donmalcolm21:
shut your dirty mouth and stop behaving like the OP wife before I take out my anger on your miserable soul.

who us dis one opening his dirty gutter to spew trash,wat can u do sef.nonsense.

chuksfor13:
kindly report her 2 a spiritual head she submits to, either a pastor or rev. Fr. Or better still 2 d Man of God dat joined two of u in marriage. Now dat has to be done very fast.

Spiritual head..... . You are a clown.

elantraceey:



I'm against divorce but in this case that's the only way out for you , A married woman wearing butt pad against her husbands' wish , who is she trying to impress?


But op be honest , you saw some of these signs before you married her right?

Most times courtship is not a guarantee that you know your spouse very well. There is a lot of pretense during this period. You can't blame OP on this, a lot of marriages are also in crisis. I feel separation for a while would help in this case. Get you financial position back as quick as possible to avoid insults in this area. Pray my brother if all still does not work out, God will surely direct your steps.

BABANGBALI:
قثصبلغ اعهخخ رليش رةنخح لفغ ؤيسثصشسسثيب

What is the meaning of this Mohammed d1k scribble?

Adufetohposh:
She's a Working class lady....... that's the only good thing about her

Very wicked response.
She control be that bad na.

@OP, I think you need to see a good marriage counselor as soon as possible. It seems like you made a mistake posting your issue here judging by the comments of many nairalanders. Imagine some dummies berating you for telling your wife(not gf or sister o) not to wear butt pad. Rubbish!!! Well, you can only do one of two things: continue with the marriage or divorce her.

If you feel your differences are irreconcilable, you guys are incompatible and that you don't love her anymore then waste no time in divorcing her. It's not a bad idea judging from all you have said about her.

However, if you still wanna continue with the marriage then try to get to the root of the matter and deal with it. You said it yourself that she has a bad mouth so those talk of her threatening to kill you and other curses may just be empty threats. Though if I were in your shoes, I'll go with divorce cos you can't be certain she won't do worse next time.

All the best.

morbeta:
i was in the same shoes and today my ex-wife is running from pillar to post to have my attention. Why, cos she couldnt place how God bleSsed me beyond human imagination in less than 3years of seperation. Eventually she has turned born-again.

Most eventual become born- again after reality dawns on them.

cococandy:


Are you the type that like your wife to work and deposit her salary in your personal account so that you will allocate to her how much she can spend on her bra and pant.

If she gets money you guys will build the house in your name alone so that one day when you're tired you will marry a new sisi and chase her out as the house is "your house" alone.

Most of you have slave master mentality. Tell me why you won't have rebellious wives?

Idiiot. How is your comment relevant to the post you quoted? If you have nothing good to say, shut up and go to sleep. Mumu

WombRaiders:


Shatap there. Even the inlaws supporting their butt implant wh0re of a daughter made me know their origin.

A wise man once told me that it is better to marry a bad wife who has good parents than a good wife who had bad parents. His reasoning being that eventually there will be conflict in any marriage and the wife will seek counsel and comfort from her parents and siblings. A bad set of inlaws will always encourage her to break up.

In OP's case he married a wh0re from a very bad family who in turn see nothing wrong if their daughter is an adulteress.

This is a trait common among these people.

Now go and be your Igbo someplace else because I am not even one.

Your tribal bigotry isn't impressionable, the only sense you have spoken is the analogy of "bad parents, good parents"

teemanbastos:
When JESUS d prince of peace is nt present, dis is what is faced.
Talk to ur pastor(s).
Marriage is 'til death do us part'

Fvck this talk to your Pastor and marriage is till death do us part shi.t..Pastors that cannot even manage their own stinking marriages?and if you want to die in an ABUSIVE marriage be my guest,just don't encourage others with your archaic believe.

miredia:
Your tribal bigotry isn't impressionable, the only sense you have spoken is the analogy of "bad parents, good parents"

Breed, they say is greater than pasture.

Most Yoruba homes are dysfunctional breeding dysfunctional kids who will later continue the cycle of dysfunctional.

