IdeasYapayaski:


Any woman doing that deserves to die.

Oga cal down naaaa...which one is die

idahme:


Make you go buy house wey after paying mortgage for 20 years them go pursue you? Na person wey no get sense go fall victim. Once woman know say you don pay 80% of mortgage e don be b that

na d concept my bro way don dey years for abroad give me oo. Him even get house but na een our popsy name the house dey

1stGenAmerican:


Never. Same with UK police—this advice was never given.

Actually, it's true but I don't think it happened this year. It was a hot topic here once.
I had to look for it as I watched the video then and contributed to the debate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xysRT4AwZbk?si=UoAvWjY780IVpLor

That same time, met police were looking for yoruba speakers to join the police specifically for this. It was too much then. Little matters that can be handled by family we're always taken to the police where police has bigger cases to handle and it was like tagged wasting tax payers money on frivolities.
Police looked for Nigerians who are fluent in yoruba in Peckham if I can remember.

emmabest2000:
My friend who live in UK once said that 90% of Nigerian family in UK that live peaceful and happily has obedient and submission husband at home

descarado:

Actually, it's true but I don't think it happened this year. It was a hot topic here once.
I had to look for it as I watched the video then and contributed to the debate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xysRT4AwZbk?si=UoAvWjY780IVpLor

This is just a video recorded inside a church. If this man was really a police officer, I’m sure he was sacked very soon after he told this lie. This was done in church to fearmonger and keep the pastor’s offering fat. No police force in the universe would condone this because of the liability involved.

Zonefree:
When they're approaching the "wall", they talk with sense hoping to attract and deceive gullible men.

Not gullible men ooo. Even the smartest of man can be deceived by a sweet, calm, loyal, respectful, and hardworking girl. You know what?

bukatyne:
Where is the source of the UK police warning Nigerian women not to report their husbands?

Very curious.

No source that’s credible, only videos and word of mouth. Lies and fear mongering.

descarado:
That same time, met police were looking for yoruba speakers to join the police spe finally for this. It was too much then. Little matters that can be handled by family we're always taken to the police where police has bigger cases to handle and it was like tagged wasting tax payers money on frivolities.
Police looked for Nigerians who are fluent in yoruba in Peckham if I can remember.

Oga why u dey explain...nor dey shàlàyè too much give woman....it's of nor use....they will still tag ur explaination as lies......once their gender starts doing shameful BS....they will always call it lies and bashing when they get called out.... Na saint them be....they don't ever do evil....

1stGenAmerican:


If this man was really a police officer, I’m sure he was sacked very soon after he told this lie.

Babe, rest. You don't know more than them and how they work. You looked for evidence which you got and now you are saying the man should be sacked.

advanceDNA:


Oga why u dey explain...nor dey shàlàyè too much give woman....it's of nor use........once their gender starts doing shameful BS....they will always call it lies and bashing when they get called out.... Na saint them be....they don't ever do evil....

I am not oga. I am a lady. I live in uk and yes our men can drive you mad but there are so many instances where our women run to the police for some stupid things you have in every family including the brits.

The men are not helping matters at all and cos of freedom to finally complain to who will hear them out once, they tend to overdo it. That's the message the met police was passing across.

cococandy:
Sometimes you just have read the lies, shake your head and move on

This forum is notorious for spreading gargantuan lies about women who live abroad. I know the whole world is patriarchal but we have a special type of archaic patriarchy where the thought of women existing as respected members of their families who can’t be easily mistreated gives them heart burn. That’s just it.

That the reason for the obsession and why you see the incessant useless lies. Like women can do anything and there’s no justice for men. They’re just upset that they can’t abuse their wives and have it swept under the rug as family matters.🙄

That’s the gist of it, really. The men are accustomed to beating on women and ‘resetting their brains’ so instead of leaving that behavior behind in Nigeria, they bring it to the West with them. They want to bully and abuse their women while taking all of her earnings, trying to control the finances, wasting it on what he pleases. The women gets fed up and the next time he attempts a brain reset, she calls the police and he’s arrested and sometimes deported. The man then lies, saying how the woman kicked him out of his own house for no reason—-sometimes a house where he hasn’t paid a bill because he’s been busy forming big boy with his own money while she’s been paying the bills with hers.
Same goes for children. They don’t correct, they abuse and commit horrendous acts on children, beating them like animals, then act shocked when they’re carted away to jail.

descarado:

Babe, rest. You don't know more than them and how they work. You looked for evidence which you got and now you are saying the man should be sacked.

You showed me a video of a man talking in what looks like a church, that doesn’t count as evidence. But thanks anyway.

