BEST.

It’s not a male thing, ladies are demonic as well as guys in this regard. My best friend in Lagos relocated his family to the UK early this year, he paid for his wife’s master degree program and paid for more than 3-4 months rent at 1k pounds/month plus. Guess what? The wife, the wife frustrated him overseas and seized his passport saying she doesn’t want the marriage anymore. Took his kids, it was a miracle how the guy came back to Nigeria to start over again. When he got back, he called me and we were both crying on the phone. This guy spent more that 60-70M, he lost his wife, kids and sanity!

nairaman66:


It’s not a male thing, ladies are demonic as well as guys in this regard. My best friend in Lagos relocated his family to the UK early this year, he paid for his wife’s master degree program and paid for more than 3-4 months rent at 1k pound plus. Guess what? The wife, the wife frustrated him overseas and seized his passport saying she doesn’t want the marriage anymore. Took his kids, it was a miracle how the guy came back to Nigeria to start over again. When he got back, he called me and we were both crying on the phone. This guy spent more that 60-70M, he lost his wife, kids and sanity!

Pathetic!. Problems in marriages is not a gender thing, this I know and always tell people but most NLs are just too gender biased.
Sorry, about your Nigga and please, your circle should put heads together to support him emotionally.
Majority of men could run mad or take their own life, ITS JUST TOO EXTREME.

MSN1:

Pathetic!. Problems in marriages is not a gender thing, this I know and always tell people but most NLs are just too gender biased.
Sorry, about your Nigga and please, your circle should put heads together to support him emotionally.
Majority of men could run mad or take their own life, ITS JUST TOO EXTREME.

He is getting by, by the day.

I’m not perfect, no one is but I’m a loyal and committed woman. Even after finding about several girls months apart on his IG. I’ve still stayed loyal to him. I’m not a slay queen, or a big ass baddie but I’m not a ugly woman either. I have a million other things that these little girls he chases can’t ever give him. He’s ruined my self esteem snd my confidence chasing pussy. I’m employed, well traveled, loving and nurturing. Our problem has been, when I find these girls, I go off the rails and lose my mind. He wants me to keep quiet about his doings. But no more. I’ve told all his family, his friends are next and whoever else. I want people to know he’s not this nice guy he portrays himself to be. Yes I’m hurt & frankly devastated that someone who I’ve loved so deeply can do this to me & think it’s nothing.

nairaman66:


It’s not a male thing, ladies are demonic as well as guys in this regard. My best friend in Lagos relocated his family to the UK early this year, he paid for his wife’s master degree program and paid for more than 3-4 months rent at 1k pound plus. Guess what? The wife, the wife frustrated him overseas and seized his passport saying she doesn’t want the marriage anymore. Took his kids, it was a miracle how the guy came back to Nigeria to start over again. When he got back, he called me and we were both crying on the phone. This guy spent more that 60-70M, he lost his wife, kids and sanity!

What were you thinking?

nairaman66:


It’s not a male thing, ladies are demonic as well as guys in this regard. My best friend in Lagos relocated his family to the UK early this year, he paid for his wife’s master degree program and paid for more than 3-4 months rent at 1k pound plus. Guess what? The wife, the wife frustrated him overseas and seized his passport saying she doesn’t want the marriage anymore. Took his kids, it was a miracle how the guy came back to Nigeria to start over again. When he got back, he called me and we were both crying on the phone. This guy spent more that 60-70M, he lost his wife, kids and sanity!

Did you hear his wife's side of the story?

1Sharon:


Did you hear his wife's side of the story?

Lol! The wife’s mother said her daughter is demonic! This guy cannot hurt a fly my dear..

Chai next time you'll avoid yoruba men by fire by force




Commit sudoku before it's too late

TheTravelingOne:
I’m not perfect, no one is but I’m a loyal and committed woman. Even after finding about several girls months apart on his IG. I’ve still stayed loyal to him. I’m not a slay queen, or a big ass baddie but I’m not a ugly woman either. I have a million other things that these little girls he chases can’t ever give him. He’s ruined my self esteem snd my confidence chasing pussy. I’m employed, well traveled, loving and nurturing. Our problem has been, when I find these girls, I go off the rails and lose my mind. He wants me to keep quiet about his doings. But no more. I’ve told all his family, his friends are next and whoever else. I want people to know he’s not this nice guy he portrays himself to be. Yes I’m hurt & frankly devastated that someone who I’ve loved so deeply can do this to me & think it’s nothing.

I hope you can heal and find someone who sincerely and genuinely love and cares about you. Life’s like that, when he comes his sense, you’d be far gone and he will live to regret that the rest of his life.

TheTravelingOne:
I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

First thing first apologize to your parents first and sort ur issues with ur parents.. your family will always be there for you...talk to your boyfriend again and reconfirm he is no longer interested in marrying you..then begin make preparation on how to go back unless you have made up ur mind to remain in naija..cos really I don't know how long ur boyfriend's family will accommodate you.you need to look out for yourself now

nairaman66:


Lol! The wife’s mother said her daughter is demonic! This guy cannot hurt a fly my dear..

What led to her antics? What did he do?

Story story.

I’m not a liability like you are saying. I work and make USD, I’m good financially. But being thrown away and abandoned in a foreign country doesn’t feel good.

stacyadams:



First thing first apologize to your parents first and sort ur issues with ur parents.. your family will always be there for you...talk to your boyfriend again and reconfirm he is no longer interested in marrying you..then begin make preparation on how to go back unless you have made up ur mind to remain in naija..cos really I don't know how long ur boyfriend's family will accommodate you.you need to look out for yourself now

Thank you.

nairaman66:


I hope you can heal and find someone who sincerely and genuinely love and cares about you. Life’s like that, when he comes his sense, you’d be far gone and he will live to regret that the rest of his life.

How old are you?
And how old is he?

Are you overweight?
Akata levels

1Sharon:


What led to her antics? What did he do?

Obviously she has sisters who push for gender equality to the extreme and advices her to leave the man that she deserves better. Deserving better goes both ways. He never cheated nor did anything to the wife!

So what do you want us to do now?

Return back to your country. Plan his deportation from SA and harden up. Don't reconcile with him again, don't be a fool twice. I pray genuine love finds you. Pick yourself together and move on.

Things dey occur… 😢

nairaman66:

It’s not a male thing, ladies are demonic as well as guys in this regard. My best friend in Lagos relocated his family to the UK early this year, he paid for his wife’s master degree program and paid for more than 3-4 months rent at 1k pound plus. Guess what? The wife, the wife frustrated him overseas and seized his passport saying she doesn’t want the marriage anymore. Took his kids, it was a miracle how the guy came back to Nigeria to start over again. When he got back, he called me and we were both crying on the phone. This guy spent more that 60-70M, he lost his wife, kids and sanity!

It is well…