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The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 3:26pm On Jul 04
Many years ago when I was dead broke.

I used to have a goddaughter. A very pretty and respectful girl who would always tell me anything and seek my opinion and advice.
She was married anyways, had a daughter.

She married a guy who was still struggling. As a matter of fact , she was the one who rented the house they were living and the mattress they slept on.
One day she called me up that her daughter was sick and had been in the hospital about a week.
You know how Nigerian hospitals are, you really need to make a deposit before treatment can commence.
They needed 50k and she was able to raise 20k, so I gave her 10k. That made it 30k . 20k more to go.
The husband couldn't raise anything because strictly speaking the girl had been in charge of feeding the family.
Then I asked her what she was going to do about the remaining money? And she told me she didn't have an idea because the hospital had only given them 2weeks to get the money of which a week was out.

A day to when the two weeks was supposed to elapse, she called me, she was crying over the phone. I was even shocked. I thought the girl had died. But she just said she had been able to raise the money but she wanted to speak to me about something.

Well, when she came around. She told me after she had tried all her best to raise the money but couldn't. She remembered a man who had always been on her neck, but of which she had insulted and told to f*ck off because she couldn't defy her marriage.
She visited the man for assistance and the man said if she would grace his bed. He would give her 50k.
She said she insulted the man again and went back to the hospital. But the man called her again that night and offered 70k. But still turned him down.

She said in the middle of the night the kid was really acting strange which the doctor told her to hurry her up on the payment.
She had to accept the man's offer.
Now she was very heartbroken because she cheated on her husband. Well, she was crying a river but I couldn't hold her and put her on my chest to pet her. I mean, how could I touch a married woman even if she was my daughter.
In all honesty. She did the right thing.

As a man, if you refused to get your shit together. Your woman will be forced to cheat on you no matter how disciplined she is. Have you ever tasted hunger? Has a life been threatened?
Like I said in my other post. Survival comes first, what do you think a hungry wife would do if a man offered her something to quench her hunger?
And for you women. Stop putting yourself in a spot where you will be frustrated to cheat. It is easy for a hungry and a financially frustrated woman to cheat than for a woman who lives in comfort.
Sooner or later you will cheat when you go hungry everyday or you have a child who is lying helpless in a hospital ward.

Tall, dark and handsome with big Mujumba Bajumba will not pay your children school fees.
Broke men are only good for sex, believe me, those guys can remove a womb without surgery. But anything other than that is a waste.

What if you fell sick and your husband can't even pay your bills. May your soul rest in peace o.

And for those of you who say "No one knows tomorrow, that broke man may become rich later in life"

This is not Nollywood. In real life , it is becoming harder for poor men to become successful. Only about 10% Nigerian men are rich. Now that the economy is bad, it's about 8% and that percentage needs to be consistent. Therefore only about 1 out of every 500 men will become rich. Okay, so, what makes you think your broke man will be that one?

The reason the society has deteriorated this much is because many kids are raised in poverty stricken homes. And they must do all they can to survive. You force kids into this world when you clearly can't take care of them. Isn't that wickedness?

A broke man does not deserve marriage, if you're a girl and you marry a broke man. You are playing a risky game and you do not have sense.You are just stupid and you are also wicked. Unless you are rich enough to move him up the social ladder.
You can only give them sex, lots of sex and love but not marriage.

I'm not here to babysit a lie to make you feel good or like me. Your likeness doesn't add $1 to my account, so, basically your likeness is useless.
Before you get angry at me like I'm the cause of your misfortune.
Go out there and work your ass off to make money for yourself. And when you are made, you are not obligated to be tied to one woman.

Go get your shit together. You can't afford to let your kids suffer.

