Will you engage in a swing lifestyle with our spouse?

Will you?

If I'm getting something better in return (say my wife is like 7/10 and the woman I'm getting is 10/10), and she's on it - why not? At the end of the day, she's still going to cheat regardless cos that's how women have been wired. So, why not kill two stones with one bird: know who ya wife is messing with, and get something nice in return?

Sex is just anything really and, once folks stop worrying above "love" and being too attached to other people, things will become easier. And most folks aren't going to marry virgins, anyway. Evidently, a few extra mileage from other folks via swinging shouldn't be a problem. Give and take - with pure satisfaction.

crackhaus:
Will you?

NEVER!!!

To me it is a disgusting lifestyle.

SirShymexx:
If I'm getting something better in return (say my wife is like 7/10 and the woman I'm getting is 10/10), and she's on it - why not? At the end of the day, she's still going to cheat regardless cos that's how women have been wired. So, why not kill two stones with one bird: know who ya wife is messing with, and get something nice in return?

Sex is just anything really and, once folks stop worrying above "love" and being too attached to other people, things will become easier. And most folks aren't going to marry virgins, anyway. Evidently, a few extra mileage from other folks via swinging shouldn't be a problem. Give and take - with pure satisfaction.

If the two partners are on the same page, why not? I agree with you
...but not with "all eventually cheat"

If I am in a loving relationship, there is no reason why I would cheat

Back to being on the same page...it is essential
I have two sexxual fantasies...I will share one
I would love to be hand and foot cuffed....I have dated people who wanted it too....but I never gave in to my craving.
Why?

It comes with a niggling question at the back of my head:
"what if after tying me up, he realises his hitherto unknown or unrealised fantasy or craving of choking someone to death"?
...and then he proceeds to snuff the living life outta my poor soul with a handy pillow, or worse, his hands? The same hands that tied me?

Lawd!
Will I ever! SMH

Point is, people may want to swing and still not do it...maybe cos one partner wants it so badly, and the other not so much, or same way, but with reservations...
I do not think I have addressed the issue

Okay...I will try...lemme be honest
If I wanted to exchange partners with a couple, in other words, swing
...and it was my craving, and my idea, I would love my partner to agree.....because he loves me, right?

...but if he brought it up, I would haate...but because I am likely to be in love with my partner, I would agree, to please him, all the while riddled with insecurities about him preferring her!


This is the truth, therefore I would like any swinging idea, or fantasy to be mine
If not, no show
LOL

I know, very selfish...
Thanks

That said, I am not sure I would have the guts to swing
for many reasons......
But I do not think it is disgusting
Exciting, more like

(now just imagining the special room swingers would occupy in hell! )

My account has been hacked into!!!
Lawd!!!

milychocs:
My account has been hacked into!!!
Lawd!!!

Lmao.

Don't fret - express yourself like a N.igga W.ith A.ttitude. Supreme blackness.

milychocs:

If the two partners are on the same page, why not? I agree with you
...but not with "all eventually cheat"

If I am in a loving relationship, there is no reason why I would cheat

Cheating is the oldest trick in the game...and everyone has a very high propensity to cheat. So, to be on the safe side, you have to always expect the worst.

Back to being on the same page...it is essential
I have two sexxual fantasies...I will share one
I would love to be hand and foot cuffed....I have dated people who wanted it too....but I never gave in to my craving.
Why?

It comes with a niggling question at the back of my head:
"what if after tying me up, he realises his hitherto unknown or unrealised fantasy of craving of choking someone to death"?
...and then he proceeds to snuff the living life outta my poor soul with a handy pillow, or worse, his hands? The same hands that tied me?

You just have to let go so as to be able to make ya fantasy a reality. Everything is about taking risks. Heck, even dating a stranger you've never met prior to the first interaction, which later blossomed is a risk. Just go for it and live the dream - life's short and you can only live it once.

SirShymexx:


Lmao.

Don't fret - express yourself like a N.igga W.ith A.ttitude. Supreme blackness.

