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Respect That Woman! by phyktor(m): 2:08pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Before writing this post. I had put a lot of things into consideration. I want to be so careful with my words so I don’t breed any kind of contempt. I was created a male. I evolved Into a boy. My metamorphosis will soon be complete as I foray into the wilderness of manhood. Did I say wilderness? While I bask in the aura of my natural machismo and masculinity. I have this consciousness that woman was created for man. So therefore a woman must do my bid. This is how an average man thinks. But times are changing. Things are not the same. The 21st century lady is different especially in the African context. There is a radical evolution. An obvious consciousness. There is a potent uprising. And if you don’t fix yourself as a man and you choose to be oblivious to this reality, you’ll be grossly disappointed. In a trado-African setting. A special importance or acknowledgement has always been attached to the male-child. I don’t understand the sentiments shared. But the female-child is always secondary and often relegated to the background. But thanks to education and civilization. Thanks to Mary Slessor too. We might still be killing twins too. People are beginning to change their views regards which particular sex holds the highest importance. A child is a child. Boy or girl. Accept what God gifts you. A child is a gift. Howbeit, some folks are still primitive and still hold on to certain cultural beliefs. I’m a feminist. Maybe Like 70 or 80%. I’d discuss why in my next post. But I believe that a woman must be treated with utmost respect. Maybe equal rights. Maybe equal liberty. But In most instances, these vituperations are just. I admire the strength of Oby Ezekwesili, Chimanda Adichie (I’ve read her books), Odumakin and others too that I don’t remember now. They’ve tried in their own little but majestic ways by making their voices known and heard. One of Chimanda’s work even got to be featured on Beyoncé’s album, a song titled flawless . But a lot still need to be done in areas of orientation, sensitization and building of self esteem. And taking this project to the grassroots. Girls get punished for the same mistakes boys commit while the boys gets away and move on. A man will sanely impregnate a woman he doesn’t have plans for but insanely scream her down to go abort the resulting pregnancy. If I begin to go deep into atrocities boys commit, I might lose the focal of this post. So let me hold my horse. Meanwhile. Men are physically strong. Maybe mentally too. They are stereotypic. One mind, one way. More aggressive in nature and selfish in style. But women appear weak but they are rather delicate. By default, they are built to absorb more pressure, they are receptive, naturally resilient. They take keen interest in little things and details. They are hypersensitive. Maybe that’s why they are jealous. But the summary is that they have a mental edge over men. But the truth be told. Moral decadence is high and prevalent now. And it’s high time we put an end to incessant rape cases, domestic violence, women trafficking, kidnapping, body mutilation, psychological and mental torture amidst many more. A woman’s pain is enough. She is a preserver of life, a gateway to unknown generation. She is a gift. We need to open our eyes and see them that way. What can a man do? That a woman cannot do? Actually there is one or two, maybe three. But what a woman can do, a man cannot do half. A man handles one objective at a time. But a woman is born to multitask. A woman can pick beans and breastfeed at the same time while doing some light household chores systematically together. She cooks, wash, iron and sings at the same time. She can fry Akara for sale in the morning, hawk moinmoin or vegetable in the afternoon, fry oduku in the night, retires home to cook dinner for her family and wakes up early to do the same thing the next day. Men cannot absorb pressure in the way God has helped women to. Cannot house a baby for a month talkless of give birth to one even without the pain associated with it. The moment a girl reaches puberty, the pressure from within and without begins. For the guy, exuberance increases with little or no pressure in comparison with the girl. Above all, any degeneration in any society affects the women and children more. They suffer. That is where a man should be known but most abscond from their responsibilities. Women are the greatest casualties of war. But times are changing. There is a reasonable progress. Though slow, if not very slow. But the arithmetic progression is impressive. A man hustles. The woman hustles more. A guy came out with a first class. A lady does too even with distinctions. You are a breadwinner? A woman brings food to the table too with fruits and vegetables. Infact, they are plenty out there. Divorced mothers and single moms will tell you their ordeals. A woman is a manager, a natural home maker. In some local or rural settlements, the women go to farms while the husbands chill out with friends, sipping on palmwine. I’ve seen lady photographers before. I’ve seen lady mechanics before. What’s new? We have male professionals, the females aren’t sleeping these days. Infact we are competing for the same available resources and space. So cut some slack and give that lady the respect she deserves. Even women thrive in governance if given the chance and right platforms to perform. But most won’t believe me. Wait! I’d kill your doubts with examples. There is a positive correlation between equality and economic growth. Countries that do not treat women as second class citizens are often more likely to prosper in a sustainable manner, and thus is true regardless of the prevailing ideology or religion of that country. Rwanda and the United Arab Emirates are two classic examples. Both countries rank high in comparative regional gender equality surveys and both have experienced an upward trend in economic prowess and social development over the last 10 years and 40 years respectively. In the book Flashes of Thought , the ruler of Dubai, Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum, says of his government: “our job is to provide an environment that unlocks women’s potential- one that protects their dignity and feminity, helps them create the necessary balance in their lives, and values their talents and potential. Given this environment, I am confident that women