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Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by superior1: 8:40pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Jarus: miredia: US far, Europe nko?.....the woman go stay by the door as police dey join u carry ya load comot that house you called yours, you will then sign an undertaking not to even go greet your friend wey dey 50km radius talk less of passing in front of the house. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by TDstarr: 8:41pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
cococandy:women trying to imitate oyibo since 1960 you want a house with your husband open a joint account with him and build together, i have said it before i will say it again, Nigerian women dont know how to invest in a marriage or relationship, you people will be hiding your money here and there and you want to claim house you did not build 7 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by gabazin080(m): 8:41pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Rep042:k 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by miredia(m): 8:42pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
TDstarr:When I saw the word vocal, I said do people actually know the meaning of the words they use at all? Well....contextual usage. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:42pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders. Chai What a pity Ndo I don't believe all this came up after marriage She must have shown signs of theses things earlier on but love had blinded you |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by adbokus(m): 8:43pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
rebella:come on, she tore his cloth and obviously she wanted the 'fight' badly. From what the Op wrote he had never on any occasion done such, he mostly ignored her. This woman has something dangerously wrong with her both spiritually and psychologically. She's not remorseful, not reasonable, mutinous, has hurtful inclinations, and then she picks her calls in camera. This is not marriage, it's madrage!... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by miredia(m): 8:44pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
superior1:. Dem go chop off those wings of confidence. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Sparklesebony: 8:44pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Nigga44: I get really pissed off when I read comments like this. Majority of the gals/guys who are experiencing hell in their marriages saw it coming but were trying to either delude themselves or mock God. Perhaps the 'sex was too good' or sometimes what they stand to gain outweighs the character flaws, so they take the bait like a clueless fish. Let me give two case studies: 1. I accused a friend of not allowing his bf to cook for him & his reason was that d lady is diabolical. Yet, this guy spends 9am-11pm with her every Sunday (doing what?). I no want hear stories that touch the heart. 2. Another friend complained of his fiancee being lazy & refusing to help him with his domestic chores. Barely two months after the complaints, I received wedding invitation. Are these people trying to tell me that there are no better alternative? Yes! There are! Different strokes for different folks. BUT don't come and complain or generalise. Else... 4 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by xtervaganza(m): 8:45pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
I'm not happy with people blaming the op here. The deed has been done, fine. Now is the time to look for a lasting solution not demoralising him more. My own advise is for you to leave that woman you call wife asap. preferably tonight and find yourself a safe place ( you can manage with a friend for some time before you get another place). I fear for your safety and her safety too. You might end up killing her or your wife killing you. She has a baby for you and that's the only thing you gain from her and a reminder nit to make the same mistake again GOD bless you 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by pak: 8:46pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Jarus: Oga Jarus, na so you harsh reach ? Anyway, thank God you didn't meet my ex - she for show you double !!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by goldentee(m): 8:46pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
There are still very reasonable women out there who will take their time in taking care of you as the husband, and the entire home. You should not conclusively generalise all women to be the nagging and the uncaring type based on the op's wife's attitude RedBenson: |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by miredia(m): 8:46pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Sparklesebony:regardless of how microscopic your search becomes, you'll never find that flawless character since you aren't flawless to begin with. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by donbenie(m): 8:47pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
@Op,as someone who saw some of the characters your wife is exhibiting in a former fiancee of mine,who i thought I could not live without,until I saw the light and gave her the shove,life is too short to live in pain and regret,'cause you can't change an adult who's character is already preformed,especially one who doesn't want to change,the truth is,if you continue in this kind of marriage you'll most likely develop High BP with its attendant consequences,marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured,you only live once,let her be,move on and find happiness,we all deserve to be happy. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by sapientia(m): 8:48pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
If this is not a script from nollywood.. Get a lawyer to report her police sister to her station.. Then fight for your child's custody.. I was expecting like i said that if this is not a script from nollywood.. You should be asking us how best to divorce her.. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Juzzybabe(f): 8:49pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
How I wish you could just learn to ignore her totally! Hummm...It is so obvious that she's bent on destroying you,but my dear,the best way to frustrate that woman is to always ignore her. It may seems hard but if u try u can do it. Hence,always act and live like she's not in existence in a short while,she will start to suspect u having an affair,and then she will realise she's loosing you. Leave her to wear her butt pad a beg,if she likes let her double it gan,just always ignore her. If she's tired,let her ask for divorce, but mind u,the world is evil,be careful how u eats what she cooks thats if she cooks. 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by BABANGBALI: 8:50pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
WombRaiders:and that makes all the married women from your place to be saints. You have a very myopic mind . Now get lost,i am done with you 3 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by cococandy(f): 8:51pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Jarus: It both your household. Belongs to the whole family including kids. Of course you shouldn't live with someone who cursed and threatens you. That's not healthy. I don't know what the last part of your comment means. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Neplusultra(f): 8:51pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Fit2Rule:Exactly my tots!! She doesnt want to leave to make it look like she's not d wrong one but definitely has someone elsewhere deceiving her, so after she might have killed him, she'll go and marry her secret lover! 3 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
