RollySexy:
True talk guy

iamNotAlone:
I am beautiful, curvy and hairy. Chocolate skinned but it bothers me that I can't get and keep a man of my own.
Yes, I have admirers and stalkers but they don't fit into my picture of an ideal man.
The ideal men I have at my workplace, all they do is to admire and tell themselves " this bae make brain o". But none of them could approach me for a serious relationship because they often think I am taken.

Pls, my beloved #landers, how do I get them to toast me?.
Its kind of frustrating when your are lonely, no passionate calls, no sweet talkings. And u feel u have all it takes but the men ain't just coming

1miccza:


So being irresponsible at one point or the other is something that must happen to everyone isn't it

debolly:
Op...be yourself & don't be desperate so as not to fall for preys, cos they are everywhere.

Do you think you can only find love @ your workplace?

Those guys are not meant for you if they can't approach you.

Tallesty1:
Put big magnets in your bra.



You described your self like someone who is full of herself, which is wrong. I can say that you are one of the many women who think that beauty can get and keep a man but sorry it doesn't work that way. Men are visual and get turned on by a woman who is fit, healthy, sexy and beautiful tbh but what next after the initial attraction?

Your Ideal man is a person of high standard and to keep such person you gotta have a high IQ too.

I will give you one or two tips.

You must be intellectually attractive to keep him. Don't be boring. You must not only become somewhat knowledgeable and be able to follow him with curiosity, interest, and intelligence into the world that he finds interesting and mentally stimulating but also you must be capable of leading him into your own world in an interesting and stimulating way. You should be well informed on what’s going on in the world. Men love ladies that they can have a fascinating, stimulating conversation capped with a good deal of humor with.

DAIL:
coach

Adamsynox:
Is your bum bum bigger than bombay ? If yes u are good to go

vfactor:



1. Buy a white T-shirt.
2. Write "I'M NOT TAKEN" on it.
3. Wear it everyday to work

iamNotAlone:
The secretary, who always listen to office gossips told me

rokiatu:
I don't think it will hurt if you start making a move. some women are pretty, but hardly smiles and not approachable.
You have to be friendly.

iykedare:


You can be the one to make the move. There is absolutely nothing wrong if you do that. Give the guy some nasty `green light`. Getting such from my place of work and I will ........

Last I checked.....
This is Africa....Nigeria.

Our beliefs affects our DNA.
There is a deeply ingrained mentality that has been passed down from centuries of generations.
It is Okay to do the green lighty stuff....
But never ask a man out, never make the boldest move.
Let it be his decision to make.
Let him be the one who comes for you.
It is good for his and your "pride" (However they interpreted it back then).

With all my "emancipation" from religion and our so-called "BackWard" thinking.......
There are iotas of truths in that statement, however it is presented.

It might work for others, but not for me.
And I am not discouraging anyone who wants to do so......I'm prolly just being overly conservative.
I have tried it before.......I almost got burned, NO. I got burned.

It is not my place to go after a man.
If the feeling is mutual...........
Well, he knows what to do.

farano:
Men have different tastes. One thing that would attract one man is thesame thing that would repel another man. Her character will attract the right man.

rokiatu:
I don't think it will hurt if you start making a move. some women are pretty, but hardly smiles and not approachable.
You have to be friendly.

PunkyOh:


Oh, so it's what they say amongst themselves, rather than what they say TO themselves. You scared me there a little.

Ok, since you're in the know on who is interested in you in the office, why not start a lively conversation with one of them & see where it leads? You can't always wait for things to come to you. Talk.

rokiatu:
P.S the hairy thing is that a turn on?

Eluwilussit:


It is part of life. Nobody has it all figured out all the time. We would be Angels if we did. Humans are prone to Bleep ups. Everyone. As long as you know how to clean up and move ahead and not get stuck on the same shit all the time.

Life is imperfect. We must live in it imperfectly. What you might call irresponsible in your clime, may not be so in another. We all do irresponsible things every now and then. Even apostle Paul, said so himself. He lamented that he was doing everything he wasn't supposed to do, while neglecting all the things he should do. He even bemoaned himself for that.

I like to see the good side of everyone. Actually, what you look for, will determine what you see. Everyone is a mixture of virtues and vices. It is natural.

chidyhels:

Patience gal
Appear approachable...
Dont just say hi and end the talk
Ask further, create an atmosphere for longer talks.

[b]SIMPLE!!! Nice one dear, u sound like a keeper...

humilitypays:
@Iamnotalone, I am going to be honest with u based on experience as a guy, so read and make amendment where necessary.

1st: guys hate and avoid any lady who hardly smile and always forming busy and serious- try and be putting up friendly smile and look, loosen up...be free, interact with guys not just in your workplace but in your environment.

Note: pls be mindful of going into a relationship with guys working in same company with u, it rarely end well.

Secondly, be informed too that single guys don't easily approach ladies who always dress too flashy/flambuoyant like she's going for a stage performance...sometimes dress simple and casual...if not single guys will only be admiring u from afar without making move while married men & playboys with lots of experience and confidence when it comes to wooing ladies will be the majority of guys coming to woo u.

Lastly, you need to also watch your attitude and lifestyle as regards to pride and arrogance towards people around u, this always scare good men with good intention away from a lady.

Don't also forget the spiritual factor- pray to God...don't tell pastor or afar, talk to your maker and stop worrying, the right person will soon come, have faith n believe.

Wish u the best.

Hazardd:
my dear, the world has turn around, no more a guy toasting first.

If you see your ideal man make a move and toast him, make him know that you are interested in him and watch him do the needful...

So forget that women foolish idea of looking cheap if i make a move first. Correct talk!

just go for want you want fullstop.

1miccza:


You know you are sort of giving a free gate pass to irresponsibility i believe as individuals we might have some momentary vices not necessarily sex but others but giving it a free pass and making examples with people like the ones you've quoted makes it look like it's a normal life which shouldn't be it isn't normal....

VenusBetty:
You look too independent, that was what I was told. Look into that dear, I know how you feel.