babyosisi:


Exactly
Marriage is not by force
If a woman wants to be doing girlfriend and playing house for over a decade ,she has herself to blame when things pack up
How can you be approaching 30 and not know when to move on and get past 30 and be answering GF
The stupid friends couldn't give her advice?
No girl who wants to marry and is at the age to marry should spend more than 3-6 months with any man without knowing where it is going
A man who will marry you would have made that determination within weeks of meeting you
If after a few months he is not shaking body,just look elsewhere
Time waits for no woman

Any guy that proposes to any girl within the interval of weeks is the same kind of guy we are discussing here cos there are possibilities that he has finished enjoying another babe for over 11years and now wants to form seriousness by proposing few weeks of meeting... Ladies. take my advice, run for your dear life to avoid shear curse...

Marriages of 10-20-30 even 40 years collapse. Unfortunately. A reason should be given by the guy then we take it from there. Emotional outbursts from her friend, even her,insults,curses and all are crap if it was a real life story.
There are some 'red lines' for different people( not Obama's type on Syria), I digress.

dnwabz:


Nne, I cant do dat twice naaa....Its done once and I have done mine already and we are already blessed with the fruits.....So, try and concentrate on one and settle down soon......atleast by then d basket can boast of all ur eggs.....

Well I can't concentrate on one.I am not used to that . Good luck on yours .When a man is ready to tie the knot, he knows what to do.Until then, I will not keep all my eggs in a basket. I am free to go on a date with any man I want, even when I am in a relationship. Thanks for the advice.

babyosisi:


Some of the girls abusing the man are the same ones that will tag unto a married man for years waiting for him to leave his wife and marry them,then they wake up at 40 and realize it will never happen.

true....it easier said than done.
honestly a woman will know without a prophet telling her if a relationship is headed for marriage or not..

I wonder if many young girls are scared to ask their partners or simply blinded by love.
unfortunately, many of them fall in love and forget their senses..
A girl should be able to tell if she has insight and foresight if a relationship will lead to marriage or not...
I don't even subscribe to dating for years before you finally tie the knot

Equalizer:



Any guy that proposes to any girl within the interval of weeks is the same kind of guy we are discussing here cos there are possibilities that he has finished enjoying another babe for over 11years and now wants to form seriousness by proposing few weeks of meeting... Ladies. take my advice, run for your dear life to avoid shear curse...

Gbam!
You got that right
She just wasn't a wife material for him

babyosisi:


I am not talking about boys
I am referring to grown men who are ready to settle
Big difference
Almost every friend I have tells me they knew from the very beginning their husbands wanted marriage
I say the same too

Even People who eventually married two years or more after they met knew in a few months the relationship was for marriage so I can't understand why anyone will waste one year with a man when she is looking for marriage .

You better stop talking of grown whatever cos even an eligible bachelor can still decide to have sidekicks....so your 2weeks is not a hard & fast rule...my friend already had his virgin babe at home while he was busy making 2other girls behave like full time housewives...now he's preparing for his intro with his main babe ds April..your friends where just lucky to be d chosen ones cos you never know d other women those Men have exed for your friends...you never know dear.

rubey:
Men = Beasts!
And the fool dated him for so long!

In as much as I'm not justifying the guy's actions in anyway, for you to terma all men as beast, it goeas to show that:-

Your father is a beast
Your brothers are beasts
Your male cousins are beasts
Your boyfriend/husband is a beast
In short, all the males in your village are beasts

babyosisi:
Why would an adult female date a man for 11 years
Is he the only man in town?they started at 3rd year in the uni
Assuming she was 20, this girl is now in her 30s and dating the same man
Why would anyone be that naive
Couldn't she see this coming
Why would a man marry you when he has sucked everything dry
Some marriages don't even last 2 years and this man has enjoyed the benefits of a marriage 11 good years without a marriage
The girl was fooolish

she is simply in love...... funny that what many girls making mouth here go through.
many fall in love and forget their brain

all those cursing the guy,jf you like curse him from from now till next year, the curse won't work at all

lebete3000:


You better stop talking of grown whatever cos even an eligible bachelor can still decide to have sidekicks....so your 2weeks is not a hard & fast rule...my friend already had his virgin babe at home while he was busy making 2other girls behave like full time housewives...now he's preparing for his intro with his main babe ds April..your friends where just lucky to be d chosen ones cos you never know d other women those Men have exed for your friends...you never know dear.

