You are just scared of the unknown take that bold step and move out and forge ahead by God's grace you will soar.

Nobody should determine the kind of life you ought to live.

If what u said is really true I'll throw my advise to u)we human beings never know what we can do untill we took a step and found ourselves doing unbelievable things ,I don't have mush to say but don't ignore my comment no matter how small my writtings maybe ,wake up one morning and start packing ,am sure he'll regret letting u go and you'll see favours are waiting for u to step out for a long time

Hmmn your story is so patetic but u cause it from genesis! Some ladies are in ur shoe that are carrying blocks and doing all shot of dirty job to make end meet but u see what greediness has landed u into. But all hope is not lust u can still stand on ur feet,4get him, trust God and find something no matter how small u get from it to do and be prayerful so that d abortion will not have negative effect on u in future. Because if it happen that man will divorce u and marry another woman.

I know the nairalander she is referring to. But I won't expose him.

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

Fake story. Your intention is to drive traffic to your site and get money in return.

Some Nairalanders are full of drama.

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

I will advice you to take the courage first to tell your parents because they are the ones that brought you into this world.
You can meet a a good and confidential pastor to narrate your story to him. Attend churches be brave and courageous.
forget about the marriage promises that guy just want to satisfy his sexual urge. Talk to ur parents about it and also to very good Man of God.
God is your helper not anybody, forget about if this guy is paying ur fees. God can send a helper to do it only if you believe and hand over your life to God.

Insidous:

Ode!

CHANGE YOUR WAY OF LIFE OHH.

I hope the chic knows that he's not going to marry her.

Ishilove:

Did you read the story before rushing to comment?

I did dat was why I gave ma own piece of advise

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

How can one offer you something? Identities in Nairaland are not known. Am very sorry.

Also I think are school should av a guidance and counselling unit why can't she carry her case to them I think dy can help her they can even help her by sponsoring her. I pray her school G&C unit is functional. If she is really tired of her situation she should take drastic steps. She can also look for a mature (female)lecturer and tell her bawt her situation

I think sometimes people are too fast in concluding..."I've tried ALL my best, and there's nothing else I can do". But you know this is a blatant lie, don't you?

You can ALWAYS do something. Yes, you can. How do you want to get help this big, without wanting to talk to people about it? I've always said this; Nairaland is not a place to get help, or like they always put it, "mature advice" (unless you're asking us to contribute for you). You'd end up getting hurtful comments and there's nothing you can do about it other than keep hurting.

Hey, girl (whomever you are), do not make yourself a prey and blame people for it. TAKE THAT RISK today, and leave that guy's house...if you love yourself. You have female lectures in your school? Talk to one or two, who knows... You might think they can't help you, but you never can tell. One thing I know; women like coming to their fellow women's aid especially in matters this dicey. Even if they can't help you directly, they might be able to reach out to people who could be of help. Again, it's better than keeping to yourself.

Do not let that guy kill you and blame it totally on him. Many people have been in far worse situations, and they've been able to rise above the situation, against all odds, to save themselves.

Keep fighting
Keep surviving
Keep living
I wish you happiness.

Good luck.

MsBliss:
First things first .

Your grammar is bad. I can't believe you are in year two . That aside.


You should never forget that your future is in your hands. never
If after looking at you present situation,you decide that this kind of life is what you desire in your future then you can sit down all day crying to us about how terrible your life is else ,you take a bold step by going out to look for a job. working won't kill you .

Who says you can't go to school and work at the same time ? what happened to being independent and buying stuffs you want with your own money?
what happened to kicking toxic people out of your life?
You are even lucky that your parents pays your school fees. Av seen people who work to pay all their fees themselves and whoever told you that if you leave your self imposed husband,you will die is a big lier.

i.diot.. you should have jst given ur advice straight not commenting on her grammar.. you will tell me if English is ur mother tongue. English was only adopted... W.ereh....

misssclassy:
First of all, I am sorry for the situation you have found yourself in.
You were naïve when you were used by that man so none of this is your fault.
Staying with that man is not the best option. He doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you and worse than that , he physically abuses you.

I will advice you try your best to find a way to move out of that house.
You don't need to depend on him for survival. There are other things you could do. You could start up a small business so you can take care of yourself. There are a lot of business ideas you could pick from, especially in your school environment. You could also learn a trade or vocation.

In addition to that, there should also be other guys that might have been asking you out and all that. There could be one that would be ready to take care of you. Perhaps you should try to open up a bit. I am not saying you should sleep with men, or sell your body to them, no, all I am saying is you make a couple of friends and perhaps you might find someone to love and who would love you too.
You can't fight this battle alone.

What about members of your extended family, friends in and out of school. There should be someone you could talk to and who could be willing to help.
Just open up to someone close, you will definitely feel the load lifted from you shoulders.

I don't know how committed you are to your religion, but in cases like this , religious organizations can really be of help.
You could talk to your religious leader about everything. They could help.
Even the fellow members of your religious organisation, whether it's a church or a mosque, can also help you.

Young lady, we humans always face challenges like. But we should never give in to them and lose all hope.
There is still light at the end of the tunnel. Everything will be okay,
Just keep on trusting God and be prayeirful as well.

part out and get accomodation then start a new life new he will respect u

midolian:
Hmmm...This is serious! You ve had countless abortions for him. I fear you don't abort yaself out of this world one of these days.

My question is, don't you have other toasters you feel are financially ok? If yes, why not give one of dem a try? This might even make him(the one that treats u badly) get back to his senses as it will soon become obvious to him that he is about to lose you(that's if he values you).

You can also tell your problem to a rich or averagely rich female friend. She might be of help. She might scot ya and feed ya. Living with a man no too pay o! The guy fit sag all ya curves and may end up not marrying u.

