Collins0609:

u b id01t . u dated u bf and he left u and u still want d gal to pass through it. the OP na f00l. I can never b too nice to a gal.he gets u everything and shower u wit attention and u are not satisfied. what have u contributed to d guys life. d guy did all dat for u and u have done nothing for him.u tink making money is easy or do u tink u are beautiful, go and visit ashawo .do u tink u have better qualities. at ur age u are still seeking advise. d guy in abroad will dump u and d oda guy will marry a better gal and u will ruse ur chances. Ewu Gambia. I know you still allow oda guys access to ur body. virgin ke. there are many good gals dat are no virgin.ur type will cheat on dia husband. u don't deserve d oda guy.leave him now so he can find a better love. d guy is blind cos u are a virgin. forgetting dat ashawo was once a virgin

IdiAmin1:
My sweet angel,
1. Any man that opens his mouth to tell a lady to dump a fellow man is not worth trusting.
2. A man that rushes to introduce a lady to his parents when he isn't sure of the lady in question is a desperado.
3. Becareful of men who are too nice and too available for a lady, it often backfires.
My advice is this, if you are really sure of your boyfriend's love for you, better stick with him. Age in men doesn't matter these days, it's his level of maturity, thinking and above all, where is the man going in life? He can be ready before you know it. Thank God you are 21, atleast you still have like 4 more years to fully ripe for marriage. My wife once had this your dilemma and her friends were pushing her to leave me but here we are together typing with one phone, advising a sister. What a world

Collins0609:

u b id01t . u dated u bf and he left u and u still want d gal to pass through it. the OP na f00l. I can never b too nice to a gal.he gets u everything and shower u wit attention and u are not satisfied. what have u contributed to d guys life. d guy did all dat for u and u have done nothing for him.u tink making money is easy or do u tink u are beautiful, go and visit ashawo .do u tink u have better qualities. at ur age u are still seeking advise. d guy in abroad will dump u and d oda guy will marry a better gal and u will ruse ur chances. Ewu Gambia. I know you still allow oda guys access to ur body. virgin ke. there are many good gals dat are no virgin.ur type will cheat on dia husband. u don't deserve d oda guy.leave him now so he can find a better love. d guy is blind cos u are a virgin. forgetting dat ashawo was once a virgin

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

foxxynik:
OP....
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Age isn't all about Maturity..
Age isn't all about experience..
Age isn't all about self-control
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Most aged men who claim they're experienced in relationships...makes the worst mistakes of their lives in choosing the right partner... Reasons are that... They meet with different girls with different orientation and different lifestyles...and so..they can't liken one girl to be same with another...
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I've attained a wedding ceremony of young couples and its always lovely...how they look...and am telling you... That there isn't anything wrong getting married to a guy of 23years...only if he's mentality and financially ready.....
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Don't be pushover by the comments you read... Use ur God given discretion to make ur own judgement... I'll say... That all you need is a great time with your BF...and u'll know the kind of person he is... You've dated him for a year...and that's even better.....it tells u how much u'd stay in marriage...
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Any man who comes to u and finds out that u're in a relationship...and leaves...is a man with a good heart...and any man who comes and tell u he'll wait for you...he is telling u to use ur own hands to kill ur destiny...becoz when u break up with ur bf and get along with him....he won't regard u...when trouble sets in...u'll be baffle with the kind of comments he'll tell you... Men and women can hid behaviours for as long as it takes...until u hit them hard..u'll never see their true colours....
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This other guy isn't an option...if ur bf isn't the man for you... There are other men out there that will show u ten folds of what u're experincing now!!!....
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Men will use u.... U're still too young... Read magazines...read newspapers...u'll know what men are... Most matured men are married elsewhere... Most mature men aren't just matured minded men...they're wicked...with bad intentions... Just follow a young man.
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Where I used to work....I've seen men come to flirt with young young girls...all in the name of showing them love..... And girls fall for it... EVERY girl will go for Material things... Soft voice..... Tender touch...... Surprise gifts..... Vacation trips..... But this are vanity... With time...u'll go to this places with ur husband and kids... 10years is too much..... That's likely to be ur elder brothers mate....