Ever wondered why, a man seeking a woman in marriage must know her parents and family? It is to ascertain her upbringing to know if it fits with that of his and the family he intends to start.

Never make a wh0re a house wife. Yoruba women are narsistic sluts who never understand that marriage comes first above their owambe humping and partying.

WombRaiders:


What is the meaning of this Mohammed d1k scribble?

ضفثبثرسكك يليعفهقه صتصتث سلثاثع بتفتبهب يلياباب ساسهبهبل سلسلسرءكياياامخل شلسابافععقاقا

benodic:

@ op

you may not know it now but spiritually you have been given a wonderful gift.
if you can settle down for a moment and contemplate on your marriage you will discover the blessings in it.

marriage is the strongest training school on earth. if you are able to master whatever challenges is thrown at you in a marriage it will take you a lot closer to spiritual mastership.

it is never about your spouse, it is all about you. how do you marshall out the positive virtues in you to counter the negative ones she throws at you.

once you successfully rise above her negativity, it will fizzle out because it will not have any impart on you again. you have mastered the situation. this will give you a very big boost in life and enable you to also master other challenges thrown to you. that is why we are here on earth.

the worst thing you can do is to run away from the situation. you will only be postponing the evil day. you will still meet those same challenges in the future even if you marry another person.

contemplate on what i have told you.

go into silence and ask God for strength and guidance

remain blessed

Good gracious... Lots of clowns lurking. Death is involved here and you are here saying baloneys... What mastery? Complexities guised to be simplicities. I hope you gain mastery of death chants.

MissMeiya:


Are you the OP?

Yes

BABANGBALI:
ضفثبثرسكك يليعفهقه صتصتث سلثاثع بتفتبهب يلياباب ساسهبهبل سلسلسرءكياياامخل شلسابافععقاقا

I did a google translate and it just gave me gibberish crap.

If you must claim diversity then stop using inbred language.

Daft Arab c0ck sucker

donmalcolm21:
who is this? Does sex after marriage determine a blissful home? If you don't have a responsible comment to make STFU.

You going on a rampage dude.

WombRaiders:


I did a google translate and it just gave me gibberish crap.

If you must claim diversity then stop using inbred language.

Daft Arab c0ck sucker

يقفلغاع عهتالبي

coogar:


they all see the signs but they will still forge ahead to marry evil people - hoping that jesus of nazareth will abracadabraly change the spouse from a demon to an angel.

Gbam.

idu1:
my guy. Such issues happened to guy that doesn't see beyond a woman's physical looks.

True that is. You can't help attraction to beauty though..

BABANGBALI:
يقفلغاع عهتالبي

You just wrote :

Allah sucks greatest c0ck

You slanderous kaffur. I shall behead thee and feed your rotten corpse to pigs.

This is a pathetic case. I sympatise with u if all u wrote is anytin to go by.
My advice is dat u adopt d folowing steps:
1. Do not repay her evil for evil
2. Treat her wit much love
3. Steer clear frm sin. Dont engage in extra-marital sex
4. Pray and fast 4 ur mariage
5. Read same Psalm 61: 1-end every day
6. Live righteously
7. Be patient
8. If all these personal efforts fail, report to ur pastor if ur pastor is gud in mariage counselling
9. As much as posible do not all third parties in to ur mariage aside frm a spiritual mentor in d person of ur gud pastor and invariably, the church
10. The church may now determine if separation cud be d next option.
May God help u out of dis marital unhapines in Jesus name

@Op. How old is your baby? Was it a planned pregnancy? Are you working? Was your marriage sponsored by her family?. If you don't feel comfortable and secured in your home...You need to take a break for your safety amd mental well being. You shouldn't have forcefully removed the yansh pad. You both seem to be aggressive. Probably if she is footing bills...then they must have seen you as a burden based on what she has told her family. Some ladies will help and it won't be an issue...while some will help and announce to whole family...third party involvement. What I see here is two aggressive couple cohabiting. Am sure if we hear her own story...there will be finger pointing both ways. Ensure your safety first....have one on one discussion with her with no third party involvement...I know she is not insane....you both should talk things out and show each other some respect and avoid third party involvement both ways. If its not working...then its not worth it.