.. for remembering
Ciao

sophy09:


NEVER!!!

To me it is a disgusting lifestyle.

Lol... so why does it seem to interest you?

SirShymexx:
If I'm getting something better in return (say my wife is like 7/10 and the woman I'm getting is 10/10), and she's on it - why not? At the end of the day, she's still going to cheat regardless cos that's how women have been wired. So, why not kill two stones with one bird: know who ya wife is messing with, and get something nice in return?

Sex is just anything really and, once folks stop worrying above "love" and being too attached to other people, things will become easier. And most folks aren't going to marry virgins, anyway. Evidently, a few extra mileage from other folks via swinging shouldn't be a problem. Give and take - with pure satisfaction.

But u realize women are wired differently? An average woman attaches much importance to having sex, especially the married ones. Well I don't know the experience that might have caused ur comments though.

Not everyone cheats or will cheat. Some people are actually disciplined like that

And the issue is not about marrying a virgin or not, its about respect to the other one in the relationship.
I see no reason why someone In a relationship will wanna swing? Is it because the partner is not satisfying them or it feels good to have a taste of varieties?
But then we view relationship differently.

You write as if love is something thats of alien nature.

crackhaus:

Lol... so why does it seem to interest you?

Wow! Look who's here

milychocs:



If the two partners are on the same page, why not? I agree with you
...but not with "all eventually cheat"

If I am in a loving relationship, there is no reason why I would cheat

Back to being on the same page...it is essential
I have two sexxual fantasies...I will share one
I would love to be hand and foot cuffed....I have dated people who wanted it too....but I never gave in to my craving.
Why?

It comes with a niggling question at the back of my head:
"what if after tying me up, he realises his hitherto unknown or unrealised fantasy of craving or choking someone to death"?
...and then he proceeds to snuff the living life outta my poor soul with a handy pillow, or worse, his hands? The same hands that tied me?

Lawd!
Will I ever! SMH

Point is, people may want to swing and still not do it...maybe cos one partner wants it so badly, and the other not so much, or same way, but with reservations...
I do not think I have addressed the issue

ROTFLMAOOOOOOO!!!

DollyParton1:

But u realize women are wired differently? An average woman attaches much importance to having sex, especially the married ones. Well I don't know the experience that might have caused ur comments though.

Not everyone cheats or will cheat. Some people are actually disciplined like that

And the issue is not about marrying a virgin or not, its about respect to the other one in the relationship.
I see no reason why someone In a relationship will wanna swing? Is it because the partner is not satisfying them or it feels good to have a taste of varieties?
But then we view relationship differently.

You write as if love is something thats of alien nature.

Lol. Dollyparton - I've got some patron fi yu. Wanna drink?

Erm, I was just making a hypothetical proposition based on utter liberalism. I'm not married, and I honestly won't be able to tell if I'll ever engage in swinging or not. But I do know I'm not really too fussed about any chic I'm checking sha.gged by a next man - there's too much going on in the world than to start worrying about someone getting fvcked cos they want to.

However, the fact that men and women are wired differently doesn't negate the fact that in the current clime, women think/act like men. And that effectively makes them go too far most times. Also, I don't think women attach that much importance to sex these days with the way most of them get smashed all over the place by all and sundry.

Anyway, I see relationship as companionship, without leaving room for someone to hurt you and put ya life on hold completely due to emotional heartbreak. And love is for suckers in my dictionary.

SirShymexx:


Lol. Dollyparton - I've got some patron fi yu. Wanna drink?

Erm, I was just making a hypothetical proposition based on utter liberalism. I'm not married, and I honestly won't be able to tell if I'll ever engage in swinging or not. But I do know I'm not really too fussed about any chic I'm checking sha.gged by a next man - there's too much going on in the world than to start worrying about someone getting fvcked cos they want to.

However, the fact that men and women are wired differently doesn't negate the fact that in the current clime, women think/act like men. And that effectively makes them go too far most times. Also, I don't think women attach that much importance to sex these days with the way most of them get smashed all over the place by all and sundry.

