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Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by dannybee(m): 1:58pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
I don't knw why Im having dis feeling dat nairalander is just d wrongest place to ask for advice, instead of helping they compound ur problem by saying all sort of things. Well as for me apply for house maids, before I am murdered, d reason y I said tht is because, u gt to ve a shelter( in case u want to run away), u ve food to eat, u re being paid, nd all dat. Then develop d culture of saving, it saves in such time like dis. Then move close to God, I mean develop a close relationship with him, it's nt too late to turn back to him |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by frankkad(m): 1:59pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Ishilove: Girl, park and leave the idiot man............I'm a responsible married man and no matter what my wife 'll do to me, I won't hit her. Imagine at your age you've commited a lot of abortions............move on with your life cos you're not a match with him. God is your strenght. Your so-called boy friend is an idiot without no home training. Mtcheeeeeeeeeeew!!! |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by atoleybaba(m): 1:59pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Ignatio:you are right bruh...a female lecturer of mine normally say a serious girl will use her handiwork to feed herself without all DX advantage taking guys. Can't she wash cloth for people and collect money? How bawt washing toilet? Is she not good at making hair? Why can't she learn how to bake and bake cakes and sausage rolls and d like and sell in class? My dear receive insult and embarrassment of ur life now and let it be one of ur funny tales u tell your children when u become a madam in future...you fearing for insult and embarrassment now will only get u stucked up with that beast. My lecturer said she washed cloths for her mates when she was in d university her mother was a mere teacher fending for 5 children ...now she is driven in a big car by her personal driver and travels to the state yearly 3 Likes |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Nobody: 2:00pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
[qTiredness does not have home, it is vagabond. It has visited you soon it will leave you alone so, you can continue from where you stopped. Take it as it comes since nobody advised you to do it in first place i don't think you need someone's advice now. Take it as your fate you need no advice now since you didn't need it then. Good luck. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by amazingspiderma: 2:00pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
I think you she is not just fighting a problem she is fighting a habit. This habit has become a part of you,they are sexual desire and dependence on this guy. You have to first leave this guy then give your life to God to help you resist the temptation of sexual intimacy. I usually recommend that you go to a quite place most likely a church for some days,may be three and ask, to pray and seek answers from God concerning your life.You need to brake away from that habit as that is the only way to say no to him. He will come again reminding you of the favors he has done for you and the good old days. You also have to move away from his place because he is not married to you. Try your hand on something creative maybe platting of hairs to earn money so that you can become independent. Get busy when you visit your parents,may be in their business so that you can acquire new skills. When I was growing up I knew my parents could not afford my school fees and all I wanted,then I started joining them to farm and little things they do,I learnt some basic skill to survive,applied and studied for scholarships. Fast forward to today,I am still have a husller habit but I am no longer poor. There is a way if you are willing to pay the price. I have learnt that Taskmasters and Slaves are bound by cooperation. Break that habit. Stop cooperating with him,he has nothing to offer you. It time to spread you wings and fly, you are an Eagle not a pigeon
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Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by 9jatatafo(m): 2:01pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
You can survive without that beast of a guy. Also you know you are in the university, why bleep skin to skin? Come on girl, you have to get used to condom, I am afraid reading about the countless D & C you have done. Won't this affect you in the future? Run fast and far from that man. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by MrsChima(f): 2:02pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Abortion shouldn't be used as a form of birth.control. I would suggest that the girl partake in a permanent birth control method so he doesn't ruin the girl's womb. If he refuses to pay for the method then use natural birth control method by preventing sex during ovulation. Ovulation occur approximately 10 to 14 days from the last day of your menstrual cycle. Refrain from sexual intercourse for 5 days to ensure the ovum isn't present in the fallopian tube. If he insists on sex then you can partake in other styles to bring him to orgasms. I don't think he last any longer than seconds based on your narrative statement. If all else fails, you can return home and try to find a job to support yourself. You can ask for help from those who are willing to help you in any way. You can also seek employment as housemaid or nanny to families that have a housemaid quarter. If you have a skill that can generate profits utilize the skill. Be creative and save any money given if possible. If it comes between survival and education, you may have to quick school for a moment to obtain stability for yourself. Yes, education is imperative but survival is essential. What's good the education if you are dead? Do not kill yourself and focus on what's important which is your health and sanity. You have to make a plan and execute the plan with finesse. You have to take risks if you want to be successful and if you continue to have an abortion, you will have severe issues. I wish you luck and success. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by ryd3(m): 2:02pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