will perform nothing short of miracles.” To that end, 70 per cent of his personal team are women, 65 percent of their government employees are women and 30 percent of the leadership positions are held by women. Closer to home, let’s look at Rwanda. Since the genocide ended over 10 years ago, women have generally made up more than 50 percent of their parliamentarians. Currently, approximately 63 percent of their members of parliament are women. During that time, Rwanda has experienced year-on-year GDP growth. Their GDP per capita, their Gross National Income per capita, their Agricultural Production Rate and food production rate have all increased steady over those years. this is no coincidence. If you’re a man reading this. Never raise your hand on a woman. Respect her choice or decision. Respect a woman. Respect that lady. Help grow. Help her win. And for the womenfolks reading this. I got your back on this one. Start believing in yourself and in what you can do. Meanwhile, I’m coming down heavily on you in my next post. Spread some cheers. It’s never too late to Inspire someone today. https://oluomolale./2015/06/10/respect-that-woman/ 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 2:58pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
While I bask in the aura of my natural machismo Thank you for being honest with this statement. There is a radical evolution. An Absolutely. Our parents have empowered the girls but forgot to teach the boys how to respond to the empowered woman ![]() In a trado-African setting. A special importance Thank you again for not feigning ignorance to this terror in our culture. Not acknowledging this fact is prevalent here in this section. Get your guns ready! ![]() I’m a feminist. Maybe Like 70 or 80%. I’d discuss That's a good start. ![]() Girls get punished for the same mistakes boys I always say it takes two to tango. Culture/religion cannot be teaching girls to keep their virginity and the other half of the population does everything within his power to destroy the girls. That is beyond illogical. Even the church has failed woefully in instilling decent values in christian boys. It is an epidemic. But a This gene must have skipped me, though. Also you don't respect women because they are women, but because they are human beings like yourself. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 3:10pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
There is a positive correlation between equality This is why I have never been comfortable that Nigeria's National assembly is made up of mostly men. People do not change traditions that favor them. It has always been the disenfranchised that has to fight to get the message across. How would we get 'female friendly' policies out of a bunch of misogynists and staunch medieval losers and also weak/beta females that are content with caressing male egos for the rest of their lives? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Respect That Woman! by snakebeat: 3:21pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Op warris this? Na poem u dey write? ![]() |
Re: Respect That Woman! by snakebeat: 3:33pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Stillfire:Hmmm.... So ur prayer is; women should constitute majority of our legislature, to enable them pass biased laws against men? I hope the name of ur God isn't jehovah? Because the one that I know is just & unbiased. |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 3:48pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
snakebeat: So you bypassed the better idea of having an equal representation of both sexes in the house to crying about extremities such as majority rule? *roll eyes* Why are you scared though? Patriarchy has been dishing out biased laws all of a sudden you don't want the same to happen to you? Talk about hypocrisy. ![]() Since women have suffered thousands of years of biased laws being thrown at them, I'm sure your innate instincts to survival would allow you fare appropriately well under the new dispensation if equality is not achieved. I don't mind giving you some training on how to be humble and docile under our rule sha. 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Nobody: 4:04pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Men are not aggressive, biko. Some men are. And I have come across ghetto-like females that are very aggressive. Alaye girls. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Nobody: 4:19pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Post too long!!!!! You no do summary for school op? |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Nobody: 4:25pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
This post is hurting my eyes!! Lol abeg put paragraphs so we can read.. pls ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Respect That Woman! by snakebeat: 4:29pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Stillfire:What do u mean by equal representation? It's a democratic system, legislative positions are entirely democratical. So I don't see the level of women participation in politics as men's fault. The dicey state of our political terrain is not for the lily livered, this tend to scare people away. No one is restraining women from partaking in politics. Or u want nigerians to elect a woman as a president on the premise of gender? If I may ask, what biased laws are u talking about? I nor knw wetin una want o.... 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 4:32pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
snakebeat: What da heck? Why are you putting words in my mouth? Where did I say women should get in based on gender? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Respect That Woman! by raumdeuter: 4:35pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Women can pick ballot paper and contest for elections EVen in the US there are significantly more men in govt than women |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 4:38pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
raumdeuter: There is no Yerima in their midst. We just can't compare ourselves to the US. |
Re: Respect That Woman! by raumdeuter: 4:48pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Stillfire: How are you sure there is no Yerima in their midst? One Senator Mark Foley was caught sending sexually explicit messages to Teenage boys SOme of them even go on sex tourism outside of the US. Like Bob Menendez |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 4:51pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Do they have the guts to sign their moral dysfunction into law? Ours do. |
