Biglittlelois:



I'm always amazed by this line of thought you people come up with to justify bullshiit, didn't he approach the woman for a relationship while married and dated her? Isn't that cheating on his wife with a side chick? How do you people reason sef

It's called cheating only if he slept with the sidechic before marrying her, but from the look of things, he didn't, he just want to marry another wife, there's nothing wrong in that.

descarado:

Turkey is 100% Islamic country but polygamy is a crime there. Both foreigners and refugees.

You see this polygamy nonsense in third world countries. They will know Islam promotes 4 wives they cannot cater for. Very poor and wretched people that all they think about is sex and women subjugation.
Islamic right my foot.

You must be a female from your post, don't worry let your husband marry another wife and you do anyhow, you will get series of slaps, lol. 😂

Beremx:
Blogs have carried the news sef. I think Jarus is under pressure to marry a second wife. What does he want again in another woman? He has three kids I think. What else does he want abeg? Whatever issues he has with his wife he should sort it out.
I saw how he praised and adorned his wife on Facebook. Dude doesn't joke with his family.

Na wa o! I feel for his wife sha. 😭😭😭

Let him marry another wife if he can cater for her, the woman is just being too greedy, she just want all the attention and money for herself.

ThierryJay:
This is quite sad. Both Jarus and his wife are wrong.

Jarus should have resisted the temptation to beat her up regardless of his frustrations. Now his hard-earned reputation is at stake.

His wife is also wrong for attacking him physically kneeling on his neck from the twitter narrations which is also domestic abuse. Also she should not have gone fetish on him with evidence all around in the room.

I'm also quite shocked at his naivety. How the h*ll do you admit by yourself to commit domestic abuse on twitter of all places? Even if you think your religion gives you a cover for that, silence would have been golden in such instance.

Jarus really fall hand. But it is hard to ignore his extremely positive and value adding contributions to Nigerian youths and the professional career and business space. I guess his massive social credit should give him some soft landing cos in the end this is just a stumble. It does not define the blessing he has been for over 15 years.

Actually I'm pissed that he had to admit to that, dude should have kept quiet instead.

TheSuperX:
It's called cheating only if he slept with the sidechic before marrying her, but from the look of things, he didn't, he just want to marry another wife, there's nothing wrong in that.

Yes he did! There was posts of him flirting with her on twitter. His wife would complain that he would talk to her late into the night. He had already married her in secret. He wanted to make it proper by bringing her into the home.

ednut1:
lagos state government said they will investigate him. He is done for

Nothing will happen

The govt are the same men who want 5 wives and 10 concubines. They’ll never prioritize anything that’s not solely geared towards getting them more personal wealth and access to more women.

Thoroughly and utterly rotten to the core.

shaybebaby:


This where government has a part to play. To provide that social net to support women when they make this decision.

Free early years childcare and education..at least that would render the men powerless if they think they can withhold money for school fees as a weapon of control.

The woman can go out to hustle in that case whilst the kids are at school.

Enforce the notion of marital property, that way all these " send her packing" ish would be DOA.

I mean dude already has 3 kids and would probably have more with the new squeeze. In this era where world population is already 8 billion with ever diminishing resources to support the human race.

God, if I were to ever rule that country, there would be stiff financial penalties that would disincentivise these reckless inhumane actions.

TheChameleon:


Nothing will happen.

1. He will cool off on the 2nd wife talk.

2. Settle out of court, na family affairs, that is what Lagos authorities will hear from the black eyed wife.

3. Bribe her heavily. Screw the hell out of her after drinking agbo jedi. Cunninglingus is a must, eat her out like his life depends on it.

4. Grow some balls.

5. If na me, I will marry not just 2nd, I will marry 3rd and 4th. Make sure I cut you out of the Will. I NEVER tolerate betrayal. I can even divorce you on my death bed.

You go wicked 😂

cococandy:
The govt are the same men who want 5 wives and 10 concubines. They’ll never prioritize anything that’s not solely geared towards getting them more personal wealth and access to more women.

Thoroughly and utterly rotten to the core.

One can dream.

I think the tide will turn soon as the world is more connected therefore these younger generation are more aware of what goes on outside their immediate environment.

TheSuperX:
Let him marry another wife if he can cater for her, the woman is just being too greedy, she just want all the attention and money for herself.