Oferegege, ewa femi losi frontpage.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by immortalcrown(m): 3:40pm On Jul 04
Poverty is not good. But poverty is not the worst thing on earth. It is advisable for everyone to try to conquer poverty. But it is not advisable for anyone to do everything for the sake of money. There are things you should not fail to do, whether you are poor or rich. There are things you should not fail to avoid, whether you are poor or rich. Therefore, poverty is not an excuse for adultery or fornication.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Bola4boy(m): 5:27pm On Jul 04
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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 9:04pm On Jul 04
immortalcrown:
Poverty is not good. But poverty is not the worst thing on earth. It is advisable for everyone to try to conquer poverty. But it is not advisable for anyone to do everything for the sake of money. There are things you should not fail to do, whether you are poor or rich. There are things you should not fail to avoid, whether you are poor or rich. Therefore, poverty is not an excuse for adultery or fornication.

That's why a woman should not marry a broke man so she won't be frustrated to cheat.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Bliztzer: 9:14pm On Jul 04
FRANCISTOWN:


That's why a woman should not marry a broke man so she won't be frustrated to cheat.

The matter no be broke but laziness. How is the woman making money and the husband is not. A true man would no watch on, and let the wife carry his burden. Even handicap dey work, the man no be one. Abi na slowpoke?

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Proserpina: 9:17pm On Jul 04
While reading I knew you can't be genuine with your submission then your third paragraph towards the end confirms my suspicions.

On this section, you are a known redpiller who has preached against women pampering or treating women right with your focus on men who make money to spend on women. It is baffling you added that specific paragraph to your write up. You say "don't make money to spend on women", now you say make money but you are not obligated to one woman. Technically you encourage what you preach against

Did you forget what you stand for or you are simply CONFUSED .

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Sapasenator: 9:22pm On Jul 04
Bliztzer:


The matter no be broke but laziness. How is the woman making money and the husband is not. A true man would no watch on, and let the carry his burden. Even handicap dey work, the man no be one. Abi na slowpoke?

OP is not a REDPILLER and has admitted so severally on this forum. REDPILLERS are bunch of angry teenagers would either could not get laid or are too broke to afford a decent lady so they come online to rent and vent.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by DevilsEqual(m): 9:25pm On Jul 04
Proserpina:
While reading I knew you can't be genuine with your submission then your third paragraph towards the end confirms my suspicions.

On this section, you are a known redpiller who has preached against women pampering or treating women right with your focus on men who make money to spend on women. It is baffling you added that specific paragraph to your write up. You say "don't make money to spend on women", now you say make money but you are not obligated to one woman. Technically you encourage what you preach against

Did you forget what you stand for or you are simply CONFUSED .


What's the Difference between you and Eunoi-aa


You text alike, the tone of your messages sound alike, you two write like Lawyer who wanna try out their hands in Novel

The only difference is she's more aggressive and can insult one to their tears

Again, are u two same person??
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Proserpina: 9:25pm On Jul 04
BTW I imagine what your reaction would have been if a woman had written this thread but because someone close to you is affected, you are here preaching the gospel.

I appreciate your concern but do not appreciate your hypocrisy.

We all know this, you can go back to hating women and calling women who follow your line of thoughts golddiggers. Na you go tire grin cheesy grin

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by DevilsEqual(m): 9:26pm On Jul 04
Op, you've not said anything special
A lil dive into evolutionary biology would tell u how instinctively, female humans have evolved to only look out for just Provision and Security/protection in men

I'd not advice my Sis to marry to a broke man either, but I'm not sure I'd tell my daughter same(I only want a male child)


My only issue is the point u said "it's becoming increasingly difficult for people to get rich". That's a lie!


That aside, it's a cold world and I'm out there to change as many women as possible. In the end, Karma doesn't exist and losers can go cry out their eyes in hades

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Proserpina: 9:29pm On Jul 04
DevilsEqual:



What's the Difference between you and Eunoi-aa


You text alike, the tone of your messages sound alike, you two write like Lawyer who wanna try out their hands in Novel

The only difference is she's more aggressive and can insult one to their tears

Again, are u two same person??
No I'm not Eunoi.aa , she's not me. We don't share passwords either. And yes she's a terrific writer with a sound mind.

