I have been married for a while but I seem to have lost interest in sex. I used to enjoy it before but for some reason, it no longer interest as me. Hubby is impatient as he does not understand and I am at a loss. Does anybody know what could be wrong with me?

Why don't you have sex urge like before?
Earlier before now, what used to make you want sex?
If I can identify that which gives you sex urge in the past, maybe I can help you to get it back.
Again, you said you used to enjoy sex before but for some reason, it no longer interests you, tell us this 'reason'

you are simply undergoing boredom... if an outsider touches you now, you will enjoy sex. but its wrong...

take a holiday away from home, maybe visit your sister or mum, miss your husband a little, then come back and continue from where you stopped...

also study via the internet various methods to enjoy sex with your husband. hope una no dey use timetable do the thing... ?

Talk to him about your sexual needs.Tell him what turns you on.If he doesn't, shop on line for toys and use it in his presence.If he is like "WTF"..YOU. shud be like'Bleep you bitch!THIS is the best thing that has happen to me in recent times"

My dear, u better find the formula again o. If he's Impatient talk to him about it, communication is the key. I'm not married but sha I know once the sex life of a couple is going down that means there's a problem , the marriage is as well going down so if you truly love your husband and want to keep your marriage, talk to him about it please and ask yourself questions too. Try to figure out why u lost interest in making love to your husband.

My dear, u better find the formula again o. If he's Impatient talk to him about it, communication is the key. I'm not married but sha I know once the sex life of a couple is going down that means there's a problem , the marriage is as well going down so if you truly love your husband and want to keep your marriage, talk to him about it please and ask yourself questions too. Try to figure out why u lost interest in making love to your husband. I know it happens sometimes sha especially when the kids starts coming, family issues etc but you have to know that sex is also very important.

Get a boyfriend fast.

okpara ugo: you are simply undergoing boredom... if an outsider touches you now, you will enjoy sex. but its wrong...

take a holiday away from home, maybe visit your sister or mum, miss your husband a little, then come back and continue from where you stopped...

also study via the internet various methods to enjoy sex with your husband. hope una no dey use timetable do the thing... ?

Even if am crazy,I wud go with this advice

lynpetra: Talk to him about your sexual needs.Tell him what turns you on.If he doesn't shop on line for toys and use it in his presence.If he is like "WTF"..YOU. shud be like'Bleep you bitch!THIS is the best thing that has happen to me in recent times"

i_laugh: Get a boyfriend fast.

Are you ok

eme+ify:
I have been married for a while but I seem to have lost interest in sex. I used to enjoy it before but for some reason, it no longer interest as me. Hubby is impatient as he does not understand and I am at a loss. Does anybody know what could be wrong with me?

You might be going thru stress or depression,if u can just go thru ur daily routine n figure it out then try 2 calm urself down n add fun 2 ur life.

Or maybe u don't find urself attractive,so buy some sexy undies n night wears that makes u luk attractive.

If u r too dry down there then it might be an infection, maybe u should go and see ur Dr.....I op it helps n eventually bring peace 2 ur marriage

Try sex in other places other than your home or bed.
Go on a outing with your husband, get somewhere out of sight and start smooching,
Oh sorry, you said your husband is not understanding.
Get a gadget.

lynpetra:

Even if am crazy,I wud go with this advice

I'm in love with this lady...

lynpetra: Talk to him about your sexual needs.Tell him what turns you on.If he doesn't, shop on line for toys and use it in his presence.If he is like "WTF"..YOU. shud be like'Bleep you bitch!THIS is the best thing that has happen to me in recent times"

Do not take this as an insult: make efforts to read your posts and see if it needs improving.

No matter what you do,when you do it too much it looses its value and spice.so take a vacation away from your husband so that you two no go see una self finish

Have u just had a child?Childbirth seems to affect sex drive in some women.

You need to rediscover yourself.Take time away from normal routine.Have a vacation and try new styles with your hubby.

