crackhaus:

Bullshyt! Give a valid reason.

kandiikane:

ha! There we have it. What utter bullshyt! Get out of that cave joor!

I find my man-cave quite cozy and warm with an endless supply of gorgeous women and cold alcoholic beverages - do you have a problem with that?

kandiikane:


Bullshyt! Give a valid reason.

I know how much you long and desire to be a man with a working c0ck..

News flash: It's never going to happen

sassygal:


I'm certain his reason has to do with the archaic thinking that all single girls who live on their own are promiscuous. That's why I asked him again

Really?

Please tell me something I wasn't thinking.

Crackhaus you liberal !
I have a different view. And note from my openeing post, I was sex-neutral on this, so I differ from Cracky on that point to.

sassygal:

Let me give you several reason, using myself as an example
I am an unmarried young woman and live 10-15 minutes away from my parents house.
Do I crave my freedom? You sure bet I do!

sassygal:
I am a very independent being with a strong personality, my mum equally has a strong personality. The max number of hours we stay together in the same house without upsetting each other is 12 hours.

Which would be the same even if she lived with you. The fact that a mother is unable to understand that an adult daughter who resides with her is to be permitted certain leeway is not a bad mark against the principle itself. Or will you claim this friction only manifested when you were able to live by yourself?

sassygal:
Now, I know some people will make a mountain out of a molehill but when I hear daily of how I threw away u.i medicine admission to study pharmacy in Lag, or is it why I decide not to practice the pharmacy and go into business(despite being successful at what I do) or why I travel up and down for business instead of looking for a man or is it why I fry my oil in a certain way while cooking. In as much as these are not enough reasons to some, but when you keep harping/nagging on a particular subject constantly despite it not affecting the outcome, I will snap. Often times, I'll keep quiet and this makes her upset, either way, it's a no-win situation for me.

This also is about an individual, not about a practice per se. Plus, we have no idea of your motivations for making the decisions you did, so we can't necessarily fault you mother for her objections. So yes, molehills !

Again, looking for a spouse - unless you are avowedly against marriage - is something to be considered in a timely fashion if marriage and kids are a priority. A mother has a duty to higfhlight that - wherever her child lives - I lived 6hrs away from my mum and it felt like the whole tribe was on my case

sassygal:
One important reason, I decided to stay away is cos the nature of my job means that I work long hours, sometimes coming home at 10-12pm which makes her upset and she starts her tirade.

Again, this has nothing to do with the principle of singles being better served by being with their parents until they nest

sassygal:
Rather than stay in the same house and fight over minor things, which in my opinion are irrelevant, I give her her space and we are best buddies now.

Good, then don't fight, acquiesce were possible and patiently explain where it's not. Your choice of solution has nothing to do with the principle

sassygal:
Some of the advantages of living on your own, IMO, is that you get to make firm decisions on your own and learn to take care of your self properly and make yourself happy without interference. You also learn to take care of a home before getting married.

Which of these can a single person not learn to do at home with their parents? Or in other words, what is it one can learn by living alone that they couldn't possibly learn whilst living at home.

sassygal:
Does living alone, make me anyway promiscuous? No, it does not. I have become more of an introvert, living alone.

Again, no one stated promiscuity as the sole or main benefit of children living with parents until they nest.


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@crackhaus, trust me, most Nigerian homes are run like military boot camp, especially those with females of marriageable age with no immediate prospects. I have friends with stories, you can never tell unless you live within.

So while men deserve more freedom, women dont?

Like I said, I learnt to be independent quite early in life, so would probably have gotten my own place irrespective

crackhaus:

Really?

Please tell me something I wasn't thinking.

"I find my man-cave quite cozy and warm with an endless supply of gorgeous women and cold alcoholic beverages"

TV01:
Crackhaus you liberal !
I have a different view. And note from my opening post, I was sex-neutral on this, so I differ from Cracky on that point to.

Liberal?
With my favourable stance on ladies staying with their parents until most absolutely necessary not to?

Conservative says I.

TV01:
Crackhaus you liberal !
I have a different view. And note from my openeing post, I was sex-neutral on this, so I differ from Cracky on that point to.




Which would be the same even if she lived with you. The fact that a mother is unable to understand that an adult daughter who resides with her is to be permitted certain leeway is not a bad mark against the principle itself. Or will you claim this friction only manifested when you were able to live by yourself?


This also is about an individual, not about a practice per se. Plus, we have no idea of your motivations for making the decisions you did, so we can't necessarily fault you mother for her objections. So yes, molehills !

Again, looking for a spouse - unless you are avowedly against marriage - is something to be considered in a timely fashion if marriage and kids are a priority. A mother has a duty to higfhlight that - wherever her child lives - I lived 6hrs away from my mum and it felt like the whole tribe was on my case


Again, this has nothing to do with the principle of singles being better served by being with their parents until they nest


Good, then don't fight, acquiesce were possible and patiently explain where it's not. Your choice of solution has nothing to do with the principle


Which of these can a single person not learn to do at home with their parents? Or in other words, what is it one can learn by living alone that they couldn't possibly learn whilst living at home.


Again, no one stated promiscuity as the sole or main benefit of children living with parents until they nest.