I hope I have been able to answer your question.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by yungz: 10:07pm On Jul 04
i stand with you on this one. a scripture in the bible says, any man that can’t provide for his family is worst than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:8 ) before you tire the knot as a man at least have a steady source of income.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Klinxmanz(m): 10:27pm On Jul 04
FRANCISTOWN:


That's why a woman should not marry a broke man so she won't be frustrated to cheat.
Sir pls even if its the only and last help u can render me cos of my mom's condition.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by LandMann: 6:06am On Jul 05
A better advice is that women shouldn't go into marriage if they're financially handicapped.

Marriage is responsibility. Taking care of kids is responsibility. As a woman, go into marriage only if you are certain that you can feed and house yourself and your kids and pay for your kids education by yourself.

If you can't do these, don't marry yet. Get a job or learn a skill or trade that can fetch you enough money to be able to shoulder those expenses.

Only then will you be qualified to marry without depending so much on a man's income.

Doing this is also a safety net to ensure you don't sell your pride and honour under any circumstances, especially when the man fails to meet his financial obligation as the head of the home.

Again, as a skilled, resourceful and sensible woman with ability to earn and take care of her needs and those of her children, don't marry any man who is not hardworking and resourceful as well.

Look before you leap into marriage

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 6:36am On Jul 05
Proserpina:
While reading I knew you can't be genuine with your submission then your third paragraph towards the end confirms my suspicions.

On this section, you are a known redpiller who has preached against women pampering or treating women right with your focus on men who make money to spend on women. It is baffling you added that specific paragraph to your write up. You say "don't make money to spend on women", now you say make money but you are not obligated to one woman. Technically you encourage what you preach against

Did you forget what you stand for or you are simply CONFUSED .

I speak the truth always, but I guess it's a foreign language to you.

I've never identified myself with the redpill movement. I think it's a waste of time and I already debunked that in one of my threads.

https://www.nairaland.com/8123992/only-stupid-girls-date-broke/1#130465168

I only speak harsh realities regardless of who is comfortable with it or not.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 6:45am On Jul 05
Proserpina:

1. BTW I imagine what your reaction would have been if a woman had written this thread but

2. because someone close to you is affected, you are here preaching the gospel.

3. I appreciate your concern but do not appreciate your hypocrisy.[/b]

4. We all know this, you can go back to hating women and calling women who follow your line of thoughts golddiggers. Na you go tire grin cheesy grin

1. I'll see it as a reality. We can't do nothing against the truth but for the truth. If you denied the truth, you can't deny reality.


2. Nope. This happened more than 10years ago.

3. I absolutely respect what you've decided to believe.

4. I've never said anywhere on this thread that I've started liking women or sort. But the harsh realities of life must play themselves out regardless of who you love or hate.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 6:47am On Jul 05
DevilsEqual:
Op, you've not said anything special
A lil dive into evolutionary biology would tell u how instinctively, female humans have evolved to only look out for just Provision and Security/protection in men

I'd not advice my Sis to marry to a broke man either, but I'm not sure I'd tell my daughter same(I only want a male child)


My only issue is the point u said "it's becoming increasingly difficult for people to get rich". That's a lie!


That aside, it's a cold world and I'm out there to change as many women as possible. In the end, Karma doesn't exist and losers can go cry out their eyes in hades


You think it is?
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 6:48am On Jul 05
yungz:
i stand with you on this one. a scripture in the bible says, any man that can’t provide for his family is worst than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:cool before you tire the knot as a man at least have a steady source of income.

Absolutely. The truth is not for the weak.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 6:52am On Jul 05
LandMann:
A better advice is that women shouldn't go into marriage if they're financially handicapped.

Marriage is responsibility. Taking care of kids is responsibility. As a woman, go into marriage only if you are certain that you can feed and house yourself and your kids and pay for your kids education by yourself.

If you can't do these, don't marry yet. Get a job or learn a skill or trade that can fetch you enough money to be able to shoulder those expenses.

