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Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 6:16pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Some of our parents saw each other and live together for the first time AFTER the marriage, and they're still together. But yet this Generation can court for10 yrs (probably sleep at each others place on several occasions) bt still divorce after 2yrs or few more. Why is this so? Could this be because sex was involved before the right time or what? Please feel free to drop your comments and let's Learn Share And Grow |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Gflat: 6:24pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
this is because we have too many girls out there and few women a man can call wife...check out those peeps living happy, it because their wives are making the home a hapy place to be. But lotta "chicks" out there will only want "tall, handsome, rich, celebrity" guys. They finally get their dream, 2years later, they get bored then next is divorce(shm for women of this generation) |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by chimerase2: 6:31pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Learn what? ![]() I luv eating ofe okoro no mata de duration so nothing dey here to learn ![]() |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 6:46pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
chimerase2: its what you fink .... when u get there you will understand cos I fink u don't yet!! |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by lilmax(m): 6:53pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Wrong partner |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 7:26pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Inability to exercise patience. |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 8:00pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Its the environment. In olden days, our mothers were taught to weather the storm of any marriage and the fact that any woman that leaves her husband house for her parents house was as an outcast really helped. But these days, girls go over countless romance novels and films causing them to delve into marriage with the belief that the man will serve them breakfast in bed everyday, listen to every word they say and practically bend over backwards to please them. When this doesn't happen, they become disenchanted with the relationship and since modern society doesn't see anything wrong with divorce (thanks in no small part to the celebs that celebrate divorce like an achievement), another divorce case is recorded. |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 8:36pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
lilmax:Wrong partner ?..... well to some extent but in d days of our fore fathers ..... Na parent they marry wife for dem pikin ....... so its more or less lik d guy is marrying a strangers cos the parent gav him a lady to marry but they still live happily..... wat do u say to dat? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 8:42pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
mizzkeji44: So ar u saying patience is d major cos of divorce ......... do u fink one can court for 5,7, or more years with out patience in d first place ...... even during just ordinary 2yrs court ship deer will b times wen u will get bored of it...., I don't want to beliv patience can b a prob to sumone dat was able to court for 3 or more years ... cos honestly there are times when u get bored along d way during ur courtship... so I fink its more than just patience |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by lilmax(m): 8:44pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
demisig:nice point ![]() I guess they know the right person |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 8:47pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Zedric: Waooh ...I love the break down of ur point.... I av taken note of some key words der ........ but aside d evnronmental factors nd civilization ....... do u fink parents also hav faults here nd wat about the individuals themselves .....men nd women now |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Agybabe(f): 8:53pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
1. Variety (they say) is the spice of life. He is good in this but... (that 'but' hmmm) 2. Pretence...after marriage, the real person comes out and they can't put up with it and they start regretting. 3. Infertility...and the pressure from in-laws is damn annoying. 4. Infidelity...a cheating partner. 5. Uncaring partner, etc. May God help us. |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 8:55pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Gflat: So are u trying to say we shud ignore personal desires of how we want our spouse to look nd act or wat....... don't u fink it will b more dangerous wen a man marry's a lady dat does not suit his taste (body endowmnt-wise now)...... don't u fink dat is one of d major tinz dat lead to married men cheating(not that dey don't love their wife) bt dey cheat becos d lady is more good looking ...... Meanwhile they marry their wife cos she has good attitude nd cos dey no she'll be a good mother |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:04pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Agybabe: Then what's the essence of courtship if BTW 2,3 or more years of courtship u can't find out this in d guy or d lady b4 taking marriage vows with him or her....... I tot courtship was meant to discover each other nd not just going on dates nd dinner ...... nd dis comes down to wat d question is ..... y is it dat even our grandma nd grandpa Wu didn't av dis much time for courtship life togeda happily ........ what is it dat worked for dem bt failed to work for us in dis generation ? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:10pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
lilmax: .Hmmmm..... u claim they no d right person Abi...... bt den can u allow ur parent marry for u (as in pick for u who to marry)? ..... nd doesn't dat min even if we love someone nd our parent b lik don't marry dat guy or lady den we shud brk d courtship ? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Agybabe(f): 9:26pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
demisig:me ah dunno...na so life don spoil reach. Ah dey suspect you o...you be victim? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:33pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Agybabe: wat are u suspecting me for ...... nd victim or wat oooo? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:41pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
demisig:. I really don't think so. Pple nowadays see themselves as adults once they get a job and feel they don't av to involve their parents. So basically, a divorce is carried out by partners |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Agybabe(f): 9:44pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
demisig:divorce...them don divorce you abi them wan divorce you? Abi na pesin wey you know? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by teewai3(m): 9:46pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
No requisite knowledge, orientation about the so called marriage |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:47pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Agybabe: u supos u wel wel sef cos u b female |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:58pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
teewai3: hmmmm.... but can u explain ur points cos I won't totaly agree |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by teewai3(m): 10:07pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
my points is : the cause of divorce in marriages are simply -infidelity -emotional disconnect -traumatic incidence -trust issues -emotional affairs -physical abuse if you have proper knowledge on these, I'm very sure you wont have problem in your marriage 1 Like |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 10:10pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Zedric: But do u no dat parents now ar days encourages divorce sef even it was not lik dat during their own time most expecially from d female family ..... once d lady goes to her mum nd b lik he hits me or cheatd (which not something good from d man actually ) d next tin is always lik aw can he do dat Abeg u av to leave d man nd blah blah ....... come to fink of it even here on NL wen pipu bring up issues nd ask for advice ... majority if d response u get is for d lady to leave d man or vice-versa..... I fink parents now ar days ar trying to get civilizd to nd by so doin they don't raise their children d way dey wer raise... from my Gues I fink dats y 80% or more of d ladies out thier today ar not patient cos of dis lack of moral knowledge .... but y must dis b so? |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 10:15pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
demisig: I would love to give an unbiased answer but I'm afraid I can't, I can only tell u things I know. And with the little I know, the parents I know don't support it. I av seen a man chase his daughter out of his house at around 9pm when she tried to move in after a quarrel with her husband. So I guess parents don't support it, imo |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 10:20pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Agybabe: That's really funny of u ... no av not experienced nd I pray will Neva do ..... actually I av actually just bin into one crious rltnshp in my entire life...... cos pipu lik me tak time to study situations b4 falling in...... its just because divorce is lik nothing dis days ....nd NL foks even tho young seems to buy nd encourage the idea alot too 1 Like |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 10:31pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
teewai3: Hmmm its easier said than done but y shud dis b an issue in d first place after long years of courtship ....... if tinz lik dis can not b sorted out during courtship to create a mutual undastndin btw d hubby nd d wife then wat is courtship supos to be for in d first place ....... all d above listed factors ar something u shud av known abt each other during courtship nd shud av bin worked on....... or wat do u fink (remba we ar takin abt courtship nd marriage )...... I beliv d end result can only b bad if d process(wic is courtship) is faulty.... please we ar all sharing so enlighten us if u av an alternative opinion |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 10:38pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
Zedric: I really don't mean all parent support it ofcourse bt there ar some who do..... nd shud aw so celebrities b allowed to openly celebrate dis shameful act sef....... lik one of post on FP which shows lists of celebrities dat have dan more Dan one marriage ..... civilization it is indeed |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by DrObum(m): 11:49pm On Dec 18, 2014 |
This generation is simply helping family lawyers get busy! IMO, we're more humane than the older generations, we give our family lawyers a chance to make it! ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Divorce !!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:45am On Dec 19, 2014 |
DrObum: Woooah that's a simple truth from d biz angle of divorce ...... how is has profited some people nd made d other party be at a loosin end |
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