You don't get it.
I am not talking about a man sleeping around or having side chicks
Neither is this discussion about exes
Go and read me again
And if you still don't understand my post,I don't know how else to make it simpler

Odunharry:

she is simply in love...... funny that what many girls making mouth here go through.
many fall in love and forget their brain

all those cursing the guy,jf you like curse him from from now till next year, the curse won't work at all

Love indeed
One year will turn to two and then 11
Which kain love
Now wey every man in the area knows she had played wife for 11 years,na who go marry
She is better off moving to another state to start afresh with a new crop of men around who don't know her full history

that guy is wicked for 11 years?? are you crazy?
haba

Reaper231:
There's something called Karma. Whatever kept those pple for 11 yrs was worth dying for. I will rather marry her out of pity than lead her that long den even end it a day to a wedding. How can yu treat a lady as if yu don't have a sister? That's brutality in its highest form and that guy will regret it sooner than later esp since he is getting married to a total stranger.
I pray nothing happens to d girl cos her blood will be on his head.

I understand her pains though but the truth is nobody is worth dying for if you ask me. Sincerely, I am sure if you ask them, they sure have their stories to tell.

benedictuyi:


Do you know what the babe must have done to him b4...babes r wicked too o. Dis one dem say babe dy give am money.. Only God knows what the guy must hv passed thru to b dis heartless

Leave dem, dem no go talk dat one come here dey cry foul..

babyosisi:


You don't get it.
I am not talking about a man sleeping around or having side chicks
Neither is this discussion about exes
Go and read me again
And if you still don't understand my post,I don't know how else to make it simpler

Just drop it since we dont seem to understand each other..

Tell dem d truth they'll wriggle dr way around it to suit themselves as if dat will change anything. Yet when it happens dem no go make person hear word.

The truth still remains that most girls are naive and stupid and I guess a real suitor must have come her way during the early part of her courtship when she was young and beautiful but she was foolishly inlove with her so called school sweetheart. The only thing constant is change and girls should always remember that love fades. The chances of your school boyfriend marring u after dating for so many years is just very slim . Women shine ya eyes

I've read virtually most of the comments here and I realize most people are making comments base on emotions and pity.

First of all, all courtship do not lead to marriage, regardless of the length.

Marriage has never been a reason why people do not walk out of relationships.

Even if Tunde got married to her, he can still divorce and move on.

Although I pity the girl, but why will she date a man for 11 years if marriage is her ultimate goal?

It's a jungle out there. You don't loose common sense due to an emotional fluctuation called love.


I hope other girls learned from this, because I'm sure she saw the signs coming but she chooses to ignore.

Must every relationshio end in marriage? Abeg lemme hear word. He chose to spend the rest of his life with someone els, na by force ? 11 wasted years? How? They spent 11 years together, all the fun and etc they had for 11 years never do? Mitschewwww

The heart of men........ladies use your head o.

GboyegaD:
It is better than a broken marriage. Why did they wait this long though?

Now how are you sure that is she ever gets married she would be free from divource? Life is funny, do your best and still expect the worst

rubey:
Men = Beasts!
And the fool dated him for so long!

I hope you are aware that your father is one of us?
because I see no reason why you should generalised all men as being beast.

naralanders ,this man should have tasted and tested to satisfaction so he sees no point marrying her again

She might have been gud in bed but not a gud house wife or a mother. Marriage is a big DECISION. Something might have happened cos things dont just hapen

11 years?

Lol kilode?

I can bet you the men here would be singing a different tune if it was the other way around where the man dated the woman for 11 years and shared his salary with her for her to leave him the day before their wedding. The comments would be so different. Hypocrites.


That is just pure wickedness. He knew for a long time that he did not want to marry her yet he was enjoying her salary. He knew he did not want to Marry her yet he want on with the wedding arrangements.

That lady he is a about to marry is not a stranger. I can bet you that he has been cheating on his Fiancée with this lady for some time now cos nobody can just wake up and get married to a stranger. All I know is what you reap, you shall sow. Karma is a B


But women in general need to start waking up. After a certain time/years if a man is not going to marry you he never will. So don't waste 11 years hoping for a miracle

EggovinMma:
11 years! !!!

NEVER PUT YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET.