Only then will you be qualified to marry without depending so much on a man's income.

Doing this is also a safety net to ensure you don't sell your pride and honour under any circumstances, especially when the man fails to meet his financial obligation as the head of the home.

Again, as a skilled, resourceful and sensible woman with ability to earn and take care of her needs and those of her children, don't marry any man who is not hardworking and resourceful as well.

Look before you leap into marriage
Perfectly said. A woman must also be a perfect back up plan.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Madups(m): 8:45am On Jul 05
Proserpina:
While reading I knew you can't be genuine with your submission then your third paragraph towards the end confirms my suspicions.

On this section, you are a known redpiller who has preached against women pampering or treating women right with your focus on men who make money to spend on women. It is baffling you added that specific paragraph to your write up. You say "don't make money to spend on women", now you say make money but you are not obligated to one woman. Technically you encourage what you preach against

Did you forget what you stand for or you are simply CONFUSED .
The bros is indeed CONFUSED.. Cos the real problem i see here is not a lady DATING a broke or poor man but a LAZY woman who has nothing to offer getting married to an equally LAZY man and bringing a baby into this world just to suffer the innocent child.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Emmanuel900(m): 9:13am On Jul 05
FRANCISTOWN:
Many years ago when I was dead broke.

I used to have a goddaughter. A very pretty and respectful girl who would always tell me anything and seek my opinion and advice.
She was married anyways, had a daughter.

She married a guy who was still struggling. As a matter of fact , she was the one who rented the house they were living and the mattress they slept on.
One day she called me up that her daughter was sick and had been in the hospital about a week.
You know how Nigerian hospitals are, you really need to make a deposit before treatment can commence.
They needed 50k and she was able to raise 20k, so I gave her 10k. That made it 30k . 20k more to go.
The husband couldn't raise anything because strictly speaking the girl had been in charge of feeding the family.
Then I asked her what she was going to do about the remaining money? And she told me she didn't have an idea because the hospital had only given them 2weeks to get the money of which a week was out.

A day to when the two weeks was supposed to elapse, she called me, she was crying over the phone. I was even shocked. I thought the girl had died. But she just said she had been able to raise the money but she wanted to speak to me about something.

Well, when she came around. She told me after she had tried all her best to raise the money but couldn't. She remembered a man who had always been on her neck, but of which she had insulted and told to f*ck off because she couldn't defy her marriage.
She visited the man for assistance and the man said if she would grace his bed. He would give her 50k.
She said she insulted the man again and went back to the hospital. But the man called her again that night and offered 70k. But still turned him down.

She said in the middle of the night the kid was really acting strange which the doctor told her to hurry her up on the payment.
She had to accept the man's offer.
Now she was very heartbroken because she cheated on her husband. Well, she was crying a river but I couldn't hold her and put her on my chest to pet her. I mean, how could I touch a married woman even if she was my daughter.
In all honesty. She did the right thing.

As a man, if you refused to get your shit together. Your woman will be forced to cheat on you no matter how disciplined she is. Have you ever tasted hunger? Has a life been threatened?
Like I said in my other post. Survival comes first, what do you think a hungry wife would do if a man offered her something to quench her hunger?
And for you women. Stop putting yourself in a spot where you will be frustrated to cheat. It is easy for a hungry and a financially frustrated woman to cheat than for a woman who lives in comfort.
Sooner or later you will cheat when you go hungry everyday or you have a child who is lying helpless in a hospital ward.

Tall, dark and handsome with big Mujumba Bajumba will not pay your children school fees.
Broke men are only good for sex, believe me, those guys can remove a womb without surgery. But anything other than that is a waste.

What if you fell sick and your husband can't even pay your bills. May your soul rest in peace o.

And for those of you who say "No one knows tomorrow, that broke man may become rich later in life"

This is not Nollywood. In real life , it is becoming harder for poor men to become successful. Only about 10% Nigerian men are rich. Now that the economy is bad, it's about 8% and that percentage needs to be consistent. Therefore only about 1 out of every 500 men will become rich. Okay, so, what makes you think your broke man will be that one?

