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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Treasure17(m): 4:25pm On Sep 02
Successtube:


My brother that's not the case. If she was taking care of responsibilities, it would have been a different ball game. But I'm still the one taking care of the financial responsibilities. She would not buy food items until I send her money. Recently I even noticed she steals my little money.
She steals your money Keh grin Your wife is stingy o
Be careful though.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Sapasenator: 4:29pm On Sep 02
Divorce her asap and NEVER let her get pregnant for you.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Farfalla(f): 4:41pm On Sep 02
johnog4sure:


My own advice is that MEN BE SELFISH (put yourself first and sometimes yourself alone, ignore wife ignore children they all will be fine even without you) I know it is hard for good men to take this advice, even me I am struggling to take my own advice.

Mr. Man, if you want to ignore your wife or walk out on her go right ahead. Na you sabi. But your children are your responsibility regardless of how you feel about their mother. You don't bring children into this world just to "ignore" them because you need to prove a point.

Your anger is valid but your children should not be punished as a result.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by galantjoe(m): 4:42pm On Sep 02
Op
Be a strong man
Be decisive and be prompt in your action
Divorce is never a crime

Remember nobody will support you. If you ask me personally I won't support you to divorce your wife. So it is your personal decision devoid of any external influence

Good luck in your decision

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Smilleydr(m): 5:06pm On Sep 02
Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!
op, if getting marry to your ex will make you happy and relieved your burden pls do Asap, don't kill your self because of any woman your happiness s very important sir, Aunty Bukolat wey her husband s very hard working died last year, Aunty Bukolat don do wedding with another man this last Saturday come even fresh and happy, bro consider your own life ooo, if any woman no won allow you enjoy life s better you leave am, we just av only one life to live brof

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by johnog4sure: 5:23pm On Sep 02
Farfalla:


Mr. Man, if you want to ignore your wife or walk out on her go right ahead. Na you sabi. But your children are your responsibility regardless of how you feel about their mother. You don't bring children into this world just to "ignore" them because you need to prove a point.

Your anger is valid but your children should not be punished as a result.
Maybe I didn't put it rightly, you can't success drag children with women in breakups, just let them grow to certain stage before asking for costudy, once you start dragging children with women they will use it as a bargaining tool

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by ItisWell22(f): 5:24pm On Sep 02
incogni2o:
VERY NAIVE TO SAY STUDY YOUR PARTNER THOROUGHLY BEFORE MARRIAGE

AFTER ALL THE WRITEUP, THAT'S YOUR CONCLUSION.

WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, DON'T COMPLICATE BY MAKING WORSE MISTAKES.

A MAN ADMITS HIS MISTAKES AND MOVES ON WITH FIXING THEM WITH NO REGRETS.

NOT TRYING TO GO BACK TO START AGAIN.

PICK UP THE PIECES AND MOVE ON.

LIFE IS SHORT


After a year and three months of dating.

It’s well.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Yugoslavia247(m): 5:38pm On Sep 02
Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Firstly, your struggles might be due to infidelity from your wife that is if it exists. Check that first
Secondly, no woman will help you when you are down.

Thirdly, she never loved you.

You just did not see it. If she loves someone else. Oyo is your case.

Truly, many women hate sex.
Like they can do without sex for months or years.
That is biology. But a woman who loves you will consider you and make herself availabe as much as she can.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 5:58pm On Sep 02
Zonefree:
My only advice is, Don't let your wife stops you from finding the love of your life.

Hahahahha
Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 6:02pm On Sep 02
Successtube:
I ybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Frustrate her before you leave the marriage bro. Just don't leave in peace because she fooled you and wasted your time and resources.

I have a well drafted plan to achieve the frustration master plan If you are interested angry

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Successtube: 6:11pm On Sep 02
Treasure17:

She steals your money Keh grin Your wife is stingy o
Be careful though.

Imagine this was someone during our dating days I would give money when she visits me and is about to leave, but she will refuse to collect it. She will be coming to my house then, she will buy foodstuffs for me with her money and when I want to refund her, she will tell me I should forget that we are one.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by imustsaymymindo: 6:37pm On Sep 02
Successtube:
Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Here you go advising people not to rush and you are failing in your own advise the second time rushing to want to get married to an ex.

What I am certain of is that your ex would deal with you more than your wife.

Why don't you use this period of pain to build and upgrade yourself? Cut off your ex. Stay away from sex from your wife and her money. Use the time to learn as much skills as you can and own your life. Choose yourself. Live like you are single and do the things you love that'd make you stay off sex(it's just for a while till you become a man who is perceived to have options). Sports, gym, chill with your other male friends, network, get updated.

From my experience, "people love those who love themselves". And that is why your wife doesn't love you.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by PJtech: 6:58pm On Sep 02
RealityKings:


Frustrate her before you leave the marriage bro. Just don't leave in peace because she fooled you and wasted your time and resources.

I have a well drafted plan to achieve the frustration master plan If you are interested angry

See someone that Jesus died for🤔😳

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Bankowner: 7:27pm On Sep 02
She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist."