Lol. She's not stupid. She knows she's about to be relegated to a side-chick in her own home. In a polygamous home, the oldest wife is rarely ever the favourite. Ask Ned Nwoko's first wife how far? Who knows what she looks like? But all you pro- polygamists don't care, as long you get your dićk wet. You don't care about the mess you're going to cause because polygamy is simply an avenue for men to have multiple women on rotation with a religious justification and backing.

Before you start and say she should just divorce him, in Islam, the man has the ultimate say on divorce. How convenient huh?

shaybebaby:

One can dream.

I think the tide will turn soon as the world is more connected therefore these younger generation are more aware of what goes on outside their immediate environment.

Amen.

That’s why the role of internet social justice warriors is very important. Don’t let anyone say otherwise 😉

1Sharon:


Yes he did! There was posts of him flirting with her on twitter. His wife would complain that he would talk to her late into the night. He had already married her in secret. He wanted to make it proper by bringing her into the home.

Okay let's say he flirted, but I doubt if he'd slept with her. JARUS is a Muslim and he knows what is good and bad in Islam.

My problem is with the wife not agreeing to his wants/demands, she's so greedy that she wants everything for herself. she's lucky some Muslim men won't even inform their wife before they marry second wife.

1Sharon:

Before you start and say she should just divorce him, in Islam, the man has the ultimate say on divorce. How convenient huh?

Extremely convenient. As with all the other religious laws they hide behind to be heinous human beings. God just casually signed off on them being absolute jerks because they’re his favorites. Women just don’t count 🫠

TheSuperX:
Okay let's say he flirted, but I doubt if he'd slept with her. JARUS is a Muslim and he knows what is good and bad in Islam.

My problem is with the wife not agreeing to his wants/demands, she's so greedy that she wants everything for herself. she's lucky some Muslim men won't even inform their wife before they marry second wife.

He flirted with her and slept with her. He remembered his religion when it comes to shirk, but not when it comes to zina. Stop justifying nonsense.

1Sharon:


Lol. She's not stupid. She knows she'd about to be relegated to a side-chick in her own home. In a polygamous home, the oldest wife is rarely ever the favourite. Ask Ned Nwoko's first wife how far? Who knows what she looks like? But all you pro- polygamists don't care, as long you get your dićk wet. You don't care about the mess you're going to cause because polygamy is simply an avenue for men to have multiple women on rotation with a religious justification and backing.

Before you start and say she should just divorce him, in Islam, the man has the ultimate say on divorce. How convenient huh?

I guess that's her greatest fear, but she should have known better because she's a Muslim and she knows herself that Islam permits polygamy.

TheSuperX:
I guess that's her greatest fear, but she should have known better because she's a Muslim and she knows herself that Islam permits polygamy.

Christianity also makes light of slavery in some texts. Does that make it okay?

cococandy:


Amen.

That’s why the role of internet social justice warriors is very important. Don’t let anyone say otherwise 😉

💯

TheSuperX:
I guess that's her greatest fear, but she should have known better because she's a Muslim and she knows herself that Islam permits polygamy.

Most Muslim women don't agree with polygamy. But they don't come out to say it for fear of being called an apostate but they show it in their actions.

The rule states that the first wife has to consent and the man has to love all the wives equally but in reality where have you ever seen that happen?

Even biological parents have their favourite children.

cococandy:


Extremely convenient. As with all the other religious laws they hide behind to be heinous human beings. God just casually signed off them on being absolute jerks because they his favorites. Women just don’t count 🫠

Exactly. A religion by men, of men, for men.

1Sharon:


Exactly. A religion by men, of men, for men.

and the church said amen

cococandy:
and the church said amen

Bars 🤣

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Last I remember, as a Muslim, your faith permits you to have more than 2 wives if you chose to.

There is no issue here just some meddlesome interlopers

This sugabelly dey write o..

Oga Jarus, no offense meant.

But I wish to to say "what will you do with multiple wives?" I can tell you that you know its useless at the end of the day.

If you have to, in this age and time I think it would be crazy to bring the two together in one place as it seems you want to do.

I don't understand how Allah enjoy this but its very troublesome and hard choice for anyone. I don't blame your wife brother.

You don't own a woman, especially in Yorubaland. Moreso, a woman is not a "sub-creation" as far as you never created her.

Don't be so "powerful" in your home that you are at ease beating the ones you call your children, not to talk of your wife.

Don't take to heart some of the trash that some strangers posts here every now and then either as "feminists" or "redpillers".

Your home is a sacred-safe-place from the crazy stuffs going around in the world, you are on your own if you start "experimenting".