The reason the society has deteriorated this much is because many kids are raised in poverty stricken homes. And they must do all they can to survive. You force kids into this world when you clearly can't take care of them. Isn't that wickedness?

A broke man does not deserve marriage, if you're a girl and you marry a broke man. You are playing a risky game and you do not have sense.You are just stupid and you are also wicked. Unless you are rich enough to move him up the social ladder.
You can only give them sex, lots of sex and love but not marriage.

I'm not here to babysit a lie to make you feel good or like me. Your likeness doesn't add $1 to my account, so, basically your likeness is useless.
Before you get angry at me like I'm the cause of your misfortune.
Go out there and work your ass off to make money for yourself. And when you are made, you are not obligated to be tied to one woman.

Go get your shit together. You can't afford to let your kids suffer.

Oferegege, ewa femi losi frontpage.


Instead of all these gibberish why don't you advocate for women to make sure they can take care of themselves and even their children before marriage to any man, in fact it will increase their value and increase their chances of them getting a rich man too instead of just existing as a liability with nothing much to offer in life.

Lastly the harsh reality of life that most people can't come to terms with is that not everyone can be rich, only less than 50% of the world can fall under the category of rich and the number is even lower in a continent like Africa.
Your sermon is like saying 60% of women in Africa shouldn't marry till they die if they don't see any rich man that will marry them at the end of the day most of them will be the one to suffer not the men.

In life nothing is fix too, someone that is rich today can become poor tomorrow and even be worser due too many circumstances that can not be control and someone that is poor today can also become rich tomorrow, in fact a good percentage of rich people became rich after they married. Your post is just gibberish and shallow without any depth.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by DonroxyII: 6:36pm On Jul 08
FRANCISTOWN:
Many years ago when I was dead broke.

A day to when the two weeks was supposed to elapse, she called me, she was crying over the phone. I was even shocked. I thought the girl had died. But she just said she had been able to raise the money but she wanted to speak to me about something.

Well, when she came around. She told me after she had tried all her best to raise the money but couldn't. She remembered a man who had always been on her neck, but of which she had insulted and told to f*ck off because she couldn't defy her marriage.
She visited the man for assistance and the man said if she would grace his bed. He would give her 50k.
She said she insulted the man again and went back to the hospital. But the man called her again that night and offered 70k. But still turned him down.

She said in the middle of the night the kid was really acting strange which the doctor told her to hurry her up on the payment.
She had to accept the man's offer.
Now she was very heartbroken because she cheated on her husband. Well, she was crying a river but I couldn't hold her and put her on my chest to pet her. I mean, how could I touch a married woman even if she was my daughter.
In all honesty. She did the right thing.
She for no do am make the daughter die ... how can someone be doomed to hell because of one useless Man that failed to get his life together .... She even dey capp untop Fvck .... grin ....

Born to Suffer tongue 😜
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Sapasenator: 6:42pm On Jul 08
No one should date a broke person, a man or woman.

Broke people should first work on themselves before dating or mary a fellow broke ass. Reason why I never date students before you become their father.

You have the power to choose a dating partner and you should always choose based on the ability of the individual to positively add to your life goals.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 8:53pm On Jul 08
Emmanuel900:



Instead of all these gibberish why don't you advocate for women to make sure they can take care of themselves and even their children before marriage to any man, in fact it will increase their value and increase their chances of them getting a rich man too instead of just existing as a liability with nothing much to offer in life.

Lastly the harsh reality of life that most people can't come to terms with is that not everyone can be rich, only less than 50% of the world can fall under the category of rich and the number is even lower in a continent like Africa.
Your sermon is like saying 60% of women in Africa shouldn't marry till they die if they don't see any rich man that will marry them at the end of the day most of them will be the one to suffer not the men.

