Auntie, sorry for what has happened. Good to still hear you say you love Nigeria and Nigerians. This was just a sad and painful experience.

I will join those who are advising you put all these behind you and move back to the US, to start on a fresh chapter. Live goes on! Cheers!

TheTravelingOne:
I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

My dear please kindly put yourself together. Maybe he thought you had money and he just found out that you were just in it for the love. Please just take out time and enjoy Nigeria. Then make plans on how to either relocate or establish yourself.

Something doesn't ring quite true about this thread. Jakumo what do you make of this?

1Sharon:



Scammers.


Everything you claim Nigerian women are, is exactly what you are. Your leaching nature manifests when you encounter foreign women.

See this local chicken, who called you into this. Where you informed this is a meeting for local criminals like you?

Please Evil Sharon stay out of my mention or I will grill and eat you.

Emmanuel909090:


See this local chicken, who called you into this. Where you informed this is a meeting for local criminals like you?

Please Evil Sharon stay out of my mention or I will grill and eat you.

Lol. Who be criminal? Me or you?

Thief

TheTravelingOne:
I sent 8m to get a nice place for US to live, not him. I have certain standards coming from the US

Well, I guess that 8M is now up in the air. That was a drastic decision to make for someone you ain't married to.

TheTravelingOne:
I agree it’s slightly weird being around his family knowing he feeds them & I’m just a visitor really. I don’t plan to be around here long. Just being alone in Nigeria for a woman, a foreign one can get quite scary. It’s like living in prison, so I reached to his family for help because they treat me as family. No harm done.

You seem like a very stubborn woman, you better do exactly what that guy (@dkidd) said, he knows what he's saying. I know you're going through pain right now but you're not safe there. They know exactly what their son is capable of! Don't say you were not warned!

1Sharon:


Lol. Who be criminal? Me or you?

Thief

I love you Sharon.

techgen:
Your story is a pathetic one, but I can sure relate…truth be told, the guy is into you…but there are some things he’s not comfortable with about you…and whenever he brings it up, you makes no sense of it.

Again, a man who is passionate about is career finds women who are clingy annoying.

And been groomed in the states…your mentality will be different from his, like in the area of house shores, cooking and probably shopping.

From your description and of him, he is not a scammer, if not…nothing stops him from making the moves for good 4 years and good enough, you said he has is own money.

Again, he might has said what he told you of marrying his elder to out of anger.

My advice…work on yourself, especially does things he has pointed to you…and it seems you assume a lot and monitors his every moves.

Relationship is all about knowing what works for your partner and give some level of tolerance.

I’m also surprised that you guys lived for over two years and he didn’t impregnate you, or even make a move on marriage…there’s something you’re not telling.

***I can attest to the fact that whatever he said is out of anger, 3months is just too early to assume that he has abandoned you.

No man leaves a woman, who stood by him, when he had nothing.

Just listen to yourself @ d bolded then check your brain if u are being objective or biased. I bet u didn't read the part where she said that, the fool was always messing around with young girls ( with someone's money he ought to be planning life together with), so as a girl that have sacrificed everything, WHAT MESSAGE DOES THAT SEND TO U? Because its obvious u are blaming OP 100% and justifying that ingrate's wickedness.
Sometimes I wonder what u people benefit from being gender biased or unreasonable. A man can be evil, same with women. Go to the first page and read what a nairalander related to me and u will realize that, evil is not a gender centered thing, rather; an issue of individual difference. Even if OP had done anything very bad, why not send her away peacefully, since he knows how she had given up everything to relocate to Nigeria. DO U EVEN KNOW WHAT IT TAKES TO FALL BACK TO SQUARE ZERO?

@ OP, please don't listen to anyone here trying to make u feel u did something wrong that prompted the idiot to dump u like thrash. Even if u did, he would have @ least, inform his family and work out means to send u back home, D GUY NA IDIOT!

Pick up your broken self and move back home because, greater problems and heartbreaks will arise in your continuous staying with his family. THERE IS NOTHING LEFT FOR U THERE and NEVER allow the idiot to use u as a consolation or means to fall back to, when things later goes south for him, U ARE WAY TOO GOOD TO BE TOSSED LIKE DICE. Move now, when u still have your life and sanity, Trust me,
No amount of money can replace any of those.