Collins0609:

u b id01t . u dated u bf and he left u and u still want d gal to pass through it. the OP na f00l. I can never b too nice to a gal.he gets u everything and shower u wit attention and u are not satisfied. what have u contributed to d guys life. d guy did all dat for u and u have done nothing for him.u tink making money is easy or do u tink u are beautiful, go and visit ashawo .do u tink u have better qualities. at ur age u are still seeking advise. d guy in abroad will dump u and d oda guy will marry a better gal and u will ruse ur chances. Ewu Gambia. I know you still allow oda guys access to ur body. virgin ke. there are many good gals dat are no virgin.ur type will cheat on dia husband. u don't deserve d oda guy.leave him now so he can find a better love. d guy is blind cos u are a virgin. forgetting dat ashawo was once a virgin

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

ZedX6:
A car without an engine can still be pushed.

Confidence? I'm an expert at reading peoples emotions from their writings. She has forgotten the guy abroad. The age gap between them is small. He is 23. When is he gonna be thru with school and come back? What if he comes back with another girl? Why does she deserve to wait and base everything on an uncertainty?

Long distance relationships are a fvcking waste of time. It's better for you two to mutually break up and move on. Then in future, you meet yourselves single, you can continue.

This girl here has done more than enough for the guy abroad to dump her already. Da fuq, she has done everything with the guy here, except sex, and she's contemplating losing her virginity to him for fvcks sake. Do not be beclouded by sentiments. She has moved on without him. All that talk of love for him is complete and utter bullshit.

ZedX6:
A car without an engine can still be pushed.

Confidence? I'm an expert at reading peoples emotions from their writings. She has forgotten the guy abroad. The age gap between them is small. He is 23. When is he gonna be thru with school and come back? What if he comes back with another girl? Why does she deserve to wait and base everything on an uncertainty?

Long distance relationships are a fvcking waste of time. It's better for you two to mutually break up and move on. Then in future, you meet yourselves single, you can continue.

This girl here has done more than enough for the guy abroad to dump her already. Da fuq, she has done everything with the guy here, except sex, and she's contemplating losing her virginity to him for fvcks sake. Do not be beclouded by sentiments. She has moved on without him. All that talk of love for him is complete and utter bullshit.

foxxynik:

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Check the previous thread...heard there was a lost and found brain... It could be urs....
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Coz the brain u used in typing this junk isn't urs....
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The girl u're dissing gave the best advice ever... No sane man will meet a girl who's in a relationship and ask her to leave the man and follow him...
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How will u feel if the girl u're dating...perhaps married to... Leaves u for another man? Simply because the man is twice ur standard..... Every girl, is supposed to join heads with whoever they're dating to make a better relationship....other than hoping for Mr Perfect to come their way with lots of gift and material things....
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Even when the relationship didn't turn out well..and she left.... She's proud to tell u dat she never cheated on her man...dats a joyful thing to say.....its highly dignified.... And I respect her for that..... If u've ever dated a girl dat cheats on you...you'll know what it is to date a girl dat wil never cheat on you...they're rare species....

zaralady:


My dear I hav dis feelin dat if u leave ur bf for dis guy u ll regret it, u better knw wat u re doing

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

0malicious:
my advice is this
1. just bear it in mind that you are young, 21 is a young age to talk of marriage.
2. Talk of marriage is not a sign of seriousness, men can talk talk n talk n introduce you to their ancestors but if they're gonna mess u up, they will.
3. Focus on building urself now. this is d most important part of my advice. I swear it can't be over emphasized. as a woman you need to have something going for yourself, have some self worth. forget the love fairy tale bullshit, it doesn't last, what your seeing is jus d welcoming parade. what makes you a real woman is not a mans appreciation but your ability to stand on your own. don't make rships d centre of your life when you ought to focus on harnessing your God given talents.
4. don't take any rship seriously for now unless your ready to get married. stop d activity with d second guy, think about it n realise d guy is selfish in his demands. if you eventually leave ur bf he might lose interest, some men re chasers it would shock you to know what they'd do to get what they want. and no this guy is not too sweet to be like that, open your eyes.
5. sex is just an activity, stop putting too much thought on it. it comes with a lot of baggage that only marriage can handle trust me.
sorry for d long post God bless you.

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

naijaboiy:

Confused set of species [/font][/i]

foxxynik:

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Check the previous thread...heard there was a lost and found brain... It could be urs....
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Coz the brain u used in typing this junk isn't urs....
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The girl u're dissing gave the best advice ever... No sane man will meet a girl who's in a relationship and ask her to leave the man and follow him...
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How will u feel if the girl u're dating...perhaps married to... Leaves u for another man? Simply because the man is twice ur standard..... Every girl, is supposed to join heads with whoever they're dating to make a better relationship....other than hoping for Mr Perfect to come their way with lots of gift and material things....
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Even when the relationship didn't turn out well..and she left.... She's proud to tell u dat she never cheated on her man...dats a joyful thing to say.....its highly dignified.... And I respect her for that..... If u've ever dated a girl dat cheats on you...you'll know what it is to date a girl dat wil never cheat on you...they're rare species....