Did you just have a baby? Did you start a new birth control? This is not as unusual as it seems. It could be purely hormonal. Every woman and even men will experience this in their life time. In the mean time your sex life should not die. You just cannot stop having sex with your husband. Talk with a professional and keep your husband informed so that it is problem you guys are solving together. Don't stress about it

You need to search yourself, what killed the vibe?
And then find a way to make things work. Or better still, change your style in sex. Don't be reluctant to try new things. With the consent of your husband, ofcourse.

fluid26:

Do not take this as an insult: make efforts to read your posts and see if it needs improving.

None taken.Am sure yours need improving too.

uniqueval:

I'm in love with this lady...

What's there to love?

Phema:

thorpido: Have u just had a child?Childbirth seems to affect sex drive in some women.

You need to rediscover yourself.Take time away from normal routine.Have a vacation and try new styles with your hubby.

little wonder. am in d same situation with d op. I just don't care abt it anymore. had a baby recently n I was stitched down dere. stil feel pains most of d time as a result so any mention or interest in se.x by hubby gets me screaming.
most times,I just go thru d motions cos d pains don't allow me even think of enjoyin anything. I don't like ow tins r,but I can't help it too.

Take a vacation with him. Go somewhere new. Try to forget home worries. The more the worries/responsibilities in your life, the less likely you will get into sex-mode.

lynpetra:

What's there to love?

Would you rather have me
1. write an essay in not less than 450 words, 2. compose a poem in not less than 20 lines or 3. giv u a breathe taking kiss and leave you to figure the rest out...
on why I'm so in love with you...?
itz your call...
what is your final answer...

OP, have you explored the possibility that the problem could be from you. Perhaps your fanny has lost some of its elasticity since you got married which may have consequently led to the inability of your hubby's not-too-endowed thingy to explore the intricate areas of your fanny which used to excite you back in the days... I guess there are artificial ways to regaining your lost elasticity...

Every marriage experiences this but what differentiate one from d other is the level with which they were handled.
Especially for a new mum who not only put to bed with an angry scar but have to be awake most nights for d baby.
All these have adverse effect on d body.
Some can be cranky, some will add weight esp if one is on drugs and most will be aversed to sex.

What u can do will depend solely on ur environ and income.
But first, hubby must know that this is a problem.
He must be supportive.
Patience is equally needed.
With dat in mind, u can give sex a break. For married couple,sex is about quality and not quantity.
U guys can woo each other again.

Think on those things that made u lv him and accepted to wed him.

Always hv a positive mindset about him.
U 2 can buy lv movies and watch together.

Indulge ur fantasy a bit.
And most importantly,pray about it.
Use v lubricants for lesser friction.

With time,ur body will adjust again.


Problems like this is one of the major reasons why marriage break.
A non understanding man will overlook d frigidity and moves on with his life while d woman may feel nonchalant until its too late.
Let's be each other's help mate.

uniqueval:

Would you rather have me
1. write an essay in not less than 450 words, 2. compose a poem in not less than 20 lines or 3. giv u a breathe taking kiss and leave you to figure the rest out...
on why I'm so in love with you...?
itz your call...
what is your final answer...

Can I have it all?

seek Jesus

Nna eh, ihe nke a dikwa vely vely lisky, especially when guy man don shack Whisky.

I'm hardly qualified to advise, so ka m shiftu kene.

lynpetra:


Can I have it all?

Sure!!
let's get started from the last option...
So what's your flavour...?
I have on my menu ~
French
Single lip'd
Butterfly
Spiderman (Upside down) et
Lingering lips

Once again, your call

@OP, I don't know what made u to lose interest in having sex with ur hubby, buh the truth is that Most men like me can be driven into the waiting hands of another woman who is ready to gv it to me anytime I want it.

You have ur reasons why u suddenly lost interest, buh I will advice u to work on it. Men hate it when u deny them of that. Share ur experience with REASONABLE women who will lead u on the right track so that u can be able to save ur family the problem that may befall it later.