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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:46pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Ngokafor: She bears 99% of the blame and the DIL is still wanting to make peace and the one at fault is making shakara instisting the DIL leaves the house The trouble maker now making the rules Nonsense 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Ewuro4: 6:49pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: Your father is too dense to sort out your bride price.. See una life. You're too abused and have lost your satiny it soo glaring on Nl. May Amodiah strike you dead! So you made the rules on which domestic violence deserves to be walked away from? So you mean if a wife hits her husband he should hit back like the wife just did to her MIL? See how dense your father is? Who died and made you the queen Biko. 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by crackhaus: 6:50pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
I don't understand why a woman would even get married to a man whose mother she doesn't get along with, I mean the first person a woman should become close to in her prospective husband's family should be his mother - they should bond and relate well with each other during the courting period. This is what happens when women rush into marriage for some silly materialistic & vain reason without first knowing and bonding with the prospective husband's family, especially the mother. Once a woman is able to win over her intended MIL and relate with her like her own biological mother before the wedding, it would take a really big fvck up to make that MIL turn against her later. Both mother and wife deserve each other, bunch of local toutish disrespectful dumb women with no self-respect whatsoever. Fighting over pictures, who does that... 6 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:52pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
anitank: Truly, for Op to state here that he loves his wife inspite of all that has happened shows the wife has endured a lot. Perhaps she has swallowed all sorts, been the bigger person in most cases but eventually had it up to here and so exploded the way she did. She was even jovial with her MIL and her people. That says a lot. This is just a case of accumulated grievances acting as a time bomb. Thats how i see it. How long will a woman put up with been taking for granted? Theres a limit to everything. 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:53pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
anitank: Hahahahaha That is her annoyance Not only was she dealt with in the fight she started but her friend and family witnessed it And rather than ask for a rematch to see if luck will shine her side,she wants the woman thrown out of her matrimonial home No sister will stand by and watch their own sister beaten for no reason The witnesses obviously saw who was at fault The wife even took time off when this whole thing turned to call her hubby Got off the phone and tawai tawai on her cheeks left and right out of nowhere And they wanted her to leave her parlor and go and cry inside her bedroom abi So the woman will kukuma escape with the whole album and other valuables Hahahahahahahaha I am adding pepper now lol Made my points much earlier sha 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:57pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Ngokafor(f): 6:57pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: ...exactly!!..na real wa my sis |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 6:59pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
BABE3:The reason why I think the wife takes greater blame. MIL might have gotten offended, thinking "how can this small girl be insulting me like this" and gave DIL a resounding slap, DIL being the " be you who, I no send" type showed mama say she doesn't give a hoot., this type of people are hardly innocent. The truth is that, no matter how much one's parents respects them, there can and always is a time when they expect you to recognize authority, it is a very good quality everyone should have, DIL doesn't seem like someone to make excuses for in cases like this. For MIL to go straight to take pictures doesn't mean she's bossy, my mum is one of the gentlest and most humble people I know, her kind of humility even pisses us off sometimes(no exaggeration) yet she will do something like take the pictures because she's genuinely happy, DIL could easily get those pictures back, she is not in any way supposed to fight because of it, an oppressed person doesn't behave this way. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by anitank(f): 6:59pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: You'd make a good commentator I swear MIL got served! |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:00pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: Seriously, women should stop being petty. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by mirob(f): 7:01pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: I hope the sharp and wise chicks here are reading this. This is a white and black matter, you don't retaliate on your mother inlaw no matter the pain and humiliation, if it were to be the sisters inlaw no matter their age, as long as they slapped you first,then u have every right to tear their clothes and ask them to leave ur house unclad. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:02pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: Thank you!! After all said and done,I hope they mend fences The man obviously loves his wife and for that he should manage this well. 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:03pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Mr perfectionist I hope u have learnt a lot here. U know what is good ffor ur family. Take that and forget the rest. May u have the strength to rebuild ur family. U gotta grow a tough skin. Women, our wahala too much. Even here curse words have started flying like saucer pan. On top another person matter. Abeg who won for elekshion? 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Chillis: 7:03pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