I agree 100% with this statement. This is actually the difference between men and women. Men don't put all their eggs in one basket and hence you will find cases like this where the guy dates a lady for 10 years but the following month marries another. Women need to be like this too. Unless the man has put a ring on it, then you are not his wife so stop acting like one. Trust me when a man wants to marry you from day1 you will know and actions speaks louder than words. He won't wait too long before he wifes you up. Until then don't close yourself off to all men completely. Am not saying that the lady should cheat but one must not be totally blind and keep your options open. For me My limit max is 2-3 years. That's If I really see a future there. The man was cruel but I blame the lady. How can you date someone for 11 years. He is not the only man in the world. Seriously nobody should be that desperate.

Rubbish! she started dating him hen she was in her 3rd year in the university and she dated him for 11years? she for date am for 11decades nah oponu!

How old was she when they started dating that she had to wait 11 years and still expecting marriage? Nansense!

If a woman have to date a man for 11years then she probably started dating him when she was in her junior secondary school before she open eyes wella.

SemuhleB:
I agree 100% with this statement. This is actually the difference between men and women. Men don't put all their eggs in one basket and hence you will find cases like this where the guy dates a lady for 10 years but the following month marries another. Women need to be like this too. Unless the man has put a ring on it, then you are not his wife so stop acting like one. Trust me when a man wants to marry you from day1 you will know and actions speaks louder than words. He won't wait too long before he wifes you up. Until then don't close yourself off to all men completely. Am not saying that the lady should cheat but one must not be totally blind and keep your options open. For me My limit max is 2-3 years. That's If I really see a future there. The man was cruel but I blame the lady. How can you date someone for 11 years. He is not the only man in the world. Seriously nobody should be that desperate.

Aunt mi, I think we need to reduce it please. 2/3 yrs is now even too much Mbok.11 yrs is a Bleep in long time . What kind of lover is that? And to thank a guy was saying a lady shud put all her eggs in a basket, sound so selfish.Men are ageless and shouldn't be compared to women.The more we get older, the closer we get to being infertile. Me no dey listen to them ooo.Goood forbid! I no dey do that kind dating biko.Any man that wants the "full Package" should go to my father's house.If I agree, fine, if not, he should look for another wife.

Duru009:
She might have been gud in bed but not a gud house wife or a mother. Marriage is a big DECISION. Something might have happened cos things dont just hapen

And he just find out after 11 years??

EggovinMma:


Aunt mi, I think we need to reduce it please. 2/3 yrs is now even too much Mbok.11 yrs is a Bleep in long time . What kind of lover is that? And to thank a guy was saying a lady shud put all her eggs in a basket, sound so selfish.Men are ageless and shouldn't be compared to women.The more we get older, the closer we get to being infertile. Me no dey listen to them ooo.Goood forbid! I no dey do that kind dating biko.Any man that wants the "full Package" should go to my father's house.If I agree, fine, if not, he should look for another wife.

exactly my dear. If you like it then you should put a ring on it. What's worse is those ladies who act like full time wife's at the boyfriends place. Washing, cooking, having sex etc etc everyday at his place. I mean why on earth will he go out of his way to marry you when he can easily enjoy it for free. You will never find me at my boyfriends place doing his laundry everyday. Am I his mother? Am I his wife? I like cooking so I don't mind doing that occasionally but if a guy is expecting me to do that every day after I come back from work to still cook for him. Madness I tell you. If you want a wife then get a wife. A girlfriend is not a wife. When I become a wife then I will act like a wife. If he can't handle that then good riddance to bad rubbish. Women don't know how much power they actually have. It's because we take a lot of nonsense that's why men behave the way they do. If we all decide not to take nonsense then the men will have no choice but to man up and stop their rubbish.

That's y I no dey like to date poor guy.
I DONT LIKE IT AND PEOPLE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND. NA ASHAWO DEM GO CALL ME BUT I KNOW EXACTLY HOW POOR GUYS WEY JAM MONEY BY MISTAKE BEHAVES.Most of them will forget your sacrifices.Even if you wanna date them, use sense dey follow them because until their hand touch money, YOU ARE YET TO SEE THE TRUE CHARACTER.ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DONT HAVE MONEY. I HAVE TRIED IT ONCE, WHEN HE STARTED MISBEHAVING, I JUST DROPPED HIM.NA POVERTY MENTALITY STILL DEY WORRY AM.


I DONT SEE THE NEED IN THE WORLD WHY SHE SHOULD SHARE HER SALARY, NA JAZZ?
IF MAN NEVER GET MONEY, HE DEY HUMBLE. YOU WILL THINK ALL IS WELL.STORY.