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Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:13pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: please spare us.... stop playing the victim card. women in nigeria have suffered and yet the rate of paternity fraud concerning firstborns stand at 50%. who are nigerian women sleeping with in order to raise bastärds? i don't understand why you are crying more than the bereaved. hubby is desperate, he needs a child. in his shoes, the OP would also do the same. plenty of nigerian women have also slept with in-laws, gatemen, houseboys, etc to get the elusive first born. it's what it is..... 2 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:13pm On May 19, 2015 |
babyosisi:With those sets of words from you shows they've been chained ![]() |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:15pm On May 19, 2015 |
coogar: Coogar, eiyah pele, which woman gives you another man's pregnancy to raise so i can console you? 5 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:16pm On May 19, 2015 |
cococandy: You scrutinise my comment with what, your one-sided replies? Funny you. My dear, should you show or should your husband read our conversation, of course he may not acknowledge my stand (in your presence) but if he smiles, then know he has admitted it. I wasn't the first to bring up that line. Someone did. I just re-emphasised it. That she has to be wise because it is indeed a man's world. Let me help you. Being a man's world doesn't mean men are perfect. Doesn't mean men are beyond reproach, or sin, or infallible or repair or death! It means compared to a woman, a man can ALWAYS get what he wants and have his way at any point in time. So wise women (which am so sure you're far from) use this knowledge to their own advantage. And in fact, rule over men. You just claim to know something when in fact, you know nothing. Instead you come here fighting for issues you should ordinary use as an advantage. Funny. 5 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:16pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: I have written a zillion times,I will not marry more than once,this is not "try your luck" This is it for me This is the only man I will be vulnerable with and give my heart to totally It takes sweat to get to where we are today and God knows I don't have the energy to learn and adjust and adapt to a new man Never Only one time. So I work at doing it constantly and so does he God willing we are at a good place and I pray it stays that way If you think you picked the right choice,God helping you and did all you can do,if the marriage fails,what else is there to do? I will have nothing else to offer the next man Why bother Doesn't mean I will eat shait to stay married like nigerian wives are taught I won't do that either I am a pretty independent person 4 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:22pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: any woman that tries such with me would be dead even before her pregnancy test becomes positive. cheating can be forgiven but paternity fraud? hell no!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:22pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: Lol. My dear, most divorced women or widows choose to remain single not because of any sillyy drama but conflict of interest. Let me even ask you, what's the primary purpose for a man to marry sef? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:23pm On May 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: I don't know why people have that mentality that if a divorced woman or widow has not remarried, it automatically means, no man is checking for her. Which is so not true at all 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by freecocoa(f): 8:24pm On May 19, 2015 |
cococandy:My sister, the matter tire me, I honestly can't wrap my head around such mentality, it's just too sad. Dude even told me that, if I chose to divorce my husband for whatever reason, that I'd be the one stigmatised and shamed, that all I have to do, is to pray for my husband and love him, I just felt like kicking him in the balls. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:27pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: what does conflict of interest cause? Drama, so what is the difference? reason of being married is subjective to each person. Cos everyone will give different answers as everyone reason is not the same |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:28pm On May 19, 2015 |
coogar: So you will forgive a cheating wife? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by cococandy(f): 8:28pm On May 19, 2015 |
Ok I've heard you. Let's rest the matter. kaboninc: |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:29pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: Not true at all She may have just chosen to concentrate and bring up her kids without drama especially if the first marriage was a tumultuous one I am married and I have men propositioning me and I am not alone in that If you carry yourself well and exude confidence,people will be attracted to you men and women. Marriage is another kettle of fish Many divorced naija women in america filed for divorce when they got tired of eating shait So why would anyone jump into shait again? Many just choose to have people grease them every now and then Not saying that is a good option but marriage is not a consideration for many of them Many of them are more successful than the men around sef and kicked off an efulefu husband pulling them back and someone expects them to get another efulefu to answer married woman 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:30pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: it depends on the circumstance..... she can be forgiven.... |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:31pm On May 19, 2015 |
coogar: I am shocked. you are actually the first man in this thread that say they will forgive |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:32pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: Maybe you should define what your drama means. Let's even start with your home including your extended family or even with you. How many males will want to marry? Do you want to have children? Then again, how do you view legacy even as a woman? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by cococandy(f): 8:33pm On May 19, 2015 |
Actually that's my personal stand too. But in another life, if I find myself in that position, I'd just like to do the remarrying thing to shut those people who think divorced or widowed women can't find love again up. Some of them don't know many women prefer not remarry because of the way marriage places them in a lower position as human beings if they are to follow the traditions of some places in Nigeria. While some would rather concentrate on their kids than raising more kids with a new man. The reason is not because they can't find someone to partner up with again babyosisi: 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:34pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: You should be shocked! I can also forgive. That was why I said it depends on what you want in life! |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:35pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: Are you interviewing me for Punch or SaharaReports? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:35pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: many would forgive too.... forgiving her doesn't mean the relationship would continue........ |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:36pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: A wife sleeping with younger brother serially under your roof and denying it o This is not just a wife who cheated and got remorseful but one seeking to be made pregnant by several countless trials and several styles by the younger brother ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:38pm On May 19, 2015 |
coogar: Forgive but divorce her? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:38pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1:Loool. Neither my dear. I just want to get your view. Or are the questions too personal? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by freecocoa(f): 8:38pm On May 19, 2015 |
babyosisi:I know how hard it is but believe me, there's no point in staying with a man like the OP's hubby, I mean, just where do you start from? The fact that some people think things can be normal again after something like this beats me, I know that I can never look at a man like this the same, same goes for the sister. I guess people just love the idea of being a Mrs, more than they love themselves, it's a pity. 4 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:39pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: SO you will forgive and stay with your wife that sleeps with your younger brother to see if she can get pregnant? Bravo! |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:39pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: exactly...... a woman cheating isn't the same as her partner cheating. that's the way planet earth works..... |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:40pm On May 19, 2015 |
coogar: please educate me on how it is different. is it the pain that make it different? 2 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:40pm On May 19, 2015 |
Westendel: From the above anyone can see that this is a chronic habit like eating eba They have done it sotay,the girl sef we like to do don taya to do am sef and is asking for him to allow her rest Yet they haven't admitted to one o and are willing to swear at shrines 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:41pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: yes I only discuss that with candidates |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:45pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: If she desist, I can continue to live with her. If it becomes too bad, I'll forgive her but may not continue with the marriage. In fact, I can divorce her and remarry her. Its funny you may say. But I tell you, the surprises in life are just so amazing. Even my brother, I can even get tired of hating him. Why? Because tomorrow, my brother can end up being an incredible and responsible father and dad to both his wife and kids. I'll die in pains. And my wife can even remarry and find happiness. So why carry so much pain for life? Let me tell you, you'd be marvelled at what married couples go through should they tell you. That's why they say do not jump into conclusion. |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:45pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: the difference is obvious.... everyone knows it's not the same. if your hubby impregnates a woman outside marriage. you cannot been deceived that you are the mother of that baby. if you get impregnated by a man outside marriage - you will have to lie to your hubby that the baby belongs to him. that's the difference! 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:46pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1:So you're single then? ![]() |
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