Nice2023:
One woman I have never regret marrying.

Just this morning,I was asking myself,how on earth does she have this strength she uses to run the home. She is a banker,a very senior banker with unmatched humility. A loving mother who cherishes family beyond imagination. A girl I met in Abuja on my way to work now my most loving wife.

In my next world,I will marry her again and again...that is one thing I like about her.

She wakes up every 4am and by 6am everybody's food is ready,including my nanny. In fact,she does not wake my nanny to assist her but allows her to sleep and wake up with the children.

She is one of the sweetest women I have ever experienced. My marriage with her has experienced inexplicable growth and joy altogether.

Financially,she has never hid her money from me...not even one day,even when i don't ask her for it. Anytime she get a raise she tells me.

In summary, I don't regret ever marrying her.

All of the above is what I love about her.

What time does she sleep? And why doesn't she wake the nanny up?

I am curious.

bukatyne:


What time does she sleep? And why doesn't she wake the nanny up?

I am curious.

Because the nanny is also a human being...birth by a mother.
I see my nanny as my daughter also.

Nice2023:



Because the nanny is also a human being...birth by a mother.
I see my nanny as my daughter also.

Is your nanny an underage? Or your wife that wakes everyday by 4am wasn't birth by a mother?

I am trying to understand this response.

pocohantas:


Is your nanny an underage? Or your wife that wakes everyday by 4am wasn't birth by a mother?

I am trying to understand this response.

24years old.

Nice2023:



24years old.

A 24yrs old lady would be sleeping while her boss a top banker wakes by 4am EVERYDAY to prepare breakfast for the whole family. This is before the boss sets out to work while the nanny is at home. Hopefully you begin to see your wife as someone's daughter too.

pocohantas:


A 24yrs old lady would be sleeping while her boss a top banker wakes by 4am EVERYDAY to prepare breakfast for the whole family. This is before the boss sets out to work while the nanny is at home. Hopefully you begin to see your wife as someone's daughter too.

Why are u complaining for us...I once work for people and I know the negative impact it had on me...therefore,I can't treat others the way I was treated.

Nice2023:



Why are u complaining for us...I once work for peoppe and I know the negative impact it had on me...therefore,I can't treat others the way I was treated.

I am not complaining for you. Only hoping you also see the negative impact of waking by 4am everyday.

pocohantas:


I am not complaining for you. Only hoping you also see the negative impact of waking by 4am everyday.

My dear,I rather join my wife in the kitchen than see another person who is supposed to be sleeping awake.

If u work for me,I treat u with utmost respect and decorum...especially someone I usually leave my children for. As I buy snacks for my children and also do same for her and same goes to stocking of the house,I buy food and give her to give to her mum.

I have had two experiences where my former nannies wanted to come back after they must have gone for Omugwo or stopped worked on health grounds.

I am just not Nice for name calling but really a nice guy.

Nice2023:



My dear,I rather join my wife in the kitchen than see another person who is supposed to be sleeping awake.

If u work for me,I treat u with utmost respect and decorum...especially someone I usually leave my children for. As I buy snacks for my children and also do same for her and same goes to stocking of the house,I buy food and give her to give to her mum.

I have had two experiences where my former nannies wanted to come back after they must have gone for Omugwo or stopped worked on health grounds.

I am just not Nice for name calling but really nice guy.

Hopefully you have been joining her while the nanny sleeps. Such a kindhearted man.

pocohantas:


Is your nanny an underage? Or your wife that wakes everyday by 4am wasn't birth by a mother?

I am trying to understand this response.

You sef see am.

Well, if she is fine with waking up by 4am and happy to secure the husband's love that way, who are we to complain?

I just hate when the epitome of a good woman is suffer head and always stretching herself thin. It tells on the body & ages one quickly.

bukatyne:


You sef see am.

Well, if she is fine with waking up by 4am and happy to secure the husband's love that way, who are we to complain?

I just hate when the epitome of a good woman is suffer head and always stretching herself thin. It tells on the body & ages one quickly.

I was wondering why one would be so concerned about a 24yrs old nanny waking up by 4am, such that he sees it as maltreatment. But not the wife who works in a bank doing same everyday. The kids definitely go to school and the nanny has at least 8am to 1pm to recuperate. Unlike the wife who would remain active until she closes by 5/6pm.

Except during holidays like now, the nanny has hours to herself. So what is this fuss of being a kind boss over a nanny helping with breakfast prep? If she were the wife's sister, won't she wake to help?

To each their own like you have rightly said.

pocohantas:


A 24yrs old lady would be sleeping while her boss a top banker wakes by 4am EVERYDAY to prepare breakfast for the whole family. This is before the boss sets out to work while the nanny is at home. Hopefully you begin to see your wife as someone's daughter too.

Thank you.
I read that opening post twice and what I see is a woman who don't cherish herself. A woman who live to slave for her house so she will be tagged a good wife.
Oga don't even enter kit hen cos it's above him.
Yeah, good wife indeed.
How I wish we can read the woman's heart and see how she feel without being fake.

Nice2023:



My dear,I rather join my wife in the kitchen than see another person who is supposed to be sleeping awake.

If u work for me,I treat u with utmost respect and decorum...especially someone I usually leave my children for. As I buy snacks for my children and also do same for her and same goes to stocking of the house,I buy food and give her to give to her mum.

I have had two experiences where my former nannies wanted to come back after they must have gone for Omugwo or stopped worked on health grounds.

I am just not Nice for name calling but really a nice guy.

Your wife may eventually experience a burn out due to over exertion which may lead to subtle depression and serious consequences.

Asking the maid to assist at 4am is not equivalent to a bad treatment. You can even have a rotational schedule where you and the maid wake up early sometimes, just so that your wife has some days off for extra sleep.

If you really love your wife, I suggest you encourage an open, honest conversation about how she feels. Ask her to share her thoughts about her current routine and office workload. This will help you evaluate if she is experiencing any burnout or stress.

Read the link below to for awareness.
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2021/10/cover-parental-burnout

Nice2023:



My dear,I rather join my wife in the kitchen than see another person who is supposed to be sleeping awake.

If u work for me,I treat u with utmost respect and decorum...especially someone I usually leave my children for. As I buy snacks for my children and also do same for her and same goes to stocking of the house,I buy food and give her to give to her mum.

I have had two experiences where my former nannies wanted to come back after they must have gone for Omugwo or stopped worked on health grounds.

I am just not Nice for name calling but really a nice guy.

Then why not join your wife in the kit hen every day at 4.

A 24yrs oldnanny is a paid to do the job and waking up to help prep breakfast is part of her job.

A top banker with kids who obviously go to bed late while waking up at 4 will in no time suffer from depression and mental health challenge.
You are breeding a monster but remember, when it happens don't say it's the devil but it's what you groomed over the years.
Your wife is not a slave. What I read is slavery.

Yes, I am igbo and I know you are. Most of our wives are slaves in marriage. The reason you see a wife beating the maid to death cos of transferred aggression rampant in the east
Society sees her like you as a strong woman. She is not. She is living for the society instead of herself. It will be good if you start seeing marriage from the lens of modern man not what our ancestors passed down to us.
She is someone else child too and her family also loves her.
Marriage is not entrapment.

Until you have personally made serious compromises cos of your wife, she is simply your slave.