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Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Jeje247: 7:22am On Jun 17 |
Vikto17:Bros na rubbish you write up there. You want public validation from your brother because he puts up photos of others. We were having birthdays before smartphones and social media. This new craze is annoying. I personally don't give too much hoot about birthdays and I don't care if anyone posts me on SM and don't begrudge anyone for not celebrating me cos I don't even pay much attention to it. A text is even better than those fake PDA on SM He should open up on his life struggles despite what you are doing for him. Someone that considers not to overburden you is now a bad person. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Jeje247: 7:26am On Jun 17 |
Vikto17:Invite him to your house let him stay with you for a month. You people need some bonding. Obviously you have grown apart in some aspects which is part of maturity in our world of stress. Your time together will fix things naturally. Don't walk into a road of no return 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Karleb(m): 7:32am On Jun 17 |
Why are you responsible for him in the first place? Are you guys orphans? What are your parents doing? Omo! I don't understand Nigeria and our style of parenting. Even animals provide for their wards. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Jeje247: 7:36am On Jun 17 |
bluefilm:E funny me too. Big bro is supposed to be the strong one that others lean on. The second dad. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Laid2001: 8:12am On Jun 17 |
You are his senior brother, not his mate or pally. He owes you respect and not love. If you want him to be wishing you happy birthday, tell him, and you will be amazed his reaction. He probably doesn't think much about it, and he feels that is meant for his mates and friends. Once you find a way to express what you appreciate from him, he will surely change. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by tioyoung(m): 8:27am On Jun 17 |
Vikto17: Ur brother loves u. The difference between u ND him is esteem U have low self esteem why that of his is high I assist my younger brother who is in school when I have He doesn't call as often Sometimes I call he doesn't pick That will not change the ties we have he is my blood. See it like that call or no call He is ur bro fr life ND u are entitled to helping him |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by nairamaniac: 8:39am On Jun 17 |
immortalcrown: But Love is supposed to be appreciated, even if you are not expecting anything in return. Who knows what is in the brother's mind while the elder one is doing all these? All what the elder one is doing may one day be put into waste by the younger one due to whatever may be in his mind. However it may all be just the nature of the younger one. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Medici777: 9:01am On Jun 17 |
Vikto17: Please let’s hear his own side albeit it’s not a must to support him financially 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Zubeezanga(m): 9:43am On Jun 17 |
Akpabio22:U be bad person na ur type d kill for land, going spritual on a junior bro wtf guy 2 Likes |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by abauhere(m): 9:57am On Jun 17 |
akube34: Bro. Value who value you, recognize who recognize you, appreciate who appreciate you, respect who respect who, no send who no send you..you owe no brother a dime,you owe no family member a dime..!! Put yourself first,take care of you self and happiness first, in this life nobody send you, you don't know this until you are down, even the so called brother (family) will be the first to treat you like an alien...!! Bother yourself over nothing,bother yourself over nobody,cos you owe no one a dime..if anyone value and recognize you,let them come ask for it..!! |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Tonalphs(f): 9:59am On Jun 17 |
Westerhoffe:How can someone be nasty to you if you truly render them help? It doesn't make sense. This means that for every cause, there is an equal effect. Read his writeup sir, the answer is there. Even our parents that help us, we don't call them often or even show them off, it doesn't mean we don't think about them. Him wanting to be wished hbd on social media cos his bro post other people says alot. For example, I'm a die hard fan of kpop especially BTS, I post them everyday. But my parents, I don't even post them, say on birthdays and sometimes not. But I give them things, may not call them often. But imagine them getting angry that I post a musical boy group more than them. That's silly and petty 😂😂😂. I don laugh tire cos I can't seem to find fault in his younger one order than the fact that the writer feels he is alpha and Omega and besides him, his younger sibling will not survive. Make he commot him hand and see if the guy will die. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Fearjah: 10:00am On Jun 17 |
Vikto17: If you want help person whether na your brother oo or no be your brother help am. Abi e waste your money? No be everybody dey talk like woman. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Tonalphs(f): 10:04am On Jun 17 |
yemmit90:Walahi I understand him cos I've rendered help to people that don't post or call me and I nor send. Our relationship is great and I call them more cos family is family and your ability to understand family is very important. That person I rendered help that doesn't call me, na she dey brag about her siblings goodness to strangers pass. When you are sincere in your giving, praises don't matter. Life nor hard, if your heart is filled with love, you will see, think or hear no evil. E fit b say na his gf or wife go don put the thought in his head. Like see, so and so bro of yours isn't grateful. Life nor hard o. Person wey get today fit broke tomorrow. Let's give love knowing that nature reward is better than human effort of reward. If nature rewards you, she will cause strangers to your aid. If man reward you, the thank you wey he tell you naim be your reward. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:33am On Jun 17 |
kalvoken:you are just typing off point,,, so everyone that dislikes you means something is wrong with you!! It is the only social media aspect u deduct,, if he what about the calls? What about visit? Our last born that is barely 15yrs uses my Mother's phone to call me regularly,,, You must be in the same category with my said brother to make this assumptions... When l was in school l do regularly make contact with my uncles and Big cousin brothers,, l help them wash clothes and do domestic chores and go home with stipends ... Should l be the one running to him for closure when l haven't done anything bad to him? |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:35am On Jun 17 |
Angelfrost:Thanks bro,, l have done all this l have spoken to him and he didn't give any concrete reasons |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:36am On Jun 17 |
