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I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 5:02am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Hi I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of sex, though I have never cheated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. My husband. Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please. ![]() 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by ozycy: 5:10am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Guess he's very comfortable without you guys there. Or is it that he can't foot your bill if you join him der. Madam you dey try ooo. Yankee hubby tins 45 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by flyca: 5:23am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Ha! 5 years is long o. Was it "arrangee" marriage? Did you discuss about how to and where to stay before marriage? Apart from physical absence, is he emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and financially absent too? The answers will help advisers get a clear picture. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by tellwisdom: 5:44am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Look at you. Why bother when you can give me a call to come keep u. Do u even have big yansh to start with? ![]() ![]() 66 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by spikezz: 6:03am On Jul 30, 2015 |
ur huzzband iz in UK abi? sowwi o buh the law haz made it now impossible for people 2 bring foreign spouses unless he chooses 2 return to 9ja, u juss have to accept yuh fate. marriage iz fo betta fo worze teenk yuww. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Cutehector(m): 6:17am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Though I am 100 percent not a fan of divorce but ur case is an exception... 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 6:21am On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa:I'll strongly suggest you should stay married for better for worse. How do you get lonely with 2 kids tho'? 67 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by lolaxavier(m): 6:24am On Jul 30, 2015 |
If you ask me, na who I go ask ![]() 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by lolaxavier(m): 6:27am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Brandnew2: It shows you know nothing about relationships. Don't you know what it means to be without the physical affection of your partner, husband for that matter. He comes home only once in a year. He probably would spend just a month or two before going back. Do you mean a lady in her 20s will now enjoy sex just for that period. Besides, it goes beyond sex. His presence would mean a lot to the family. 254 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 6:34am On Jul 30, 2015 |
lolaxavier:What are intimacy gadgets for? 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by cococandy(f): 6:36am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Didn't you discuss this before marriage? So he means you guys will continue like this indefinitely? Pls call family meeting on his head. Let his and your parents talks sense into him. If he's sure he has no other family over there, why won't he want you guys there? He wants to be married and live like a bachelor. I'm sure he won't be happy if you fall into temptation but he's not helping you and your relationship at all. 79 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by TheUmmah: 6:54am On Jul 30, 2015 |
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Luyeanka(f): 7:34am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Give us a brief background of your relationship. Was the premarital relationship also distant? 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 7:40am On Jul 30, 2015 |
spikezz:Her marriage is five years old already and I'm sure the law wasn't like that then.... Don't know about the present law though... Op, if he told you the marriage was going to be like this but you still went ahead, then I wonder what your headache is... You don't want obodo oyibo husband again? 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by KanwuliaJara: 7:49am On Jul 30, 2015 |
I understand your concern. The marriage is too young. But in marriage, you don't always get what you want. Your husband has set the tone for the relationship. If you move in with him, he will resent you. He does not want to live with you full-time, neither does he want to have SEX with you everyday. The ball is in your court. Either you stay and manage, or you go and DAMAGE! A no-win situation! ![]() 64 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by thorpido(m): 7:55am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Op,would you like to share why you married him and what the initial arrangement was? 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by innervoice(m): 8:18am On Jul 30, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: 100 likes! 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:20am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Initially when we got married he told me he will prepare my papers, which he did but it didn't work, because i already had my daughter, so the embassy said that he doesn't. Have enough income to take care of me and his daughter. We kept on trying over and over again but nothing. Seems to work. Now i have another baby who is 11months old. My daughter gave him alot of space. My concern now is that he told me February this year that when he gets back to Europe that he will apply for his citizenship, so that it will be easy for him to take us. Up till this moment he has not applied for it. He is taking good care of financial, i won't deny that. But i need companionship, i need a man in my life. I feel empty with out him. I don't want my children to grow without their father. 68 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 8:23am On Jul 30, 2015 |
@Prinwa you can get the companionship you need from friends either male or female. Do you have any? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:24am On Jul 30, 2015 |
MarvellousGod:I never wanted to marry obodo oyibo husband, I have always wanted to marry someone in Nigeria. And he never told me it was going to be like this. Most times I feel I rushed into it. 13 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by spikezz: 8:24am On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: chooi y does diz ur story sound so similar 2 someone i kno.. iz yuh hubby a youth pastor? jokez apart. tell him to recolate back to 9ja being wit family iz far more important dan anything else hez chasin' up in d uk 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by innervoice(m): 8:24am On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: Your kids are already growing up without their father. Our ladies are as gullible as some white ladies who fall for scam marriages. Your man lives abroad and MOST men who live abroad and have wives back home live their lives abroad like the marriage never took place in the first place. Is that your marriage an arranged marriage? 17 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:25am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Brandnew2:I have friends. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:26am On Jul 30, 2015 |
innervoice:no it was arranged. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by businessMODE(m): 8:26am On Jul 30, 2015 |
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by innervoice(m): 8:27am On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: It was arranged or it wasn't? 13 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:27am On Jul 30, 2015 |
spikezz:no he is not in Uk. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 8:29am On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa:So I'm guessing you need companionship that is sexual In nature and that you can only get legitimately from your hubby. prinwa:I don't want to judge but it seem you have served the purpose he needs you for which is bear him children and raise them. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:30am On Jul 30, 2015 |
innervoice:it wasn't , I knew him before he traveled. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by prinwa(f): 8:31am On Jul 30, 2015 |
Brandnew2:I kind of agree with you. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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