In life nothing is fix too, someone that is rich today can become poor tomorrow and even be worser due too many circumstances that can not be control and someone that is poor today can also become rich tomorrow, in fact a good percentage of rich people became rich after they married. Your post is just gibberish and shallow without any depth.


Thanks. I appreciate it.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by DeeScan: 10:06pm On Jul 08
FRANCISTOWN:
Many years ago when I was dead broke.

I used to have a goddaughter. A very pretty and respectful girl who would always tell me anything and seek my opinion and advice.
She was married anyways, had a daughter.

She married a guy who was still struggling. As a matter of fact , she was the one who rented the house they were living and the mattress they slept on.
One day she called me up that her daughter was sick and had been in the hospital about a week.
You know how Nigerian hospitals are, you really need to make a deposit before treatment can commence.
They needed 50k and she was able to raise 20k, so I gave her 10k. That made it 30k . 20k more to go.
The husband couldn't raise anything because strictly speaking the girl had been in charge of feeding the family.
Then I asked her what she was going to do about the remaining money? And she told me she didn't have an idea because the hospital had only given them 2weeks to get the money of which a week was out.

A day to when the two weeks was supposed to elapse, she called me, she was crying over the phone. I was even shocked. I thought the girl had died. But she just said she had been able to raise the money but she wanted to speak to me about something.

Well, when she came around. She told me after she had tried all her best to raise the money but couldn't. She remembered a man who had always been on her neck, but of which she had insulted and told to f*ck off because she couldn't defy her marriage.
She visited the man for assistance and the man said if she would grace his bed. He would give her 50k.
She said she insulted the man again and went back to the hospital. But the man called her again that night and offered 70k. But still turned him down.

She said in the middle of the night the kid was really acting strange which the doctor told her to hurry her up on the payment.
She had to accept the man's offer.
Now she was very heartbroken because she cheated on her husband. Well, she was crying a river but I couldn't hold her and put her on my chest to pet her. I mean, how could I touch a married woman even if she was my daughter.
In all honesty. She did the right thing.

As a man, if you refused to get your shit together. Your woman will be forced to cheat on you no matter how disciplined she is. Have you ever tasted hunger? Has a life been threatened?
Like I said in my other post. Survival comes first, what do you think a hungry wife would do if a man offered her something to quench her hunger?
And for you women. Stop putting yourself in a spot where you will be frustrated to cheat. It is easy for a hungry and a financially frustrated woman to cheat than for a woman who lives in comfort.
Sooner or later you will cheat when you go hungry everyday or you have a child who is lying helpless in a hospital ward.

Tall, dark and handsome with big Mujumba Bajumba will not pay your children school fees.
Broke men are only good for sex, believe me, those guys can remove a womb without surgery. But anything other than that is a waste.

What if you fell sick and your husband can't even pay your bills. May your soul rest in peace o.

And for those of you who say "No one knows tomorrow, that broke man may become rich later in life"

This is not Nollywood. In real life , it is becoming harder for poor men to become successful. Only about 10% Nigerian men are rich. Now that the economy is bad, it's about 8% and that percentage needs to be consistent. Therefore only about 1 out of every 500 men will become rich. Okay, so, what makes you think your broke man will be that one?

The reason the society has deteriorated this much is because many kids are raised in poverty stricken homes. And they must do all they can to survive. You force kids into this world when you clearly can't take care of them. Isn't that wickedness?

A broke man does not deserve marriage, if you're a girl and you marry a broke man. You are playing a risky game and you do not have sense.You are just stupid and you are also wicked. Unless you are rich enough to move him up the social ladder.
You can only give them sex, lots of sex and love but not marriage.

I'm not here to babysit a lie to make you feel good or like me. Your likeness doesn't add $1 to my account, so, basically your likeness is useless.
Before you get angry at me like I'm the cause of your misfortune.
Go out there and work your ass off to make money for yourself. And when you are made, you are not obligated to be tied to one woman.