I would have loved to pity u but I must say that the essence of courtship before marriage is to study and know each other better and be able to decide if u can really stick out ur head for a life time with each other.
According to u, u dated her for 2yrs and even had an arguement and quarrels with her few months to ur marriage and she said aborminable words to u.
Having seen and known all these things about her even before marrying her, the question now is
"WHO IS TO BLAME FOR YOUR PREDICAMENTS"

Fit2Rule:
You want my advice? Here it is... She doesn't want a divorce otherwise she'd have packed her things and left your (her?) house. She wants your head! She wants you dead. Believe it or not, only few ladies and I mean very few, value men who got no money at any instant. She already has another RICH MAN in her life. All she's waiting for is for the baby to grow a lil and then... boom! What you should do? In case you are still wondering: Just get the hell outta her house! She doesn't want you loitering around her. Pick up the pieces of your life and move on. The baby will survive. Just focus on God as you make the very difficult but all imperative decision.

I strongly believe she doesn't want him dead, perhaps divorced. She wants him submissive to her will and most likely a penchant for subtle promiscuity which his presence stalls.

Com to chosen.. God will heal ur marriage

Divorce is nt an option.
God hates divorce.

Mal 2;15-16

Galaxydon1:
pls in your next world ask God to make you a woman, cos you are not a man, how can a woman control you

Where do you live?

Those of you asking him to divorce her,are in a way wicked. Have you people forgotten that some of us are still single and looking for wives? Do you want us to go and use head to carry this type of bad market that OP wants to throw away?

@ OP: pls whatever you do,do not divorce her. Find where to tie that thing to. But if you must send her away,pls let me have a picture of her so that where ever I see her,I can run with my two legs.

But on a serious note,this is scary. You are in a deep problem. Your best bet is total separation from her. That thing aint a wife.

elantraceey:


This one is too much , she never loved him am sure of that.

. maybe she was desperate to ans MRS.....

Op if you are quitting the marriage,better take your child along with you. there is every tendency that she won't cater for the baby.
but am still baffled, so there are ladies that can be so foolish.

cytochromeC:
Original Title by OP- Separation is imminent in my marriage.

Modified title by mods - Nairalander's wife wants to send assassins to kill him.

Supermoderator, I hail thee o.

am sure it was modified to attract more traffic

Rep042:


Her sisters even supported her to wear butt pads,saying afterall some people likes it and she's one. And to signs before marriage,she once told me that she's manly(adim oke),thus hard hearted,but I advice her to pray God to remove that spirit from her ,hoping that she will eventually change.

Do you mind telling us where this woman is from? As in the state and the town?

chingydaboss:
Com to chosen.. God will heal ur marriage

Divorce is nt an option.
God hates divorce.

Mal 2;15-16

. even in the face of death.

I know this same bible advocates separation.

miredia:
True that is. You can't help attraction to beauty though..

All that glitters is not gold. You could end up with shinny gold sprayed aluminium crap.

On most accounts beautiful people are highly bad mannered and selfish.

I don't see the beauty of a vile woman. Being extremely handsome and a sex god myself I find myself dating girls for their knowledge, depth, spiritual balance and reservations. I have dated a lot of supposedly fine girls because of my looks but i could not stand their b1tchiness and wh0re flirting. Beauty can be a magnet but their character is what makes me stick around.

My current babe is average and a far cry from the narsistic cun.ts I dated in the past and she is definitely a keeper on all levels. To me she is a beauty only thing is that all the scars I got from those b1tches on my heart make it difficult to completely lose myself with her or any woman. I am praying to GOD to make me love again and her in particular. Only problem is that she views my looks as a sign that I am a potential cheat in the making which I am not. This is the disadvantage of being handsome or beautiful you make your spouse unnessary jealous.