Herein lies my response

[quote author=alutacontinua post=27538479]

Sometimes, I feel like engaging you but you too dey attach emotions to your debates.
In other words, you argue like a woman.
That's why I mostly pass by when you utter statements like the above. If someone tries to discuss with you now, small time, you go turn am into competition of who fit throw subtle jabs best.

/quote]

sassygal:


Herein lies my response

I know I pivoted off your post, but I was actually responding to Cracky. I should have made that clear.


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kandiikane:

I am confused with this statement. Did you not move out of your parents house to live on your own at some point?

I said "too much freedom".


And try read the comment that I quoted.

crackhaus:

Liberal?
With my favourable stance on ladies staying with their parents until most absolutely necessary not to?

Conservative says I.

ATBE, it's only "absolutely necessary not to" when they get married.


TV

only wen she feels like to stay alone,or to live alone......besides,a woman don't suppose live alone.........d question shld on man.

sassygal:
@crackhaus, trust me, most Nigerian homes are run like military boot camp, especially those with females of marriageable age with no immediate prospects. I have friends with stories, you can never tell unless you live within.

So while men deserve more freedom, women dont?

Like I said, I learnt to be independent quite early in life, so would probably have gotten my own place irrespective

@bold text... when you put it like that and make it about man vs. woman, my heart breaks
It's besides the point and not my true stance, but I can't help it when you ladies start taking my comments out of context.

Would you date or take very seriously a young man who lives under the roof of his parents?
Okay yeah, you may date him...but I'm talking long-term.
Alternatively, I'm yet to meet a man who has a problem dating a lady who still resides under the safety and guidance of her parents'.

You say most Nigerian homes are run like military boot-camps? You may be right but I'd rather not dwell on that.
Asides your obvious exaggeration in using most, what exactly is/are the negative consequence(s) in living with parents as a young woman?

See them, talking from the two sides of their mouths. So an unmarried man can move out but an unmarried lady can't? So, the ability to "move out" now lies in the cork?. . . Irritants!

Phema:
See them, talking from the two sides of their mouths. So an unmarried man can move out but an unmarried lady can't? So, the ability to "move out" now lies in the cork?. . . Irritants!

It's for your (women) own good, this actually comes from a place of love.

Don't burst a nerve on my/our account...

TV01:

ATBE, it's only "absolutely necessary not to" when they get married.


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Hope you don't run your home like a military boot-camp?

crackhaus:

Hope you don't run your home like a military boot-camp?

You mean there's another (better) way


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crackhaus:

@bold text... when you put it like that and make it about man vs. woman, my heart breaks
It's besides the point and not my true stance, but I can't help it when you ladies start taking my comments out of context.

Would you date or take very seriously a young man who lives under the roof of his parents?
Okay yeah, you may date him...but I'm talking long-term.
Alternatively, I'm yet to meet a man who has a problem dating a lady who still resides under the safety and guidance of her parents'.

You say most Nigerian homes are run like military boot-camps? You may be right but I'd rather not dwell on that.
Asides your obvious exaggeration in using most, what exactly is/are the negative consequence(s) in living with parents as a young woman?

TV01:

You mean there's another (better) way


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as long as she's ready to accomodate male visitors on a daily basis; especially those who visit at night when the weather is cloudy (while the main dude is making money for marriage in another state forming trust-induced long distance relationship)

crackhaus:

It's for your (women) own good, this actually comes from a place of love.
Don't burst a nerve on my/our account...

Burst a nerve on your account? You must think very highly of yourself.

Abeg, kontinu your argument with people that care.

Abaniwealth:
only wen she feels like to stay alone,or to live alone......besides,a woman don't suppose live alone.........d question shld on man.

What da heck kinda mentality is this bikonu?

People actually still think like this?

Someone asked what the consequences of living with one's parent as a young woman are, I laugh at him.

So y'all will be cool having $ex in your parents house? Yes I said $sex.

TV01:

You mean there's another (better) way


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Sassygal is there a better way?

Phema:


Burst a nerve on your account? You must think very highly of yourself.

Abeg, kontinu your argument with people that care.

Hmmmm...think too highly of myself? The thought never crossed my mind.

However, you did refer to me as an 'irritant', hence my advice that you don't irritate yourself into bursting a nerve just because of a comment.

sassygal:

No answers to my questions?

crackhaus:

No answers to my questions?

Perhaps Google will be your best bet

freecocoa:
Someone asked what the consequences of living with one's parent as a young woman are, I laugh at him.

So y'all will be cool having $ex in your parents house? Yes I said $sex.

what could be wrong in having sex with you in your parents' house? at least, they know who the culprit is if you get knocked up. better for them to know you are already sexùally active than getting the shock of their lives.

Tallesty1:
Too much freedom has alot of consequences ma.


And talking about choice?


What if she made a bad one?

Please outline some of these consequences.

freecocoa:
Someone asked what the consequences of living with one's parent as a young woman are, I laugh at him.
So y'all will be cool having $ex in your parents house? Yes I said $sex.

So it was all about having sex away from your parents house?


K

pickabeau1:



So it was all about having sex away from your parents house?


K

Someone asked for reasons, I gave one, are you arguing $ex isn't a reason?