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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Bonapart(m): 9:39pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 9:42pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Luyeanka: Lecturer. What do u need that for? Some people think upside down. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Bonapart(m): 9:42pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Life over there is not easy which am a witness He's not that comfortable enough to accommodate you guys on a permanent stay... get yourself busy more and avoid temptation. e go soon better Always look at your two kids and have more hope #shallom 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by GHoJes: 9:43pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa:I would have said visit him yourself to enable you get a better picture of things but you have resolved to use his coming which is not bad. I advice you put things in place to make this coming different. What change will there be if he gives his usual excuse of coming back to permanently reside in Nigeria; when? 3, 5 or 50 years time? truth is your husband is used to life without you, more years wouldnt make a difference except something is done. You are the one seeking companionship not him. Him, family and society expect you to be celibate even if this continue for eternity but you know he is doing no celibacy. Btw, why have you not visited even once in all these five years? What makes you so sure he doesnt have a wife or live in lover? tell me something else apart from the money and annual visits because he does them for the love of his kids not you. I dont know if you knew him well before marriage but i think you are laid back and accepts anything he tells you or does so that if he had plans of taking you before but subsequent events showed him you would take anything without questioning or approval. The love from his ends has greatly weaned. You dont look convincing enough to me as one who is really tired of continuing with the status quo. But it is ok if you say so. In that case, conditions should be reached in your meeting, something like if he is not coming back permanently in the next one year, he must arrange for you and the kids to join him. If you dont put strict measures now, you may realised that you have been alone all along when he sends for his kids to come over for their tertiary institution and then they refuse to come back after schooling, you may not even know how to live there should to send for you to come over permanently at age .... 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by freakyhat: 9:44pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
It is really difficult situation, I agree. You need to tell him of your needs n d impact of the absence on your kids. Again, are you guys very open in your marriage? Cos it could be that he doesn't want you to know d kind of job he does, or maybe he's got other kids with oyinbo woman. Subtly work on him to get the truth, cos your decisions will be based on that. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by canalily(m): 9:46pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Wait i'l tel u wat to do later..
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Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Familyfirst: 9:46pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: It is to late to cry Visit familyparliament.com to get better understanding of handling long distance marriage. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
flyca:Question |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 9:48pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: ![]() YOUR HUSBAND DEY BUSY HUSTLE FOR GOD KNOW WERE HE DEY JUST TO MAKE A BETTER LIFE FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS, BUT YOU ARE HERE COMPLAINING RUBBISH ![]() WE ALL KNOW YOU WANT TO CHEAT ![]() USELESS NAIJA WOMEN WHO ONLY THINK OF THERE SELF. YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO WOMANHOOD 11 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by johnwell(m): 9:51pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: wherever that man is, are you sure he is not married over there? I know a man that marries a white woman in America and has a Nigerian wife here in naija and only comes to the country once in a year.... 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 9:51pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Op this your story sound like i know you, is ur husband in holland, are u a nurse 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 9:53pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: Madam Your husband is a man and he has blood running in his veins. He's neither a virrgin nor a revrend father. I won't want to be cruel but your man is too confident to have you far away which means he may likely be in an affair over there. The fact that you are loyal to him doesn't mean he's loyal to you. You can ask him how he copes without sex and hear what he will say. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by MrDoGood(m): 9:53pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Brandnew2:Chia! Smh |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by nijanigga: 9:57pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Brandnew2:Hot woman have needs kids can't satisfy. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by sweetemmy(m): 9:59pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
[quote author=prinwa post=36419044] I kind of agree with you.[/quote prayer for Him. in woman life sex is very important once you are married. but time is time of sacrifice. hold to it with faith. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by islandmoon: 9:59pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
he must be enjoying good sexxx life over there, probably he feel you are not so cute and only good as a nanny.. he need to treat you better 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by kinibigdeal(m): 10:01pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
If you can endure for 5 good years, you'got no choice than to persevere, but try to let him know how you feel |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Raylight2(m): 10:02pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
tellwisdom:don't tempt her |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by refreshrate: 10:02pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
lolaxavier:Was going to advice he was at best ignored guess I took too long |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by bettercreature(m): 10:03pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
sonofananimal1:Exactly! that is why most guy always keep them as a baby mama,am sure she wont be saying all these if he didnt take her to the alter,Niger women bad gan if you try to pamper them |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by IYANGBALI: 10:04pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Dis na one chance marriage o |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by freecocoa(f): 10:05pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa:How do you know this? I don't understand why he doesn't want to stay with his family when he can. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Brandnew2: Stop talking like a child. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 10:07pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
bettercreature:I HAVE REALLY LEARN MY LESSON WITH THEM. THERE JUST WANT YOU TO SEE THEM AS PIECE OF SHITTE , NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by AreaFada2: 10:09pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
hmmmm |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by greggng: 10:09pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: I could stand in for ur husband. You have to promise me you will takecare of my financial need while I takecare of u. |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Truckpusher(m): 10:10pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa:Why would anyone in her right sense of judgement and mindset agree to such ridiculous arrangement? Ma'am , you're the architect of your own problem and here in Nairaland we'll only mock and ridicule you because we have nothing to offer for your actions and decisions that was purely made out of greed,selfishness and personal gains. If you love a man or woman you won't let them leave your sight for a month . 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by MRLINGTON(m): 10:10pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: was it a portrait u did wedding with or maybe anoda woman has taken him away o in d name of green card.. madam u got to start visiting him often sha |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
lolaxavier: Go and ask google now, if you no get answer beta ask 'Ifa' www.aftatech.com |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Nobody: 10:11pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
Bluetooth2:Shoro niyen....pls dont poison this woman mind to entertain negative thougths about her husband committing adultery.there are many descent men out there including me who can remain abstain from sex for years,mine is close to 3years and i dont self service/watch porn.the man in question even comes home every year...? This woman better be careful abt what advice u take and read on Nl 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Tired Of My Long Distance Marriage. by Stellaenefa(f): 10:11pm On Jul 30, 2015 |
prinwa: Dear I know how you feel. I can't stay away from my Husband for 2 weeks. But my sister in law has 2 kids, 10yrs in marriage. Her hubby is in UK. He has been in UK for 6 years now and she only saw him Once. She had the kids before he left. I don't know how she feels but she is living with it. Please try and live with it. It won't be this way forever. Something better will come up. Cheers. 2 Likes |
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