Re: Respect That Woman! by raumdeuter: 4:53pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Stillfire: Moral dysfunction Like same sex marriage or marijuana? Hell yeah they are in the law 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 5:07pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
raumdeuter: This is about the policies your country installs for women. Besides I can write a whole thesis on how I don't see legalizing marijuana as a moral dysfunction. In fact it would be best America puts this into law and go the route of the Netherlands, kicking out the drug cartels. America is losing money just on incarcerations alone. Marijuana has shown to have properties to aid epileptic patients. It's very important this should be legalized especially medical marijuana. Same sex marriage between 2 adults is of no grave importance to me, I'm not gay, but female. So I'm more interested in favorable policies for the girl child in Nigeria which the people you elected find a hard time aiding. America will not put in laws not favorable to women, so don't think you can compare yourself to them on that issue. 3 Likes |
Re: Respect That Woman! by raumdeuter: 5:15pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Just like you can write about defending a moral dysfunction marijuana in the US, Someone too can write about defending the moral dysfunction in Nigeria. In the US, People marry inanimate objects some even marry animals, Are these not moral dysfunctional enough? the age of consent is now set between 16 and 18 in all U.S. states, the age of consent has widely varied across the country in the past. In 1880, the age of consent was set at 10 or 12 in most states, with the exception of Delaware where it was 7 In most US states, the age of consent is still 16yrs |
Re: Respect That Woman! by cococandy(f): 5:55pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
FrancisTony:exactly 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by cococandy(f): 5:57pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Nice write up whoever you are. At least you're not among the mischievous ones pretending not to know about the evils of misogyny rampant in naija 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 6:02pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Marrying an inanimate object is now comparable to marrying off a girl to an old papa? ![]() ![]() ![]() In 1880, my foremothers were still barechested, but today it's criminal that I go out naked. So that quote was not necessary. Let me post my own quote too Teens / Minors Marriage License laws The reasons stated why a 16yr old would be granted marriage, not because a pedophilic 'uncle' is interested in robbing the cradle. Ok I agree the US and Nigeria are on the same level for woman empowerment and rights, tehehehe. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Respect That Woman! by raumdeuter: 6:07pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Marrying an inanimate object or an animal is morally dysfunctional I am sure you would agree with that. Those who marry Under 18 girls in Nigeria also get some form of parental consent Yes or No? Using your own link In the United States, all but one state requires that a couple be 18 in order to marry without parental permission. Nebraska sets the age of majority at 19. Although a few states will waive this requirement if there is a pregnancy, the couple may still have to have court approval. |
Re: Respect That Woman! by Stillfire: 6:13pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
cococandy: [img] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcBTKZ9-QkE[/img] I doubt coogar can beat up this woman in this video. Hahahaha!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Respect That Woman! by cococandy(f): 6:24pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Stillfire:I don't like to see people fighting. Especially if one of them is getting really beat up. ![]() That wasn't a fair match. The guy is just lanky and probably lacks stamina. See as she just dey use am mop the street. So much anger in the babe ![]() I thought the police officer was going to stop. |
Re: Respect That Woman! by troy20(m): 6:35pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
@stillfire am afraid your demand for such equality will be fought with every vehemence.are men insecured of the very "power" women possess? The hell we are.every man is.and there is no shame in admitting that.i am trully a democrate...advocate for equall right.hater of oppression but... |
Re: Respect That Woman! by funlord(m): 8:17pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
![]() Even though this entire thread was "a long, tedious tirade of misplaced crap" , I really think the message you wanted people to get was simply this one," Respect your woman so that she can accord you the same respect in return"! After all respect is reciprocal! |
Re: Respect That Woman! by bukatyne(f): 8:36pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
troy20: You are admitting you'll feel insecure if women possess power? Hmmm! What's the but for? |
Re: Respect That Woman! by bukatyne(f): 8:37pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Nice one @ OP |
Re: Respect That Woman! by oloyede252(m): 9:12pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
bukatyne: "once made equal to man, woman become his superior" ....................... SOCRATES(philosopher) |
Re: Respect That Woman! by troy20(m): 3:01pm On Jun 17, 2015 |
bukatyne:i intentionally made the blunt comment cause i know thats what you want to see.well there you have it.women naturally dont believe or respond to equality.women want to be led and led well.so once that leadership is inexistent in whatever sphere they share with men, if they have that fair chance, they will assume authority and assume it very visciously.women are mainly emotion and very little to reason.power majorly influence by emotion has being doing damages.tales abound.women are very powerfull as it is even.it is the men that need to up their game. |
Re: Respect That Woman! by SAMBARRY: 3:57pm On Jun 17, 2015 |
cococandy:Gbam. Thank you o |
Re: Respect That Woman! by bukatyne(f): 4:01pm On Jun 17, 2015 |
troy20: Interesting Dude, this is NL..., What you think of women doesn't affect my world neither does what I think affect yours ![]() 2 Likes |
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