Tallesty1:
Read..
A piece of advice from someone who is experienced won't hurt.

It is her choice............ She wants to do it but she can still be wrong.

carefreewannabe:


The topic was not about moving out against parental advice.
Anyway.

A piece of advice won't hurt but following it might.

Tallesty1:
When she can and wants to. It is her choice defies every form of restriction or advice.


Because it is her choice.

Tallesty1:
I know why you are interested in this debate.

You are trying to make me some thing that I don't want to.

Now listen.. The first comment I quoted said when she can and wants to.

Read meaning into the emboldened and read my comment again.

Hopefully you will also understand my standpoint.

Enough said ma.

alutacontinua:


Good point!
Plus the freedom asocoated with being in control of your time, life and everything is PURE BLISS!
You wake up when it suits you, sleep when you want to, cook if you feel like, do your chores when you please, go out without pleading for permission etc etc


That's a luxury married people or people who live with parents cannot afford. My married friends (most especially with kid(s)) have remote controls


And as you said, it gives ample time to develop yourself. You can wake up at 2.00am to start baking with guidance from youtube, you can carry yourself on a saturday to head to music/dance class, after church on a Sunday, you fit head to the beach without somebody begging you to do Laundry or pound yam


I REST MY CASE!

TV01:
As ever lots of off-point examples and willful reasoning.

What freedoms can one enjoy when living alone that one cannot when living with parents?

All that nonsense about learning to run a home. As if you don't first learn that at home?


TV

alutacontinua:

Sometimes, I feel like engaging you but you too dey attach emotions to your debates.
In other words, you argue like a woman.
That's why I mostly pass by when you utter statements like the above. If someone tries to discuss with you now, small time, you go turn am into competition of who fit throw subtle jabs best.
Anyways, there are a million freedom you get when you stay alone that you can only dream of with parents. And this isn't about misbehaving, this is about the fact that you need to factor their presence into everything you do, including time to wake up.
Ignore this post if you'll start throwing subtle insults....cos as usual, I'll ignore you once you start.

LaurelP:
Depends on ur motive for moving
If you're moving just in order to be free to do wateva u like, then I'd advice u stay with ur parents.
Its not really abt age. Have u had d required orientation from ur parents? Do u have a knowledge of wat u shud and shud neva do? Can u control and advice ursef?
Don't wait until u make mistakes before u learn. Some mistakes are too fatal and may lead to ugly situations.
Freedom alone shud not be d motivation behind it. It might come to haunt u if you're nt yet ready and prepared for it.

Stillfire:


Lol. What do you mean by he argues like a woman? You are not serious.

crackhaus:
The only time an unmarried young woman is advised to permanently reside outside of her parent's home is when she's in a different city, state, or country.

I see no reason why a lady should live alone as a spinster when both her and her parents live within the same area code.

LaurelP:
Depends on ur motive for moving
If you're moving just in order to be free to do wateva u like, then I'd advice u stay with ur parents.
Its not really abt age. Have u had d required orientation from ur parents? Do u have a knowledge of wat u shud and shud neva do? Can u control and advice ursef?

Don't wait until u make mistakes before u learn. Some mistakes are too fatal and may lead to ugly situations.
Freedom alone shud not be d motivation behind it. It might come to haunt u if you're nt yet ready and prepared for it.

sassygal:


Really?

Pray, tell what your reasons are.

alutacontinua:


Sometimes, I feel like engaging you but you too dey attach emotions to your debates.
In other words, you argue like a woman.
That's why I mostly pass by when you utter statements like the above. If someone tries to discuss with you now, small time, you go turn am into competition of who fit throw subtle jabs best.


Anyways, there are a million freedom you get when you stay alone that you can only dream of with parents. And this isn't about misbehaving, this is about the fact that you need to factor their presence into everything you do, including time to wake up.


Ignore this post if you'll start throwing subtle insults....cos as usual, I'll ignore you once you start.

alutacontinua:


Why not? If it suits her situation......e.g. it's closer to her place of work and she can comfortably afford it.

Every lady deserves some REAL SPINSTERHOOD before marriage, biko.......where you answer to yourself and yourself alone.

Stillfire:
When she can. Freedom is sweet. Taste it, and you will never be the same again.

crackhaus:

My reasons why an unmarried young woman can live outside of her parents' only if she resides in a different city, state, or country?
Just one reason - because she resides in a different city, state, or country.

As for the second part of my post, I said "I see no reason" .
You are to give your valid reasons why any lady should live away from her parents' when she lives in the same city as they do.

Please don't mention freedom, it makes the supporter of such an excuse seem rebellious.

alutacontinua:
Anyways, there are a million freedom you get when you stay alone that you can only dream of with parents. And this isn't about misbehaving, this is about the fact that you need to factor their presence into everything you do, including time to wake up.

alutacontinua:
Ignore this post if you'll start throwing subtle insults....cos as usual, I'll ignore you once you start.

alutacontinua:
Sometimes, I feel like engaging you but you too dey attach emotions to your debates.
In other words, you argue like a woman.
That's why I mostly pass by when you utter statements like the above. If someone tries to discuss with you now, small time, you go turn am into competition of who fit throw subtle jabs best.

alutacontinua:
....cos as usual, I'll ignore you once you start.

sassygal:


Let me give you several reason, using myself as an example

I am an unmarried young woman and live 10-15 minutes away from my parents house.