First this is a one sided story. But if I were to take this half as a whole I'd say you should first talk to him, through his friends or pastor. Uve painted him as a devil with 2 horns, but a man that foots ur bills does love u... Probably in a wiered way. If this doesn't work, then make preparations to squat with a friend, and try looking for businesses that can help u get back on your feet. Trust me, there are people in worse conditions than u are. A man would act like a god when u make ur self helpless.... Therefore, Lady, please help urself. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Nobody: 2:04pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Jeez.......Reading this epistle is really heart aching. In fact am staring at my laptop in the office and almost tearing. And to make matters worse, the guys that made comments on the first page didn't help matters at all. Are most Nigerians now sadist? or maybe many people have this latent hatred for just no reason. No single advice whatsoever, even after reading this very sad tale. @OP, all i can say is that you need serious help which can only come from GOD. I think you should discuss this issue with a confidant,maybe your pastor or an elderly woman . You really need to leave that guy, cos you are not married to him plus there is no good future with him if you stick around.No doubts, he has tried for you so far but you are NOT A SLAVE, you have a bright future . Trust GOD, He will show up for you. YOUR STORY WILL CHANGE as you crave 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by walerule(m): 2:04pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
MsBliss:u re a bastards,give her advice or get the Bleep out.its not compulsory u must comment.its guys like u that beats up their mum 2 Likes |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by prettydiva01(f): 2:04pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
rightthing276:Pls take it easy, she needs advice nt insult 1 Like |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Larrylarex(m): 2:04pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
MsBliss: See your life, dem say make you advise, na bad grammar you dey find. Shey you sef go school with all the errors you made up there? Me I no sabi English o, but I must tell you that you also made a couple of errors up there. Your punctuation and capitalization is wack! Words are supposed to start with a capital letter after every period. By the way it is LIAR not LIER. Last Bullet: Comot the plank wey dey ya eyes before you go try comot straw for another person eye. English is not our mother's tongue Gracias 3 Likes |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by ted1741: 2:07pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Am very speechless to say the least, hopefully this response will change your circumstances for good. I suspect your boyfriend is doing all these for two reasons, one, his own insecurity/apprehension that you will leave him once you finish school and so, is doing everything possible (physical/psychological) to subjugate you in pepertuity to himself. Secondly, he is your "god" as he said. What he means by that is, knowing your family background and the poverty in the family, he believes you are helpless and will never live, at least for now. In essence, he thinks you are his property and he is at liberty to treat/mistreat you at his whims eventhough most people treasure their property. Having said this, I also will suggest you try leaving his house (trust me he will come begging just to bring you back and continue the abuse). Empirical studies have shown that people who are abused, particularly women, tend to go through a vicious circle of abuses because they feel helpless and sometimes, blame themselves and think they are the problem because they have been conditioned by the abuser to feel that way. It takes lots of courage and sometimes external intervention and bravery for them to cut off the cancer and leave. Yours is a classic case; don't wait until you die, leave him asap, a stich in time saves nine as the maxim goes. Good luck. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by cowgirl9090: 2:07pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
you have killed innocent human beings(let me not call them babies so that you will have it at the back of your mind that you killed human beings) you sent them where they don't deserve to be,now tell me why you don't deserve the worst. first thing first you have to ask God for forgiveness for murder you have committed. you put an end to the great destinies of those innocent babies and you think you deserve to be happy?. show remorse for what you have done,fast,pray and cry to God for forgiveness our God is a mercifully God and only then shall you see the light. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Omotayor123(f): 2:07pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Since the man get her cheaply, what do you expect ![]() I pray she finds freedom soonest. But some men na Wah! ![]() |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Nobody: 2:07pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Ishilove:Trust some Nlers to miss the issue and focus on non-issues.. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Adufemi(f): 2:08pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