Go get your shit together. You can't afford to let your kids suffer.

Oferegege, ewa femi losi frontpage.
the consequence is vice versa.. as a woman, if you don't get your shiit together and remain broke.. A man shall cheat on you as it is expected ..

Nobody should come and cry foul on my mention pls
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by DeeScan: 10:10pm On Jul 08
DevilsEqual:



What's the Difference between you and Eunoi-aa


You text alike, the tone of your messages sound alike, you two write like Lawyer who wanna try out their hands in Novel

The only difference is she's more aggressive and can insult one to their tears

Again, are u two same person??
she's Persephone ...

Not magnoliaa ..

Magnoliaa types like an educated tout..
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Lontorlooka(m): 4:58am On Jul 09
I know a few married women who are gullible.

First, they exhibit very poor to zero sense of judgement in determining men with potentials and will to make it.

They live for the moment, make their partner choice adamantly, launch a grand wedding ( usually a disappointing attempt to gather funds) and start having children even when the man has no tangible work.

Then the billing starts:
They bill their friends and families for every little and big thing.
FAF will often support with funds for business ideas, etc. All will be squandered on their expenses and to look good like others.

When FAF gets tired of them, they turn to old friends and colleagues; they play the pity game and drive sympathy using the innocent children.

If you dare question why her husband doesn’t take responsibility; first they’ll come with’ “he doesn’t have. Just leave him out of this.”
If you persists ; they’ll say you should employ him instead and insinuate you’re disrespecting him just because he doesn’t have.


The key attributes I see there is laziness from either or both sides .
Funds in aids pouring in from left and right from sympathizers makes the laziness even more concrete as he can continue to sit at home, eating and suggest more people for her to beg for aid .

They are very comfortable with how they are, will make more children and will only increase their net of helpers.

They are usually plagued in debts and not far from religious places.

They know how to pray well for helpers in appreciation but would never execute advice from you even if you fund that advice.


They seem to be immune to their own prayers.

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Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Sapasenator: 5:51am On Jul 09
Lontorlooka:
I know a few married women who are gullible.

First, they exhibit very poor to zero sense of judgement in determining men with potentials and will to make it.

They live for the moment, make their partner choice adamantly, launch a grand wedding ( usually a disappointing attempt to gather funds) and start having children even when the man has no tangible work.

Then the billing starts:
They bill their friends and families for every little and big thing.
FAF will often support with funds for business ideas, etc. All will be squandered on their expenses and to look good like others.

When FAF gets tired of them, they turn to old friends and colleagues; they play the pity game and drive sympathy using the innocent children.

If you dare question why her husband doesn’t take responsibility; first they’ll come with’ “he doesn’t have. Just leave him out of this.”
If you persists ; they’ll say you should employ him instead and insinuate you’re disrespecting him just because he doesn’t have.


The key attributes I see there is laziness from either or both sides .
Funds in aids pouring in from left and right from sympathizers makes the laziness even more concrete as he can continue to sit at home, eating and suggest more people for her to beg for aid .

They are very comfortable with how they are, will make more children and will only increase their net of helpers.

They are usually plagued in debts and not far from religious places.

They know how to pray well for helpers in appreciation but would never execute advice from you even if you fund that advice.


They seem to be immune to their own prayers.

I never pity such individuals and their families. You make your bed, you lie on it
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by Eunoiaa(f): 12:16pm On Jul 09
Sapa senator:
No one should date a broke person, a man or woman.

It's capitalism I blame sha.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by RealityKings: 2:30pm On Jul 09
This is not Nollywood. In real life , it is becoming harder for poor men to become successful.
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by abba190: 9:47am On Jul 11
FRANCISTOWN:
Many years ago when I was dead broke.

I used to have a goddaughter. A very pretty and respectful girl who would always tell me anything and seek my opinion and advice.
She was married anyways, had a daughter.

