You have already ruin his image online, it's a big scandal, all his online competitors have employed hatchet men to finish him, the man you depend to give you everything and you want to bring him down, by the time you do, be happy, be very very happy

shaybebaby:

I guess to satisfy the equal loving part, the incoming wife needs to collect too. With a third wife queuing up right behind equally chopping beating and so on.

Anything else is going against that doctrine as that is the "loving" template based on wife number one.

Even the 72 virgins waiting in the after life must collect.

@bold is one part of Islam I don't understand.
Muslim women don't like sharing their men here on earth so why will they work for a paradise where they have to share their men with 72 virgins for all eternity. What kind of hellish paradise is that?
Does their God hate them abi wetin

cococandy:
Realistically, how often is the wife able to convince the MALE judge/imam to grant her a divorce if her husband doesn’t want to be a party to it?

I know some things sound good on paper. But if you really look around you and see the types of humans that exist and how they apply their biases, then you should be able to decipher that some rules are just made to satisfy all righteousness. In reality the people who made those rules know it’s rarely enforceable.

Especially when those who would be responsible for enforcing it are those who’d benefit from doing otherwise.

For instance, if a wife is a victim of DV, she can file for divorce. To convince the judge, she would show proof that she is a victim. If the husband apologized and she still want in, fine. If she insist on the divorce, the judge can dissolve the union. No be the man marry himself, na Imam sign the marriage, so the Imam, based on some rule can also dissolve the union.

The convincing is not like a lobbying thing, na to show proof/workings for your case.

The rule is enforceable if all parties involve from the husband to the wife to the judge would be fair; no bias.

That some pple who should enforce it are doing otherwise doesn't change what the rule is. If a wife feels, the husband is infringing on her rights and can't bear with it, and she want divorce, na to prove her case to the judge.

Or for instance, despite the facts that some men just pronounce divorce anyhow doesn't change the facts that there are rules/guide to follow in going about it which some don't follow.

Maybe you are not familiar with women asking for divorce in your community, I have seen it both where the husband obliged willingly and where the husband doesn't obliged willingly but would have to due to Imam/judge intervention.

CHoccolaTE:


Yes you're right but I don't like being fair in my judgment of men because I dislike them and their evil ways.

I don’t blame you.

They drew the first blood. Nothing women can do or say to men will even slightly make up for all the things they did and keep doing to us. I feel like even they know it too. at least the ones who can be fair minded know it.

Hmm. Okay

islamics:


For instance, if a wife is a victim of DV, she can file for divorce. To convince the judge, she would show proof that she is a victim. If the husband apologized and she still want in, fine. If she insist on the divorce, the judge can dissolve the union. No be the man marry himself, na Imam sign the marriage, so the Imam, based on some rule can also dissolve the union.

The convincing is not like a lobbying thing, na to show proof/workings for your case.

The rule is enforceable if all parties involve from the husband to the wife to the judge would be fair; no bias.

That some pple who should enforce it are doing otherwise doesn't change what the rule is. If a wife feels, the husband is infringing on her rights and can't bear with it, and she want divorce, na to prove her case to the judge.

Or for instance, despite the facts that some men just pronounce divorce anyhow doesn't change the facts that there are rules/guide to follow in going about it which some don't follow.

Maybe you are not familiar with women asking for divorce in your community, I have seen it both where the husband obliged willingly and where the husband doesn't obliged willingly but would have to due to Imam/judge intervention.

islamics:


Women can also file for divorce in Islam
though it is disliked. But she can file for divorce if the husband is not meeting his responsibilities and fulfilling her rights and she can't bear with him.
If the husband doesn't accept, then if the wife is able to convince the judge/Imam, the marriage can be dissolved. That the women are silent doesn't mean they don't know their right. Some might be naive while some are trying to keep up with the husband.

I have seen many videos on the internet of Muslim women complaining that their Imam refused them divorce after trying to leave their abusive husbands, you have to admit it's a bit unfair for the divorce process to be so easy and effortless as proclaiming divorce thrice for the husbands while the wives have to "convince" a judge or Imam that her reasons for divorce are valid before she can leave an unhappy marriage.