Anyway, I see relationship as companionship, without leaving room for someone to hurt you and put ya life on hold completely due to emotional heartbreak. And love is for suckers in my dictionary.

Lets discuss this swinging ish again when you get married to a lady and not when u are still checking out a girl.

Lol. Most of those women getting smashed all around were actually sweet talked into it by some men.
My belief is that men and women differs emotionally. The few ones that has the gut to actually act emotionally like a man are the ones we call Bįtches.

Relationship is about companionship among other things. And there is no way you can be in a genuine relationship without loving one another. I believe there is always room for emotional betrayal and hurt in a relationships. The question is how one handles it.

I am of the opinion that love is a beautiful thing and for the stronghearted because they are not afraid to express their emotions thereby damning all consequences.

DollyParton1:

Lets discuss this swinging ish again when you get married to a lady and not when u are still checking out a girl.

Lol. Most of those women getting smashed all around were actually sweet talked into it by some men.
My belief is that men and women differs emotionally. The few ones that has the gut to actually act emotionally like a man are the ones we call Bįtches.

Relationship is about companionship among other things. And there is no way you can be in a genuine relationship without loving one another. I believe there is always room for emotional betrayal and hurt in a relationships. The question is how one handles it.

I believe love is a beautiful thing and for the stronghearted because they are not afraid to express their emotions thereby damning all consequences.

Lmao @ "lady" vs "girl" like all females don't stagnate mentally when it comes to maturity from age 21-40. You just need to sell them a good dream, for them to open their legs. Females revel in fantasy-land. Just this weekend, my boys was telling me about the pastor of a naij church from around my way who has basically sha.gged almost all the chics in the Church - both married and single lol. Hell yeah, women attach importance to sex indeed loooooool.

Love is inconsequential in relationships - it's about companionship and care. And once you complement each other, then it's nice. High flyers chase money, power, and respect - only suckers chase love. Then again, I'm a different breed and my mentality is about 'trust no one'.

SirShymexx:
If I'm getting something better in return (say my wife is like 7/10 and the woman I'm getting is 10/10), and she's on it - why not? At the end of the day, she's still going to cheat regardless cos that's how women have been wired. So, why not kill two stones with one bird: know who ya wife is messing with, and get something nice in return?

Sex is just anything really and, once folks stop worrying above "love" and being too attached to other people, things will become easier. And most folks aren't going to marry virgins, anyway. Evidently, a few extra mileage from other folks via swinging shouldn't be a problem. Give and take - with pure satisfaction.

Easier said than done.

If / when you do find "the one" to settle down with and have your kids , you most certainly wouldn't want another dude trespassing on your territory.

Can you honestly picture an obese, balding, middle aged white dude getting his uncircumcised kini on with your beautiful, smoking hot, natural haired, black wife?

And you'll be cool with it?

I think not.

SirShymexx:


Lmao @ "lady" vs "girl" like all females don't stagnate mentally when it comes to maturity from age 21-40. You just need to sell them a good dream, for them to open their legs. Females revel in fantasy-land. Just this weekend, my boys was telling me about the pastor of a naij church from around my way who has basically sha.gged almost all the chics in the Church - both married and single lol. Hell yeah, women attach importance to sex indeed loooooool.

Love is inconsequential in relationships - it's about companionship and care. And once you complement each other, then it's nice. High flyers chase money, power, and respect - only suckers chase love. Then again, I'm a different breed and my mentality is about 'trust no one'.

The first line is a very ridiculous generalisation.
A Pastor is so rotten enough to sleep with almost all the females in his congregation and you refused to acknowledge the trend from the Pastor's end. That right there is double standard. In this particular case, the pastor has capitalized on the fact that he is a man in a certain level of authority who people look up to, and have decided to straff the women. This case is the same as Pastor's swindling their members of their hard earned cash all in the name of prosperity. Thats why I said most were sweet talked into it. You meet a lady, get to know her needs and you sell her a story that hits the very core of her needs, she falls for it, you straff her and turn around to call her důmb.
I noticed you are of the opinion that all women have fish brain or something of sort, but your female relatives are the exception to the rule. Because they are a special breed or what?