I wish u the best of luck.

1Sharon:


Did you hear his wife's side of the story?

I know say na wetin your fishlips would say na .no be you ? UK slayqueen isonu!!!

He spent 70M, paid her master's fees and you think he hated her? Kai ..your mumu dey scare me sha...

So she seized his passport and frustrated him to leave after collecting his money and you are still asking wetin him do?🤣

Nah the man I blame na ..if he is no simp, why dafuq would he make her the applicant and himself the dependant. But I have no pity for simps like him.

nairaman66:


Lol! The wife’s mother said her daughter is demonic! This guy cannot hurt a fly my dear..

HE IS A SIMP!

and women hate simps ..she used him and dumped him. Who but a punk makes his wife the applicant and himself the dependant? Women don't know how to handle power...they never have and never will

1Sharon:


What led to her antics? What did he do?

*Sighs*

AcadaWriter:
Story story.

This boy, is there something wrong with you?

luminouz:

HE IS A SIMP!

and women hate simps ..she used him and dumped him. Who but a punk makes his wife the applicant and himself the dependant? Women don't know how to handle power...they never have and never will

Shit up. You all with your mouth open as wide as a tank spilling rubbish! You don’t even know this guy in question, yet jumped into conclusion! Get lost 😞 f you have nothing meaningful to say.

meobizy:
This boy, is there something wrong with you?

Maybe?

1Sharon:


Did you hear his wife's side of the story?

Quick to ask perhaps in defence of your gender, what happened to asking same about this thread?

Yeah, we need both sides of the stories for balance, but always seek balance and not biasing your inquisition to one side

Now to the OP,
It is obvious you have alot of toxic traits that puts off alot of men, they rub us of peace. I for one, I can't marry such a brawling, nagging, bragging, probably expended woman like you - i am sorry but that is just me

/quote] same here i don't know if her story is real or she is another scammer, but the truth is the family are just saping her money and wanting green card for any their son, and they push her out, now she came online to do what exactly since she seem not to heed advice, most of them online male or female will take advantage of her emotions now and still manipulate her, she will end up worst if not dead if she continues like this, she ain't street smart i just pity her.

nairaman66:


Shit up. You all with your mouth open as wide as a tank spilling rubbish! You don’t even know this guy in question, yet jumped into conclusion! Get lost 😞 f you have nothing meaningful to say.

Did I hurt your feelings? I'm so sorry!!! 🤣🤣🤣

But direct your anger at your friend, not me. There is no way I would have made the mistake he made. You lots don't know women and you won't accept the redpill but get angry at us when una get burnt .. women will continue to teach una lessons

luminouz:

Did I hurt your feelings? I'm so sorry!!! 🤣🤣🤣

But direct your anger at your friend, not me. There is no way I would have made the mistake he made. You lots don't know women and you won't accept the redpill but get angry at us when una get burnt .. women will continue to teach una lessons

There is nothing like redpill or otherwise! All these woke attitude are nothing more than youthful exurberance. You are a small boy, not sure if you ever made a million in your life.

Stick to what works for you! In the end, everyone knows where their shoes hurt. Staying in your mums house or a friends house forming Redpill, isn’t this ironic? I can’t banter with someone who haven’t been able to feed himself, not to talk of having a life partner. Pathetic dumpster

nairaman66:


There is nothing like redpill or otherwise! All these woke attitude are nothing more than youthful exurberance. You are a small boy, not sure if you ever made a million in your life.

Stick to what works for you! In the end, everyone knows where their shoes hurt. Staying in your mums house or a friends house forming Redpill, isn’t this ironic? I can’t banter with someone who haven’t been able to feed himself, not to talk of having a life partner. Pathetic dumpster

Damn....just a small comment from me and you are this ticked off and foaming at the mouth? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

If I can rile you up this easily, women can easily control you too.

Don't hate the player nigga, play the game. Instead of being mad at me, learn the redpill or perish.

My last reply to you

luminouz:

Damn....just a small comment from me and you are this ticked off and foaming at the mouth? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

If I can rile you up this easily, women can easily control you too.

Don't hate the player nigga, play the game. Instead of being mad at me, learn the redpill or perish.

