GETTING MARRIED ON A N3O,OOO SALARY

I asked my ladies if they can marry a man who earns 3Ok. Some said YES, some said NO for justifiable reasons.

A guy asked me if he could marry on a #67,OOO salary. Another asked me if he could marry on a #64,OOO monthly income, I said a big fat yes to both of them! Yes, you can!

The problem is not how much you earn, the problem is how you handle what you earn.

You can easrn 5OOk monthly and still not be ready for marriage! Financial intelligence is different from earning intelligence.

No matter what you earn, have a growth mentality. Ladies, take note, marry a guy who has a GROWTH MENTALITY. Don't marry a man who thinks 3Ok is a fortune and can't think of breaking out of the box.

Always know, that you can earn far above what you do now. It is possible to earn 3Ok by January and earn 2OOk by March. Think, make research, consult, seek counsel, look out for clean ways to make more money.

Save at least, 1O% of what you earn monthly. It will save you from some emergencies and have something handily in case a good, well researched business opportunity shows up. It takes self discipline to save. Some people will never save even if they earn 5PPk monthly. Learn to save for your future, emergencies and opportunities.

Spend below what you earn. This is where a lot of couples run into avoidable problems. With #62,OOO monthly, you should not live in an apartment more than 6Ok annual rent. That is your level, that is your size, to live above that level is covetousness, stupidity and financial suicide!

You will be amazed the kind of houses some people live and still be begging for money to eat.

Get out of that house my friend! Look for something smaller, save up the extra money you have for a business that will earn you money to feed your family and enjoy your life with peace.

What will people say is the reason many have ended in their early grave! People will tell you how stupid you were after you are gone!

You are wiser than that! Don't allow what people say push you into financial frustration!

Live your level per time.

Live in a house your one month income can clear. If you need a more comfortable accommodation, earn more and live bigger.

Spend far below what you earn.

I can keep repeating this till tomorrow!

You can marry with the little you have but don't stay there!

Am I communicating?

© Seun Oladele, 2O23; reposted, 2O24.
talktoseunoladele@gmail.com

.... Marriage different sha....

Some pple na their parent go feed/support them till their leg go balance well well...

Very common in the west....and it's a good idea as parent render their loving support to their newly married children...
a lot of my mates married through this route..and most are doing fine now.

Anyway, regardless of what u are earning now ..it's just a phase, don't stay there...

keep moving, keep walking, keep looking for ideas, keep asking questions...keep solving problems....keep believing!!

You are setting yourself up for poverty and frustration

The whole matter hard oh.

Earning that exact amount of money shouldn't be for a family at all.

It worked for you doesn't mean it will work for others

"Spend below what you earn. This is where a lot of couples run into avoidable problems. With #62,OOO monthly, you should not live in an apartment more than 6Ok annual rent."

You don't need a soothsayer to tell you Seun Oladele is a SILLY boy who got his hands on one of those personal finance books.

You will NEVER find a habitable apartment for #60,000 per YEAR. Except maybe somewhere in Borno State.

Also getting married on a #30k or even #60k salary is just being dumb. That's NOTHING!

Deduct transport fare from that money and it's even LESS than nothing.

Whatever is left after Tfare would not even be enough to feed ONE person not to talk of feeding a FAMILY.

Also the idea that you could get married in January at a salary of #30k and MAGICALLY be on a salary of #200k by March is RIDICULOUS.

While not completely impossible, such leap in salary is RARE and UNLIKELY.

There is NO difference between planning your life on something like that and playing BetNaija as a viable financial strategy.

It's just STUPID!

Try this epistle and you learn the hard way.

Better to be depressed as a single man than as a family man with kids

seunoladele:
GETTING MARRIED ON A N3O,OOO SALARY

I asked my ladies if they can marry a man who earns 3Ok. Some said YES, some said NO for justifiable reasons.

A guy asked me if he could marry on a #67,OOO salary. Another asked me if he could marry on a #64,OOO monthly income, I said a big fat yes to both of them! Yes, you can!

