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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by heniford2: 9:09am On Jul 04
Botragelad:

Cave man. A wife is not a commodity to be owned, but a partner in a mutually consenting relationship.
so why pay for it?? If it's partnership one should not bear the cross to pay for everything and do all the whole stuff just to be a partner.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by RealityKings: 9:10am On Jul 04
BABANGBALI:
Mynd44 I hope you don hear?

This weather 🌧️ will make people in long distance relationship understand why Banks have branches nation wide 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

This post is not about banks grin
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Twoclans(f): 9:11am On Jul 04
Badexx:
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Same way men can do without you people too

GBAM
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Judolisco(m): 9:11am On Jul 04
Dis one now wey neva marry dey reach 10 yrs dey preach on marriage grin

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Calitoscassius(m): 9:11am On Jul 04
Botragelad:

Cave man. A wife is not a commodity to be owned, but a partner in a mutually consenting relationship.
Please, don't insult cave men. that individual is just, a small penis low esteemed hopeless git. He is probarbly short and ugilee. Even Cave men didn't buy or sell their daughters or bought and sold their wives.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Badexx: 9:12am On Jul 04
Kizzygentle:

Times have changed... Don't compare then and now. No woman want to be 100percent controlled again when there is SM and platforms were different specie of men dey disturb them. The ones wey ready to worship am,the ones wey dey spoil am with millions, the ones and a whole lot and one man wan come dominate her life. U go just get high blood pressure. So just relax man. Honestly eh, the bible needs to change as well.

Bro I don't fucking care how many men wants to worship you or lick your feet, you mess up I discard you like a spoilt TV in my house, that's the point

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Emma09(m): 9:12am On Jul 04
Stupid mentality and preaching. I don't own my wife. She's my wife and not a slave. She's my bone of bone and flesh of flesh. We are one and I respect her, she respect me too.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Pimine: 9:12am On Jul 04
Kizzygentle:
I don't support this in every form. This man should be stripped from been a pastor abeg. I'm a guy and this is the worst thing I have heard his year. Women may want equality with men which is wrong but u saying women are owned by theor husband and should not be friends with the husband is totally unacceptable. Please drop the mic and never climb a pulpit again..
You didn't call him. Make your point but don't cross the line.
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by saddler: 9:13am On Jul 04
Botragelad:

The return of the bride price in case of divorce doesn't necessarily imply ownership, but rather serves as a symbolic reversal of the union, acknowledging the dissolution of the marriage bond. Correct?

My analogy aimed to highlight the distinction between a cultural tradition (bride price) and a transactional exchange (ownership). Hence the wedding gift example. Understood?

But it is not correct.

A gift is given willingly. Aside bride price, there are other items the bride's family request for. Without this, no marriage.

Bride price is an obligation.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by 7arrows: 9:13am On Jul 04
PortHarcourtcit:
Unperturbedpota, please tell this man that your wife is not your slave too, because you married her does not automatically make her your slave, she is your Queen and the mother of your children... I thank God almighty for creating women, such a lovely creature he made ... 💞

He just told us his wife is his slave and not a friend. I pity the wife ooooo

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by heniford2: 9:14am On Jul 04
Calitoscassius:
I didn't know your forefathers sold humans or bought their wives. So you want to carry on buying and selling wives in 2024 grin

No worries, how many daughters do you have? I would like to come buy all of them, shall we start bargaining the prices of each of your daughters now or when i see them to make sure they are worth atleast $300 or less. grin grin


You are soooo backwards, man!
yo mehn if you pay for my daughter bridal price you own my daughter if she doesn't want anymore I will return ur money back and have her back

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Entanglement: 9:14am On Jul 04
Kizzygentle:
I don't support this in every form. This man should be stripped from been a pastor abeg. I'm a guy and this is the worst thing I have heard his year. Women may want equality with men which is wrong but u saying women are owned by theor husband and should not be friends with the husband is totally unacceptable. Please drop the mic and never climb a pulpit again..
na your wife pay your groom price?