You can get companionship and care from anyone but love is what makes it more beautiful. And no one in their right senses chases only love. Love is just a fraction of one's relationship. Its just part of the pieces in a puzzle that makes up ones life. A relationship that leads or will lead to marriage should not be devoid of love.
Being in love doesn't make one weak .

A person with "a trust no one" mentality has no business in a relationship, except if the other party is wired like that. Then I would say they fit each other perfectly like a glove.

EfemenaXY:

Easier said than done.

If / when you do find "the one" to settle down with and have your kids , you most certainly wouldn't want another dude trespassing on your territory.

Can you honestly picture an obese, balding, middle aged white dude getting his uncircumcised kini on with your beautiful, smoking hot, natural haired, black wife?

And you'll be cool with it?

I think not.

Obviously, you have to be picky when it comes to that.

The world is changing, sis. You'd be surprised at the number of naij women like you swinging these days. You just need to visit the swingers' club in Dagenham to see for yourself. It's a new era - women have been liberated.

DollyParton1:

The first line is a very ridiculous generalisation.
A Pastor is so rotten enough to sleep with almost all the females in his congregation and you refused to acknowledge the trend from the Pastor's end. That right there is double standard. In this particular case, the pastor has capitalized on the fact that he is a man in a certain level of authority who people look up to, and have decided to straff the women. This case is the same as Pastor's swindling their members of their hard earned cash all in the name of prosperity. Thats why I said most were sweet talked into it. You meet a lady, get to know her needs and you sell her a story that hits the very core of her needs, she falls for it, you straff her and turn around to call her důmb.
I noticed you are of the opinion that all women have fish brain or something of sort, but your female relatives are the exception to the rule. Because they are a special breed or what?

Lol. You just made my point for me that women stagnate mentally when it comes to maturity from age 21-40. If they could be so gullible despite their age(s) to allow a pastor sell them dreams - where's the maturity? The same dream you'll sell a married woman in her 30s is basically the same one you'll see to a 21-year old, perhaps with different packaging. Women just love hearing what they want to hear - and anyone who can give them those fantasies they revel in. So, where is the importance attached to sex there when they could be so dumb to open their legs to someone based on fantasies?

You can get companionship and care from anyone but love is what makes it more beautiful. And no one in their right senses chases only love. Love is just a fraction of one's relationship. Its just part of the pieces in a puzzle that makes up ones life. A relationship that leads or will lead to marriage should not be devoid of love.
Being in love doesn't make one weak .

Love is a waste of emotions especially when it comes to women. You can never please them, and the more vulnerable you're, the more the leverage you give them. Any woman who isn't happy with companionship, care, loyalty, and complementing her partner can go find some sucker for love. Money, power, respect - love is for suckers. Once you love humanity, that's enough love to go around.

A person with "a trust no one" mentality has no business in a relationship, except if the other party is wired like that. Then I would say they fit each other perfectly like a glove.

The hearts of men - trust is sacred that's why I keep a small and circle. Good luck with trusting snakes, jakes, and chameleons.

SirShymexx:


Lol. You just made my point for me that women stagnate mentally when it comes to maturity from age 21-40. If they could be so gullible despite their age(s) to allow a pastor sell them dreams - where's the maturity? The same dream you'll sell a married woman in her 30s is basically the same one you'll see to a 21-year, perhaps with different packaging. Women just love hearing what they want to hear - and anyone who can give them those fantasies they revel in. So, where is the importance attached to sex there when they could be so dumb to open their legs to someone based on fantasies?



Love is a waste of emotions especially when it comes to women. You can never please them, and the more vulnerable you're, the more the leverage you give them. Any woman who isn't happy with companionship, care, loyalty, and complementing her partner can go find some sucker for love. Money, power, respect - love is for suckers. Once you love humanity, that's enough love to go around.



