MizMyColi:


Waiting for those who are the perfect expression of judgmental(ism) to fill this thread.


Rittyben

cococandy:


It is nice to know that there are young men such as this one who still keep their Virginity and say no the sin of fornication.
You're an example.
Pls keep it up and don't let any woman no matter how pretty tempt you into the crime of fornication.

adanduka:


I hope your casting the first stone means you're innocent of the fornication crime.

Edusouls:
your sense of justice is like that of monkey, 95% of girls engage in pre marital sex, whether protected or not, and most girls conceive before ages 17 to 19, the only difference is that these ones are good and open enough to give birth instead of the vast majority of deadly and hidden girls that carnaly and silently murder their own flesh and blood...so whats your pointless argument..

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

MizMyColi:


Waiting for those who are the perfect expression of judgmental(ism) to fill this thread.


Rittyben

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

coogar:


come off the pity-party rubbish.
you knew the kinda society you come from before you made the decision to bear the child. since you knew the criticism of the society would get to you then you should have aborted or......avoid unprotected sex.

Tallesty1:
I am here.


Saying NO to abortion isn't their crime.

Their crime is fornication and unprotected sex.

Which most of us.......aren't free of either.
No one is free, including those of us who are naturals at packaging ourselves such that the world sees us as Holy Saint Nwejehs
We all have secrets, stuff we'd do anything to protect....so it doesn't fall within the eye and ear shot of "The Wrong" People.

I am not interested as such in my past.....
Except for reference and healing purposes, I am neither interested in hers nor any other person's for that matter.

My major concern remains; What Is The Way Forward?

Ultimately.....what defines a person as good or bad......in my worldview isn't their action(s).....It's their soul.

coogar:


come off the pity-party rubbish.
you knew the kinda society you come from before you made the decision to bear the child. since you knew the criticism of the society would get to you then you should have aborted or......avoid unprotected sex.

rittyben:

lol Am glad i took the decision i did.

MizMyColi:

MizMyColi:

MizMyColi:


Which most of us.......aren't free of either.
No one is free, including those of us who are naturals at packaging ourselves such that the world sees us as Holy Saint Nwejehs
We all have secrets, stuff we'd do anything to protect....so it doesn't fall within the eye and ear shot of "The Wrong" People.

I am not interested as such in my past.....
Except for reference and healing purposes, I am neither interested in hers nor any other person's for that matter.

My major concern remains; What Is The Way Forward?

Ultimately.....what defines a person as good or bad......in my worldview isn't their action(s).....It's their soul.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

coogar:


even better.....
then deal with the discrimination.



mizmycoli the coward - how can i help you?

Coogar Coogar the alpha heifer male.

I'd wanted calling you out....
The emboldened made me pedal down.

bellong:

bellong:
This is fallacy of generalization. Not everybody is into fornication, no matter how bad the society is, there will always be some remnants who fear God wholly from childhood.

Goodmorning
Please read the first statement again, I said....."Which Most of us aren't free from either.

bellong:
And not everybody has a secret or stuff they will do anything to protect. Always speak for yourself. Even if it is 98% of the population protecting one secret or the other, the remaining 2% disqualifies it from being "WE ALL HAVE SECRETS......"

You prolly thought I meant something Sooo Bad when I said that.
While it is true that most of us have done, said or thought stuff which we don't want out there.....except of course, it'd inspire someone else to be better.....
I maintain that even among the purest of us.....there is a vice (human limitation), story (based on our chosen paths/journies), that we'd do anything to keep from getting to a crowd we perceive as wrong for such news.

For example.....I'm not a typical church girl, I go to church because that's one way to keep my Mom in the know that her daughter hasn't gone haywire. I really don't believe that there's a God up above the sky. I believe that the God and Heaven we so desire lies within us, and that, until we turn towards this power and dimension within us, raising it up for the world to see.......we'd continue enjoying, even in our suffering.I don't believe in Hell. I have lost faith in institutional Christianity. Simply put? I see no need in attending Church as I know it today.

Another example.....I have a habit of not letting my fingernails rest. In order words......I rarely, if ever, grow fingers. Matter of fact? I chew them! EEEwwwwww.

^^^Now these things, as far as I'm concerned are no big deal, they are not baaaaaaaad.
But take the first example to a church, a fundamentalist Christian Church....I will be stoned.
Take the other to a gathering of society girls......alpha female circles, I will be so looked down on.

Same goes for her story @OP.
While it is true that she is worthy of condemnation to some us who live in this part of a worldview.
While it is true that she is not permitted to flaunt her single motherhood.....lest she be termed promiscuous, there are actually people out there (albeit few) who are willing to accept her (wholly), actively seeking ways to make a better person out of her, while setting her free to live her life.

bellong:
You should be interested in your past. You need to look at the past, consider where you made mistakes, what led to it and why yopu made so as to proffer a lasting solution or prevent re-occurrence. Forgeting the past completely is a recipe of repeating the mistakes of the past.

Please check my statement again, I said "not interested as such" meaning, while the past may be important, I am not going to dwell so much on it......I am not going to let the condemning voice of myself and that of the world keep me there, I'm moving on

Just like Apostle Paul quipped......"Forgetting Those Things Which Are Behind......And pressing Forward.......Towards The Mark...."

bellong:
Not just reference or healing alone, for correctional purpose as detailed earlier. So, we are interested in her past, she could still be engaged in what led her becoming a single mum.

bellong:
Yes, you have a valid point here... What is the way forward. However, knowledge about the past will help a concrete way forward prescription.

bellong:
Whatever lies in the soul will be exhibited in the actions. The abundance of the soul drives a person to act. In essence, this your theory is contradictory.... You should be interested in the actions of everybody. Your actions tell us who you are and what you hold sacred. Knowing the soul is getting metaphysical. At least, English says "actions speak louder than words...."

I'd have to disagree with you @TheEmboldened.
Declaring my reasons would be another epistle.

You're right @English Says.....

And you're right......in this regard, I'm more a student of the meta physical than the conventional ways.
While Christianity taught me that everyone is inherently bad, I choose to see the exact opposite.
When a person comes off as rabid and vile and plain insulting......I try to look beyond what that person portends in the physical.....
I ask questions, I apply wisdom (which might sometimes entail loving them from afar), I try to grasp what might have inspired such behaviour......I reckon that God sees all of his creation as good, as worthy beings, irrespective of their past/present.....he sees everyone through the lens of what they can be.
Walking in this awareness has transformed me......and I believe that it holds the power to transform many too.
I do not claim to have apprehended on this (I actually falter a lot more than I get it right)
But I have a goal, an endgame......To see everyone, irrespective of what they are now, as God sees them.
#NuffSaid

MizMyColi:


Which most of us.......aren't free of either.
No one is free, including those of us who are naturals at packaging ourselves such that the world sees us as Holy Saint Nwejehs
We all have secrets, stuff we'd do anything to protect....so it doesn't fall within the eye and ear shot of "The Wrong" People.

I am not interested as such in my past.....

Except for reference and healing purposes, I am neither interested in hers nor any other person's for that matter.

My major concern remains; What Is The Way Forward?

Ultimately.....what defines a person as good or bad......in my worldview isn't their action(s).....It's their soul.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

MizMyColi:


Coogar Coogar the alpha heifer male.

I'd wanted calling you out....
The emboldened made me pedal down.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.