TheTravelingOne:
I am with his family. I traveled to Ibadan to be with them for support. And they are caring for me, my health hasn’t been the best with all this stress.
& you’re right. He is naive. I’m not perfect but he has a good, loyal, employed and committed woman in front of him and he tosses me for 20 years old girls that worship him cause he’s “an artist”.
Still I’m sad, depressed and I feel thrown away like a piece of trash.

Buziness101:


Forget about him dear, I'll marry you instead and we live happily ever after... He does not deserve a good woman like you. U deserve better. Please contact me 08113259274

TheTravelingOne:
I’m not expecting anyone to help me on here. I’m just In shock honestly.

LordIsaac:

😁😁😁…I’ll hear from him first. No man throws away what brings him peace. But let’s be patient. I’ll communicate with him.

TheTravelingOne:
We are not married. He went to South Africa for 3 weeks to get his visa settled, said he’s be back and we will get married, then both relocate to SA together THEN apply for his US visa. Now he’s been gone 3 months next week and I was told last night that he’s not coming back and to marry his brother if I want to marry someone
Mind you, we were fine, making plans and on good terms with each other & our plans until I stumbled on a girl he befriended there about 2-3 weeks ago. Since then, I guess he’s decided he’s not coming back for me. I have no idea what changed him from I love you to, im not coming back and telling me to marry his brother.
He is a music “artist” by the way. He uses his music that he makes zero money from to get females.
I’m so done. I’m very very close to getting him deported from SA.

TheTravelingOne:
I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

franchasofficia:
It's so sad that ladies will ignore and snub sensible young men and foolishly accept useless boys who hide their uselessness in "I am a music artist, I am into entertainment, I will soon blow as soon as I finish mastering my hit song, bla bla bla"


Any lady that loves guys into entertainment is done for, she will definitely end up with the wrong guys.


Fortunately or unfortunately, entertainment industry and showbiz are where you will get the worst of Nigerian guys hiding. Next is Internet fraud aka Yahoo Yahoo. These two areas houses the most number of unserious, senseless guys in Nigeria, avoid them like plague.



You have made the mistake already, you need to count your losses and face your biggest fear which is going back to the United States.


You are lucky to be a citizen of a great country with great opportunities, so pick yourself up and start from the ground again by returning back to United States to start life anew but this time, with utmost caution.


In life, always listen to the counsel of your parents, they always want the best for you. Your refusal to heed to your parent's counsel led you into this mess.


The guy is a scam, he is a catfish, he is an Internet romance scammer and you are his victim, so the earlier you realize this the better.


You foreign ladies always make the same mistakes of falling and accepting the wrong Nigerian guys and at the end you ladies judge all Nigerian guys as bad whereas it was your mistake.

Good and homely Nigerian guys are hardly into entertainment. You can mostly find them on general forums like this not on TikTok, Facebook and Instagram showcasing their six packs and fine boyness.


You will find worthy Nigerian guys on upwork, freelancer, Quora, LinkedIn, etc, not on some hot Internet dating websites or Snapchat.


If you want to meet worthy Nigerian guys for a serious relationship or romance as a foreign lady, join general forums like this, and other quality platforms I mentioned earlier focused on how to grow career, make legitimate money and improve personal skills.

franchasofficia:
It's so sad that ladies will ignore and snub sensible young men and foolishly accept useless boys who hide their uselessness in "I am a music artist, I am into entertainment, I will soon blow as soon as I finish mastering my hit song, bla bla bla"


Any lady that loves guys into entertainment is done for, she will definitely end up with the wrong guys.


Fortunately or unfortunately, entertainment industry and showbiz are where you will get the worst of Nigerian guys hiding. Next is Internet fraud aka Yahoo Yahoo. These two areas houses the most number of unserious, senseless guys in Nigeria, avoid them like plague.



You have made the mistake already, you need to count your losses and face your biggest fear which is going back to the United States.


You are lucky to be a citizen of a great country with great opportunities, so pick yourself up and start from the ground again by returning back to United States to start life anew but this time, with utmost caution.


In life, always listen to the counsel of your parents, they always want the best for you. Your refusal to heed to your parent's counsel led you into this mess.


The guy is a scam, he is a catfish, he is an Internet romance scammer and you are his victim, so the earlier you realize this the better.


You foreign ladies always make the same mistakes of falling and accepting the wrong Nigerian guys and at the end you ladies judge all Nigerian guys as bad whereas it was your mistake.

Good and homely Nigerian guys are hardly into entertainment. You can mostly find them on general forums like this not on TikTok, Facebook and Instagram showcasing their six packs and fine boyness.


You will find worthy Nigerian guys on upwork, freelancer, Quora, LinkedIn, etc, not on some hot Internet dating websites or Snapchat.