The hearts of men - trust is sacred that's why I keep a small and circle. Good luck with trusting snakes, jakes, and chameleons.

Damn. Read through your post.
All I can say is good luck.

DollyParton1:


Damn. Read through your post.
All I can say is good luck.

See with me, I only deal with realness not fantasies. That comes with experience and dissecting how people are generally. I've never loved any chic, and I don't think I'll ever do. Yes, I do care about humanity. The highest I can ever share with chics is loyalty and it has to be mutual.

You just can't please women - and most of them never grow mentally. Just one guy who can walk any woman through her fantasies is enough to unravel her and make her pull off her panties. Every guy who has been around the block knows that. Good luck looking for what you want to hear - I only give "Primetime" a la real.

SirShymexx:


See with me, I only deal with realness not fantasies. That comes with experience and dissecting how people are generally. I've never loved any chic, and I don't think I'll ever do. Yes, I do care about humanity. The highest I can ever share with chics is loyalty and it has to be mutual.

You just can't please women - and most of them never grow mentally. Just one guy who can walk any woman through her fantasies is enough to unravel her and make her pull off her panties. Every guy who has been around the block knows that. Good luck looking for what you want to hear - I only give "Primetime" a la real.

lol... I need not hear anything from you, I know what I want to hear and who I want to hear it from.
The way you have decided to lump all females together as nothing but sub par in terms of any form of intelligence and generally undeserving of love is beyond me.
I don't know what sort of ladies you have mingled with though. So once again I'll say good luck.

DollyParton1:

lol... I need not hear anything from you, I know what I want to hear and who I want to hear it from.
The way you have decided to lump all females together as nothing but sub par in terms of any form of intelligence and generally undeserving of love is beyond me.
I don't know what sort of ladies you have mingled with though. So once again I'll say good luck.

Lool. I was just speaking in general in context of the tangent you took the discourse to...not directing it to you. You live like over 6,000 miles away from me. And even if I were to tell you anything personally, I'd rather sell you a big dream for that batty - than keep it real. Shiit, that will be a waste of time due to distance.

Intelligence is subjective - and in this case I was alluding to intellect based on maturity and discerning things in a particular context. Anyway, I honestly don't know why women chase love when it's meant to be organic. You don't chase/expect it - it just happens naturally.

Most of you don't even know what love is hence the faux(pseudo)-love you lot spread around and there's a dearth of unconditional love (true love). Ain't no real nyggah got time for that fake shiit - loyalty above everything.

Darn! Still hiding 'em pics, no?

I'm out - I need to review someone's research paper before I hit the sheets.

Abso-PHOCKING-lutely NOT!!!!!
Not into "group-therapy" of any kind!

SirShymexx:


Obviously, you have to be picky when it comes to that.

The world is changing, sis. You'd be surprised at the number of naij women like you swinging these days. You just need to visit the swingers' club in Dagenham to see for yourself. It's a new era - women have been liberated.

Why would you have to be picky when it comes to that?

Isn't it "just sex" afterall?

Plus, if the balding, middle aged white man's wife is a knockout who looks way better than your wifey, seeing as you'll be "getting something better in return", then him jerking off on your beautiful wife shouldn't be a problem for you, should it?

SirShymexx:


Lool. I was just speaking in general in context of the tangent you took the discourse to...not directing it to you. You live like over 6,000 miles away from me. And even if I were to tell you anything personally, I'd rather sell you a big dream for that batty - than keep it real. Shiit, that will be a waste of time due to distance.

Intelligence is subjective - and in this case I was alluding to intellect based on maturity and discerning things in a particular context. Anyway, I honestly don't know why women chase love when it's meant to be organic. You don't chase/expect it - it just happens naturally.

Most of you don't even know what love is hence the faux(pseudo)-love you lot spread around and there's a dearth of unconditional love (true love). Ain't no real nyggah got time for that fake shiit - loyalty above everything.

Darn! Still hiding 'em pics, no?

I'm out - I need to review someone's research paper before I hit the sheets.