Do I crave my freedom? You sure bet I do!
I am a very independent being with a strong personality, my mum equally has a strong personality. The max number of hours we stay together in the same house without upsetting each other is 12 hours.

Now, I know some people will make a mountain out of a molehill but when I hear daily of how I threw away u.i medicine admission to study pharmacy in Lag, or is it why I decide not to practice the pharmacy and go into business(despite being successful at what I do) or why I travel up and down for business instead of looking for a man or is it why I fry my oil in a certain way while cooking. In as much as these are not enough reasons to some, but when you keep harping/nagging on a particular subject constantly despite it not affecting the outcome, I will snap. Often times, I'll keep quiet and this makes her upset, either way, it's a no-win situation for me.

One important reason, I decided to stay away is cos the nature of my job means that I work long hours, sometimes coming home at 10-12pm which makes her upset and she starts her tirade.

Rather than stay in the same house and fight over minor things, which in my opinion are irrelevant, I give her her space and we are best buddies now.

Some of the advantages of living on your own, IMO, is that you get to make firm decisions on your own and learn to take care of your self properly and make yourself happy without interference. You also learn to take care of a home before getting married.

Does living alone, make me anyway promiscuous? No, it does not. I have become more of an introvert, living alone.

blizard44:
When she deems fit to.

Tallesty1:
Too much freedom has alot of consequences ma.


And talking about choice?


What if she made a bad one?

crackhaus:

My reasons why an unmarried young woman can live outside of her parents' only if she resides in a different city, state, or country?
Just one reason - because she resides in a different city, state, or country.

As for the second part of my post, I said "I see no reason" .
You are to give your valid reasons why any lady should live away from her parents' when she lives in the same city as they do.

Please don't mention freedom, it makes the supporter of such an excuse seem rebellious.

Mondisweets:
If she is still living in the same city as her parents she might as well stay with them, it will save her a lot of money she can actually use later on in the future.

kandiikane:


This, I agree with. Saving money but I still want to hear crackhaus' reason be cause I don't think he had that in mind.

sassygal:


Let me give you several reason, using myself as an example

I am an unmarried young woman and live 10-15 minutes away from my parents house.

Do I crave my freedom? You sure bet I do!
I am a very independent being with a strong personality, my mum equally has a strong personality. The max number of hours we stay together in the same house without upsetting each other is 12 hours.

Now, I know some people will make a mountain out of a molehill but when I hear daily of how I threw away u.i medicine admission to study pharmacy in Lag, or is it why I decide not to practice the pharmacy and go into business(despite being successful at what I do) or why I travel up and down for business instead of looking for a man or is it why I fry my oil in a certain way while cooking. In as much as these are not enough reasons to some, but when you keep harping/nagging on a particular subject constantly despite it not affecting the outcome, I will snap. Often times, I'll keep quiet and this makes her upset, either way, it's a no-win situation for me.

One important reason, I decided to stay away is cos the nature of my job means that I work long hours, sometimes coming home at 10-12pm which makes her upset and she starts her tirade.

Rather than stay in the same house and fight over minor things, which in my opinion are irrelevant, I give her her space and we are best buddies now.

Some of the advantages of living on your own, IMO, is that you get to make firm decisions on your own and learn to take care of your self properly and make yourself happy without interference. You also learn to take care of a home before getting married.

Does living alone, make me anyway promiscuous? No, it does not. I have become more of an introvert, living alone.

sassygal:


I'm certain his reason has to do with the archaic thinking that all single girls who live on their own are promiscuous. That's why I asked him again

crackhaus:

Thank you for this post, every single bit I put in bold is/are valid reason(s) - your peace of mind, the nature of your job, and the persistent rows with your mother.

I was expecting you to mention the 'job' excuse, and you went even further to include your tense relationship with your mother... so I'm impressed. These are valid reasons.

Now for the bit in italics, I take exception and do not co-sign on it.
Those are all things any/every young woman can learn living under her parents', especially when she already attended a tertiary institution and experienced/acquired some decision-making and self-sustainment skills.

My point so far leads here:
Freedom is a desire every young girl longs for at some point...but unless her home is run like a military boot-camp and noting your valid reasons as the exception, I don't expect any young woman to live outside her parents' on the excuse of wanting freedom.
Any freedom other than the limited one she already has living with her parents, is unnecessary.

It's a different ball game for young men though

However, I gotta ask - without the nagging, tirades, and criticisms of your mother, would you have considered moving out?

kandiikane:

so if you were residing in the same city as your parents you would live in the same house? Just because or any reason why?

crackhaus: It's a different ball game for young men…