The problem is not how much you earn, the problem is how you handle what you earn.

You can easrn 5OOk monthly and still not be ready for marriage! Financial intelligence is different from earning intelligence.

No matter what you earn, have a growth mentality. Ladies, take note, marry a guy who has a GROWTH MENTALITY. Don't marry a man who thinks 3Ok is a fortune and can't think of breaking out of the box.

Always know, that you can earn far above what you do now. It is possible to earn 3Ok by January and earn 2OOk by March. Think, make research, consult, seek counsel, look out for clean ways to make more money.

Save at least, 1O% of what you earn monthly. It will save you from some emergencies and have something handily in case a good, well researched business opportunity shows up. It takes self discipline to save. Some people will never save even if they earn 5PPk monthly. Learn to save for your future, emergencies and opportunities.

Spend below what you earn. This is where a lot of couples run into avoidable problems. With #62,OOO monthly, you should not live in an apartment more than 6Ok annual rent. That is your level, that is your size, to live above that level is covetousness, stupidity and financial suicide!

You will be amazed the kind of houses some people live and still be begging for money to eat.

Get out of that house my friend! Look for something smaller, save up the extra money you have for a business that will earn you money to feed your family and enjoy your life with peace.

What will people say is the reason many have ended in their early grave! People will tell you how stupid you were after you are gone!

You are wiser than that! Don't allow what people say push you into financial frustration!

Live your level per time.

Live in a house your one month income can clear. If you need a more comfortable accommodation, earn more and live bigger.

Spend far below what you earn.

I can keep repeating this till tomorrow!

You can marry with the little you have but don't stay there!

Am I communicating?

© Seun Oladele, 2O23; reposted, 2O24.
talktoseunoladele@gmail.com

So people still reason this way? And you say you’re financially intelligent? LOL

ANYBODY READING THIS, PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS MAN O.

These people never learn, they are like mindless zombies who will continue to perpetuate generational poverty. They never stop to think and ask impotant life questions and believe marriage and having kids are an achievement. Na people like them dey born criminals and kidnappers

In Femi Kuti's voice; "I sorry sorry o, I sorry for Nigeria"!

Sapasenator:
These people never learn, they are like a mindless zombie will continue to perpetuate generational poverty. They never stop to think and ask impotent question and believe marriage and having kids is an achievement. Na people like them dey born criminals and kidnappers.

The major reason we are backward, very foolish mentality. Germany population was 78.29 million (1980), while Nigerian population was 72.95 million (1980).

Fast track to 2024, Germany is around 83 Million, while Nigerian Population is around 230 Million.

The name thing with U.S, and some other advanced countries, slight increase in population

Get married and struggle to feed the the family, not to talk of giving them a better life, children will grow up to be hooligans and illiterates, and the problems in our society keep multiplying.

ObalendeCMS:
In Femi Kuti's voice; "I sorry sorry o, I sorry for Africa"!

Real sorry for Africa. Why would someone on less than 25$ a month be talking of marriage if not a case of underlying mental illness.

Sapasenator:


Real sorry for Africa. Why would someone on less than 25$ a month be talking of marriage if not a case of underlying mental illness.

Ę GBÀ MÍ OOOOO!

The 30k, is it for eba

COMRADES, getting married in this turbulent economy is akin to suicide

Even me wey dey get up to 200 plus can't and won't advise anyone earning less than a 100k to get married

“Step of faith” people. 🤧

ObalendeCMS:


Ę GBÀ MÍ OOOOO!

You forgot to tag

ARA ADUGBO!

Sapasenator:


You forgot to tag

ARA ADUGBO!

I was actually listening to that track by Femi Kuti when I came across this uninspiring & suicide encouraging thread!

20 usd a month and thinking of marriage

Leave sentiments aside, and let's be real. A man that earns 30k per month has no business with marriage. If such a man considers marriage, then he is not serious and can't be trusted to lead a home.

30k per month combined with marriage is just a way of multiplying hardship and responsibility, and carrying a greater degree of poverty to the next generation. SMH. Clearly, such a man has learnt nothing from life, and obviously doesn't yearn for better days.