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

naijaboiy:
you have already done some things with this other guy.

It just remains sex. Only God knows what those things are.

Please just leave that poor boy in abroad alone.

You clearly do not Love him

acidtalk:
Its been long I made a comment here. I will do so because even though you are young, you really sound mature and humble.

Now this is my 20 shillings;

* I totally understand your feelings for your boyfriend, but truth be told, the feelings appears to be so strong because he is the first you ever gave a yes to his proposal.

* Your boyfriend is still too young to get so committed to. For crying out loud he is just 23 and just starting life. Aside the issue of settling down which I doubt he won't be ready for in the next 5years, before he can be termed a REAL MAN WITH EXPERIENCE he will need almost 7years or more of "hard knock life", rejection, betrayals, boss/employee politics, businessman/client relationship, family gimmicks and lots more. Being a man isn't all about graduating from school, getting a job, buying a car, living in your own apartment and sexual experiences. Maturity comes with age and time. I still believe your boyfriend hasn't attained that stage.

* Before you can start comparing your boyfriend with this other guy, you need to spend more time with your boyfriend as you do to the other guy. Long distance relationships are always the SWEETEST. But a NIGHTMARE when both parties see themselves regularly. What am I trying to say? You still really don't know your boyfriend as much as you think you do.

* NEVER EVER vouch for anyone, not even your own mother. Saying your boyfriend will never leave you is a bloody lie. You are inexperience, naive and too deep "inlove" to think any man/woman can not dump you at anytime without any explanation.

* This other guy might not love you more but he is likely to be more serious and committed to the relationship due to his age and maturity. And bearing in mind you are young, a graduate and MOST OF ALL a virgin, any right thinking guy will want to grab you fast and marry you while he copes with your immaturity rather than settling for most of the "breathing PUBLIC PITS" we have walking all over the nation right now.


If you aren't ready to marry in the next 5-6years, stick to your boyfriend even though no guarantee he won't dump you before then, otherwise, give the other guy a chance.


Kiah! My fingers dey ache. Come buy my book LOVE TALK BY ACIDTALK if you want further advice. Lol!



All the best.

amacastel:
The other is right ur bf is still young go for d older guy that loves u more cos he is more matured and ready to seytyle down . Follow ur head

aphildam:
they say follow ur heart, but take ur brain along... what if your heart deceives u?
what if the knowledge in your brain is erroneous ? what if the ectasy men make you see are deceitful? what if the pleasure u seek are found in mars only on a blue moon? what if all they told u and u gulped deepthroatedly were lies concocted in the dark shallow abyss of mortals heart?

Let God be true but every man a liar--romans 3:4

He revealeth the deep and secret things: he knoweth what is in the darkness, and the light dwelleth with him.--dan 2:22

in him was life and d life was d light of men

ve u consulted the holy spirit and are you in jesus. He will tell u, if those decisions were right in the first place.

THE LORD BLESS AND HELP YOU SISTER TO MAKE A RIGHTFUL DECISION VOID OF ALL HUMAN ERRORs & VOID OF EVIL MANIFESTATIONS.

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Beverlyjean:


You don't have to say that about me , I told you that I am still fresh when it comes to relationships , I don't have friends and my mum and dad monitor me a lot , so I don't no much about boys because I am the only child, I don't have brothers or sisters. I stick to myself most times . The other guy wasn't planned for , it just happened. My fear is that my bf that I luv might end up leaving me if he finds out . I don't [b]want to loose them both[/b]

JeffreyJamez:


With the way you're going, You'll end up with the wrong guy.

Bamz:
Why are you confused?

If you're in a serious relationship, it's like marriage except that the marriage is not yet official, that's how I think of it.

Don't even get me started on how I think you're just seeking attention.
Next time you're putting up a thread, be concise, go straight to the point, leave out some irrelevant and unnecessary details. Its not like your Virginity plays a role in the decision you'll be making.

chronique:
Personally,I feel matured adults should date themselves,and youngsters should be left to themselves. It helps to save a lot of unnecessary headache.