As far you pay bride price, you own that bitch

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Calitoscassius(m): 9:14am On Jul 04
Who da fork listens to these self appointed ignorant low esteemed morrons? Who calls themselves pastors.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by 7arrows: 9:15am On Jul 04
Antoeni:
Ladies f you are not ready to be LOYAL AND SUBMISSIVE to a man, stay single and be m!ser@ble.

If a man can't tell you what to do, stay in your father's house and suffer with a Love Machine every night for the rest of your life

Loyal and submissive I AGREE. But SLAVE and SEX TO. I DISAGREE.
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Pimine: 9:15am On Jul 04
Botragelad:
Do people actually give credence to what these individuals say? How laughable!

Marriage is intended to be a partnership, distinct from the ownership and control inherent in slavery, I believe. Yet, individuals like this perpetuate sexist ideologies that blur these lines.

If someone finds themselves in a volatile and abusive relationship, where they feel 'owned' or controlled by their spouse, how can they possibly escape? Does he not comprehend the fundamental human rights that are violated by 'owning' another person?

God instituted marriage. He gave us the template for marriage. Since you don't want to follow the directives of the one who created the institution called marriage, I'll suggest you remain single. That shouldn't be too hard na, or is it?

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by chidiokay: 9:16am On Jul 04
Botragelad:
Do people actually give credence to what these individuals say? How laughable!

Marriage is intended to be a partnership, distinct from the ownership and control inherent in slavery, I believe. Yet, individuals like this perpetuate sexist ideologies that blur these lines.

If someone finds themselves in a volatile and abusive relationship, where they feel 'owned' or controlled by their spouse, how can they possibly escape? Does he not comprehend the fundamental human rights that are violated by 'owning' another person?



I can understand some choice of words might trigger offset, but in real sense "ownership and control" are part of marriage

Dowry and change of name ... establishes ownership
Except we want to fool ourselves there is no true equality anywhere even among twins, one will be dominant consciously or subconsciously. that said, in every marriage there is one partner whose options count more
Being owned depends on the reader's interpretation, being stuck with someone over a lifetime, where he goes you go is tantamount to being owned

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Calitoscassius(m): 9:18am On Jul 04
heniford2:
yo mehn if you pay for my daughter bridal price you own my daughter if she doesn't want anymore I will return ur money back and have her back
Okay.. i would like that very much. grin

And what if i buy your daughter and just want her as a wife, mother of my kids, not a commodity that i own? Can i do that?

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Winnin009: 9:19am On Jul 04
Badexx:



Always trying to sound smart and civilised but keep deceiving yourself with your illusions. Why do men sweat through their anus to pay exorbitant pride price then?

Lol. You that is smart; where did the Bible ask you to pay brideprice through your anus. Since you want to use bible to justify crap.

Tell us where the Bible says you should “buy” you wife.

If you sweat through your anus, na your business be that. Several others around the world didn’t and they have marriages.

You that have to sweat to pay bride price; what is your business with marriage sef?! Why not sweat and build yourself so that brideprice won’t seem like heaven and earth to you?!

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Botragelad: 9:19am On Jul 04
heniford2:
so why pay for it?? If it's partnership one should not bear the cross to pay for everything and do all the whole stuff just to be a partner.
Wow. You do that? 😂
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Unperturbedpota: 9:19am On Jul 04
7arrows:


He just told us his wife is his slave and not a friend. I pity the wife ooooo
You are quoting PortHarcourtcit? You must be new here, that one is a jobless troll who uses multiple accounts to beg on this platform grin grin grin

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Segxydube: 9:21am On Jul 04
Botragelad:
Do people actually give credence to what these individuals say? How laughable!

Marriage is intended to be a partnership, distinct from the ownership and control inherent in slavery, I believe. Yet, individuals like this perpetuate sexist ideologies that blur these lines.

If someone finds themselves in a volatile and abusive relationship, where they feel 'owned' or controlled by their spouse, how can they possibly escape? Does he not comprehend the fundamental human rights that are violated by 'owning' another person?