Today, no kind father should hand his daughter to a man earning 30k per month for marriage.

"It is how you manage the money."
Keep quiet joor. Instead of focusing how to improve your financial muscles you are giving yourself daily shots of COPEium to massage your sentiments, something that will multiply your hardship.

The good thing about such people as the OP/author is that you don't see them in real life to counter them squarely and rub their faces with their ridiculous ideologies.

Despite his useless take, he did make some reasonable and good points: savings and living within your means. However, we must be careful not to swallow the gibberish because of this.

The return on investment in marriage is nothing. Especially for the man. Reproduction as a result of human biological imperative and quality parental investment in raising kids is the point marriage has good leverage. Aside from that, it is nothing but a useless burden.

The OP failed to factor in inflation and poor economic turnout in his post, which affects purchasing power gravely.

The OP said living in a 60k annual rent residence. 5k/month.
However, he failed to consider the utter state of such residences and the poor neighborhoods that define such places of inhabitation. He wants to live by faith.

What should fear you mostly as an individual is your inability to achieve something tangible and meaningful with your life as you become older. Not marriage.

You should be thinking of not accomplishing your purpose in life rather than the thoughts of marriage because you want a steady supply of sex - for the men or security - for the women.

You all just believe that marriage is a blissful union that comes with a special kind of treasure box that will fill the whole house once you say "I do". Rubbish!

Before you get married, make sure your tentacles are large and strong.

Make sure you are closer to your goals in life.

Make sure you have the ways and means to feed yourself and 5 other persons as a single man in the next 20 years without flinching.

Make sure you are fully rooted in your skill and career pursuit.

The world is tougher for you because your parents never cared about their children. Just reproduce like rabbits and inshallah. Jehovah will take the wheel.

Make sure you are emotionally, psychologically, and financially buoyant.

Don't pick marriage in January and start complaining about how the economy is unfavorable to you, your wife, and 4½ kids.

The same applies to women.

Be career-oriented + endeavor to protect your feminity. The economy is performing poorly, and a whole lot is happening concurrently. It is not an easy thing but you must carry your cross too.

Marriage will not give you any blessings. No blessings. It will be enjoyable when you have set the path to follow for yourself.

Don't allow your kids to suffer the same fate you are suffering as a result of your parent's faults and mistakes.

How do you even want to help a child achieve his dreams when you, as the father or mother, aren't able to do so for yourself?

Martinez39s:
Leave sentiments aside, and let's be real. A man that earns 30k per month has no business with marriage. If such a man considers marriage, then he is not serious and can't be trusted to lead a home.

30k per month combined with marriage is just a way of multiplying hardship and responsibility, and carrying a greater degree of poverty to the next generation. SMH. Clearly, such a man has learnt nothing from life, and obviously doesn't yearn for better days.

Today, no kind father should hand his daughter to a man earning 30k per month for marriage.

"It is how you manage the money."
Keep quiet joor. Instead of focusing how to improve your financial muscles you are giving yourself daily shots of COPEium to massage your sentiments, something that will multiply your hardship.

simp

Clear and well-supported discussion.

seunoladele:
GETTING MARRIED ON A N3O,OOO SALARY

I asked my ladies if they can marry a man who earns 3Ok. Some said YES, some said NO for justifiable reasons.

A guy asked me if he could marry on a #67,OOO salary. Another asked me if he could marry on a #64,OOO monthly income, I said a big fat yes to both of them! Yes, you can!

The problem is not how much you earn, the problem is how you handle what you earn.

You can easrn 5OOk monthly and still not be ready for marriage! Financial intelligence is different from earning intelligence.

No matter what you earn, have a growth mentality. Ladies, take note, marry a guy who has a GROWTH MENTALITY. Don't marry a man who thinks 3Ok is a fortune and can't think of breaking out of the box.

Always know, that you can earn far above what you do now. It is possible to earn 3Ok by January and earn 2OOk by March. Think, make research, consult, seek counsel, look out for clean ways to make more money.