Btw, you guys kept this within nairaland .. una don go dey wash una dirty linen for twitter ..

Now unwanted entities they carry una matter for head like gala hawkers..

Beremx:
she's not greedy or wants all the money and attention to herself. She doesn't want to share the love she has for her husband with another woman. 14yrs of marriage no be beans.
I visited Twitter yesterday and red the full story of the gist. He even met the said second wife on Twitter.

Oga Jarus you no try o! I no longer have his contact if not I for blast am on phone. Chai! Whoever advised him to take a second wife is heartless.

Nobody advised him, he did what he wants to do. If you read his post, you will see his actions were premeditated. He was already done with it before even telling the wife.

The problem with this is, there would always be women who think they are different. So say whatever, they would still make choices that will shock you. I don't even stress it anymore. Marry whatever you wanna, but don't tell me your problems. Na my own be that.

leisuretym:
You have already ruin his image online, it's a big scandal, all his online competitors have employed hatchet men to finish him, the man you depend to give you everything and you want to bring him down, by the time you do, be happy, be very very happy

Who ruined him online certainly not his wife?.It was someone who knew him from offline,a man like you btw who called him out when he was playing lovey dovey with the mistress on Twitter and he began to vomit what nobody asked him.

If you bring your family matter online,you are inviting online Umunna.
Don't bring it simple

Cho Cho Cho.

PrinceofAgoAre:

She definitely deserves that beating for going fetish which is even suppose to be against her religion ..

Mynd44 nlfpmod seun dominique
Is this appropriate or will he get a pass because the abuser is your friend?

Why hasn't this thread made Nairaland frontpage??

FuckingMachine:
Why hasn't this thread made Nairaland frontpage??

It is not your site and you don't get to make demands. Create your own site and post whatever you want on FP.
No one cares about your rants.

cococandy:
That’s why they’re so hateful towards anyone with a feminist mindset.

Because it teaches women to value themselves outside of their roles as wives and moms. To see that they are worthy regardless of a man’s opinion of them. Stuff like that makes it so that such women understand that a good marriage is great but being single is better than a terrible marriage.

Imagine if most women are okay with leaving bad husbands. The whole reality for these men would shift.
That’s why they hate it so much

To me, the only reason a man avoid's divorce is when he has to part away with some or half of his assets to the woman which I don't think happens in this part of the world ..


Apart from that .. She's free to leave .. Except for a man that has greatly invested on that relationship/marriage and he he knows he has much to lose if that marriage gets broken ..


This is why I'm an advocate of both parties equally investing in the marriage/relationship.. so when it's time to leave, it would be done with ease ..

No one would be like "after everything Ive done and that bullshiit..

Sapasenator:


It is not your site and you don't get to make demands. Create your own site and post whatever you want on FP.
No one cares about your rants.

Congratulations.
You just described double standards.

CHoccolaTE:


@bold is one part of Islam I don't understand.
Muslim women don't like sharing their men here on earth so why will they work for a paradise where they have to share their men with 72 virgins for all eternity. What kind of hellish paradise is that?
Does their God hate them abi wetin

I have no clue but you raise a very important question.

What is a woman's reward in the afterlife? 🤔

For women who are yet to be married, I'd urge them to consider all the ways women continue to be showed shege in marriages and have a plan for if any of it materialises.

If you don't have a plan to save yourself if it goes tit's up, ABORT MISSION!

FuckingMachine:


Congratulations.
You just described double standards.

Of course, double standards are real all over the world. Were you born yesterday?

FuckingMachine:


Mynd44 nlfpmod seun dominique
Is this appropriate or will he get a pass because the abuser is your friend?

i do not know any of them personally ..


She had no fvcking right to have gone fetish on the innocent man .. No fvcking right ...

PrinceofAgoAre:
i do not know any of them personally ..


She had no fvcking right to have gone fetish on the innocent man .. No fvcking right ...

So that justifies the aggravated assault on her?