perfectionist: your mother is so wrong. Slapped your wife, and even threatening to disown you if your wife doesnt leave your house? I mean the mother of your two kids? you have to set the boundaries and let your mother know that she is a guest in your home. Your wife too went far. You just stepped out and she couldnt wait to display her fighting skills? Unless your mother and her entourage pounced on her and she is defending her self. What happened to removing yourself from the violent act. Send the three of them out of the house or leave the house for them only to return with some people to throw them out. I cant be caught fighting an elderly. There are ways to deal with this. As per your mother. Set the rules, if she doesnt want anything to do with you, better! But im sure it will sink and she will learn to respect your home 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by justwise(m): 7:03pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: These two people don't like each probably because the MIL was not in support of the marriage , so the MIL purposely went there with two other women to cause trouble. Why did she not wait for the son to come back to give her the picture rather she slapped the DIL because she refused to give her the picture? 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by BABE3: 7:03pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
crackhaus: I was going to add that. You beat me to it. All these drama between in-laws and wives can be avoided. I dunno how people gather strength to constantly deal with bad in-laws. Stay away from them in the first place; especially if the husband is #teamMum or #I'mNeutral. I mean, there are too many families available to settle for a hostile one. But some people love drama though. They love the constant power struggle. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by dotsdavidson(m): 7:04pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Guys, this is Africa; with a rich yet complex culture. Would your wife physically assault her own mother irrespective of the provocation? She fought your mum for goodness sake and that should not be tolerated under any guise. She needs to feel the consequences of her action and if i were you, she would give me some days break at least in that house. You really need to watch your back because such a wife can never be trusted for your own safety. if she could do that to your mother, your own days are numbered. Quit this babysh attitude and take charge of your home. If you had done that she wouldnt have the liver to stand up to your mum. Please send her back her parent, they should go with her to right the wrong with your mum. That is the only way you can at least forestall a reoccurence. Im dead sure she felt good with her action and the way you handle this will determine how she conducts herself going forward. All the best. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:05pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
anitank: Chimooooo. You did well by picking up your shoes to run four fourty!! Mama's boys are one of the most horrible men to marry o. His mother was his financial manager ke? how old was this dude? so he is incapable of running it himself? 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:06pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
anitank: Hahahahahahahaha I don laff taya You already know what will happen in marriage so you are better off keeping away But if you and the man will live in Obodo Oyibo and he's a good man you can manage that well Believe me the inlaw issues are much better in such circumstances 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Chillis: 7:08pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
crackhaus: weldone oh. calling OPs mum and wife cvnts! na wah for you! 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by egobetatoday: 7:15pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
perfectionist: from what i have read and understwnd, your mum is at fault even thou your wife was wronf for fighting with her. i will analise it this way: if there's no love lost btw them why did your mother insist on taking the pix? i want to bliv your mother have shown your wife from the very start that she doesnt like her and the lady understands that. or what else could warrant your wife denying your mother those pix? the truth is this, when someone shows you she doesnt like you, especially some1 like a MIL, you shouldnt expect your wife to trust her withg wr anything. please we are all humans n we have blood running in our veins. if your mother has shown her that she doesnt like her, do u expect your wife to trust her with those pix? i wouldnt trust such a MIL too. your mom is supposed to accept n love her n she(wife) is supposed to love her in return for your sake. i'm married tooo and if i have to count my blessings, my MIL will be one because she had always shown me that she loved me. she actually lives in the same town with us but we have never had issues. infact she pampers me; imaging someone who cooks and sends to me? i mean not only during festivities oo? infact if she needs any pix i could send 10 copies to her because i know if she ever picks it and mutters any thing it will be prayers for us. i could go on and on and on. infact she is more than a mother n i keep praying for her. if she slaps me today i will kneel down quickly n apologise cos i know i must have done somthing wrong. do u think your wife wouldnt have loved to have such a mil? the only problem i have with your wife is that she fought with ur mum which u need to scold her for. infact dont talk with her for 2 days to send home your annoyance. but i'm sure u know its not her fault because u know ur wife n ur mum very well. u should know who the troublesome person is. u said your wife called to inform u to return home quickly. isnt it obvious she had no plans for the issue to deteriorate? dont u think if she had plans to fix your mother that day she wouldnt have called u to return? infact u would have only been aware when u got home in the night, dont u think so? i am sure she had to call when the insult from your