Save at least, 1O% of what you earn monthly. It will save you from some emergencies and have something handily in case a good, well researched business opportunity shows up. It takes self discipline to save. Some people will never save even if they earn 5PPk monthly. Learn to save for your future, emergencies and opportunities.

Spend below what you earn. This is where a lot of couples run into avoidable problems. With #62,OOO monthly, you should not live in an apartment more than 6Ok annual rent. That is your level, that is your size, to live above that level is covetousness, stupidity and financial suicide!

You will be amazed the kind of houses some people live and still be begging for money to eat.

Get out of that house my friend! Look for something smaller, save up the extra money you have for a business that will earn you money to feed your family and enjoy your life with peace.

What will people say is the reason many have ended in their early grave! People will tell you how stupid you were after you are gone!

You are wiser than that! Don't allow what people say push you into financial frustration!

Live your level per time.

Live in a house your one month income can clear. If you need a more comfortable accommodation, earn more and live bigger.

Spend far below what you earn.

I can keep repeating this till tomorrow!

You can marry with the little you have but don't stay there!

Am I communicating?

© Seun Oladele, 2O23; reposted, 2O24.
talktoseunoladele@gmail.com

OP in a situation where you earn a good salary before and rent a good apartments but later you lost the job and the current job the salary s not really pay the rent, how will you do with that

People dey marry with 30k salary?
E be like say na this kind people dey produce all the Alamajiri children wey we dey see for street.

This should be a heinous crime. Only in Africa that people carry marriage on their head like an achievement. So embarrassing

Getting married while earning a salary of just 30K in present day Nigeria is a suicide mission

This isn't a realistic writeup


You just want those bitter people to come here and start cursing average earning family men and women 🗑️

sofeo:



The major reason we are backward, very foolish mentality. Germany population was 78.29 million (1980), while Nigerian population was 72.95 million (1980).

Fast track to 2024, Germany is around 83 Million, while Nigerian Population is around 230 Million.

The name thing with U.S, and some other advanced countries, slight increase in population

Get married and struggle to feed the the family, not to talk of giving them a better life, children will grow up to be hooligans and illiterates, and the problems in our society keep multiplying.

So population is the reason we're backwards?


What's the population of Iceland to the USA?

How come US is above them in every indices?

What about Croatia,Belarus?

What's the population increase in percentage over the last 50years as compared to the US?


China is more populated than Poland....compare the increase in the last 50years and tell me why China is still ahead in every developmental indices despite th huge population

You guys should start talking like educated folks abeg. Any small thing "This is why we're backwards "


You that aren't backwards, what have u done to push your country forward?

The comments here so far are highly bias and immensely lopsided, Op made a point, it's not about how much you earn, but how much you can manage while pushing for a better life. Some of our parents trained us with less than 30k per month and that didn't stop us from becoming responsible children. All fingers are not equal, what about people in interior villages with nothing but farm work as a means of livelihood, are they not living quality life according to their level, everybody must not be rich, some don't even care, they just want to be comfortable and afford basic things of life. I will use myself as an instance, my parent trained me with less than 30k salary till I graduated from the University, though Unizik fee then was 21k, I served my country last year, though I haven't gotten a job yet but I send 60k to them monthly for upkeep, all thanks to God and my tech skill as a Web developer. It's not about how much you earn, but how much you can manage the little you have and also invest some parts in what will increase yield. You don't need millions to start investment, even with a paltry 5k or 10k, you can double it if you have business acumen.

sofeo:



The major reason we are backward, very foolish mentality. Germany population was 78.29 million (1980), while Nigerian population was 72.95 million (1980).

Fast track to 2024, Germany is around 83 Million, while Nigerian Population is around 230 Million.

The name thing with U.S, and some other advanced countries, slight increase in population

Get married and struggle to feed the the family, not to talk of giving them a better life, children will grow up to be hooligans and illiterates, and the problems in our society keep multiplying.

U pointed at something that is very important here.

The one that even got me confused is the man that got married without a job.

Give birth in poverty and nurtured them in extreme poverty.