BABANGBALI: Not my fault your women are wh0res... It may be because you guys are lousy husbands. Check yourself bro. 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by 9Too: 8:52pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
elantraceey:this is why i like you, always sound sensible with your assertions. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:53pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
coogar:Make sense |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by MzEyimofe(f): 8:53pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
The truth is dat ladies can hide their character for as long as possible to get what dey want. Nd if ppl say dey don't advise you to divorce, den run for ur life... At least she say na she get House. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:53pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
miredia: Are you the OP? |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by franugo(m): 8:53pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Rosarie: yinmu yinmu! U will say d same thing 2 everyone that marries the lady. the truth is that the lady's not the type meant 4 marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:54pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
goldentee: Bruv, most women dont show this trait o until after marriage. Is better i live a happy life as a single man than being into some sort of rubbish called marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by PepsiBoy: 8:55pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Sorry for your predicament bro. We always tell people to consult God before getting married. Secondly, you must have seen quite a lot of the bad behavior your wife is now exhibiting, but you must have thought that "you would change her" once you guys got married. The truth is "what you see is what you get". Nobody can change anybody in marriage. This is a hard lesson for all those who make critical decisions without involving God and rather, relying on their smartness or feelings. Please ask involve a marriage counselor or your pastor to mediate in this situation. It is bad but not totally irredeemable. The situation can still be remedied, but you will need to involve either your pastor or a marriage counselor. I wish you the best bro. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by cococandy(f): 8:56pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
TDstarr: Are you the type that like your wife to work and deposit her salary in your personal account so that you will allocate to her how much she can spend on her bra and pant. If she gets money you guys will build the house in your name alone so that one day when you're tired you will marry a new sisi and chase her out as the house is "your house" alone. Most of you have slave master mentality. Tell me why you won't have rebellious wives? 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:56pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
I mean, why do guys settle for useless girls who lack character, poise, courtesy, morals and ethics all in the name of fvcking love? Out of the about 50million girls wey dey nigeria, now the guy is thinking of divorce! Nigga u go stay with am 4 better for worse. Nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:57pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
OP, I must be frank here. You are the cause of the problem. I do not see anything wrong in wearing a butt-pad. Women use most of these artificial beauty-aids to augment their self-confidence and 'look good', it doesnt suggest she is cheating. I will like to be blunt here; Your wife has done a lot to put up with a man who didnt plan well before engaging in a traditional marriage. You didnt couldnt even afford your rent after traditional marriage and you went ahead to impregnate your wife. Are you silly ? Now the poor woman helps to buy foodstuff, pay rent, and in fact buy herself cloths and butt-pads which is actually your responsibility as a man 100%. You are NOT financially and psychologically stable enough to get married. I am sorry, this is just the plain truth. I see nothing wrong in her actions, except ofcourse the curses and abuse, which are actually caused by your actions and inactions. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by johnsonjosbles(m): 8:57pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
i had just dsame xperience like urs, . exactly. the diff is my wife ,didnt so any sign of looking outside, but one thing i noticed is her family never respect me just because i 'm jobles after graduated frm sch, my wife was lucky to get abank job, i wasnt a lazy man, i strugle to survive n take responsiblity in the house as a man. they saw me as gold diger and treated me thesame way. what i did and it may help you. i packed my belongings and left home,i never return tho in dsame city until when she started feeling my impact,as God will crown my effort,i got job in d proces,my wife later started loking for a way to be reunion,wc i decline untill fight broke out betwn her and her family blaming them for her to be seperated btw her and her husband. they had to send my pastor to beg me but i acepted her back only because of my son i loved so much. believe me Now, my wife became the best woman. we bult our own house wc she contributed 50%and she never disrespect me againg. the secret was b4 she came to her normal sence, i nearly remary to another working class woman who is far beter piad than my wife and d lady respected me alot. even now am still comunicating with the lady, my wife never complain. tho i promised her nothing more btw us. so that is woman for u. dont be surprise she love you. 3 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by miredia(m): 8:57pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
[quote author=Sleekyshuga post=29490755]****vexing mood***** Who the hell does she even think she is? What set of generational women are mothers producing these days? This is too much for 1 man now .. @OP, I blame you for virtually everything.. Firstly, you dated/courted her for 2years, and you knew she had this tongue lashing mouth, yet, u went ahead and married her? What does that make you? A good guy? Secondly, there is a saying: "The day you ever allow a woman pay your bills, that day you become her slave". Trust me... She can be all sweet and rosy, and even plead with you to let her do it, and if finally you fall for her charm, and she does it and continously do it, you are in for the worst.. Borrowing from friends, family members etc would have being more responsible, and would have kept your respect in check than dealing with your abusive wife.. Thirdly, you fought with your wife.. You dragged her, and she dragged u!! What a disgusting scenario.. Clap for yourself!! You did well by beating a lady.. There are other better ways of treating a nagging/abusive wife.. Lastly, your wife will never CHANGE.. She is in a world of her own, coupled with the support and encouragement she is getting from her people.. She has sounded it to you.. She wants a DIVORCE.. What are you still waiting for? Until she kills you? It's obvious you don't value your life.. "The shits I keep hearing about marriages keeps me on an alert daily".. [/quote |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by BABANGBALI: 8:59pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
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