I was down this rabbit hole one time too many.
I did the next best thing and took a walk.
I couldn't continue to work hard to build a family with someone not ready to be a dependable support system.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by papyjaypaul: 7:52pm On Sep 02
Successtube:


Taking charge is the reason why you see some men beating their wives. A woman who don't want to mellow down will not. I rather leave the marriage than beat my wife.

But the truth is women like men to dominate them and they respect men with authority. That is what it is. I don't mean injure them or beat them but you have to be manly to be the man of the house. Women don't like a womanly man or a feminine man, they prefer the opposite. That is why when I look at gifting, if the man is responsible, I will give the woman 2/5 and the man 4/5 because only men know what responsibilities they go through. They don't get help and society still blames them if they are down

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by FirstCounsel(m): 8:03pm On Sep 02
grin
PJtech:


See someone that Jesus died for🤔😳

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by hakeemhakeem(m): 8:11pm On Sep 02
Bro the no of years dating to know a person don't stop bad fellows to show themselves you married a wrong person,I seen a woman sold her land to assist her husband when they had accommodations issues.Go and find peace in wherever you can this life is too short

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 8:23pm On Sep 02
PJtech:


See someone that Jesus died for🤔😳

How can someone that couldn't save him self from his cross die for me?

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by franchasng: 8:24pm On Sep 02
Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!
If all you wrote are true, then you won't be judged badly if you end the marriage with her and remarry your ex.

You are lucky your nice ex is still single, so run back to her fast and never look back.


But I hope you and your wife don't have any child yet? I won't be happy if children are involved, if no child, please divorce her asap and never look back, that's if all you narrated are true

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by franchasng: 8:33pm On Sep 02
Dear Nigerian men, if you are not rich and very financially successful when you are about to marry, please be a gold digger; go for ladies that can help you financially, there are plenty of them in Nigeria and abroad. Make use of the internet social media for good, there are plenty financially buoyant single ladies in Nigeria and abroad looking for a serious man to settle down with.



Learn to be a gold digger as a single guy. Stop marrying for love, romantic love does not exist.


Marrying for love alone is a mistake in this current world we live in, marry for companionship, compatibility, financial stability and career growth. With stable income, you will never feel miserable in any marriage as a man, but being broke and married to a bad woman is worst than being sentenced to death penalty.


If you are poor or financially average as a guy, don't marry for love, marry for financial stability and compatibility.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Sunmolar(m): 8:42pm On Sep 02
Zonefree:
My only advice is, Don't let your wife stops you from finding the love of your life.

I don't know men can be deluded by emotions.
So, if he married his ex because of immediate solution to financial needs from her... All marital problem solved?

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by PJtech: 8:47pm On Sep 02
RealityKings:


How can someone that couldn't save him self from his cross die for me?

He died so you'll not perish in your ignorance. He has power over death

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 8:53pm On Sep 02
PJtech:


He died so you'll not perish in your ignorance. He has power over death

What about hunger and lack?
Does he have power over that too?

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by PJtech: 9:06pm On Sep 02
RealityKings:


What about hunger and lack?
Does he have power over that too?

He has power over everything. All power in heaven and earth belongs to him

Incase you want to ask why I'm not rich, ask yourself why you're also not rich(since you don't blive in him you should be an exemption)

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by COOL10(m): 9:13pm On Sep 02
If we check your past now, we'll probably see that you used to be amongst those shaming bachelors for refusing to get married. You thought your wife was an angel. Now that she has you locked down, she has decided to be and show you her true evil self.


Just know that your wife is most likely already cheating on you. If she's not right now, it won't take long before she starts, and nah one small boy go dey fvck her in different dimensions.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Softmirror: 9:18pm On Sep 02
Zonefree:

Side chicks are for men not serious with their lives.

Get yourself a godly woman with a heart of gold and enjoy life with her.

A Nigerian woman?

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 9:21pm On Sep 02
PJtech:


He has power over everything. All power in heaven and earth belongs to him

Incase you want to ask why I'm not rich, ask yourself why you're also not rich(since you don't blive in him you should be an exemption)


Nonsense! what do you mean by you not being rich? Don't you have wealth and mansions stored in heaven?

As a matter of fact, why should you be bothered about earthly wealth?
Leave the earthly wealth and struggles to me. Go home....

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 9:28pm On Sep 02
Successtube:


Imagine this was someone during our dating days I would give money when she visits me and is about to leave, but she will refuse to collect it. She will be coming to my house then, she will buy foodstuffs for me with her money and when I want to refund her, she will tell me I should forget that we are one.

Games women play

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Drella(m): 9:39pm On Sep 02
Karleb:
You people will make rubbish decisions and start disturbing our peace.

When yours happen, you'll understand.

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Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by PJtech: 9:45pm On Sep 02
RealityKings:



Nonsense! what do you mean by you not being rich? Don't you have wealth and mansions stored in heaven?

As a matter of fact, why should you be bothered about earthly wealth?
Leave the earthly wealth and struggles to me. Go home....

Jesu loba🦅🦅
Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 9:49pm On Sep 02
PJtech:


Jesu loba🦅🦅


Yes he is the lord and saviour of the world and those in heaven. I believe in him with all my heart

Jesus is king 🪓🪓

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