Marriage na partnership for whc village? Dey talk trash

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Winnin009: 9:21am On Jul 04
lexy2014:


If you own children, does that mean they are your slaves?

You own properties. Kids aren’t properties.

People have kids.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by heniford2: 9:21am On Jul 04
Calitoscassius:
Okay.. i would like that very much. grin

And what if i buy your daughter and just want her as a wife, mother of my kids, not a commodity that i own? Can i do that?
that's your property you decide how to run ur business your stuff I can't come and spoon feed you on it.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Babysho(m): 9:23am On Jul 04
Antoeni:
Ladies f you are not ready to be LOYAL AND SUBMISSIVE to a man, stay single and be m!ser@ble.

If a man can't tell you what to do, stay in your father's house and suffer with a Love Machine every night for the rest of your life

Lmao let's agree that the duty of the wife is to be "submissive" to her man. The duty of a man is to serve and to protect. Are we Nigerian men protecting our wives? Everyday our natural resources are exploited and sold for cheap to foreigners, are our women really safe? Can your "submissive wife" take an evening walk and feel safe?

We Nigerian men must fulfill our own duty of protecting and service. When we fulfill it, you wouldn't have to request for a woman to be submissive to you because when your country is in order, you as a man will live a life of dignity where abstract values matter.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Joy2dworldxyz: 9:24am On Jul 04
In as much as I don't totally agree with the pastor for personal reasons but this is just the bitter truth.
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Winnin009: 9:24am On Jul 04
descarado:

In other words, Indian ladies own their husbands.

This forum is filled with very low iq people.

Another angle. I like your type of person.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by heniford2: 9:24am On Jul 04
Botragelad:

Wow. You do that? 😂
the western has zero pad us off the realities of life mate!! Man as the head and if you pay for something you should own it nothing like partnership when it becomes partnership is when you both pays for it 🤌🏿🤷🏿‍♂️

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Badexx: 9:25am On Jul 04
Winnin009:


Lol. You that is smart; where did the Bible ask you to pay brideprice through your anus. Since you want to use bible to justify crap.

Tell us where the Bible says you should “buy” you wife.

If you sweat through your anus, na your business be that. Several others around the world didn’t and they have marriages.

You that have to sweat to pay bride price; what is your business with marriage sef?! Why not sweat and build yourself so that brideprice won’t seem like heaven and earth to you?!

You might keep deceiving yourself Mr man and you can twist my comments however it pleases you but we all know it not easy to get married in this part of the world especially when you meet someone greedy hungry family, so me using that phrase wasn't wrong
Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Calitoscassius(m): 9:26am On Jul 04
heniford2:
that's your property you decide how to run ur business your stuff I can't come and spoon feed you on it.
I see your point, you are not backwards afterall. grin your views do sound backward though.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by TheBillyonaire: 9:26am On Jul 04
Bride Price = Cost of Bride (usually a symbolic amount), some places take 'Labor Fee' in addition to the bride price money, so it actually is a transaction.

Then the woman takes the man's name, this is change of name. In transactions, your item is sold to your name, Naming it after you means it officially yours. Woman moves over to man's house, in transactions you take your property.

I had no idea that I owned my wife. I will love her the more, but I wont tell her that I own her, even though I now know. It just makes her truly mine.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Winnin009: 9:26am On Jul 04
Badexx:



You can choose to call her that because I acquired her with my money and still provide for her, so

What’s crazy is that it’s men like you that type these online that are the simps in reality. I know your type very well.

Lol.

Your next reply will be a weak defense or a poorly constructed insult; like I said, I know your type very well.

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Re: Your Husband Is Not Your Friend, He Is Your Owner - Pastor by Calitoscassius(m): 9:26am On Jul 04
heniford2:
so why pay for it?? If it's partnership one should not bear the cross to pay for everything and do all the whole stuff just to be a partner.
Makes sense.

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