Lol..... Dont take it personal bro.... the what to hear and who to hear from ish was a joke.
But isn't everyone, both male and female guilty of falling for any form of sold dreams. The fact that women tend to fall for a particular type doesn't make it different.
Any gender can fall for any sold dream.
As ladies mature, they tend to fall into two categories, the desperate ones and the none desperate ones. I believe all ladies can see a loop hole in a sold dream. The desperate ones just choose to ignore it, and have a false hope instead, and I think men see through this desperation and capitalize on it.
I see women around, who do not fall for no sold dream.

Like I stated earlier, love is a piece of a puzzle that makes up a relationship. It is not a sole ingredient. Yes you don't chase love, it just happens. But I see no reason for being in a loveless relationship, no matter how one sugar coats it. Loyalty, companionship, care, respect and all that shouldn't be absent in a relationship just as love should not be.
A genuine romantic relationship differs from an everyday relationship, humanity love differs from relationship love.

I can only imagine the sort of company you have kept or the types of experience you have, that makes you have this sort of mindset. But then every one is entitled to their respective opinions.

Orisirisi, swing relationship is another term for 'big love' abi? The Lord will strengthen us. Hian...

EfemenaXY:

Why would you have to be picky when it comes to that?

Isn't it "just sex" afterall?

Plus, if the balding, middle aged white man's wife is a knockout who looks way better than your wifey, seeing as you'll be "getting something better in return", then him jerking off on your beautiful wife shouldn't be a problem for you, should it?

Lol. Folks don't just swing with anyone, you have to pick suitable partners to swing with. That's how it works. It's just like trading in games at CEX, or blockbuster (when it was still opened).

Well, my wife has to agree with it - hence I said, "if she's on it" in my opening post.

DollyParton1:

Lol..... Dont take it personal bro.... the what to hear and who to hear from ish was a joke.
But isn't everyone, both male and female guilty of falling for any form of sold dreams. The fact that women tend to fall for a particular type doesn't make it different.
Any gender can fall for any sold dream.
As ladies mature, they tend to fall into two categories, the desperate ones and the none desperate ones. I believe all ladies can see a loop hole in a sold dream. The desperate ones just choose to ignore it, and have a false hope instead, and I think men see through this desperation and capitalize on it.
I see women around, who do not fall for no sold dream.

Like I stated earlier, love is a piece of a puzzle that makes up a relationship. It is not a sole ingredient. Yes you don't chase love, it just happens. But I see no reason for being in a loveless relationship, no matter how one sugar coats it. Loyalty, companionship, care, respect and all that shouldn't be absent in a relationship just as love should not be.
A genuine romantic relationship differs from an everyday relationship, humanity love differs from relationship love.

I can only imagine the sort of company you have kept or the types of experience you have, that makes you have this sort of mindset. But then every one is entitled to their respective opinions.

Dayummm!!

You're missing the point. You asserted that men and women are wired differently and that women attach more "importance" to sex. And what I did was counter that myth. Thank God you just buttressed my point for me, with this line: "Any gender can fall for any sold dream."

Nah, majority of women don't have the mental capacity to discern and see through "dreams". Most exist in fantasy land and they like hearing what they want to hear. It's even evident on this forum - hence anyone can just cook up any story/fable/jejune-tale in their own heads. Tell it as their story, and pass the nonsense out as an "advice" - with folks swallowing it up hook, line, and sinker - without asking questions. Heck, they thank folks for it. Women generally aren't the sharpest tool in the shed.

What you see as "love" is just a figment of ya own imagination. No one goes into a relationship seeking "love" (the way you defined it) - true love just happens, and it's always unconditional. The type of "love" you're alluding to is the conditional love and the bane of most relationships today. Love that happens for a reason, or dependent of certain things, and once that goes - the love also fizzles away. I don't need that fake tripe around me. If it can't be real and unconditional - I'm not interested.

My mindset/experience is real - and I'm averse to fake shiit. It's real out here on these streets, and ain't no one got time for time wasters.