I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

I understand your fears but if you asked such a question, you would be starting WW3 in your home. No woman would admit to cheating even if caught in the act not to talk of something you can't prove.

However, pray about it very well before you can do anything with her for the reason of the consequences and stylishly throw a joke or a fabricated story about what could happen and watch her reaction.

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Keep your sanity. Don't ask her. It won't end well.

Oga were you expecting her to mess up after you had left the country?
Wasn't she aware of this tradition in place when she decided to get married to you?
Or are you not trusting her enough to remain faithful for that long?
Finally, can you swear with your life that you'll ever forgive her if she falls short of your expectations?


My take..
If you love and trust your wife, and have been doing quite well when you weren't around...then why the fears?


Final point
No one here can honestly help you Sir,
You are the only one who can sort yourself out. You know who you got married to bro
Sort yourself out.
It's as simple as that.

Ask.

You paid her bride price. It is your right.

Meanwhile, OGs can know from how slack the pußsy is 🤥

AlphaNugget:
Ask.

You paid her bride price. It is your right.

Meanwhile, OGs can know from how slack the pußsy is 🤥

Supported

If she did, she'll never tell you so why bother to ask?

AlphaNugget:
Ask.

You paid her bride price. It is your right.

Meanwhile, OGs can know from how slack the pußsy is 🤥

Are you saying this because your instrument is smaller than every other person's?

thesicilian:

Are you saying this because your instrument is smaller than every other person's?

Are you asking from experience?

AlphaNugget:

Are you asking from experience?

My comment is the only possible inference from your statement, except you can't reason that far.

thesicilian:

My comment is the only possible inference from your statement, except you can't reason that far.

Lol, I won't want to embark on this journey; I am on white.

P.S: If you don't know how your wife's pussy is, then you are not intelligent enough to argue with me.

AlphaNugget:
Ask.

You paid her bride price. It is your right.

Meanwhile, OGs can know from how slack the pußsy is 🤥

Look at this joker. You are still stuck in the 90's. Have you not seen that every woman is tight now? Vaginameter has been beaten.

Uncle you knew the wife you married, so, it is up to you to deal with her as you already plan to.

Dtruthspeaker:


Look at this joker. You are still stuck in the 90's. Have you seen that every woman is tight now? Vaginameter has been beaten.

Lol, your woman pußsy can't be tight if you hit her very well.......if it is tight, then you will know she has been cheating on you.

AlphaNugget:

Lol, your woman pußsy can't be tight if you hit her very well.......if it is tight, then you will know she has been cheating on you.

Not when you have travelled for 1 week, talkless of 8 months

Dtruthspeaker:


Not when you have travelled for 1 week, talkless of 8 months

It's all well bro.

Moreover, women are promiscuous in nature.

Getting worked up over the pußsy of somebody you call your wife is actually embarrassing. Trust should be an essential ingredient when it comes to relationship, but many have thrown it in the air......it is what it is

AlphaNugget:

It's all well bro.

Moreover, women are promiscuous in nature.

Getting worked up over the pußsy of somebody you call your wife is actually embarrassing. Trust should be an essential ingredient when it comes to relationship, but many have thrown it in the air......it is what it is

Ehen, this is the koko. Women love variety of exactly as men do.

But the problem is that marriage is contracted on the basis that no party is allowed to play outside, generally.

However, some couples have very funny contracts. eg like a guy who marries a whorre/club girl, the which the parties know what they were getting into and usually have a plan on how they would respond to it, trust/breach of trust/no trust.

But the Truth people are beginning to see today is that marriage is a very very bad and hard thing especially as wives now real eyes they have the same rights as their husbands, so no more cheating and bullying a woman nto submission as it used to be in the past. So now more problems for the married.

"where I come from, it's an abomination" blah blah blah.

Ogbeni, there's no abomination anywhere. Things have changed... We are in a Baltasar era.

Dido ni everybody...

You for carry madam go with you na...

There's nothing wrong...but your wife should answer you with a hot slap on your big mouth

Go through her phone first...

Then from her phone you may see one or two clues...

Steal her blood or saliva while she is asleep and Use it for pregnancy test, before paternity fraud hits on you.

Or you consult a native doctor...If I marry tomorrow, which I dont see it happening, they no born any woman well to cheat on me. I know where I will go and I will be briefed of all your whereabouts. 💯 Tested and trusted

Did you keep yourself while away as you claim? Because if you did, you should have no problem believing your wife did the same. It's only when a man is guilty of cheating that he will start projecting and accusing the woman of cheating. Otherwise why did you marry a woman you can't trust? Trust is the foundation and cornerstone of any successful relationship or marriage. If you don't have that to the extent of having to ask your wife if she slept with another man while you were away, then Idk what kinda marriage this is.

Bro , imagine Balstar giving her hard doggy

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Sit her down and ask her if she bleeped while you were away. Lie to her that all your children will die if she actually slept with another man and you now come and start fucking her. Tell her that's how it is in your culture.

With this, she will tell you the truth. If she gets angry, tell her you are just protecting the children.

Most women love their children dearly even more than the husband.

It comes from a place of distrust.

Are you sure you're not also doing anything while away?

If your instincts signals you into suspecting she slept with someone else, she actually did and no need to ask her. Just do your personal investigation and act accordingly.

😂😂😂
Like if she slept with Ebanga Ekonga 😂😂😂.
Learnt he will be visiting Nigeria this festive period on an official visit.
Then his wife will be visiting Ghana.

Hmm

Op, no need. Even if she did, do you expect her to say yes Find out by yourself.

You didn't sleep with any woman because there was no woman available. and you asking in case if there should be any cleansing, my brother don't deceive us, you and I know that if she admitted that she has sleep with any man outside you will divorce her and you send her away. No dey try to deceive us

...even if she cheated, are u thinking she will admit to cheating upon u asking?... Is like the u dont knw God sef dey fear the classes of women wey dey this generation...

Why would you ask such a question?

Also, do you expect her to tell you YES, if truly she slept with another man?

It's very insulting to ask your wife such question. If you're having doubts about her fidelity, just go through her phone and clear your doubts