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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by justi4jesu(f): 9:02am On Jan 13, 2015
freecocoa:
Do you know Boskel Nig Ltd? It's owned by a family friend, his wife owns one of the leading schools in PH and a church in Jerusalem, they got married on his NYSC allowance, go figure.


That's not always the outcome my dear, it can't be easy if the wife is not up and doing or supportive. People are different.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:03am On Jan 13, 2015
freecocoa:
What is wrong with people for crying out loud?

My answer would be "with all due respect, that's none of your business"

What rubbish.

To ur future in law?

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by okine4real: 9:03am On Jan 13, 2015
As for me, i would even do more... When most of you guys are married, then you would know what it takes to bring up child. Now for example, by Gods grace i children would attend a good school, as a matter of fact, their institutions might be outside the country, them schooling outside the country wouldnot jus end there, i have to do constant calling, mind talking, constant orientating etc... What most pple dont know is, when a man do not have a successor, he has failed... My grand father was one of the riches in my village duing his time, but the money was so much that he had know time for his children, and with that he had know successor....

My friend was getting married to the daughter of a very wealthy Nigerian, the father of the girl ask ny friend to sumit his CV... Although the guy had two maters from one of the schools in US. As a parent i cant suffer building empires and hand them over to my Son or daughter and there husband or wife would just be using my sweat to smoke Igbo or only thinking of buying Gold.... As a parent you must acertain that your childrens husband or wife is well equipt with knowledge and all to help drive the families success to greater hight. As a parent i would do proper investivation about the person my children is bring home, The guy or babe might be earning a lot of money but lack proper sence. This is all i hae to say for now...
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:03am On Jan 13, 2015
ifyalways:
Doesn't sound right.

I Won't entertain such a question from a prospective in-law.

Mscheww
If they ask you, thr's nothing you can do but to answer them, the answer depends on u tho. And you can't even disrespect them of you think your wife to be is worthy
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by AmaechiLinus(m): 9:04am On Jan 13, 2015
Yes. It is very wrong. Secondly, if ur motive of giving away ur daughter is to make money then u dnt nid 2 ask b4 u knw. There is an adage which says "by dia fruit we shal knw them". And mind u, sb may earning #10 2day n 2moro anoda opportunity may take him 2 a gr8ta height.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by aspirebig: 9:04am On Jan 13, 2015
Op,what will lead to such a question in d ist place? Do they want to increase the salary if it is small?

Or do they want to help you plan how to spend it if it is big?

Wise up.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:05am On Jan 13, 2015
freecocoa:
What is wrong with people for crying out loud?

My answer would be "with all due respect, that's none of your business"

What rubbish.

Freecocoa....won't you like to know ,when you have a daughter to give out in the future...how much hubby is earning?

Especially as some potential spouses of both sexes can be very deceitful.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by freecocoa(f): 9:07am On Jan 13, 2015
onyenze123:


To ur future in law?
They can only even become my future In-laws if their son is sensible, sees that's it's wrong for his parents to be that rude and gets them to apply common sense, nonsense.

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by sammyomoh(m): 9:07am On Jan 13, 2015
I can never say d 2rut.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by hayoakins(m): 9:08am On Jan 13, 2015
I earn enough to take care of your daughter and if you are willing to help me get a job that can earn me seven digits in a month, i wouldn't mind grin
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by jpphilips(m): 9:09am On Jan 13, 2015
bunmioguns:
I want to ask if it is wrong for your fiancee's parents to ask how much you earn as salary per month

Ask him how much he spent training your fiancee
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by freecocoa(f): 9:10am On Jan 13, 2015
bushdoc9919:


Freecocoa....won't you like to know ,when you have a daughter to give out in the future...how much hubby is earning?

Especially as some potential spouses of both sexes can be very deceitful.
No, I would only like to know where he works and how responsible he is, if at all I can't do the maths to figure out his salary range myself, there's always another way without having to be so rude.

Btw, I don't expect my daughter to come home with a deceiver, she would be raised to know better.

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by coolestca(m): 9:11am On Jan 13, 2015
VickyyB:

It depends on the kind of family he wants to marry their daughter.
If you earn 20k, you can't expect a man that earns more than the amount to be happy giving you his daughter.
More like handing his daughter to a pauper(from grace to grass)
that how some parents end up selling their children into bondage
I think it's most ideal asking only what job he does and then you can ask your daughter the rest of the questions
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:12am On Jan 13, 2015
woky:
Can I send a PM??..