Now, all you want is to graduate, get a job for yaself and cater for ya family. But with this kinda treatment this guy is giving you, u may even die without achieving this..May God be ya guide

CORRECT ADVISE

With style, start dating another guy that has eye on you. Let him know your plights, he will want to be you saviour ...

But avoid telling the guy much of how the guy has used or humilated you oh. Just tell the guy how much you love him and let him know that the current guy is you hinderance...

Cheers

I felt for u.
My advice:
1. Go back to God and pray sincerely from your heart for His forgiveness for those abortions and every other things u can remember.
2) pack out from his house to ur parents and stay with them, thank God they can pay ur tuition fees
3. from the story, I m not judging u, u are a stubborn girl and proud. Respect your parents and subdue ur pride to be able to leave with.
4) focus on ur education andforget the past hurt.

It is well with you.

Ishilove:
And some guys will come online to complain "I sponsored her throughout her university education". There are sometimes deeper reasons for the way some ladies treat the men who sponsored them through school. This is one of them. When she leaves the man in future, the man will come online to denounce the lady for 'jilting' him 'after all he has done for her'.

He's just accommodating her. Her parents pays her fees. Please don't make excuses for girls who deceive men to sponsor their education. She can go hustle decently. Many are surviving under worse conditions. Being able to mail you shows she's intelligent.

Why don't u live in school hostel? Then during the hols u could work. Am sure the money u would make from working will take care of ur feeding, since u won't have to bother about transport then ur friends or church can help once in a while.
At the end of the day, it's easier said than done! Life isn't easy especially for girls that started out wrong. Please u need to take back your life! Better late than never!

Insidous:
The story is pathetic but I still blame her. From what I can deduce, the babe is not ready to work menial jobs to survive, she prefers to rely on her BF for survival regardless of what she goes through in his hands.

YOU SEE YOUR LIFE, SOMETIMES DEY THINK BEFORE YOU QUOTE PERSON, IS IT NOT THE SAME THING I AM TALKING ABOUT?

it's quite disheartening that you are going through all of this. nonetheless, I believe you can still salvage the situation and move on. firstly, you need to quit the relationship immediately because it has brought you on sorrow from the onset and it's surely going to bring you greater sorrow should you continue to remain in it. you should speak with a friend about accommodation. surely you should be able to get someone to take you in temporarily? a lady of course. maybe a classmate, church member etc. next, you need to get something doing that can generate little funds for your upkeep; hair plaiting etc that require no monetary capital to start. be determined and focused. you can rebuild your life!! all the best.

holy shit.
I don't believe all thus story......I dey vex for NL pple like seriously I go dey comment for any crazy post nah..........
if e no wan use condom no shit
then use pills....mind you not abortion pills ooooo

What can i say it doesnt sound like there is love in that story it seems he was just shown a lot of reason to proof he was her provider......he is doing whatever he is doing without affection...Does she not have friends in her course female friends, cant she work part time in sales, even find a correct bobo dat can love u not the pounding type...you can do better u don fall now na time to get up be this

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

Since she desires 2 remain unknown, its only fair that my advice remains unknown also, till she pm's me @ least! Good day!

That man is a beast.

mohisi:
part out and get accomodation then start a new life new he will respect u

Are you a monkwa... she's schooling and no money. Where do u want her to get the money for accommodation.... .i.d.i.o.t!!! Read well before talking.

Very sympathetic, but d best is for you to quit and face reality of life.
God that created you , will not allow you to die of hunger.
It's only when you pack out of his house and you don't visit again that he will realise what he is doing.
Please the earlier you leave the better.
Womb has numbers of children in it like the Norman fruit trees . After plucking it to an extent it will stop to produce. You ve plucked enough of the children from your womb and if you Continue like this it will not be in your favour when you finally settle down

YOU are suffering from ancestral power.. You may not know what you are really doing to yourself..

Your story is not a sad one but an Annoying one..

There is one way out of this and that is Jesus Christ.
In him there is Joy and Peace.

Remember, the devil came to steal,kill and destroy but Jesus has come to give you eternal life..


I want to help you out..
Find a way and contact me..


WARNING : If this story is a cooked-up or forged one,because you desire to get favour, don't you ever contact me else, more curse will come upon you..


God bless you

Crying in an Orphan voice them swear for you ni? Send your Account Details so can get your own apartment.

MsBliss:
First things first .

Your grammar is bad. I can't believe you are in year two . That aside.


You should never forget that your future is in your hands. never
If after looking at you present situation,you decide that this kind of life is what you desire in your future then you can sit down all day crying to us about how terrible your life is else ,you take a bold step by going out to look for a job. working won't kill you .

Who says you can't go to school and work at the same time ? what happened to being independent and buying stuffs you want with your own money?
what happened to kicking toxic people out of your life?
You are even lucky that your parents pays your school fees. Av seen people who work to pay all their fees themselves and whoever told you that if you leave your self imposed husband,you will die is a big lier.

i hate people that claims over sabi

So many girls out there working and schooling and not depending on anybody..
Mind set and determination is the key in life, I know a girl that does househelp and nanny all around now she has a shop and school too....keep aborting may the souls of the children Cry for vengeance...if I be God I for don destroy you since and throw you go better hell(est) fire..you aborted not d 1st, 2nd,3rd..

I don't knw why Im having dis feeling dat nairalander is just d wrongest place to ask for advice, instead of helping they compound ur problem by saying all sort of things. Well as for me apply for house maids, before I am murdered, d reason y I said tht is because, u gt to ve a shelter( in case u want to run away), u ve food to eat, u re being paid, nd all dat. Then develop d culture of saving, it saves in such time like dis. Then move close to God, I mean develop a close relationship, it's nt too late to turn bak to him