SmartFaces:
She she had been in this relationship for one year, he proposed, everything followed to their traditional marriage last months. But his church says they can't live together until the white wedding is done. He is not buoyant or ready for a white wedding now but has carried out all rights both legal and traditional as they both agreed. what should they do?
The question now is, at what point is marriage recognized and honoured?
Is it at the point of...
(A) agreement between both spouse?
(B) Introduction (both families meeting and knowing each other)?
(C) Traditional Marriage?
(D) Court Marriage? Or the mighty
(E) White Wedding?




For me i think these churches complicates issues.
please i need sincere judgments and opinion, no insults or name calling.
We are all here to learn.

SmartFaces:
Thanks people, your comments are encouraging. The court marriage has been done. The big deal for him is that he holds a position in his church. They are threatening to suspend him if he goes against their rules.
One alternative is to leave the church and their rules then join another church but he said his hearts and conscience won't let him.

He should make a decision, quit the church and join another if they suspend him or do the wedding in his church. He should make up his mind already. Move to another provided is not a white garment.

SmartFaces:
i know he loves his wife but what i don't know is if he loves his church more than his wife.
Should the wife stay put until they do the church wedding or quit the marriage?

CounsellorWise:
Marriage is officially recognised in Heaven after the bride price has been fully paid to the parents (or anyone in the guardian capacity) of the bride. What happens is church is like requesting a preacher to offer a prayer of blessing on your new car. It is as good as what people derogatorily label blessing of marriage.
I think most people are embracing it more for its pageantry and glamour than its spiritual benefits (yes, spiritual benefits). Since he is a worker and he loves to stick around, let him do it moderately if he has the bread. Otherwise, Sunday thanksgiving and prayers will suffice.

CounsellorWise:


They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.

CounsellorWise:


They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.

SmartFaces:


He knew his church rules, but the white wedding thing is something he doesn't much like. but why can't the church respect people's view on issues like this? not minding the fact that they attended his trad and court wedding.

CounsellorWise:



He might need to seriously mull over the option of leaving his local assembly sooner than later. It's spiritually and mentally unhelpful when you keep worshipping at a local assembly where you are in a disturbing strife with the church authority.
Let him move elsewhere if they won't accept that he is married. People suffer severe consequences for tussling with local assembly leadership. If he must depart for good in peace, then he must do it now. Shalom!

SmartFaces:

thanks dear, you make brain die.
thank authority tussle and hustle is what i want him to avoid because whether he likes it or not, God has placed them there.

CounsellorWise:

Yeah, that's correct. Thanks and cheers!

SmartFaces:

You are welcome dearie. You know sometimes, instead of sitting and idling myself away with people who knows only gossip, i prefer coming in here, reading threads, laughing, catching fun and learning as well. With positive contributions like this, one won't make silly mistakes and this world will be a better place to live.
God bless this thread
God bless you all and other contributors
God bless Oluwa Seun
God bless Nairaland and God bless Nigeria now and always.


Say a very big Amen somebody!!!

Kingblingz:
OP what's the name of the church,branch nd location? I think the pastor dey eye d bride coz I wonder y he wuld say u shuldnt live 2geda afta ur traditional wedding!

excellence44:
hi @ all, please I seriously need some tips on how to write a letter to notify my Church of my marriage intent. I strongly appreciate your help.

pls quote me for reply

SmartFaces:


For eye brows not to raised, we rather let the church name be. Abi how you see am?
But i must confess, you are funny. Wetin make you feel that way? you funny shaa!!!