1stGenAmerican:


That’s the gist of it, really. The men are accustomed to beating on women and ‘resetting their brains’ so instead of leaving that behavior behind in Nigeria, they bring it to the West with them. They want to bully and abuse their women while taking all of her earnings, trying to control the finances, wasting it on what he pleases. The women gets fed up and the next time he attempts a brain reset, she calls the police and he’s arrested and sometimes deported. The man then lies, saying how the woman kicked him out of his own house for no reason—-sometimes a house where he hasn’t paid a bill because he’s been busy forming big boy with his own money while she’s been paying the bills with hers.
Same goes for children. They don’t correct, they abuse and commit horrendous acts on children, beating them like animals, then act shocked when they’re carted away to jail.

Bingo

descarado:

I am not oga. I am a lady. I live in uk and yes our men can drive you mad but there are so many instances where our women run to the police for some stupid things you have in every family including the brits.

The men are not helping matters at all and cos of freedom to finally complain to who will hear them out once, they tend to overdo it. That's the message the met police was passing across.

So women cannot be oga?? Okay I take the oga back...sorry

Me I am not even saying a woman shouldn't complain to the police as many times as she likes.... As long as it's not an attempt at creating false pattern of abuse to use against the man later.....because some women do it specifically for that...

advanceDNA:


Oga why u dey explain...nor dey shàlàyè too much give woman....it's of nor use....they will still tag ur explaination as lies......once their gender starts doing shameful BS....they will always call it lies and bashing when they get called out.... Na saint them be....they don't ever do evil....

The person you’re even quoting is a woman.

Look at how misogyny makes you people act. Dishing blanket insult to anyone you perceive to be a woman.

I’m sure if you knew she was a woman even though she was trying to corroborate what you were saying, you’d have still found a way to insult her

nedekid:

Bros, the bottomline is not if she loved you, the issue is never be in a position where your wife earns more than you, handles more responsibility. Oga once that happens, be her Mary magdaline or pastors daughter, her real colour will show. Let your wife pay school fees for once and see her tell people at work say na she de carry the whole responsibility for house. My guy that has been running his home, as he lost his job, wife paid rent and school fees, na so shege start. She went as far as kicking him out. He wanted to leave with his car, she seize key say na she get both cars now as the rent and school fees she paid pass the value of his car. She said na only him cloths be him property. Lol

The crust of the issue is still because those women settled because they see the man as just a provider and that's what they value most from them, they didn't settle for them for other things like being handsome, honest, bold, strong etc so when the person they settled for because he can provide lose the ability to be able to provide, they will lose all respect for him and won't be able to cope with him.

If these women are not getting married solely because the men can provide they won't quickly discard them when they lose that ability because that's not even why they settled for the men, what could make a woman like Rihanna settled for ASAP rocky or Nicki minaj settled for that her husband ? of course it was not because they can provide so if they are going to dump them it is never going to be because they are not providing.

Poverty and bad economy in Nigeria has make being a provider the highest value a man can have in Nigeria so most Nigerian women just settled for the better provider they can get just to survive and when these men lose the ability to provide the women lost all interest and just can't cope with them.

Some of the men crying in here should stop to think about why these women switch up. It's not because "wOmEn DoN't LoVe aNyBoDy." It's because they were or felt so royally screwed over by the economy and society back home that they adopted a survival mentality, or they just became bitter. You blame them, but not the sexists.

cococandy:


The person you’re even quoting is a woman.

Look at how misogyny makes you people act. Dishing blanket insult to anyone you perceive to be a woman.

I’m sure if you knew she was a woman even though she was trying to corroborate what you were saying, you’d have still found a way to insult her

yawn!! Insult?? Misogyny.?? ......everything is insult and misogyny..

U called it lies...another person gave evidence yet .... u are all over the place still foaming in the mouth.....madam go and rest

advanceDNA:


Yes naaa...the police raised the issue through churches ...it was fvnny

Very interesting. They must have had enough and fed up of Naigeerian women wasting their time.

1stGenAmerican:


Never. Same with UK police—this advice was never given.

I wondered, that was why i asked, i mean, it doesn't matter how many times a female calls the UK police over a domestic violence or an abuse, they would still turn up. i don't know about the US though.

advanceDNA:


yawn!! Insult?? Misogyny.?? ......everything is insult and misogyny..

U called it lies...another person gave evidence yet .... u are all over the place still foaming in the mouth.....madam go and rest

1) Yes you dished a blanket gender insult in your response to her not knowing she was a woman. You thought it was a man so he could join you in insulting women. 🙄

2) I’m sorry I said you were lying. My impression is that you were saying something you were told first hand not something you saw on the internet. My Apologies. Usually when I’m saying something, I distinguish how I got the information and that removes the burden of it being true or false from being my responsibility

3) I just saw that video and I’m pressed to believe there’s any police department in the world that would stand behind that statement seeing as a death from domestic violence in that district can be held against them for discouraging people from coming forward. I’m going to research when this happened and see what police department this is and if they actually sent this man to act on their behalf

Calitoscassius:
I wondered, that was i asked, i mean, it doesn't matter how many times a female calls the UK police over domestic violence or abuse, they would still turn up. i don't know about the US though.