mum was getting unbearable. And your mum still went ahead to slap her? well i suspect ur mum saw it as an opportunity to deal with your wife and she(wife) foolishly fell for it. if these have happened why will ur mum insist that she leaves u? could it be that its because she never loved your wife? i bliv your wife is very very wrong for fighting your mum but why did your mum push her to that extent? there is a saying in my place that if the younger person doesnt know the right thing to do then it is imperative that the older person knows. your mum shouldnt insist that she leaves because she can never take the place of a wife in your life the same way your wife can never replace your mum. ur wife is your wife n ur mother is your mother. u shouldnt take sides with any of them. try to settle it amicably amongst them and let both of them know u are angry with them. Dnt hide ur feelings at all. your wife shld go and apologise on both knees crying and apologising. she shld go with gifts for her too. then it is important that your mum accepts the apologies. if your wife refuses to do that then she is the problem. on the other hand if your mum refuses to accept apologies then she is the problem. anyone of them who wouldnt atleast for your sakes accept these terms is the major problem u have. what has happened has happened. only boys who are mummys handbag would send their wife away just because mummy said so. REMEMBER WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN/WOMAN PUT ASSUNDER. 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:16pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
justwise:infact I don't think the MIL asked for the pictures, it looks to me like MIL and gang came to greet the family and the DIL gave them album to 'watch', suddenly the MIL started ripping out all the pictures she likes in the album to go away with and when the DIL protested, the slaps began to rain. If every other visitor had been ripping out pictures from the album, which one would she have seen to take? MIL was wrong on every level, and the other gang members are not good people at all, they had the power to stop the issue before it went too far 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by bukatyne(f): 7:16pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: You do not take the property of people you are not in good terms with. MIL certainly knew that she and DIL were not good and still went to pick pictures When you go to someone's house, you do things as they want you to do it. The earlier inlaws realize that, the better for them. I am talking as an inlaw and a wife (both sides) 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 7:21pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
justwise:I get all these and I think I've said it over an over that, MIL is wrong to slap her, but I want you to see that, DIL is not a victim, she's as bad, even worse than MIL,I'm starting to think that, DIL's 'mannarlessness' is a reason why MIL can't get along with her. If you can slap your MIL for hitting you once, you can hit your mother. The law is that, if it gets that tough, you honor your elder, DIL doesn't care about laws and will be worse, when she starts using the "elder" chip, mama is using now. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by pomsky: 7:21pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: ......you are rude, and worse still, thanking the Lord for it. Time will tell whether it's you that has the sense!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by crackhaus: 7:23pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Chillis:If I replaced 'cvnt' with 'women', would that be better? Okay edited, because you protest But of course that will still leave us with local, toutish, disrespectful, and dumb... Glad to know you have no problem with these words, because that's exactly what the behaviour of both women portray. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:29pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
egobetatoday: You have spoken soooo well. But it seems you didnt read where the Op said that his wife was remorseful and willing to apologise YET her MIL refused. Op claims his mother demanded she never set foot in her house and her son must divorce her if he really doesnt want her to disown him. What do you have to say about this? 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by bukatyne(f): 7:30pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
BABE3: Some in-laws pretend to accept the wife and show their colors after marriage Some wives are terrible too. Heard of one who always complained hubby bought mama stuffs; she was working alright And again, what a wife is expected to take will never be dished to the husband Don't be surprised if this same MIL wanted to take some pictures from her daughter's home and her SIL stopped her, she would stop and even apologize 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by anitank(f): 7:32pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 7:32pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
bukatyne:Story said they normally don't get along but they were alright the day this problem occurred, does the fact that they had issues before mean they can't be cool ever? It's obvious DIL hasn't forgiven mama hence the refusal. What do you mean "someone's house"? This is her family for fecks's sakes, an extension of herself and you think being overly formal is the best way to relate? Except you don't think there can be peace in an extended family, will you think like this, my family fight plenty but we don't do hate, there's no place for that. DIL did not behave like someone who loves her MIL, my mother shouldn't slap me but if she does for any reasons, I will walk away, she must feel bad about it. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:33pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
pomsky: Do you think I care ? I don't Maybe you don't know me yet I even thanked your post to make you happy |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by anitank(f): 7:40pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: 1 Like |
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