Can you show me anywhere in our constitution where traditional religion is illegal?

Thanks.

Sapasenator:


Of course, double standards are real all over the world. Were you born yesterday?

Yes, I was.
Seun told us that he is unbiased so this is shocking.

FuckingMachine:


Yes, I was.
Seun told us that he is unbiased so this is shocking.

It's a private site and Seun is not an elected public official and does not owe you or anyone any duty of care whatsoever.

Sapasenator:


It's a private site and Seun is not an elected public official and does not owe you or anyone any duty of care whatsoever.

Nairaland is a public forum not a private site.
Thanks.

FuckingMachine:


Nairaland is a public forum not a private site.
Thanks.

You still have not caught on. Good luck in your rantings my friend.

Sapasenator:


You still have not caught on. Good luck in your rantings my friend.

You have lost.
Join naptu2 wailing in his diary section basement.

FuckingMachine:


So that justifies the aggravated assault on her?

Can you show me anywhere in our constitution where traditional religion is illegal?

Thanks.

she intended to harm him spiritually ..

That right there is a crime ..

Traditional religion is not illegal but attempting/intending to use it for any wrong doings is a crime ..


If she had gone through with the act .. wetin we dey talk nw no be wetin we go dey talk ..

A little brain resetting panel beating is required..


Btw, she also has a Case of domestic violence against her .. since she was attempting to harm her husband ..

This case won't even stand in a court ..

FuckingMachine:


You have lost.
Join naptu2 wailing in his diary basement.

Ok

PrinceofAgoAre:
she intended to harm him spiritually ..

That right there is a crime ..

Any proof or are you substituting your warped thoughts for reality?

Ehen! There is this. Time to turn my attention to this.

naptu2:
Ehen! There is this. Time to turn my attention to this.

FuckingMachine:


Any proof or are you substituting your warped thoughts for reality?

she paid the herbalist to go through with whatever she asked him to do..


That's enough proof..

Gerrard59:


Nothing will happen. I am not supposed to have an opinion on this for personal reasons, but I detest dishonesty. I am here to state that NOTHING WILL HAPPEN. Jarus is a Yoruba man living in Lagos - a Yoruba state. He is a Muslim. In Islam, a man is entitled to marry four wives provided he can take care of them. He is a rich man who has worked in the oil and gas industry for MANY YEARS. This man earned more than 40 million naira per annum when the naira was strong. He is a strong APC supporter.

Please stop lying. Nothing will happen to Jarus. You don't have to like him. But saying his properties would be lost is a BIG FAT LIE!

Interesting how you are writing epistles to defend someone who is a "strong APC supporter" simply because you like him, but same you was cussing people out and accusing them of being APC simply they had a different opinion on japa. Just like the odanz guy has proved, hypocrisy is truly a thing.

As for J, he has laid his bed and he now has to lie on it.

jaybee3:


Desire and compliance are two different things.

Absolutely no point in desiring something you won’t be fully compliant on. As a Muslim, i’m an advocate for Monogamy

Thank you.

When I say most of the elite class in Northern Nigeria practice monogamy, I mean it.
Unless the wife died or divorce happened, even with an only child. They are cool. These are those who are the northerners.

In Europe of old, it was concubines. Official mistresses. The same with south east Asia. Their wives fought them and won.
Nigerian poor Muslim wives believe that marriage is everything and for you to be alive and worthwhile, you must be married even if your husband married 3 more after you.

How selfish of Muhammed to come up with this.
Like Muhammed like Abraham.

If they lived at this age, I'm sure they will never think of this stupid tradition they follow. I think it was what's obtainable in their time and in 21st century, we are still practising such.

In igboland, it was male child. Female child was never recognised. Give birth to girls and see your husband's family get a second wife for him and you become their enemy. These women fought and fought. Took their case to court and won. In Anambra I know, female children have inheritance now and nobody chases a widow with girl child away anymore cos the law protects her and the child.

Let Muslim women fight.
I thought yoruba muslim women will champion this. Really disappointed.