She married a guy who was still struggling. As a matter of fact , she was the one who rented the house they were living and the mattress they slept on.
One day she called me up that her daughter was sick and had been in the hospital about a week.
You know how Nigerian hospitals are, you really need to make a deposit before treatment can commence.
They needed 50k and she was able to raise 20k, so I gave her 10k. That made it 30k . 20k more to go.
The husband couldn't raise anything because strictly speaking the girl had been in charge of feeding the family.
Then I asked her what she was going to do about the remaining money? And she told me she didn't have an idea because the hospital had only given them 2weeks to get the money of which a week was out.

A day to when the two weeks was supposed to elapse, she called me, she was crying over the phone. I was even shocked. I thought the girl had died. But she just said she had been able to raise the money but she wanted to speak to me about something.

Well, when she came around. She told me after she had tried all her best to raise the money but couldn't. She remembered a man who had always been on her neck, but of which she had insulted and told to f*ck off because she couldn't defy her marriage.
She visited the man for assistance and the man said if she would grace his bed. He would give her 50k.
She said she insulted the man again and went back to the hospital. But the man called her again that night and offered 70k. But still turned him down.

She said in the middle of the night the kid was really acting strange which the doctor told her to hurry her up on the payment.
She had to accept the man's offer.
Now she was very heartbroken because she cheated on her husband. Well, she was crying a river but I couldn't hold her and put her on my chest to pet her. I mean, how could I touch a married woman even if she was my daughter.
In all honesty. She did the right thing.

As a man, if you refused to get your shit together. Your woman will be forced to cheat on you no matter how disciplined she is. Have you ever tasted hunger? Has a life been threatened?
Like I said in my other post. Survival comes first, what do you think a hungry wife would do if a man offered her something to quench her hunger?
And for you women. Stop putting yourself in a spot where you will be frustrated to cheat. It is easy for a hungry and a financially frustrated woman to cheat than for a woman who lives in comfort.
Sooner or later you will cheat when you go hungry everyday or you have a child who is lying helpless in a hospital ward.

Tall, dark and handsome with big Mujumba Bajumba will not pay your children school fees.
Broke men are only good for sex, believe me, those guys can remove a womb without surgery. But anything other than that is a waste.

What if you fell sick and your husband can't even pay your bills. May your soul rest in peace o.

And for those of you who say "No one knows tomorrow, that broke man may become rich later in life"

This is not Nollywood. In real life , it is becoming harder for poor men to become successful. Only about 10% Nigerian men are rich. Now that the economy is bad, it's about 8% and that percentage needs to be consistent. Therefore only about 1 out of every 500 men will become rich. Okay, so, what makes you think your broke man will be that one?

The reason the society has deteriorated this much is because many kids are raised in poverty stricken homes. And they must do all they can to survive. You force kids into this world when you clearly can't take care of them. Isn't that wickedness?

A broke man does not deserve marriage, if you're a girl and you marry a broke man. You are playing a risky game and you do not have sense.You are just stupid and you are also wicked. Unless you are rich enough to move him up the social ladder.
You can only give them sex, lots of sex and love but not marriage.

I'm not here to babysit a lie to make you feel good or like me. Your likeness doesn't add $1 to my account, so, basically your likeness is useless.
Before you get angry at me like I'm the cause of your misfortune.
Go out there and work your ass off to make money for yourself. And when you are made, you are not obligated to be tied to one woman.

Go get your shit together. You can't afford to let your kids suffer.

Oferegege, ewa femi losi frontpage.
bro you always say the truth. poverty na bastard, i hate myself because im poor how can others love me when i myself hate myself ? if i were a lady i will never go near a broke man
Re: The Dangers Of Dating A Broke Man. Part 1 by FRANCISTOWN: 3:33am On Jul 12
abba190:
bro you always say the truth. poverty na bastard, i hate myself because im poor how can others love me when i myself hate myself ? if i were a lady i will never go near a broke man
Now that You've come to terms with the truth. You must find a way out of poverty. It starts with persistence, never giving up. Always go head in first. Going in with your all.

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