..Dnt mind my PP wink
lipsrsealed
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by freecocoa(f): 9:12am On Jan 13, 2015
justi4jesu:



That's not always the outcome my dear, it can't be easy if the wife is not up and doing or supportive. People are different.
You are digressing, no one said anything about the wife being the reason for his success,even if she is, can't the man with 20k turn out to be greater tomorrow?
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Adex097: 9:12am On Jan 13, 2015
Kingsasian:
Its totally wrong. If they should ask I will give them a wrong answer
A wrong question deserves a wrong answer .

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by santana45: 9:14am On Jan 13, 2015
Patience Ozokwor AKA MAM G will ask her son -inlaw in one of those African movies undecided But in real life hell no. It's wrong, the question looks so odd.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by penzino(m): 9:15am On Jan 13, 2015
dljbd1:
I've been asked questions like,

....: "Are you still in school or you are working?"
Me: "I'm a graduate sir" wink

....: "Ok, where do you work?"
Me: "Lagos sir" grin

Never give a direct answer...they seem to just blend along with whatever answer they hear. cool
when did this happen?
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:17am On Jan 13, 2015
freecocoa:
How do you determine that a 20k salary earner's condition will be permanent? Or that someone with 1 million Naira as salary will not go broke tomorrow?

I'm too enlightened to be talking based on Nollywood so please take note, what matters is knowing who you are marrying and his potentials, money can come and go.

Chaii.. This gal na wife material o..

Idowuogbo where u dey..
I wan pay dowry..
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by dljbd1(m): 9:18am On Jan 13, 2015
penzino:
when did this happen?

lolz...just before Christmas jare.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by justi4jesu(f): 9:20am On Jan 13, 2015
freecocoa:
You are digressing, no one said anything about the wife being the reason for his success,even if she is, can't the man with 20k turn out to be greater tomorrow?



I have digressed a little because of your last comment you made by mentioning the husband's wife owning one of the leading schools in PH. If the wife didn't assist when he was getting his NYSC Allowance, then i stand to say it's just 1 out of 10 possible outcomes.
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by scarpa: 9:20am On Jan 13, 2015
They are hungry people and should not be close to. Nonsense. Such parents encourage their daughters to flirt.

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:21am On Jan 13, 2015
freecocoa:
How do you determine that a 20k salary earner's condition will be permanent? Or that someone with 1 million Naira as salary will not go broke tomorrow?

I'm too enlightened to be talking based on Nollywood so please take note, what matters is knowing who you are marrying and his potentials, money can come and go.
When the husband is rich, wife should also be hardworking- that's the problem most women do.

So there's no way they can go broke even if the husband become poor one day. undecided
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:23am On Jan 13, 2015
VickyyB:

When the husband is rich, wife should also be hardworking- that's the problem most women do.

So there's no way they can go broke even if the husband become poor one day. undecided

Lolzz..
How old are you?

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by jimmy101231(m): 9:23am On Jan 13, 2015
They should rather ask there daughter...why me why me? If them ask me that kind thing its Finished They should rather ask there daughter...why me why me? If them ask me that kind thing its Finished They should rather ask there daughter...why me why me? If them ask me that kind thing its Finished
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:24am On Jan 13, 2015
Different tribe may ask for different motives...
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Obaino2013(m): 9:24am On Jan 13, 2015
VickyyB:

It depends on the kind of family he wants to marry their daughter.
If you earn 20k, you can't expect a man that earns more than the amount to be happy giving you his daughter.
More like handing his daughter to a pauper(from grace to grass)
Smh
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by tartar9(m): 9:25am On Jan 13, 2015
see them why them no go vex when dem they receive 10 thaasand as monthly salary una wan use poverty kill anoda man pikin people like me shall speak up with pride"nna mehn dont worry i shall spoil ya daughter with maney i receive 5million naira per month minus allowances"
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by penzino(m): 9:26am On Jan 13, 2015
dljbd1:


lolz...just before Christmas jare.
where? How come I didn't hear about this
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by Nobody: 9:28am On Jan 13, 2015
hofn:


Lolzz..
How old are you?

CLICK HERE

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Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by OracleMxNelson(m): 9:28am On Jan 13, 2015
jnrbayano:
It's not wrong.

What would be wrong is if I remain interested in the marriage as they keep asking those kind of questions.

Buhahaha.... dis pesin funny die. chei
Re: Is It Wrong For Your Fiancee's Parents To Ask You This Question? by dljbd1(m): 9:28am On Jan 13, 2015
penzino:
where? How come I didn't hear about this

Hahahhha...there is a lot you don't knw Oooo.

I go take over this thread if I start Ooo

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