rightthing276: This is really unfair! must you insult people in the name of responding to a post, If you have nothing constructive to contribute then kindly ignore. Are school hostels free ![]() It is really not fair! do not judge! am not insulting you because the next thing you'll do is to hurl insults at me, am only constructively correcting To the poster; difficulties arise in life, I have gone through several crazy episodes where it seemed I had no choice, but with prayers, support and the decisions i took I am where I am today. Your parents being poor is no excuse for all these! do you have friends precisely female friends whom you can squat with temporarily? You are not a sex object! you are a woman! I was in a difficult and abusive marriage , I posted on nairaland asking for advises, at that time I thought life without my ex half was unthinkable cos I was financially, emotionally and physically dependent on him but I took a stand for myself , I chose to live and I chose my children's future. What would have happened to me if I stayed in that abusive relationship? probably death or mental illness. Babe I stood up for myself! I walked out with my two children with just a bathroom slippers and the clothes on our back, it wasn't easy my dear but guess what? I got my life back! my self esteem, my self love, even my children have a better mother. Right now I have the best job ever. I discovered a strength I never thought I had. Sweets RUN! you've spent about 3 years in that university, ( pre degree + 2 years) you have friends, I am not saying the road will be easy, it will be TOUGH but guess what? you will overcome. what is a little difficulty compared with the risk of future infertility, STDs, loss of self esteem, sex object etc. You have to make a choice, the power is in your hands and except you make a decision the situation will only get worse! To the many grammarians; apologies for the typos, the errors etc in a hurry! hope I passed a message thats the most important. I love exclamation marks lol 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
cowgirl9090: what exactly have you contributed.. really what value have you brought to this issue? 1 Like |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by YSA06(m): 2:08pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Move away from his life now!!! Take action with immediate effect, dont feel the world will end without him, world can only end without God and not human being like him. May God see u tru. Put prayers in ur front, sure God will help u out even to ur surprise. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by obi123: 2:10pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Slimzjoe: you are so quick to judge, clearly you have all the answers. Have you ever been desperate? 1 Like |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by ollybimz: 2:12pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Hush!!! Wish u were contended with the little your mom was serving you in those years. Well, you can't undo the past but you can ensure your future. Stand before a mirrow and take a look @ yourself hoping you will see some hope and strength from within you. You will sure need to leave where you are now, but I pray you wont fall into wrong hands. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by tosen64(m): 2:12pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Ishilove: Tell her to send me an e-mail, I might be able to help. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by oyin3322(f): 2:13pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
As a woman or lady's advice i will advise her to pack out of that house; because I've also faced many challenges in life as small as i am, I'm the only one that have the grace to struggle for my education in my family, my dad is working at one saw mill as an engineer while mum is pepper seller. i was the one that paid for my SSCE even in my tertiary level it was the grace of God that saved me and i didn't misused myself. pls don't mind my grammar. 2 Likes |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Nobody: 2:14pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
sonofananimal: Oshi! Ode! 1 Like |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by kannymoore(m): 2:15pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Ishilove: 2:15pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
tosen64:Please PM me your email. Don't drop it in the open. 1 Like |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Kimoni: 2:15pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
fanex: My thoughts exactly but she has since explained. |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Famorori: 2:16pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Are u a Christian? Or Muslim? Pls meet ur pastor or whoever in charge of ur fellowship in school.tell him or her ur story, am sure they will help. Pls move out and move on before he deform you. Am sure ur school fellowship can help. Pls try this immediately |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Nobody: 2:16pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
rightthing276:if your dad gives you this kind of advice wouldn't u hav poisoned him..cos das wot i feel like doing to you right now |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by INDESTRUCTABLEX(m): 2:17pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
MsBliss: Aje butter pikin |
Re: "I Am Tired Of Being His Sex Machine And Abortion Bag" by Forward1(m): 2:18pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
MY TAKE ON THIS: Firstly, life is a warfare & you must fight to WIN. you shouldn't have gone back to him after the first abortion. Since ur parents can afford to pay ur fees then u have no reason to stay under that man's roof. I believe u're a Christian & u belong to a christain fellowship in ur sch. Almost all students fellowship has a general family house. Go to the president of ur fellowship explain ur situation to dem & i believe they will accommodate u there. You can also get a part time job to support yourself (i don't want to hear there are no part time job in my sch as excuse ). The only reason dat may still keep u under dat man's roof could be dat u enjoy sex with him. Please don't give up, don't take your life & open up to some responsible persons around u. Keep fighting & keep winning. Above all, fear God & be prayerful. |
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