Or male. At least in the USA. Police will definitely answer at any time whether male or female and no matter how many times.

Lol the advice is always for wives never for husbands, cause and effect, action and reaction, a woman wouldn't react irrationally to her husband if there wasn't provocation, simple common sense but no, it is always the women's fault

Nigerian men have the hearsay of the law in Nigeria due to patriarchy, so they use it well at the detriment of wives, but because the west value women more due to equality, these men will capitalise on it and paint Nigerian women bad, they hate to get exactly what they dish out lol

I keep saying it, if you want to continue to subjugate and dominate your wife with a touch of assault and violence unhindered, migrate to a country that supports such, don't migrate to the west and cry blue murder when served a dose of your medicine.

Mariangeles:


For every negative story, you always have a "guy" with a similar experience.
How come though?

From Google search:
The proverb in Yoruba is: Bi omode laso bi agba, ko le lakisa bi agba. Literally interpreted as: No matter the clothes a child has, it can never match the old (used) clothes of the elderly. Meaning: no matter the experience garnered by the young, it can never match that of the elderly.

JovialJune:
Lol the advice is always for wives never for husbands, cause and effect, action and reaction, a woman wouldn't react irrationally to her husband if there wasn't provocation, simple common sense but no, it is always the women's fault

Nigerian men have the hearsay of the law in Nigeria due to patriarchy, so they use it well at the detrimentnof wives, but because the west value women more due to equality, these men will capitalise on it and paint Nigerian men bad, they hate to get exactly what they dish out lol

I keep saying it, if you want to continue to subjugate and dominate your wife with a touch of assault and violence unhindered, migrate to a country that supports such, don't migrate to the west and cry blue murder when served a dose of your medicine.

My offer is still on the table sugar, anytime you're ready I will fúck your brains out cos you really need it

BareFacedLies:


My offer is still on the table sugar, anytime you're ready I will fúck your brains out cos you really need it

You should do well to check my previous comments to know that you can't stand a chance in a million years,

Try mating an orangutan though, it will suit you perfectly.

Sparrk007:
Madam God bless you, my advice for any guy living abroad pls if you want to settle down marry oyibo woman forget all this 9ja babes they are all useless. Na manage we dey manage dem here

So with oyibo women, you'd be able to dominate them while they are submissive to you? What exactly will be different with oyibo women?

43Ronin:

na d concept my bro way don dey years for abroad give me oo. Him even get house but na een our popsy name the house dey

Nice one, if u dull for abroad na sorry be your name oo no cap. Women when Dem want run u street na zero feelings Dem get I dey laugh people wey say women dey emotional

ukaface:

That’s where you lie

I can’t count the number of Nurses that has used their pathway to bring their husband( family) to uk/ Canada or u.s

Dey play

Ur small mind tell u say na only nurses dey go abroad? How many nurses dey travel ? Na small number compared to those wey dey travel abroad if u like argue with ur fingers na u sabi

Calitoscassius:
I wondered, that was i asked, i mean, it doesn't matter how many times a female calls the UK police over domestic violence or abuse, they would still turn up. i don't know about the US though.

Same. They have a legal and civic obligation to show up—it’s their job. They’d never advise women against calling them because if anything happened to a woman as a result, they’d be liable for her life.

cococandy:


1) Yes you dished a blanket gender insult in your response to her not knowing she was a woman. You thought it was a man so he could join you in insulting women. 🙄

how is thinking shes a man and insult..? It's just an error .....My statement to her was to let her know further explanation is not needed....and I was right..someone else still tried to invalidate the video

I have two separate videos about this issue but why would I bother myself trying to prove to strangers ...if strangers think I'm lying , well thats their kettle of fish

cococandy:

2) I’m sorry I said you were lying. My impression is that you were saying something you were told first hand not something you saw on the internet. My Apologies. Usually when I’m saying something, I distinguish how I got the information and that removes the burden of it being true or false from being my responsibility

madam, apology not accepted.. ....me I don't know why you are always on beast mode, bringing RPGS ans nuclear war heads to packer and broom fight...
..everything is an insult, everything is misogyny once we mention ur genders BS,u think we are bashing ...madam its not my fault ur gender does alot of BS ooooo.....if I tell you children also create false pattern of reports against their parent, and more common a step parent they dont like you will still call me a liar...

cococandy:

3) I just saw that video and I’m pressed to believe there’s any police department in the world that would stand behind that statement seeing as a death from domestic violence in that district can be held against them for discouraging people from coming forward. I’m going to research when this happened and see what police department this is and if they actually sent this man to act on their behalf

Madam...situations in different locations call for different approach....that's why laws are differents in states even in same country..as high as statutory rápe is in the US...the consenting age in some states of United states was reduced to 16... Will u accuse the govt for trying to make statutory rápe increase?

... So just because there are domestic abuse now means the authorities cannot address a sinister pattern they have noticed..?? I mean, this is just small community awareness and u already feel they are silencing ur gender...
Okay ooo.