My last reply to you

You are kid with little knowledge of what life is all about. A low lifer forming redpill

luminouz:

I know say na wetin your fishlips would say na .no be you ? UK slayqueen isonu!!!

He spent 70M, paid her master's fees and you think he hated her? Kai ..your mumu dey scare me sha...

So she seized his passport and frustrated him to leave after collecting his money and you are still asking wetin him do?🤣

Nah the man I blame na ..if he is no simp, why dafuq would he make her the applicant and himself the dependant. But I have no pity for simps like him.

Our fathers of old would have never made this comment.

1Sharon:


Our fathers of old would have never made this comment.

Our mothers of old would never chase out a man who paid bride price on her, sent her to school and took her abroad.

Joke is on you,fishlips. You need to remove your fake ass eyelashes to see well, bozo!!!

[quote author=MSN1 post=130398123]
NEVER!. greater problems abound in that route.
The only option now is, to keep moving.
The ways of God is always the best, She is still breathing, [/b]all hope is intact[b]

I like that... _all hope is intact._

TheTravelingOne:
I gave up everything I own and moved here from the states to marry my Nigerian man and build a new life with him. We were long distance for 2 years and I’ve now lived here 2.5 years. We’ve been on/off/on/off most of the time I’ve lived here.
Now finally, we had a come to Jesus with each other and decided to marry, relocate to South Africa and apply for him to live in the US. He left going to SA, saying he’s coming back in 3 weeks. 3 weeks has now turned to 3 months. & now, yesterday he told me he’s not coming back. He said he’s not marrying me and I should marry his eldest brother if I want to marry.
So now I sit here in SHOCK….
I honestly don’t know what to do. His family is also shocked.
While he’s there, a few weeks ago, I caught him with a girl on IG, which he denies.
We’ve had our ups and downs but I honestly never thought he would outright abandon me in Nigeria while he goes to another country. What kind of person does this
I’m still trying to pick myself up off the floor.

& before you say scam. I felt like I knew him since being together for 4 years, I believe he truly loved me but something happened since he went to SA. Maybe the girl I found him with or maybe he just decided he doesn’t want me after all. And that’s fine but this isn’t the way you leave someone, abandoning them in Nigeria.
Luckily for me, his family is supportive and helpful.
Otherwise I’d be 100% lost.
I’m just venting because honestly I’m in shock & hurting.

This is Breach of Trust....

I think Patnership should be established as Business so that the one that breach can be sued .....

Kindly reach out to Interpol ... something must be done on this kain matter!

MSN1:
.

The country is just filled with irresponsible men and when the ladies bounce back stronger, they see the monsters they made and start complaining.
MAY GOD BE WITH U, GIVE U THE HEALING U REQUIRE and know that, this mess is a way of getting u to your real path in life, GOD'S PLAN IS D BEST.

I'm telling You !!
We all Made Monsters Out of Ourselves through Our Actions !

TheTravelingOne:
I am with his family. I traveled to Ibadan to be with them for support. And they are caring for me, my health hasn’t been the best with all this stress.
& you’re right. He is naive. I’m not perfect but he has a good, loyal, employed and committed woman in front of him and he tosses me for 20 years old girls that worship him cause he’s “an artist”.
Still I’m sad, depressed and I feel thrown away like a piece of trash.

Is he a Yoruba Demon
Ahhhh, Omoburuku Ni Bobo Yi !

But we’re not married….so….

Thomasese:
welcome to nigeria


you've been scammed for marriage.

DanseMacabre:
Something doesn't ring quite true about this thread. Jakumo what do you make of this?

Perhaps, you sense a Nigerianness in the casual vocabulary used. Good grammar, detectable Nigerian manner of speech.

TheTravelingOne:
I’m very tempted to post a picture. I know everyone thinks I’m a monster but really I’m not. & I’m not interested in anyone any time soon. I’m hurt, hurting, wounded and not even sure how to breathe at the moment

i can feel your pains.

TheTravelingOne:
But we’re not married….so….

It's obvious the guy doesn't see any need having you. Your value diminished some how if not the guy for stick around.
Lovescammers go for the biggest fish.

For real? The woman in this story is kidding right?