I've lost my first child trying to play to the church and the society, I never recover from the loss. I never play to expectations again.

Accept the uniqueness of your family as a unit of the larger society and make the best of it. Train your children, don't derail your home.

Is the new wife coming to give you "the promised child" that none of the children you presently have can be compared with?

And don't get me wrong sir, if you want polygamy it must be acceptable yo your wife, otherwise, things like this would be.

in the end, religion will not solve this problem it has caused. Eventually, you will settle how she want it.

You can't always get away with just everything you want in this life.

Polygamy is a race to the bottom.

cococandy:
That’s why they’re so hateful towards anyone with a feminist mindset.

Because it teaches women to value themselves outside of their roles as wives and moms. To see that they are worthy regardless of a man’s opinion of them. Stuff like that makes it so that such women understand that a good marriage is great but being single is better than a terrible marriage.

Imagine if most women are okay with leaving bad husbands. The whole reality for these men would shift.
That’s why they hate it so much

Imagine how selfish these men have to be for them to hate a movement that teaches women to leave terrible marriages.

I keep saying it that many women are just living in denial about the true nature of males, men innately do not like women and want to keep women subjugated and oppressed but Nigerian women don't understand this.

They watch their silly Telemundo series and Korean movies and also read silly romance novels and then they start assuming that men in real life are like their fairy tale men.

1Sharon:


Exactly. A religion by men, of men, for men.

cococandy:
and the church said amen

Omoh..

👏👏👏

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We4all:
Abegi...He was all about the money and gifts he showered on her. So, is he saying that if a man gives a woman money regularly, she becomes his slave and he has the right to treat her however he pleases? By the way, if he is popular, how come I don't know him?

Listen to yourself

Nobody has come with the answer why a great Islamic nation Turkey made polygamy a crime?

You see intelligent quotient, that's what makes great men and women then a great nation. Intelligence is knowing when to let go of some old practices that were there for a reason and served its purpose which is no longer needed.


You know why I love uk despite their being our coloniser?
They keep on amending their constitutions when they know it does not serve its purpose anymore.

That is what development is all about.
An Islamic country Tajikistan recently banned jihad. That is reformation and curbing extremism.
Saudi Arabia recently did swim suit fashion show.


But my dear country with its men of extremely low intelligent quotient always think about themselves.
What benefits only them and how they are doing the world of favour to their children and women.
I have never seen men with so much little self worth. They need to validate their actions to show they are the men.
If our upbringing produced men like this day in day out, the family failed woefully.

U see all the beating,screaming and shouting by parents and who should not put mouth in children's upbringing, the effect is what we witness daily in Nigeria and why Nigeria is where it is.
Don't let me start with Christianity

Muslims are only allowed to marry up to 4 wives if they can afford it AND love them equally

Most selfish muslims ignore the loving them equally condition because it’s almost impossible to satisfy them equally. You will almost certainly be unjust to the other three thereby committing a sin which is frowned upon by Allah

There is a reason why some northern muslims prefer to divorce first before taking on another wife


“Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.”
— Qur'an, Sura 4 (An-Nisa)

jaybee3:
Muslims are only allowed to marry up to 4 wives if they can afford it AND love them equally

Most selfish muslims ignore the loving them equally condition because it’s almost impossible to satisfy them equally. You will almost certainly be unjust to the other three thereby committing a sin which is frowned upon by Allah

There is a reason why some northern muslims prefer to divorce first before taking on another wife


“Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.”
— Qur'an, Sura 4 (An-Nisa)

What will multiple wife afford you, why is it necessary?

if God have to wait till AD 500 to promulgate this into law, I mean a lot of generation of mankind have to be appeased.

women are about the strongest of our kind, their vulnerability is not because they are weak somehow, no. For a woman to carry a pregnancy to term, I think she is the one who does a lot of the work of procreation, and as a family, man is to fend for and defend the house.

There are crazy things we say every now and then to relegate one another, but we are equal before God originally. Yes the woman must be obedient to her husband, that is absolute. But for that to be, the husband must be a source of peace and provision for the home.

Marriage is a contract, I can't ask my neighbour's wife to be obedient to me because she is a woman.

Respect is not for a given, it is earned even in a marriage. If you have a wife that respects you in spite of your shortcomings, she is a kind person by nature. It doesn't mean that's the standard and don't use it as standard. Instead, be responsible and considerate with yours.