If you want to meet worthy Nigerian guys for a serious relationship or romance as a foreign lady, join general forums like this, and other quality platforms I mentioned earlier focused on how to grow career, make legitimate money and improve personal skills.

1Sharon:



Scammers.


Everything you claim Nigerian women are, is exactly what you are. Your leaching nature manifests when you encounter foreign women.

valicious1:


Can you come to Ghana ?

Sapasenator:
They wont deport him if he has not broken any laws in SA. I would suggest to not spend any further energy or time over him. The important aspect is the lessons learnt. Just move on with your life.

TheTravelingOne:
Yes. I have learned a very very big lesson in my life. I can hardly return home in shame. I may even go to another country and start a new life by myself. It’s hard but thankfully I have my own money. I’m not rich but I can at least sustain myself.
I will probably never trust another man again, I’m so broken and damaged this moment. There’s lots of evil people walking on this earth. I’m just naive I guess that someone can do this to me, someone that I gave my all plus some too.

TheTravelingOne:
He has broken the law. He has a fake $4000 SA visa. That’s a very good reason to deport him, especially a Nigerian will get beat then deported.
& normally I would cut my loss and move on but this time, I gave too much and got shitted on too many times. I want him to hurt too. For example, before I moved here, I sent him 8m to find a place for us to live in lekki. He had his own money too but I definitely did a lot for us.

franchasofficia:
I wish you the best.

You can start life afresh in a new state far from where your family lives. US is very big, 52 states, find somewhere far and go there to start life afresh with new hope, new goals, new vision and new lessons about life.


If you do not believe in God before, now is the time to draw closer to God through prayers, meditation, supplication and studying the Bible. I am not saying you should turn to a religious Church goer, no please, just try and develop personal relationship with God and it will guide you and protect you from harm. God is real, God exist, there is power in the word of God.


Don't rush to enter into any relationship with anybody right now, don't even entertain such conversation. if anyone send you private message or something asking to be your friend, please be careful and just keep only online friends for emotional support, career guide, and psychological balance.


Please I want to reiterate the need for you to return back to United States your home country where you stand greater chance of standing up again faster, at least you know the terrain, the culture, the Do's and Don'ts. Unlike starting in a new country, please consider this, except you have a globally accepted and lucrative skill that will help you secure job in a new country so you don't go there to start from scratch.


I pray Almighty God comfort you and give you a reason to smile again soonest.

MikeofKd:

Sister come and marry me. I be fine boy , intelligent ,can cook and clean but I need that green card badly ,deal ?

TheTravelingOne:
Thank you. I have a tight relationship with god. I’m not religious but a spiritual person. I have a job, work from
Home. I just need my laptop, headset and phone. I am looking forward to a new start honestly I’ve been stressed since I arrived in Lagos. I’m well traveled, been to 22 countries, so starting new in a new country is not such a big deal for me. & definitely no relationship anytime soon, maybe even never. I’m so traumatized. I understand Yoruba devil sayings now. Smh

franchasofficia:
It is well, sighs


May Almighty God and His Angels guide and protect you. May you see many reasons to smile again sooner than later. Your story is really touching, life, it's well. Take care and be strong, this moment will definitely pass.

Homeboiy:
How old are you?
And how old is he?

Are you overweight?
Akata levels

dkidd:

Stop this bs

TheTravelingOne:
I’m not a liability like you are saying. I work and make USD, I’m good financially. But being thrown away and abandoned in a foreign country doesn’t feel good.

ThothHermes:
Can't you just return to the US?

TheTravelingOne:
Yes of course I can. I will return to nothing but I can still return. Question is, so I want too. I have lived abroad for a long time now, spending in between in the US. Lived in Europe , Switzerland….&’yes I’m a black American woman. I am just a traveler. So who knows where I will end up, somewhere affordable though.

Kaczynski:
Chai next time you'll avoid yoruba men by fire by force




Commit sudoku before it's too late

jamesversion:


Relocate to Tulsa, Oklahoma. Its affordable enough.

TheTravelingOne:
We are not married. He went to South Africa for 3 weeks to get his visa settled, said he’s be back and we will get married, then both relocate to SA together THEN apply for his US visa. Now he’s been gone 3 months next week and I was told last night that he’s not coming back and to marry his brother if I want to marry someone
Mind you, we were fine, making plans and on good terms with each other & our plans until I stumbled on a girl he befriended there about 2-3 weeks ago. Since then, I guess he’s decided he’s not coming back for me. I have no idea what changed him from I love you to, im not coming back and telling me to marry his brother.
He is a music “artist” by the way. He uses his music that he makes zero money from to get females.
I’m so done. I’m very very close to getting him deported from SA.