JDelight:you need to teach him how to be grateful,, or Else that attitude will wey you down one day 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:42am On Jun 17 |
LesPieux:if you are not daft is it only birthday post you can deduct? You have a brother who don't call, don't visit and communicate how will u feel? Or does been an Alpha male reset your senses? This is my blood l am talking about and not woman!!! |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:43am On Jun 17 |
BigDawsNet:And yet our last born,, his younger sister is more mature enough and understand all this things |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:48am On Jun 17 |
uckay304:see the way you made conclusions,,, The younger ones always calling l dont shout at the right? I pray he honestly gets ,, Because God knows l don't like making investments were it is not appreciated!! Every single person that gave me even a cup of water during my struggling days own my gratitude... What shouting and punishment did l give to him that l didn't give to others? |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:49am On Jun 17 |
Mikuni:You cannot love someone and claim not to relate or want to talk to them,, |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:50am On Jun 17 |
Akpabio22:Don't mind them,, if they are not in the situation they will never understand... |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by immortalcrown(m): 10:51am On Jun 17 |
nairamaniac:You misunderstand my comment. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 10:56am On Jun 17 |
jyz200:So an introvert communicate with others and ignore others,, did you read the post well? I will also learn to be introverted with my resources and love,,, can't deal with selfish people |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 11:04am On Jun 17 |
OdefaGirl:Thank you very much,, He talks as if l am toasting a girl..what investment did the said brother gave me that l am spending my money and resources on him...The fact that you are siblings should automatically generate love and cares |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by kalvoken(m): 11:07am On Jun 17 |
Vikto17: That's the problem, you failed to understand that everyone can not be same. If you can't draw your kid bro closer to you, to foster the lacking bond between you two, why are you blaming him for not coming closer. It takes two to tangle. Just because you think you have more than them doesn't mean they must be the ones seeking your attention. I just hope you get to understand this earlier. I stated it clearly how far apart i am with my senior brother in terms of bonding, but that doesn't mean we are quarreling or anything of such. So, yes, i am like your brother. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 11:26am On Jun 17 |
Azazyel:Did you read were l said he does this with others,, besides my brother is not a loner ,, He is an extrovert to the best of my knowledge... And when have demanding for love and appreciation from your own siblings become Authoritarian? You send money to a person you have to called them to know if they have seen it,, You gave him Money for Jamb,,He doesn't have the courtesy to tell you about his scores.. The same phone you bought for him he won't use it to call u.. when u called pray he is with the phone ,, if he is not he won't bother returning the call.. is that how u treat ur brothers,,put yourself in my shoes oga |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 11:45am On Jun 17 |
OBTOREPA:they fear me say l be masquerade? Why are his younger siblings not afraid of me if l am such a bad person |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Vikto17: 11:51am On Jun 17 |
shoodboi2:l do all that if he reciprocate this thread will not be existing |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by OVikkytan49: 11:54am On Jun 17 |
Some of you people are not advising the op the right way. He should withdraw his support? He should go ahead na, another helper will be there for him, maybe not very soon. And imagine what may be the consequence of that? Their relationship might forever be broken. @op you are childish, no offense intended. I also think you have enviness in your blood. Also feel you lack understanding and always see yourself as the victim. I'm sure your younger bro has a lot to say about your personality if asked. You said he's close to others ? Then that answers your questions. There are things about your personality he doesn't like. It's now left to you to figure out what those are. Do you scold him? Do you bad mouth and gossip about him? Do you belittle and ridicule him? Do you brush him off when bringing up an important conversation. Is he a heavy thinker, are you not? Do you lack understanding and inconsiderate? Do you hate taking responsibility for your actions and always playing the victim cards when things went South? Yeah, your personality Is the problem, he doesn't hate you. Sometimes, saying things that are nice, motivating, taking blame, showing high sense of understanding might make even the most introverted people open up to people. But when they don't see any of those In you, they keep their distance. It may also be that you have offended him in the past. And Introverts hardly get angry but when do, it gets ugly. Another question is do you know the meaning of INTROVERT? Imagine an elder brother telling his bro that' When I was at your age I already had landed property'. "People who are way younger than you are graduates already'. Meanwhile the elderbro is the author of the younger bro's slow journey in life. If your younger bro hardly calls u, why not be mature and call him. And whenever he calls you, the conversation leaves a distaste in his mouth. Also saying things that aren't true about his bro who later got to find out. A big bro that only sees his own hardship but not that of his younger bro. Big bro that may not send any money to younger for more than a year Even though he is well to do? I can relate with your younger bro because I was a victim and the fight we had went physical. @op you'd better bring down your pride and see things clearly. How about you see things from his own perspective? You'd be surprised at his level of understanding... And stop being INSECURE pls . Also say NO to victim cards and emotional manipulations. I'm sure your other siblings are tired of thses side of personality as well. Just that they are either quiet or pretending. |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by OdefaGirl(f): 11:56am On Jun 17 |
jaxxy: I'm glad that unconsciously or consciously you agreed with my point |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by Westerhoffe(m): 11:57am On Jun 17 |
Tonalphs: It's easy to disprove something because you've never experienced it before. That's all I'll say. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Brother Seems To Hate Me! by jaxxy(m): 12:03pm On Jun 17 |
OdefaGirl: yes as the IDEAL situation but not the REALITY. Just like marriage is expected to be a happy and blissful forever after (and many are) but in reality we have many divorces. |
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